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Tips for Parents to Help Kids Deal with Emotional Struggles

Give Yourself a Minute

You are likely trying to figure out many concerns in your life including childcare, entertainment, finances and work-related needs. This isn't easy, so be gentle with yourself and don't expect to be super mom or dad. Children will notice if you are stressed and upset, so it can help to work through your own emotions when they are not present. Take care of yourself--you cannot take care of your kids the way they need if you don't also take care of your own needs.

Don't be Afraid to Talk about it

Children have incredible imaginations, and without correct information those imaginations can run wild. Fear of the unknown only exacerbates anxiety. Children also hear and pick up on much more than we think, and they can tell when they are being placated. So, taking into account your child's age, talk to them about what is going on and answer their questions honestly. Ask them what they've heard, and what they are worried about, then reassure them that they are safe.

Coping Strategies

After your child has expressed their struggle, work to help them find their own coping strategies. Talking about balance is important: there are things that are frustrating/disappointing and some things that are exciting. You may want to remind your child most hard things are temporary and you work on the hard things together. Children may also tell you what helps them cope, such as music, activity or journaling. Some strategies could be coloring, painting, reading, building things, cooking, dancing, singing, exercising or talking.

Focus on What is Most Important

Your children need to know they are safe and loved. So take time to cuddle, read together, play games, watch movies, or cook something.