Test Yourself
In SA you are a member when you say you are. The only requirement for membership is a desire to stay sober. These 20 questions are not a definitive test for sexual addiction, they are simply an aid to help you determine whether or not you need SA. Sometimes members have come to SA early in their addictions and may have achieved quite a low score. However, as their addictions have progressed so new boundaries have been broken and, when answering these questions at a later date, they have achieved a much higher score. Keep your score handy as you go along, there is an analysis at the bottom of the page.
The Questions
Have you ever thought you needed help for your sexual thinking or behaviour?
That you'd be better off if you didn't keep "giving in"?
That sex or stimuli are controlling you?
Have you ever tried to stop or limit doing what you felt was wrong in your sexual behaviour?
Do you resort to sex to escape, relieve anxiety, or because you can't cope?
Do you feel guilt, remorse or depression afterward?
Has your pursuit of sex become more compulsive?
Does it interfere with relations with your spouse?
Do you have to resort to images or memories during sex?
Does an irresistible impulse arise when the other party makes the overtures or sex is offered?
Do you keep going from one "relationship" or lover to another?
Do you feel the "right relationship" would help you stop lusting, masturbating, or being so promiscuous?
Do you have a destructive need - a desperate sexual or emotional need for someone?
Does pursuit of sex make you careless for yourself or the welfare of your family or others?
Has your effectiveness or concentration decreased as sex has become more compulsive?
Do you lose time from work for it?
Do you turn to a lower environment when pursuing sex?
Do you want to get away from the sex partner as soon as possible after the act?
Although your spouse is sexually compatible, do you still masturbate or have sex with others?
Have you ever been arrested for a sex-related offence?
Introduction
The Analysis
1 to 5.
Lust may be causing you a few problems in your life and you probably have more of it than most people.
You may or may not be a sexaholic.
Talk to someone in SA or attend a meeting to see if you identify with the problem at all.
5 to 10.
Reasonably strong likelihood that you are a sexaholic.
Talk to someone in SA, go to a couple of meetings to see if you identify.
10 to 20.
There is a very high probability that you are a sexaholic.
If you wish to give up your addiction contact SA and start attending meetings.