10 Tips for Parents of Tweens and Teens with Pragmatic Language Problems

1. Use movies and sit-coms as a means to discuss social problem solving and empathy.

2. Play “Apples to Apples” for practice with perspective taking and figurative language.

3. Spend some time alone with your child with no agendas, obligations or lecturing. Talk about the activity on hand to avoid pushing any buttons.

4. Start using as much abstract language as possible through idioms (as strong as an ox), proverbs (“While the cat is away the mice will play.”) and slang (“My bad.”). Discuss in literal terms as needed for

comprehension.

5. Divide cleaning, organization and homework tasks into smaller units and put in a check list format.

6. Use facial expression without talking to convey emotions to increase use of social cues (e.g tighten lips to convey anger).

7. Use calm and slow speech if you want your child to speak slower and/or more fluent.

8. Play “Charades” to increase attention to nonverbal detail.

9. Help your child initiate social plans by problem solving on who to invite, the best way to invite (text, face book, call, ask in school), nature of the plan and when.

10. Try to increase the number of back and forth conversational turns

per topic.

12 Activities to help your child with social skills

Reading and understanding social cues don’t come easy for children with special needs. Here are twelve activities that you can do with your child to help improve his or her social skills.

Eye Contact

Good, solid eye contact show others that we are both interested in what they have to say and that we have confidence in our ability to listen.

1. Have a staring contest

Making a contest out of making eye contact with you can challenge some kids (especially if they have a competitive streak).

2. Eyes on The Forehead

When you are hanging out with your child place a sticker of an eye or a pair of eyes on your forehead. Encourage them to look at the stickers. It may not be exactly looking at your eyes but it is training them to look in the right direction in a funny, less threatening way. (Idea from: Children Succeed)

3. Swinging

Try making eye contact as your child swings on a swing. Make a game of it where the child tries to reach you with their feet. The sensory input may be calming and allow them to focus more on you. Compliment them on how nice it was to have them looking at your eyes.

IdiomsIdioms, even in typical children, are very confusing. For Children with ASD it can drive them crazy (is that an idiom?).

Activities that can help kids with idioms include:

4. Books about Idioms

There are many great books that illustrate and explain idioms. Try In a Pickle And Other Funny Idioms by Marvin Terban. It gives a funny literal illustration and then explains the history of the phrase. Use such books as a launching pad. Have your child make their own book of idioms that they hear. When you use one regularly such as “That’s a piece of cake” have children make their own page.

5. Online

There are many websites that list idioms or have games to try guessing what the idiom really means. Check out Idiom Site, Fun Brain or vocabulary.co.il

6. Memory or Matching Game

write down idioms on one set of cards and their meanings on another. Have the child try to pair them up. You could also add in the literal picture of the idiom to visualize what the idiom that is being used actually looks like.

Reading Faces / Interpreting Emotions

This skill is important at home, in school and on the playground. Many misunderstandings arise from kids misinterpreting the emotions of others. Sometimes kids can be confused by what a particular look means. They may easily mistake a look of disappointment and think someone is angry, or they may mistake a nervous expression for a funny one.

7. Emotion Charades

Instead of using movie titles, animal or other typical words, use emotions. Write down feeling words on pieces of paper – or, print out and cut up the worksheet below. Take turns picking a slip of paper and then acting out the word written on it. You could substitute written words for pictures showing the emotion. If kids prefer, you can draw the emotion rather than act it out like in the game Pictionary. You can make it harder by setting a rule that you cannot draw the emotion using a face. Instead, they have to express the feeling by drawing the body language or aspects of a situation that would lead to that emotion (e.g. for sadness, you can draw a kid sitting alone on a bench, or a rainy day, etc.)

8. Face It

Face games are a way to work on social interaction. Like in an acting class, you can try “mirroring” with an autistic child: Touch your nose or stick out your tongue and have him or her imitate you. Make funny faces that the child can copy. Kids with social skills deficits often have trouble reading expressions and interacting socially, so activities that get them more comfortable with these situations are a great idea.

9. Bingo/Matching Game

You can use the pictures from the printable emotions game as bingo boards. You can also cut them up and make a matching set of words written or other similar faces and then you can play a matching or memory card game.

Staying On Topic

When people have a conversation, they pick a topic to discuss. Each person adds something to the conversation until the conversation has finished or the top has changed. Sometimes it is hard for children to stay on topic and take part of a regular conversation. Here are some activities to help with staying on topic and carrying out a conversation.

10. Topic Game

Play a game with the alphabet where every letter has to be the beginning of a word in a theme such as fruit or vegetable: A…apple, B…banana, C…carrot

11. Step into Conversation

Step into Conversation is a learning tool that provides children with autism with the structure and support they need to hold interactive conversations. Cards provide 22 basic, scripted conversations with areas for the child to fill in the blanks. Icons with labels run along the top of each card and remind the child to Stand, Look, Talk and Listen. They are reminded to listen after they make each statement.

12. Improvisational Storytelling

To play this game, put pictures of different emotions face down on the table. Then players decide together on some story elements must appear in the story (e.g., an arctic wasteland, a lemur, and a banana). The goal is for the players to take turns making up the narrative, building on each others ideas and (eventually) making use of all the required story elements.

To begin, first player picks a card, and starts the narrative. He can take the story into any direction he likes, but he must incorporate the emotion depicted on the card. After a minute or two, the next player picks a card and continues the narrative. Players continue to take turns until they have used all the required story elements and reached a satisfying conclusion.

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