Structure and routines at home

Children are faced with change and the unknown daily, which is a growth opportunity but also stressful. Like the rest of us, they handle change best if it is expected and occurs in the context of a familiar setting. Routines therefore give children a sense of security, and help them feel safe and develop self-discipline. They also help to remove power struggles and they allow to build in time to connect with your child. How can parents help?

When starting a new routine, only change one part of the day at a time. Evenings are a good place to start because they prepare you for an organised morning. Let your children know that the benefit of the routine is that they can get a little more time alone with you. Establish what your non-negotiables are (for example the time they each go to bed) and give them some choices, such as whether bedtime stories are together or separate. Make a poster with the schedule on it and hang it up on the fridge and in their bedrooms, to help them self-monitor how they are doing. This will develop independence skills. Routines take time to establish so stick to them every day for at least two months before they can turn into habits.

Sometimes we could all do with someone to talk to.  If you would like to meet Helen for a confidential and non-judgemental chat about you, your child, or any other worries, she is available on Wednesdays and Thursdays  9-10am. You can call/text Helen on 07429 654584 or email her at helen@schoolscounsellingpartnership.co.uk