Regarding identity, we define asexuality/aromanticism as umbrella terms that describe experiences of little to no sexual/romantic attraction. The field of asexualities, though, more broadly encompasses and explores the implications these experiences have on our normative concepts of intimacy, love, friendship, kinship, personhood and life-making. Asexualities offers a lens through which we may (re)interpret the ways we connect with each other, reveals the sociocultural structures that enforce narrow forms of relating, and elucidates new and more authentic modes and means of connection.
“In Telling Sexual Stories (1995), Ken Plummer draws attention to the culturally created quality of sex and sexuality through emphasizing that they are not facts but rather fictions, that they are stories.
“...Thus, we live in a world of sexual stories and it is crucial to consider not only what stories are being told but also how they are being told and who does the telling. As Plummer (1995: 6) clearly asserts, ‘now the time has certainly come for personal sexual stories to be told – at least for some groups’ and that ‘stories can be told when they can be heard’ (1995: 120).
“Listening to stories about asexuality is a considerable step towards recognizing sexual and gender diversity in contemporary times. This challenges normative assumptions on intimacy that privilege heterosexual monogamy and the biological family unit, presume binary cis gender identities, essentialize binary sexual identities, and view sexual or romantic desire as necessary, amongst other impositions.”