Authentic encounter
It is a priority for me that You feel safe in my therapy room
Secured information, confidentiality
I tested om myself all the techniques and practices I use.
I made sure that I am up to date with my inner world and my healing journey before I meet you.
I have daily practices of self care and self regulation and priming so I can offer you 100% of my focus and my abilities
I am in constant learning and I can't wait to learn about you
The principle: to cure, to relieve, to comfort and above all do no harm
I am inspired in my work by Gabor Mate, Alice Miller, Peter Levine, Stephen Porges, J.L. Moreno, Tony Robbins and Brene Brown.
My practice is always trauma informed.
I believe that a true path to healing has to be an integrated one. Just talking is not enough. We have to be aware of our body, of our inner world, of our experiences and patterns. We feel and we perceive the world with our body. Our state of mind is influeced by our perception of the outer world. Our inner world gives colour and meaning to what we perceive.
Suffering comes from distorted and limited believes about our selves, about life and about the others. We have to test our believes, question them. Are they true? Are your brain and perception fooling you?
We can find the antidote to suffering. It is available to us at any time. There is no shortcut, there is no pill that can take away our suffering. The way out is the way through. It is painful to do that. That's why we need guidance, support. We have to live the dark night of the soul so that we can awake to the true self.
Suffering is not necessary for us to grow. Trauma is not necessary for us to learn.
Suffering and trauma slow us down and distract us from our real life.
Pain, on the other hand, is inevitable. To get back to your self, to grow , you will feel pain.
Suffering comes from avoinding pain at any costs. We avoid pain by getting addicted to things like drinking, working, social media, shoping. We get so good at distractions that we loose our North, our direction, our nature. We become isolated in order to avoid any reminder of pain. We get desensitized and numb even to pleasure and joy. In order to not feel pain, we choose to not feel anything at all. And then we loose our selves, we feel we don't have a purpose.
And that's a lie. And lying to us is suffering.
The truth, as painful it can be, will set you free.
The body always remembers. The body keeps the score. The body leaves clues to us like bread crumbles (like in Hansel and Gretel story.) The body will always be on your side, fighting for you so that you can achieve your goals, even when you abuse the body. The body will adapt so that you will get the best life.
The body will speak to you , to inform you about what you need. When we don't listen to our body long enough, the body will shut down, like burn out, disease, symptoms, depression , anxiety. Then you have no choice any more.
"A sick person has only one dream. To become healthy again.
A healthy person has unlimited dreams."
The most suffering comes from fear and anger. The antidote to fear and anger is gratitude.
You can not be grateful and angry at the same time. You canot be grateful and fearful at the same time.
Shame is also a source of suffering. Unshaming your thoughts, past, habbits will bring you the end of suffering. Shame grows in the dark, in loneliness, like a vampire. If you shed light and share you pain, share your thoughts, shame will become smoke.
The suffering and trauma get blocked in the body and the subconscious. To survive the trauma, you hade to split. So some parts of your self are blocked at the age and stage when the trauma happened. When you get triggered and you are not aware (of the exiled parts, the immature parts, the inner child), you will react from those parts. You will not be yourself as an adult, you will react like the hurt child. Or you will overreact because something alike happend in the past, so your reaction is not about what happens in front of you , but your reaction is to the perception that it is happening again.
In order to heal, you need to integrate all your parts, you need to attend to your inner child with compassion. You need to re- parent your self. In order to be an aware parent to your children, you will need to parent your inner child as well. Otherwise, your inner child will take charge, when you are triggered by your children. And then you will have an adult tantrum.
Above your inner child (or children) and above your present self, there is your higher self. Your higher self is your spiritual self, is your connection to the other human beings, to the other living things, to life its self. Your higher self is your wisdom, your intuition, your source of love and gratitude, your source of energy. It is yours. You already have it. You just need to be aware of it.
transgenerational trauma
following Polyvagal Theory
following Somatic experiencing
regulate your nervus system by breathwork, meditation, journaling, co-regulating
matrescence - "If you've never heard of the term “matrescence”—coined by the anthropologist Dana Raphael—it is defined as the process of becoming a mother. It's a word used to describe the physical, psychological, and emotional changes people go through during the monumental transformation that is motherhood."