R: Divorce Marriage From the State

I take thee as my lawfully wedded couple, to tax and to regulate from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, including all redefinitions, until death do us part. Modern day marriage has become a three-way contract between husband, wife, and the state. Is this the most unhappy of unions or is it a safeguard for the institution of marriage?  

As marriage rates plummet and divorce rates rise, we must stop and ask ourselves: has the government been an innocent by-standard or an evil perpetrator? Do government incentives and divorce laws corrupt the precious institution of marriage? Or do those regulations support the family? 

Since Obergefell v. Hodges many Conservatives have questioned the role of the State in marriage. Does a divorce between the little white chapel and the big white house solve the cultural debates of our era? Do we really care if the state validates our marriage licenses? Is the state too unpredictable? Or do state sanctioned marriages come with too many benefits to ignore?