Chapter 008 - 2019.05.09
For reasons I will not disclose -
I reached out to a particular old friend -
about the great opportunities my latest project was creating.
On this particular day,
my wife sent an apology email to this old mutual friend.
There was great misunderstanding and hurt feelings -
generated from the apparently poor communication I had attempted.
I sincerely thought I was relaying positive news -
for both him and his family -
as well as the whole world.
What I did not know about my friend -
was his core beliefs -
and especially how they connected to a more global set of beliefs.
What I had explained to him to be truth -
rocked his world of truth -
and more importantly would negatively impact his heritage story.
This chapter is about pretending -
that real truth is something other than -
what we hope it really is.
My friend emphasized in me -
the great importance of this very delicate and provocative 'balancing act' of life.
Human beings do a lot of pretending -
make make it through daily life.
When is pretending good vs. bad?
It's very important to establish the rules or situations -
as a whole civilization -
with common interests.
Is it possible to establish what is common interest -
or better yet -
purpose and objective(s) agreement?
TAP exists to attempt -
to do exactly this.
For, if this can first be established as a reference -
then establishing when pretending is bad vs. good -
becomes a much simpler next step.
Now after more than a year -
our friend has attempted to repair the damage.
We thank him for this extra effort,
but it's quite clear -
that what happened -
and what both sides understand and believe to be truth -
and disagree on -
will never allow us to get back to where we once were.
Are we actually better off now knowing the truth of the other?
Or was our ignorance of the truth that exists only within our minds -
and focusing on our agreement things -
a better relationship approach?
TAP hypothesizes that focus on agreement -
and not on disagreement is better.
Be aware of the disagreement,
but don't focus on it.
My friend rejected TAP without studying it.
He concluded it was bad because of what I believe to be truth.
He suspect he will never make the time to learn more about TAP.
It's OK!
I cannot let him alter what I attempt to do to help the whole world,
especially his kids and grandkids,
with my TAP work.
I'm at peace with the better understanding of my friend's logic.
His logic is even sound for his situation in our world.
No matter what the situation -
with logic and better understanding of truth -
evolves long-term world improvement.