Even under the best of circumstances, many couples find it difficult to discuss sex. When sexual issues arise, feelings of pain, shame, guilt, and contempt can put an end to discourse. Because efficient communication is the foundation of a successful relationship, starting a conversation is the first step toward not only a healthier sexual life, but also a stronger emotional link. Here are some pointers for dealing with this delicate matter.

          Instead of assigning blame, approach a sexual issue as a matter to be handled jointly. Couch advice in positive words, such as "I really love it when you lightly touch my hair that way," rather than concentrating on the drawbacks. Approaching a sexual issue as a problem to be tackled jointly rather than a blame game.

          You may believe that faking an orgasm is protecting your partner's feelings, but in truth, you are putting yourself on a dangerous path. As tough as it is to discuss any sexual problem, the difficulty level skyrockets when the issue is buried behind years of lies, hurt, and animosity.

          Create a loving and tender atmosphere by frequently touching and kissing. Do not put your sexual troubles down to yourself or your partner. Instead, prioritize emotional and physical connection in your relationship. When a couple has a healthy sex life, the surviving spouse will wish to find a new companion. Expressing your willingness to consider that option while both of you are still living will ease guilt and make the process easier for the surviving spouse afterward.

          There are several good self-help publications accessible for every form of sexual difficulty. Browse the Internet or your local bookstore for resources that pertain to you, and utilize them to assist you and your spouse become more knowledgeable about the issue. If communicating directly is too tough, you and your partner might highlight and show each other portions that you especially appreciate.