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Please keep in mind that I am one individual who identifies as a binary trans man. I've collected a variety of experiences and knowledge that I've gleaned from other transgender people, but my perspective will always be limited. This is just a culmination of my knowledge, so it relies on you to also contribute where you believe amends must be made. If there are errors, things you believe are insensitive and need revision, moments requiring clarification, or topics you wish addressed, please contact me and let me know southbaytranskidsuvivalguide@gmail.com

Initially, I created this as a Google Doc that compiled all the information that I had wished that I had had when I had first come out. Growing up in the South Bay as one of the first openly out transgender kids, I was subject to an immense amount of transphobia that I unfortunately internalized. That led to my perspective on transition being particularly skewed, especially with the normalization of some of the rhetoric that YouTubers had been popularizing at the time. Additionally, I had known several individuals who had faced horrific discrimination for articulating themselves poorly when they had been exploring their gender; these individuals detransitioned because they had discovered through their experiences that they were misidentifying themselves as transgender, but the hostility that they experienced was inexcusable. I had incorporated information in this website that I felt would have been helpful for them to know to avoid some of what I had seen as mistakes in their path — however, there is immense value in mistakes.

I created this resource with the intention of being a testimony to avoid what I had seen as mistakes that were to blame for the harsh treatment I had faced, as opposed to what it should have been: something for transgender youth to find solace and comfort in. The goal should not have been curating transgender youth to be more palatable to cisnormative society. So, in this page you will find a repaired page about transition: a perspective from an adult bringing the knowledge from having engaged with queer communities that have repaired the damage that cisnormative society imposed.

The intention behind this page is to assuage the fears that one might have about transition and hopefully clarify one's own feelings about their gender.