Let his weirdness penetrate you. You who is his wife, his partner, his best friend, his prestige and glory, his soulmate, his love. We are all a little weird, and when our weirdness brings our souls together, we find love. So, let his uncanny love penetrate you.

Let his complications teach you. Learn from it. Do not let it irritate you. He is the most complicated man a partner can ever have. But each of these difficulties has stories. Stories from his past. So, listen to them, hear them, be with them. Embrace them as much as he is embracing you and your story now.

Be kind to him. Be kind to his temper, his wild principles and ideals and outtake on this world.

Be kind to his friends and to his family. Not because he is also kind to you, your friends and your family.

But because he has the kindest soul. He has his way of making you, or anyone, feel important and significant. A child on the street is not a child on the street for him. A beggar is not a beggar in his eyes. A quitter and a loser is not a quitter and a loser for him. He is a brother to anyone. So, be a sister to these people. Support him in his missionaries and visions. It may be too ideal at times but this is his core, and you are his better half, and he needs his half to keep his mission alive.

Understand him, him and his stubbornness. Argue with him if need be but don’t let him lose the respect he has for you, and you for him. He wont let you win in arguments. You will have terrible, wild, crazy, sleepless fights. You would want to hate him, you would want to curse him, him and his logics and antics in driving a point. But don’t. Remind yourself that he loves you so much and you love him as much too. Control your anger and frustrations. For after all, the man does make sense most of the times. He wont ever spite you to drive his point. So, please don’t lose control of your temper. 

If he needs his space, give it to him. Respect that. He has so much trust in your relationship that distance nor time won’t change his love for you. You are his better half. You are destined to be together. So, give him the space that he sometimes needs. Find security in the thought that he will always find his way back to you.

Let him love life. Do not control him. Nor manipulate his decisions. Let him trip to his adventures. These may put his safety to risk sometimes but trust that he will be alright. He is happy when he is one with nature. Know that you are his ball of sunshine, and no matter where his adventures take him, he will always need you, you who give the rays of sunlight and laughter.  

Laugh and cry with him. He may not admit his weakness (he never does) but he loves for someone, especially you, his love, to share his intimate secrets with, his highs and lows, his happiness and sadness.

Make decisions with him, never for him. He wants you to grow and succeed and continue to be the independent woman that he got to know you to be. He is your silent cheerer. And he will always be supportive and proud of you.

Trust him. Trust him with all your heart and mind and soul. Because he trusts you too wholeheartedly. Do not break the trust he has for you, nor let him break the trust you have for him.

Pray with him and for him. You may have varying depths of faith (him, none at all), but fate brought the two of you together, and this was made possible by your continuous faith in the Lord. So pray and don’t forget to thank Him for the wonders He put in bringing the two of you together.

Love him. Love him for all the reasons even until you find no more reasons to love him. Be with him. Stick with him. And stick for him.

Lastly, Respect him.

Respect him more than you love him. The love is innate in both of you, and this love you have for each other will never ever leave your hearts. You are his better half, and he is yours, after all. That is why the two of you are meant to be together. But respecting him is a choice, and this is a choice you have to make every waking morning you have with him, until his last earthly days. Without this respect, the love in your hearts won’t do its magic.

He deserves all the respect from this world. And you are his world now. And you deserve as much love and respect too, because you were as good a friend to me as a wife to him now. And I want you to know that you have mine completely.

Live, laugh and love long,

From his Ex.