Let's talk about Boundaries

What are boundaries?

Ever felt overwhelmed or affected by others around you? That is why setting healthy boundaries is important. According to Buck (2015), aA psychological boundary is like an intangible and protective barrier that protects our personal thoughts, feelings, values, or desires that matter to us. As such, boundaries give you a better understanding of your social and emotional needs by assessing what matters to you most. Here are some tips on how you can set healthy boundaries.

How can we set boundaries?

Firstly, you can set boundaries by recognizing what is most important to yourself. Such importance may derive from some factors in your life such as having autonomy in what you choose to do, having a developed self-identity, and maintaining good emotional health (Selva, 2022). Hence, it is also essential that you are aware of what you choose to surround yourself or occupy your time with. You also need to be clear about your boundaries so that those around you can understand them as well. When people around you understand your boundaries, they are more likely to respect them. As these boundaries are set, you are then able to work with yourself better and handle the challenges you face in life more effectively.

How does it help?

Therefore, healthy boundaries are set when you are firm in what we believe in , and learn that it is okay to say ‘No’. It is perfectly normal to set boundaries as they protect you and your identity. You should never be apologetic for the healthy boundaries you set for the betterment of your mental well-being. Through a better understanding of yourself, you are henceforth more capable of facing and overcoming the challenges you face in life. It also puts you in a much better position to be the best version of yourself!

References

1. Connections, W. L. (n.d.). Establishing effective personal boundaries. Establishing Effective

Personal Boundaries Vanderbilt Faculty & Staff Health and Wellness https://www.vumc.org/health-wellness/news-resource-articles/establishing-effective-personal-boundaries

2. How to set healthy boundaries: 10 examples + PDF worksheets. PositivePsychology.com.

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