By Clayton Max, Creator of Infatuation Scripts
"A girl ought to be 2 things: stylish as well as incredible ."-- Coco ChanelWhether you're trying to find a long-term companion , or currently have one, it pays to have a few key habits to grow that spark of attraction .The thing about guys is that they don't always know how to express what theydesire in a woman .Many men weren't really taught about sharing their emotions as youngsters . So it can be complicated for them to share their needs and desires .And this brings about all sorts of miscommunication and unfulfilled expectations, which can create problems .Thankfully , I'm here to give you a cheat-sheet to how men function . Drawing from my own experience coaching my clients ,
Ok, this might sound like a cliche , but listen up.Often , a lot of women (and guys too !) try to make someone want them by putting on a detached-but- I-might-be-in -to-you sort of act.Additionally , these women may wait some time to reply to messages (a few hours) to avoid looking desperate . Worse, they pretend they've got better things to do , hoping it'll make a guy more interested in them.However this approach often backfires .It's confusing - and he'll ultimately see through it . This, of course , is a big turn-off. It's perfectly natural to show interest in a guy if you like them , and there's no reason in this day and age to mess each other around like this .Instead , you can play a slightly different type of game -- one that shows authenticity .Send him signs that you like him, and be engaged when you're doing something together . Experts say that a man starts falling for a woman once they understand that they are wanted.As for the "playing hard to get" idea , that means actually being busy. It's better to be to be "busy" or "engaged" with all of life. You've got your work , social life, hobbies and other passions that make you well-rounded and happy . If enjoying an engaging life means that you're unavailable every now and then , that's a good thing .Richard Wiseman, author of "59 Seconds: Change Your Life in Under a Minute", researched further into this .He found that individuals that played hard to get gave the impression that they're a high-value person . However , they ALSO had to be enthusiastic about the other individual to successfully create attraction .In this way , it placed the subject in a more balanced and attractive light.
Learn About The 'Psychological Triggers' To Activate a Man 's Infatuation Instinct
Basically , you need to generate strong emotions within a man when you're together . This will cause him to link those feelings to you, which intensifies the urge to be with you .In an MIT research study , behavioral researchers identified that individuals have a habit of projecting their feelings from one thought the next.
What does this imply ?
For instance , if you nearly had a car crash on your way to work, you would carry those negative vibes into the office . That previous, unconnected experience would bleed into the rest of your workday .This phenomenon is known as "psychological misattribution" or "emotional leak " - the human tendency to connect salient emotions to another individual , even if they had little to do with it.Also , this means that becoming physically aroused can quickly convert into a sexual attraction. So, if you can find ways to keep things exciting for him - like going on an outdoor adventure or something physically stimulating -- then he'll attach those feelings onto you.
Admittedly , many women responded to this advice with a cynical smirk .But hear me out - this could be huge in your connection .Firstly , I'm not telling you to roll on the floor laughing at every one of his awful "dad-jokes". But if your funny bone is tingling from his one-liners, then go ahead and let him know . Studies show that humor is a significant aspect of intimacy . As you already know, women are attracted to guys that are funny or clever because itsuggests intelligence (which is an attractive attribute ).Researchers from Westfield State College, University of Western Ontario, and McMaster University state that "men preferred those who were receptive to their own humor, particularly for sexual relationships."This looks like it's not just about treating a man 's ego with kid gloves ... but more to do with a guy's need to be appreciated in a relationship . You would be surprised at the number of guys who tell me "appreciation" is one of the a vital ingredients in a prospective relationship . So, valuing his humor and personality is a good step in that direction .
According to numerous studies , you can be significantly more appealing by hanging out with your good friends . As an example , there's research from Tilburg University in the Netherlands and the University of California which both identified what's known as "The Cheerleader Effect."This basically states that a person 's perception of you changes positively once you're seen to be in a group . On the surface , you may assume it's because you'll appear more sociable and charming . However there's one more angle to it. You see, humans have a tendency of categorizing individual components (like shapes, objects and people) into a basic group .This is a hardwired survival habit to not focus too hard on one thing - but rather process the whole scene . And this instinct spills over to a person 's social life as well . So in a practical sense , you can set your social media (or online dating) profile photo to one where you're having fun with a group of girlfriends . Just ensure it's obvious who you are in the picture so you don't disappear in the sea of faces! If you're aiming to find someone new at a bar or party , be sure to bring your squad along too . Social proofing is a powerful phenomenon , so use it to your benefit .
No surprise here. Physical intimacy is a key aspect of part of the relationship . Yet you'd be surprised -- and even downright concerned -- at the number of women struggling in this department .A lot of them take for granted the power of feminine charm to win men over .And I'm not talking about acting out an adult film to excite him .What I am saying is that you should be more familiar with his desires. For instance , women underestimate the immense power of physical touch.A lot of men go their entire lives not knowing the pure pleasure of a caring pat on the back, a hug, or other kinds of affection .Women, on the other hand, tend to experience this regularly . So using body language is an excellent way to ignite a deeper connection -- whether it's brushing against his arm or leg "inadvertently " ..... or putting your hand on his arm for a couple of seconds .Keep in mind , men enjoy a flirtatious game , and the curiosity-igniting process of the "slow burn."And of course , guys love variety when it comes to the main event in bed . Spicing things up every so often can really keep him excited . Better yet, go ahead and talk about any fantasies or desires you may have . Maybe there's something he's curious to try, and you can share your own burning desires . One final point - there's an additional quality I didn't mention earlier, however it has immense power to make him fall in love .Research from Rutgers University found a one-of-a-kind psychological trait in men called an "emotional tripwire."Now, once you understand exactly how this functions - and how to utilize it (which is incredibly simple ) ...... your guy will immediately get in a state of extreme infatuation.
It's like a splinter in his mind , making him incapable of seeing any other women in a romantic way -- except YOU.
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