Dowry: How does it manage to exist
Hey, yes you, reader of this post, could you please tell me how many people you know who support dowry? Hey, let me tell you mine, None! I know nobody who support dowry! The biggest question is, How come everyone exchanging dowry in their wedding if most of the people who are marrying are against it?
Hey, again, if you are thinking that there is social pressure on women to get married before 30 or like so and parents of men are in general orthodox, is main reason behind it, then hold on, let me tell you, men also have same and equivalent social pressure to get married before some prescribed time by society. Want to confirm, ask your close male friend or brother.
Some people (I know a few) called dowry as money for male prostitution! Hey, just to confirm, check google definition of prostitution, it says, it is occupation of engaging in sexual act for money. Conclusion: people do marriage for sex not for having child and build a family. Did your parents exchanged dowry? Now rethink about your horrible logics. How can you abuse such a pure relation? Married couple use to die for each other. They help each other in worst of their time. Do you have any doubt about love they build for each other? When was the last time you met a prostitute having so much care and love exchange of money? Please don't abuse feeling of love.
Hello there, I have some very serious questions for you. But before that I have something to say. Have you ever wondered, what men side do with money they get as dowry? Let me tell you, almost half of the money they spent to buy jewellery for bride, which is something known as 'Kanyadhan' in Indian law of legislation. As per Indian laws, nobody on the earth can use 'kanyadhan' but the girl. That lady have all the right on it. Rest of the money men side use for other expanse of wedding, and then to settle the new couple. What is wrong in it. Who took the money? You are becoming a party of his property by literally doing nothing. I think dowry is rather a socioeconomic problem than just a social problem. Read about it, world wide people do pacts about their property before marriages.
Now question time.
Everyone talk against dowry, I wonder why, no women want to marry a non-working guy but men marry non-working women, and nobody talk about it? How many women you know who earn but they married a non-working guy? Why, what are solid reasons? Economic stability can still hold if women is earning but not men, isn't it?
Why a woman don't marry a man who is earning lesser than her? Why she want to marry someone who earns atleat 3-4 times of her and afford luxury which she could never afford on her own or sometime even her parents could not afford? They argue that if a girl is living in some luxury, so to maintain her comfort she marry who is earning like that. But, the question is if her brother is also not working like her, then why he doesn't deserve all those comfort and luxury by just marrying some better earning girl?
On summary: Before arguing against dowry, work hard, be independent, marry someone who is equivalent to you and not for luxury. No one would ever ask dowry, if a clerk want to marry a clerk and a school teacher to school teacher. Say no to dowry with pride not with shitty arguments.
~Raghav
18 Jan 2018