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Kyle found Ben in the backseat of his car after realizing in horror, when attempting to pick him up from daycare, that he had not actually dropped him off that morning. As the police drove me to the hospital, I knew. Ben was gone. In the tiny room at the back of the hospital, my known world fell apart when they told me, "Ben didn't make it." As I entered Kyle's room, I saw a vision of a soul torn asunder. I crawled onto his lap, prying his hands off his head, where I saw veins protruding. "I love you. I love you. I love you," I relayed, in disbelief of the instantaneous words falling out of my mouth. My shoulder grew wet with his tears. My reaction was instinct. This was the man I loved on a level that went deeper than my words. Kyle had stood by me through moments I wasn't sure I'd survive, and now the tables had turned. As much as I felt the need to save him, I also felt a repulsion for the reality that his actions had caused. Our son was dead. Everything I thought I knew about love or forgiveness was about to radically change.

After Ben's death, I existed in survival mode, putting on my coat of armor to protect our family. The distance between me and Kyle gradually grew into an emotional separation that would last for years to come. I became bent on survival, while Kyle existed in a state of mourning, a mode of emotional nothingness. I could not even call it living. He compartmentalized quickly, rarely talking about Ben, moving on as fast as he could to a normal life with work and our daughters. I could not find true love or forgiveness during this time. The exuberant love of young adulthood had faded and I could not find what was left on the other end. My soul shut down; I needed to feel nothing. The constant zaps of pain and emotion in my body had to be numbed.

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As Kyle and I sat on the patio one evening, tears formed as I told him that sometimes I wonder why God made me as I am, in ways that may cause him pain, and I was oftentimes sorry for being me. He grabbed my shoulders and said, "Lindsey, I love all of you, just as you are and always have. There is no regret. There is just life." I believe soul partners encompass love in its various iterations, which are ever-changing. True love need not be wild and tempestuous, or light and effervescent. Sometimes it is quiet and gentle, but it is always unconditional. Our love is God's grace to forgive and a commitment to see it through day in and day out, in the best and worst of times. Quite possibly, our commitment is to save each other over and over again, as many times as it takes, teaching each other the lessons that can only be found through unconditional love and radical forgiveness. We have shown each other that together we can survive the impossible.

We all like the idea of forgiveness - doing it is the hard part. If you're holding an old grudge, feeling guilt, or shame from past events, or simply unhappy with the way your life is working out, then you're ready to start testing a set of tools for real change.

With The Power of Radical Forgiveness, Colin Tipping invites you to learn a whole new way to acheive forgiveness - one that will re-frame your perception of the world and your place in it, even as it unburdens you from the past, fills you with peace, and liberates your energy for the unfolding of your higher purpose.

What does forgiveness really look like? How can you forgive someone who seemingly took everything away that made life worth living: family, homes and trust? What kind of power is it that can look someone who has hurt you in the deepest way and forgive them?

Each year when we commemorate the anniversary of 9/11, I remember well all the images of that day. The horror and devastation are still very present with me, even now. I also remember that in the days following the tragedy, here in New York, glimmers of hope and resilience began to emerge. People spontaneously began gathering in public places, like Union Square in Manhattan, to commence impromptu public grieving ceremonies. There were Buddhist monks praying for compassion. There was Rev. Billy, an actor fashioning himself as a priest of the church of radical forgiveness, offering absolutions to anyone who was willing to confess their sins. There were young Muslim activists correcting inaccurate portrayals of Islam by our media and proclaiming Islam as a religion of peace. All of a sudden there seemed to be enough money to care for the poor. If you looked unwell, strangers would come up to you on the NYC subway and make sure that you were all right.

So now I return in my memory to the aftermath of 9/11, and I imagine what might have happened if the screams of pundits who occupied our media, many of whose voices are still present today, had been replaced by the voices of people like Jean Claude, willing to do the hard work of putting forgiveness in action. How would these intervening years have been different if restorative justice had been our guiding principle? Imagine if on September 12th, instead of rushing into the logic of retaliation and war, we had taken a pause to fast, and to pray, and to deeply listen to the grievances of those who had been hurt as a result of our policies and presence? Just imagine how different our lives and our politics would be today.

"We can never say enough about the significance of forgiveness, nor offer people enough guidance on how to accomplish this arduous task." --Caroline Myss, Ph.D. "This superb book makes genuine forgiveness possible, enabling us to move beyond pain and heal our lives." --John Bradshaw "Radical Forgiveness is a masterfully presented system of undoing what has caused pain in your life." --Alan Cohen

Additionally, IIRFL will continue to expand its global reach, as it recently set up the Africa Institute Affiliate for IIRFL. The Africa Institute will work throughout the continent in the field of forgiveness and as a bridge-building institution for individuals, organizations and communities.

IIRFL seeks to play a more active role in the education space. We aim to equip the youth globally, especially from disadvantageous communities to deal effectively with the challenges these communities face. With this aim in mind we strive to contribute constructively to the emotional wellbeing of young learners, throughout the world. The Colin Tipping philanthropy foundation will fund these international systemic forgiveness projects. The mission of the Colin Tipping Foundation is to facilitate emotional wellbeing, living with awareness and resilience which will enable learners to embrace, advance and develop their full human potential.

In the early 1990s I began offering forgiveness workshops, cancer retreats, and corporate seminars. Since then I have heard enough horror stories from quite ordinary people to convince me that there is not a human being on the planet who has not been seriously victimized at least once, and in minor ways more times than they could count. Who among us can say they have never blamed someone else for their lack of happiness? For most if not all of us, blame is simply a way of life.

Indeed, my main intention in writing this book was to make clear the distinction between forgiveness that maintains the victim archetype and Radical Forgiveness that frees us from it. Radical Forgiveness challenges us to fundamentally shift our perception of the world and our interpretation of what happens to us so we can stop being victims. My one goal is to help you make that shift.

What does all this have to do with forgiving someone? Forgiveness is actually a type of healing, not just for the guilty, but for the forgiver as well (more on that later). What I want to point out here is that forgiveness only happens as an act of the will. It cannot be forced, it can only be freely given. In other words, the desire to forgive is necessary for forgiveness.

Let me see if I can sweeten the deal a bit. I want to make the idea of forgiving others more appealing to you. As anyone who has ever been on the receiving end of forgiveness knows, it is an incredible blessing and a relief to obtain it. Being forgiven feels like a weight lifted off your shoulders or a fresh start; it often produces an overwhelming sensation of joy and freedom in the forgiven.

Another article written by the staff at the Mayo Clinic identified an abundance of life benefits produced by forgiveness. The authors of the article found that forgiving others can lead to improved health and peace of mind, leading to effects such as:

I hope you can see that in telling us to forgive, God is ultimately looking out for our best interest. I have tried to show some of the benefits of forgiveness for the forgiver, in hopes of awakening a desire in your heart to take the next step.

Knowledge makes love possible, so when we are disturbed by the actions or words of another person, we must remind ourselves that everyone is suffering, even our enemies, and out of this suffering often comes behavior we might regard as unacceptable. It may be unacceptable and yet suffering is real and we must not underestimate its power to motivate. To know this opens the door to forgiveness.

There is no way to peace except through letting go of unforgiveness. Whatever it is that makes forgiveness hard to do is not worth the energy it takes to hold on to it, not if you want to be happy, not if you want to at peace, not if you want to be a Christian.

Questions for Scott: To what extent do you personally embrace the ethic of radical forgiveness? If you do, to what extent is psychiatric language a rhetorical tactic rather than a neutral description of human behavior?

I am so happy for you that you have realized your wisdom comes from forgiving the hurt and starting with yourself because no one person can do that for you. I,too, have been on this journey of deep forgiveness so that I can live in my higher self. Beautifully written and understood. Thank you so much for sharing!

Lakhiani describes undergoing this training with Dave Asprey in his 40 years of Zen program, and though several articles have been published, this one seems to be the most credible at present: Carson, J. W, Keefe, F. J., Goli, V., Fras, A. M.,Lynch, S. R., et. al., Forgiveness and chronic low back pain: a preliminary study examining the relationship of forgiveness to pain, anger and psychological distress; The Journal of Pain. 6(2): 2005: 84-91 e24fc04721