In the course of recent years the reason and importance for my life has formed into a sympathetic, mindful, dependable individual. I am satisfying a strategic help other people manage life’s circumstances, conditions, and issues without the utilization of liquor and medications. My life started as the eighteenth of 20 kin, which was not a simple task for me. I needed to hold the situation as “the baby†for a long time before my child sister was conceived. This was the start of the advancement of my character that I had after some time through understanding and my condition.The earliest stages phase of my life was loaded up with magnificence and misery as guardians and kin offered commendations to me,†The Babyâ€. I was constantly obliged and showered with blessings of adoration and friendship. Until one day, something occurred. Individuals was strolling by me to get to the child, this little “something†which my mom kept packaged up until the following guest stopped by with oohs, ahhs, and praises of gestures of recognition for “itâ€. As Caldonia supplanted my wonder, I was resolved to be bound forever. Regardless of others’ compassion toward me, I felt like something wasn't right with me. I built up the feeling that I accomplished something incorrectly, and something wasn't right ith me. I had lost trust in myself as well as other people and trust was broken. I got angry and felt disregarded as though nobody adored me any more. I created character attributes of contemplation/extroversion, benevolent/disagreeable, and turned into a maverick. The change of my sentiments towards the child, my mom, my family, and the world were disguised sentiments of the agony I felt. Sentiments of mediocrity overpowered me. After entering first grade, in youth, I built up an alternate point of view with this interactionism with other kids.I was taller than my companions and subsequent to being singled out by more established iblings, I felt like this was my potential for success to have up to somebody. As restless as I was to be forceful, I just couldn't menace the companions that were so little and cordial. This humanistic perspective on inspiration, impacted by my mother’s voice in Christian order proclamations, for example, “don’t do her like thatâ€, “that isn't fairâ€, “play fair†and “be kind to each other†helped shape my character at this life stage. I built up a character of good faith from my mom teaching us on our conduct. As I developed to puberty, I built up the character qualities of greeableness, and hazard taking. By early puberty I particularly concurred with grown-ups when I was told, “you are too large to play with little Sandraâ€, “you are too enormous to be in third grade†and continually asked, “how old right? †I chose to play with the young men and play as the young men. Why not? I was similarly as large and tall as the young men and was too enormous to play with young ladies, as I was told. The compositions of my character were molded in like manner. My own build was the pictures of the practices that I felt was fitting from the point of view of my mental self view and from others’ viewpoint.My life was predictable to Erikson’s fundamental way of thinking: “the world gets greater as we come and disappointment is combined. †During my initial adolescents, I encountered physical changes, which was normal at this life stage, yet I was awkward with. I had arrived at pubescence. At adolescence, I was growing quicker than my companions and this quick development caused me to feel awkward with myself once more. My dad made lewd gestures towards me. I at that point built up a self-idea as value to somebody and got unbridled. As of now different young ladies were pursuing and had “boyfriends†and I was rying so difficult to be cherished and acknowledged. By age 15, I got engaged with a 20-year-old family companion, a quarter of a year later we were hitched. We had a delightful wedding on my family home’s entryway patio. I was such a wonderful lady of the hour. This was the first occasion when that I felt such magnificence, since Caldonia was conceived. I felt the adoration and warmth of my better half and the wedding assemblage. I was cherished and acknowledged.My better half was chivalrous and kind the initial a half year, anyway got vicious and injurious. He drank brew just on ends of the week, and in the long run began drinking alcohol and wine. By his time I was pregnant with our first youngster and become a secondary school drop-out. year and a half later I brought forth our little girl. I was looking for my way of life as a spouse, mother, and youthful grown-up. I was just 18 years of age wedded and had brought forth two youngsters. I was befuddled about my uniqueness and the task to carry out in my circumstance. It was simple for me to substitute standards for experience. Following seven years of misuse and three kids, I could not adapt anymore. I concealed the entirety of my issues with another adoration. I got dependent on rocks. Following four years of pursuing the igh, I was captured and sent to prison. I experienced treatment and remained spotless and calm for right around six years and began utilizing once more. At this point I am mother of six and in another damaging relationship with the dad of my later two youngsters. I had remembered my marriage with similar examples of liquor addiction and misuse. I turned; once more, to a similar technique for managing the conditions, I began utilizing drugs once more. This time my detainment was longer and required broad substance misuse treatment. I entered this program with a receptive outlook and ability to change. I was weary of being weary.As of now, in center adulthood I am increasingly honest and have heading and objectives for my life. I have created character characteristics of being a decent mother/grandma (generativity). I need to help other people and I have a blessing to give. I am not, at this point retained into the self-centeredness of myself. As indicated by Harder (2009), in view of Erikson’s Ego Development Outcome, “the critical errand of this phase of life is to sustain culture and transmit values through the family (restraining the children) and attempting to build up a steady situation. †The improvement of my character has the duty of numerous partners.Factors, for example, culture, religion, society, family, high and miscreant focuses, and sexual orientation has assumed a job in the molding of my character. Be that as it may, genuine acknowledgment of oneself has been the most influential. My life has had its good and bad times. Be that as it may, I would not change none of its scenes. I feel as though everything has happened precisely the manner in which it should occur for me to be in the position I am in today. My central goal is to turn into a Substance Abuse Counselor to help the following individual who is battling with approaches to manage and acknowledge life on life’s standing, as I have.