Gender Neutral Bathrooms

Terminology

Some definitions from The Trevor Project's "Understanding Gender Identities"

  • Assigned gender at birth
    The gender assigned to each person when they were born

    • AMAB
      Assigned male at birth

    • AFAB
      Assigned female at birth

    • AIAB
      Assigned intersex at birth

  • Gender identity
    One's personal sense of what their own gender is

  • Gender expression
    How one choose to express our gender in public. This includes things like one's haircut, clothing, voice and body characteristics, and behavior

  • Gender presentation
    How the world sees and understands one's gender

Photo by Tim Mossholder

The Scope of The Issue

In North Hunterdon High School, there are about 1,500 students. In total, there are twenty-two bathrooms marked on the school's official map. Of those bathrooms, two are only for the facility. As for the remaining twenty, there are ten for boys and ten for girls. But what happens if you aren't a boy or a girl?

Non-binary people are those who have a gender identity outside of the binary. The binary genders are male and female, and the non-binary genders are all other valid genders.

Flow chart shows the categories of gender. The two main categories are binary and non-binary. The binary genders are male and female, which applies to both cisgender and transgender people. Non-binary refers to all other genders.

For cisgender and binary students, it's easy to choose a bathroom. For transgender people, both binary and not, bathrooms are an issue not just of labels, but of safety, comfortability, and access.

GLSEN states in their 2019 National School Climate Survey, "Most LGBTQ students (59.1%) reported personally experiencing any LGBTQ-related discriminatory policies or practices at school." Some issues disproportionately affecting transgender students include but are not limited to the following:

  • 28.4% of LGBTQ+ students were prevented from using the bathroom that aligned with their gender identity

  • 27.2% of LGBTQ+ students were prevented from using locker rooms aligning with their gender identity

  • 45.2% of LGBTQ+ students purposely avoided gender-segregated bathrooms in school due to feeling unsafe or uncomfortable

  • 43.7% of LGBTQ+ students purposely avoided gender-segregated locker rooms in school due to feeling unsafe or uncomfortable

According to GLSEN, LGBTQ+ students who experienced higher levels of victimization based on their gender expression:

  • Were almost three times as likely to have missed school in the past month than those who experienced lower levels (59.0% vs. 21.8%)

  • Had lower GPAs than students who were less often harassed (2.98 vs. 3.36)

  • Were twice as likely to report that they did not plan to pursue any post-secondary education (e.g., college or trade school; 11.1% vs. 5.4%)

  • Were more likely to have been disciplined at school (46.8% vs. 27.2%)

  • Had lower self-esteem and school belonging and higher levels of depression

These saddening statistics apply to North Hunterdon High School just as much as other schools without accessible gender-neutral bathrooms. The reason why the two existing gender-neutral bathrooms in NHHS are inaccessible is due to the fact that non-binary students are coerced to choose either from the second-floor bathroom, which is filled with the intoxicating scent of people's vape clouds, or from the nurse office's bathroom, which requires students to explain themselves to the nurses.

Even if a student decides they are alright with the odor in the second-floor gender-neutral bathroom, they risk being penalized for spending excessive time outside of the classroom. The bathroom is far from many classrooms, so the student must trek across the school to find the bathroom beside Room 229. A sign outside the door states that only one student can use the bathroom, despite there being two stalls, and so they must figure out whether someone is inside or not. Considering the lack of options for gender-non-conforming students, it isn't uncommon to have to wait for someone to leave. By the time the user is finished, they've missed important class time.

With paragraphs full of issues for non-binary students who need to use the bathroom, it's time for solutions to be introduced.

What Can Be Done?

There are ten pairs of gendered bathrooms in North Hunterdon High School, excluding staff bathrooms. Additionally, there is one gender-neutral bathroom that doesn't require the user to explain themselves to the nurses. That is equal to twenty-one total bathrooms available to students. Divided evenly between the three accepted bathroom categories, we could have seven of each.

The Minimum Option For Equality

The minimum amount of effort the school could provide is to replace some of the signs on the doors. Scattering gender-neutral bathrooms throughout the school has the potential to be slightly inconvenient for those who use binary bathrooms, but the truth of the matter is that it's worth it. It's worth a little extra travel time to make students feel safer, feel accepted, and realize they are valid.

In short, North Hunterdon High School should no longer have ten bathrooms for boys, ten for girls, and only one for non-binary students. Instead, they should have seven for each category. The ratio would change from 10:10:1 to 7:7:7- real equality.

GLSEN, an organization dedicated to creating an environment of equality in schools for LGBTQ+ people, has formed a Model School Policy. That journal articulates, "Requiring a transgender or gender nonconforming student to use a separate space against their wishes threatens to stigmatize the student and disclose their transgender status to others." These improved bathroom labels should not force students to use a particular bathroom. Anyone should be permitted to use the bathroom of their choosing, no matter what their reason.

The Ideal Option For Bathroom Equality

In schools without inclusive LGBTQ+ policies, such as NHHS, 56% of students hear negative remarks about transgender students often or frequently (GLSEN). The distaste towards gender-queer students may spark a backlash against gender-neutral bathrooms. To protect LGBTQ+ students, NHHS should host an assembly to explain the change to students. Just as has been done on this website, they should go into depth on why this change is needed. They should explain gender to students and staff, teaching inclusivity and tolerance.

The staff should partake in The Trevor Project's CARE (Connect, Accept, Respond, Empower) training. This training is described by The Trevor Project as "interactive and intensive training that provides adults with an overview of suicide among lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer & questioning (LGBTQ) youth, and the different environmental stressors that contribute to their heightened risk for suicide."

This training would help equip the staff with the ability to personally help LGBTQ+ students, support them, and even offer advice to them. Only 42.4% of students participating in GLSEN's 2019 survey reported having an administration that was supportive of LGBTQ+ students; it's time to raise that statistic.

Sources

"Understanding Gender Identities." The Trevor Project, 23 Aug. 2021, www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/article/understanding-gender-identities/. Accessed 19 Feb. 2022.

Kosciw, Joseph G., Clark, Caitlin M., Truong, Nhan L., Zongrone, Adrian D.. The 2019 National School Climate Survey. New York City, GLSEN. GLSEN, www.glsen.org/research/2019-national-school-climate-survey. Accessed 21 Feb. 2022.