LIVING WITH Gratitude

Gratitude is sometimes treated as a response to good fortune: a promotion, a great meal, a favor. As a disposition toward living, though, gratitude is more foundational. It is an appreciation that there is something rather than nothing, and that, against staggering odds, that something includes us, no matter how briefly.

The Improbability of Life

The universe is 13.8 billion years old. Earth has existed for 4.5 billion of those years. For most of that time, it was inhospitable to anything like human life. And yet here we are: conscious, breathing, thinking beings on a thin slice of geological time, orbiting a stable star at just the right distance, on a planet with water, an atmosphere, and the nearly impossible chemistry required for life to emerge and persist, now exchanging ideas on this screen through language. 

That this happened is astonishing. That we get to experience it strains belief. 

In the Earth's 4.5 billion-year history, we have been blessed with a tiny blip of time to enjoy it. To put this in perspective: if the Earth's history were compressed to one calendar year, an average human life would last the time it takes to snap your fingers. Dinosaurs would vanish on December 26, modern humans would appear in the final thirty minutes, and our lives would fit in the last half-second. 

The Improbability of You

The improbability of being one of the lucky few blessed with time on Earth is impossible to calculate. Think of the lottery we won. Just before our life began, hundreds of millions of sperm were released from our father. Only one succeeded. If a different one had reached our mother's egg first, you would not exist. Ever. Someone else would. Or no one at all. 

The same is true of Ali Sard. Someone else would have been mowing that yard.

And that’s just the final step. The sperm and egg that made you existed only because your father and mother did. And they existed only because similar long-shot events happened decades earlier. And so did their parents, and theirs, and theirs -- each generation depending on the same unlikely sequence, repeated across centuries.

Try tracing all the contingencies that made this possible, and it quickly becomes futile. The diseases survived. People meeting when they might not have. Small decisions that turned out to be big ones. Wars avoided. A single death, missed connection, or failed conception anywhere along the chain, and you never appear.

You are the beneficiary of a run of survival and chance stretching back millions of years. The odds that anyone would be alive are extraordinary. 

And yet here you are.

The Mind-Blowing Lottery Prize of Life

And what a mind-blowing prize that lottery ticket has won.

We pay good money to visit places designed to help us marvel at the world. Theme parks build elaborate replicas of cities. Museums recreate ecosystems behind glass. At places like Epcot Center, we gape at curated versions of Earth, impressed by the detail and craft.

Then we leave, step outside, and rush past the real thing.

Just to walk outdoors is to enter an attraction more astonishing than anything we could build. Trees rise with forms no architect could improve upon. A single patch of grass - the stuff Ali Sard struggles to mow - contains more variation in color, motion, and texture than an entire showroom of manufactured objects. 

The beauty is born of function. Every tree, blade of grass, bird, plant, cloud, and insect is the visible result of billions of chemical reactions, unfolding over unimaginable spans of time, somehow producing not just life, but this life, with all its variety. Different shapes. Strategies. Colors. Behaviors. Countless living forms, all interacting, competing, cooperating, adapting—layered into a system so complex we can never fully grasp it, yet simple enough we can enjoy its beauty.

Look closely at a tree, and it becomes hard to stop looking. The branching structure. Why did each one bend just that way? The way weight distributes without effort. The way leaves catch light and turn it into shade, where other life forms thrive.

None of this was made for us. And yet we get to witness it. If we don’t feel exhilarated by it every day, it's not a failure of appreciation. It’s speed. Distraction. We’re too busy heading somewhere to notice where we already are.

The Luxury of Modernity

As if being alive were not a miracle enough, we also happen to be alive now. Yes, all 117 billion people who have lived are lottery winners. But the biggest prize has gone to those born in modern times. 

For most of human history, life was brutally hard. Hunger was common. Disease, routine. Pain, untreated. Information moved slowly, if at all. And sanitation was either non-existent or primitive.

Take just one example: indoor plumbing. Most humans who have ever lived relieved themselves near their homes. Societies smelled constantly of human waste. Today, we sit on porcelain thrones connected to invisible systems that carry everything away with clean water at the push of a handle. And, it really is a throne. I think of it that way every time I use it, marveling at comfort and convenience that even the wealthiest rulers of ancient empires could not have imagined.

And that’s only one item on a very long list of things modern humans enjoy, but no others did. Electricity. Light at night. Clean drinking water on demand. Refrigeration that preserves food. Air conditioning that turns brutal heat into a mild inconvenience. Antibiotics, anesthesia, and safe surgery. Transportation that collapses distance. Communication that crosses the planet instantly. Access to more information than any human in history ever possessed. These just happen to be the conditions we were born into. No beings in history have been so lucky. 

The Gift of Other People

On top of all this luck, there is one more improbable gift: companions. Our homies, as my wife calls us. 

Not only do we get to be alive in a world like ours, we get to experience it with other lottery winners. Spouses. Children. Parents. Friends. People who give life meaning.

By some extraordinary turn in our evolutionary story, humans developed capacities to appreciate others: love, empathy, compassion. We don’t just coexist. We care. We notice. We feel loss and joy and connection. Those capacities enrich life in ways no technology or spectacle ever could.

People give us someone to laugh with, argue with, learn from, care about, and be cared for. Even the most beautiful world would feel nothing like a human life without our experience of others. 

And like everything else worth appreciating, that gift is easy to overlook - not because it doesn’t matter, but because it grows familiar.

Which brings us to why gratitude can be so elusive.

Why We Miss It

Despite the improbability of life, the beauty of the world, the comforts of modernity, and the people we love, gratitude can still elude us.

That isn’t because we are inherently ungrateful.  

It’s because we’re human.

Our brains evolved to normalize what surrounds us. Habituation helps us survive. It teaches our brain to notice new things but not old ones. It makes the ocean water feel cold when we first jump in, but not once we've adapted. It lets us stop marveling at the ground beneath our feet so we can watch for what’s coming next. It conserves mental resources, and keeps us moving. 

But it has a cost. Extraordinary things start to feel ordinary simply because they’re familiar. Miracles turn into background. Luck becomes routine.

None of this is a moral failure. It’s just the price of adaptation.

The point, then, isn’t to live in a permanent state of awe. That would be exhausting. The point is simply to remember, as often as we can, what habituation makes us miss. 

That we are the lucky ones. 

That being here at all is astonishing.

That the world is beautiful.

That our quality of life is unmatched in history.

That the people we love are as improbable as they are irreplaceable.

In that sense, Dr. Seuss was right. Perspective does help. But the real lesson isn't "Thank goodness for all of the things you are not." 

Maybe what's missing from the book is one final page. Not another character in an even worse predicament. Rather, a page where Ali Sard pauses mid-mow, wipes his brow, and looks around. Where he notices the impossible green of the grass he's fighting. Where he realizes: Life can be hard, but I'm here. I get to do this. Against all odds, I exist.

That's the real luck.

We're here.

That's enough to notice.

Simon Davidson
December 26, 2025