ACHIEVEMENTS APPROVED IN THE YEAR 2021 AND HOW THEY ARE TO BENEFIT TO OUR BUSINESS PARTNERS.

Ever since the year started, Minds Eyes Company has managed to set up at least (six) sectors contributing to its income and these include;

1. Workshop

2. Events

3. Agriculture

4. A van for transport system

5. Media platform

In addition to the above, there are also some development Programs, that have contributed to our income and many more awaited to be introduced in the Company.

According to the main sectors above, these are some of the outlined benefits approved under each sector in which business Partners benefit from individually;

WORK SHOP

1. Free training to all Business partners and their relatives.

2. A Discount of 10% is given to every business Partner buying his or her own cloth from the workshop

3. For any business partner capable of renting or having a shop, and willing to sale the company products, it will provide him/her with the stock as long as they are to pay after the sales.

4. In the process of training, accommodation is freely provided to only the business partner.

EVENTS

These include Music system, tents, dance and drama team, and a1so transport system will all be provided on a discount basis to every business partner for their occasions and on this side of sorrow, tents and music system will be provided at no cost but only to pay a fee for the fuel used in the vehicle and in this, this offer will be given once in a year.

AGRICULTURE;

Under this sector, our business Partners benefit from it by allowing the company purchase food from them, look for market and earn money than waiting for profits as this will increase on their income and thus development.

In addition, Development Programs are individually beneficial to the business Partners in terms of getting free programs including their families.

A VAN

This will help in transportation of the business partner e.g., picking them at the airport on their arrival especially those that are abroad at a free cost but only paying a few negotiable cost for fuel. Since we bought this car for making money like for those who need it for hiring. Therefore, in case of any occasion or tour, the business partner will be given a discount of 20% of the cost its hired than the non- business partners starting from 2022.

MEDIA PLATFORM

In case of any event or business announcements of any of our business partner, the company will use its platforms including Facebook, twiter and YouTube at a free cost and still for the case of events; it has good cameras that may help on that sector at a negotiable cost.

Apart from the benefits above, there are also some WORK PLANS for both parties (directors and business partners) of company to participate in, in the year 2022 and these include the following ;

1. Improving on the market system.

2. Adding more capital in the business.

3. Building a good and strong relationship with communities.

4. Exhibitions for the company products

5. Healthy projects etc.

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INTRODUCTION

Whatever your mind can conceive and believe it can achieve. By Minds Eyes Company

We are the chosen generation leading global education through counseling and guidance ,empowering people to apply faithful stewards so that they can be able to accomplish their goals.

Our planning is based on the next generation and commitment. We must follow on our good intentions. Everything is useless without action.

We members of Mind’s Eyes Co. vision 2025 we are considered to realize one’s destinies and fulfills it , it helps to change some ones mindset, it creates self belief ,transforms lives ,communities and making someone to think independently .We accept the obligations of joint participation, shared goals and mutual accountability that true partnership requires. We affirm our interdependence , promote unity and our willingness to yield autumn as necessary for the common good. We commit ourselves to know, understand and love each other.

Having realized that we are good managers of the resources that we have earned and that life has given us faithful stewards we know that we choose to spend our time or money there are always opportunities foregone. We consider our choices and we use our resources in keeping with our values and life mission.

This means we weigh not only our own needs and desires but those of other people and future generations. We realize that none of us is a self made person and that part of what we own is wealthy that flows from others through us.

Life is temporary sojourn in which we end up seeing as liens, temporary residents but we as Faithful Stewards we are here to bring back peace and hope into your life. Cause God has given us knowing and understanding that can lead you into success.

However, everything will be accomplished through hard work , but everything will be carried out when you decide to join this project. Starting with your occupation , family, friends, your employer, and so on. God brought us into this world for the purpose through strengthening and encouraging one another. Try to maintain a proper view of ownership .You need to learn content for your happiness and security with us. The time you start dealing with us, you will be free from servitudes to materialism. This means freedom to follow your goals has started, freedom to pursue your value and projects.

Faithful Stewardship is our core value and as we Mind’s Eyes Co.Vision2025 we see that if not it’s the most important element of all. To the extent that we discover the individual and help him or her from self respecting , meaningful and rewarding relationship with the world, we will have succeeded. This is the way this company does its works.

-We are God’s Faithful Stewardship .We care for the earth and act in ways that will restore and protect the environment .We ensure that our development activities are ecologically sound and seen.

-We speak and act honestly with our clients .We open and factual in our dealings ,protect communities, the public and large to each other .We endeavor to convey a public image conforming reality .We strive for consisting between what we say and what we do.

-We demand of ourselves high standards of professional competence and accept the need to be accountable through appropriate instructions for achieving these standards .We share our experience and knowledge with others where it can assist them.

-We act in ways that respect the dignity, uniqueness and intrinsic worth of every person. The power ,the leaders , our staff and their families ,friends ,collogues, children, boards and volunteers .We celebrate the richness of diversity in human personality ,culture ,religion and contribution.

-We practice participative, open and enabling style in working relationships. We courage the professionals, personal and spiritual growth

However It’s our human nature as we members of Minds Eyes Company to connect with objectives .It is because of our conscious mind that we can exercise our power of choice. But as far us our brains concerns ,the subconscious still governs more 90% of our objects.

So far we are youth who have managed to understand the life of the world and its experience, but pain is one of the most things we understand mostly. And if you try to ask us, it's one of the truthful we have as it is within many youth. You can spend the entire life while asking “how can I be happy "and this question is between 80%. Many get out of the world without realizing the value of the things that have made them happy. You can discover this on your life experience when some one asks you what important things have you done in life? When you realize that you have no answer on it, that's the truth I’m trying to mean. Most people don't think on their own important rather spend their time thinking of the sufferings they have gone through in life. To proof this, you can ask your neighbors the trails and tribulations they have went through and this will give you the correct evidence. The Almighty mostly counts the good deeds we have done on the earth. Because one who is faithful in a very little is also faithful in much, and one who is dishonest in a very little is also dishonest in much. And it's your responsibility to find out people who are in need to fulfill your purpose through helping them as we do. What does your understanding means on earth?. You have no responsibility of judging your understanding but what you have to do is to focus on what people say about you especially those who are surrounded by you, if it's negative it means you have to check you’re self and turn into positive.

So this book is created to develop those who want to set and achieve goals. You want to stand out on job and school applications, you want to enhance your professional resume, you want to be honored us a youth, try new activities and improve your skills. Don’t miss this book.

The faithful steward is someone who is doing the best he can with the things that God/Allah has given him. We were called to be faithful stewards in everything we do. This is why it is so important, among many things, to honor God with our time, gifts, money, health, and relationships.

We must understand that everyone is called to be faithful steward all the time, not just once a while. What about the stewardship of relationships? I believe it means treating others with respect and not taking anyone for granted, especially those close to us and those with whom we interact in the workplace.

When it comes to money, using it and spending it wisely, in a way that would honor our creator, is the best course of action to

Become a responsible faithful stewardship in everything you do.

Being a steward of our health is also important. Caring for our bodies. To ensure healthy lives and well-being for all, we all have to take action , therefore eat nutritionally, exercise regularly, and feed our minds spiritually and positive ideas.

Stewardship applies to everything we have been given. Our time, our money, our God-given gifts and abilities, our influence, our environment, it all comes from God. When you read (Matthew 25:14-30) there’s a Parable Talent that reminds us that faithful steward takes “calculated risks” in order to multiply what we have been given. The unfaithful steward was the one, who, out of fear, decided not to take a risk and was called lazy. Luke 12:48 says, “And to whomsoever much is given, of him shall much be required: and to whom they commit much, of him will they ask the more. "When we look at our talents ,it shows our growth and that we are all equal(i.e. )we have same legs, same hands ,ears ,body etc. .And you can find that there many people who are in poor condition and good condition but this depends how you have been trained to use your body parts to move forward .

Our finances tend to be the key area that people refer to when speaking of stewardship. I think the main reason is that life’s resources are most quantifiable in monetary terms, besides the fact that money is often one of the most difficult things for people to give. We may be OK with giving our energy, time, or sharing abilities, but money is not something that people give away easily, except for those with the gift of benevolence.

Remember that we come into the world with nothing and will leave with nothing. If we viewed all our possessions as merely being “on loan,” we may begin to see ourselves more as “stewards” than as “possessors.” The story is told of a well-known violinist who had in his possession a violin that was a couple hundred years old and worth many hundreds of thousands of dollars. The violinist viewed himself as a steward of the instrument. He knew that many great musicians had played the instrument before he was even born. And he never thought for a moment he would be the last to play the fine instrument. He understood that the age-old violin was just temporarily passing through his hands.

The violinist’s outlook on his violin illustrates the understanding of the role possessions should have in one’s life. We all may possess things, but ultimately, we never own them. Hence, like the violin, the water from our faucet is not ours to waste, nor the electricity that lights our home. As wise stewards, we may use them but should never abuse them.

ü Be close to important principles of stewardship:

ü God owns everything; I own nothing.

ü God entrusts us with everything that we have.

ü God wants us to increase/improve on what we have, not decrease/diminish it.

ü God can call us into account at any time.

ü Are you a faithful steward? By His grace you can be faithful as our vision states

ü The secret to be a successful steward is very simple but you’ll have read the book to find out what it means

EVERYTHING IS DONE BY DECISION

One day, I came home disillusioned with school. I was bored and tired of studying. I asked myself "Why should I put time into studying subjects I will never use in real life?" Without thinking, I remembered my parents telling me that if I don't get good grades, i won't get into college, if i don't graduate from college, i won't get a good job, and if i don't have a good job, how do i leave good in future? I lowered my head and rolled my eyes. The words of patently wisdom were rolling on a deaf mind Though smart and strong-willed, I have always been a polite and respectful young man but with my opinions i didn't agree with my parents' words "Regardless of whether I go to school ," I protested ", I'm going to leave good in my future. "…Even if i don't graduate from college, I'm going to be good. That is because when i look around; the richest people didn't get rich because of their educations. Look at Michael Jordan and Madonna. Even Bill Gates, who dropped out of Harvard, founded Microsoft; their now the richest men in America, they managed to became rich while they were still youth. There many players who earn more money through their talents. The world around us has changed, but the examples haven’t changed. Getting a good education and making good grades no longer ensures success, and nobody seems to have noticed, except those ones with a wider thinking and who has got no opportunities to continue with their educations.

, "I don't want to work as hard as my elders do. They make a lot of money, and live in a huge house with lots of toys. If I follow their advice, I'll wind up like them, working harder and harder only to pay more taxes and wind up in debt. There is no security in being employed; I know all about downsizing and rightsizing. When i look at the college graduates today, they earn less than our elders did when they graduated. Also when i look at doctors. They don't make nearly as much money as they used to. I knew I couldn't rely on Social Security or company pensions for retirement. I needed new answers more than that.

Children spend years in an antiquated educational system, studying subjects they will never use, preparing for a world that no longer exists. Today, the most dangerous ,I can’t advice a friend or a child is `To go to school, to get good grades and look for a safe secure job,' that it will clear his real life in future, i like to say, That is old advice, and it's bad advice. When i see what is happening in Sudan , Congo, Rwanda , Kenya , even in my country Uganda , i become more concerned ,It's bad advice, i believe, because if i want my friends and my children to have a financially secure future, they can't play by the old set of rules. It's just too risky. What I mean by "old rules” is that; Many people want to teach what is going on during that moment, what happens when a corporation announces a downsizing? ; People get laid off, Families are hurt. Unemployment goes up. And that is right. But what happens to the company, in particular a public company on the stock exchange? ; The price of the stock usually goes down when the downsizing is announced, the market likes it when a company reduces its labor costs, either through automation or just consolidating the labor force in general. And that's right... When stock prices go up, people like me, the shareholders, get richer. That is what I mean by a different set of rules. Employees lose; owners and investors win. I am describing not only the difference between an employee and employer, but also the difference between controlling your own destiny and giving up that control to someone else. "But it's hard for most people to understand why that happens; they just think it's not fair. That's why it is foolish to simply say to the young generation, `Get a good education,' It is foolish to assume that the education the school system provides will prepare my children and friends for the world they will face upon graduation. Each child needs more education. Different education. And they need to know the rules. The different sets of rules there are rules of money that the rich play by, and there are the rules that the other 95 percent of the population plays by, and the 95 percent learns those rules at home and in school. That is why it's risky today to simply say to a child, `Study hard and look for a job.' A child today needs a more sophisticated education, and the current system is not delivering the goods. I don't care how many computers they put in the classroom or how much money schools spend. How can the education system teach a subject that it does not know? So how do i teach my children, what the school does not? How do i teach accounting to a child? Won't they get bored? And how do i teach investing when as a parent I myself are risk averse? Instead of teaching my children to simply play it safe, I decided it is best to teach them to play it smart. "So how would I teach a child about money and all the things I’ve talked about? How can i make it easy for parents especially when they don't understand it themselves? When I as a parent advise my children to "go to school, study hard and get a good job," I often do that out of cultural habit. It has always been the right thing to do. When I realized the solutions on how to make money work for me. It initially startled me. Having been raised in such a changing world with different kinds of people, it had taught me to strive for two different goals. I don't advise you to work for a corporation as the educated people do, but I advise you to own the corporation as the rich do. Both life paths require education, but the subjects of study are completely different. I don't encourage you to be smart people as the educated people do. But I encourage you to know how to hire smart people just like the rich.

The rich teach their children differently. They teach their children at home, around the dinner table. These ideas may not be the ideas you choose to discuss with your children, but thank you for looking at them. And I advise you to keep searching. In my opinion, as apparent and a guardian, the concept of simply getting good grades and finding a good job is an old idea. I need to advise my friends and my children with a greater degree of sophistication. I need new ideas and different education. Maybe telling my children to strive to be good employees while also striving to own their own investment corporation is not such a bad idea. It is my hope as a parent that these ideas help other parents. It is my hope to inform people that anyone can achieve prosperity if they so choose. If today you are a gardener or a janitor or even unemployed, you have the ability to educate yourself and teach those you love to take care of themselves financially. Remember that financial intelligence is the mental process via which we solve our financial problems. Today we are facing global and technological changes as great as or even greater than those ever faced before. No one has a crystal ball, but one thing is for certain: Changes lie ahead that are beyond our reality. Who knows what the future brings? But whatever happens, I have two fundamental choices: play it safe or play it smart by preparing, getting educated and awakening my own financial genius. I would say, the love of money is the root of all evil, but to be realistic, the lack of money is the root of all evil.

Having been with a vision of making my loving country Uganda a self reliant economy and living with loving people forced me to think and ultimately choose a way of thinking for myself. As a process, choosing for myself turned out to be much more valuable in the long run, rather than simply accepting or rejecting a single point of view. The reason the rich get richer, the poor get poorer, and the middle class struggles in debt is because the subject of money is taught at home, not in school. Most of us learn about money from our parents. So what can a poor parent tell their child about money? They simply say "Stay in school and study hard." The child may graduate with excellent grades but with a poor person's financial programming and mind-set. It was learned while the child was young. Money is not taught in schools. Schools focus on scholastic and professional skills, but not on financial skills. This explains how smart bankers, doctors and accountants who earned excellent grades in school may still struggle financially all of their lives. Our staggering national debt is due in large part to highly educated politicians and government officials making financial decisions with little or no training on the subject of money. I often look ahead to the new millennium and wonder what will happen when we have millions of people who will need financial and medical assistance. They will be dependent on their families or the

Government for financial support. What will happen when Medicare and Social Security run out of money? How will a nation survive if teaching children about money continues to be left to parents most of whom will be, or already are, poor? Because I grew up in a disastrous situation seeing different kinds of people struggling, where by; the poor, the middle class and the rich had to work hard, I learned from all of them. I had to think about each side's difficulties, challenges, struggles, advice, and in doing so, I gained valuable insight into the power and effect of one's thoughts on one's life. For example, I had a habit of saying, "I can't afford it." But now i forbid those words to be used. I insist I say, "How can I afford it? One is a statement, and the other is a question. One lets me off the hook, and the other forces me to think. I would explain that by automatically saying the words "I can't afford it," My brain stops working. By asking the question "How can I afford it?" My brain is put to work. I don't mean I buy everything i want. I'm fanatical about exercising my mind, the most powerful computer in the world. My brain gets stronger every day because I exercise it. The stronger it gets, the more money I can make. I believe that automatically saying "I can't afford it" is a sign of mental laziness. Although the poor, the middle class and the rich work hard, I have noticed that the poor, the middle class have a habit of putting their brain to sleep when it comes to money matters, and the rich have a habit of exercising their brain. The long-term result is that the rich grow stronger financially and the other grows weaker. It is not much different from a person who goes to the gym to exercise on a regular basis versus someone who sits on the couch watching television. Proper physical exercise increases your chances for health, and proper mental exercise increases your chances for wealth. Laziness decreases both health and wealth. Those who work for money and those that money works for, have opposing attitudes in thought. The poor and the middle class believe that the rich should pay more in taxes to take care of those less fortunate. The rich believe that taxes punish those who produce and reward those who don't produce. I used to advise my friends to study hard so they can find a good company to work for, but now I advise them to study hard so they can find a good company to buy. I used to say, “The reason I'm not rich is because I have kids. But now, on the other hand, i say "The reason I must be rich is because I have kids. “When it comes to work for, play it safe, don't take risks. But learn how to manage risk. Those who work for money believe that their home is their largest investment and their greatest asset, but the ones who make money to work for them believe that their house is a liability, and if your house is your largest investment, you're in trouble.

I noticed that people really do shape their life through their thoughts. For example, some people say, "I'll never be rich." And that prophesy becomes reality. But for me, on the other hand, always refer to myself as rich. I always say things like, "I'm a rich man, and rich people don't do this." Even when I’m flat broke after a major financial setback; i continue to refer to myself as a rich man. I always cover myself by saying, "There is a difference between being poor and being broke. - Broke is temporary, and poor is eternal. I usually hear people who are still struggling financially saying that they are not interested in money, or Money doesn't matter, yet for me, who have acquired financial intelligence believe that money is power. Some people say that they are not interested in money or money doesn't matter because they don't have the education about how money works, they were never taught the subject of money. The power of our thoughts may never be measured or appreciated, but I constantly advise my children and friends to be aware of their thoughts and how they express themselves. I have noticed that the poor are poor not because of the amount of money they earn, which is significant but because of their thoughts and actions. So, I always remind my loved ones to be acutely aware of being careful which thoughts they choose to adopt as their own. Whom should I listen too, rich people or poor people? Although both the highly educated people and those who didn't go further with their studies have tremendous respect for education and learning, they disagree in what they think is important to learn. For the intelligence about money that i acquired, I can never encourage my children to study hard, earn a degree and get a good job to work for money, to study to become professionals, attorneys or accountants or to go to business school for their MBA. But rather, I encourage them to study to be rich, to understand how money works and to learn how to have it work for them. "I don't work for money!" are words I always repeat over and over, "Money works for me!"

Money is one form of power. But what is more powerful is financial education. Money comes and goes, but if you have the education about how money works, you gain power over it and can begin building wealth. The reason positive thinking alone does not work is because most people went to school and never learned how money works, so they spend their lives working for money. Because I was still young when I lost my mother and from then I started facing the world at my own. And through the disastrous situation that I grew in, i gained the insights and knowledge and learned the lessons of life and the lessons on how to become rich in all aspects. In all that I learned, I would like to share with you these lessons. There were only six main lessons that have made me the best and important person I am today. Put as simply as possible as i put forth these lessons. The lessons are not meant to be answers but guideposts. Guideposts that will assist you and your children to grow wealthier no matter what happens in a world of increasing change and uncertainty.

RICH DON'T WORK FOR MONEY.

Opportunities come and go. Being able to know when to make quick decisions is an important skill.

In everything you do, the struggles you are going through, I mean the situation you are in, is the best teacher, learning the lessons of life is just the situation. Teaching does not mean talking or a lecture. Not Like the way you were or you are taught in school, but that is not how life teaches you, and I would say that life is the best teacher of all. Most of the time, life does not talk to you. It just sort of pushes you around. Each push is life saying, `Wake up. There's something I want you to learn. If you learn life's lessons, you will do well. If not, life will just continue to push you around. People do two things. Some just let life push them around. Others get angry and push back. But they push back against their boss, or their job, or their husband or wife. They do not know its life that's pushing. Life pushes all of us around. Some give up. Others fight. A few learn the lesson and move on. They welcome life pushing them around. To these few people, it means they need and want to learn something. They learn and move on. Most quit, and a few fight. If you learn this lesson, you will grow into a wise, wealthy and happy person. If you don't, you will spend your life blaming a job, low pay or your boss for your problems. You'll live life hoping for that big break that will solve all your money problems.

Live all your life playing it safe, doing the right things, saving yourself for some event that never happens. Then, you die a boring old person. You'll have lots of friends who really like you because you were such a nice hard-working guy. You spent a life playing it safe, doing the right things. But the truth is, you let life push you into submission. Deep down you were terrified of taking risks. You really wanted to win, but the fear of losing was greater than the excitement of winning. Deep inside, you and only you will know you didn't go for it. You chose to play it safe.

. So most will spend the best years of their lives working for money, not really understanding what it is they are working for. Stop blaming others thinking they are the problem. If you think they are the problem, then you have to change them. If you realize that you're the problem, then you can change yourself, learn something and grow wiser. Most people want everyone else in the world to change but for them they don’t want to change. Let me tell you, it's easier to change yourself than everyone else. Don't blame others for your problems.

. If you keep the attitude of blaming others that they are the problem, you will be left with no choices and gain nothing in your life. Most people quit and go looking for another job, more respect, better opportunity, and higher pay, actually thinking that a new job or more pay will solve the problem. In most cases, it won't. So what will solve the problem is mastering the power of money and how it works.

Most people think more money will solve the problem. They just accept a paycheck knowing that they and their family will struggle financially. But that's all they do, waiting for a raise thinking that more money will solve the problem. Most just accept it, and some take a second job working harder, but again accepting a small paycheck.

It is a singular point of view that makes all the difference over a life time.

. Those who work for money and who lack financial education recommend their children to study hard, get good grades, so they can find a safe, secure job with a big company with excellent benefits. But those who have acquired financial education recommend their friends and children to learn how money works so they could make it work for them. These lessons I would learn through life experience, not because of a classroom. Rich people started my first lesson, "I know you’re very angry about working for that salary every month. If you had not gotten angry and had gladly accepted it, I would have to tell you that I could not teach you. You see, true If you have a burning desire to learn how to have money work for you , I'm sure you are going to take everything I say. Because true learning takes energy, passion, a burning desire. Anger is a big part of that formula, for passion is anger and love combined. When it comes to money, most people want to play it safe and feel secure. So passion does not direct them: Fear does. Some people say I exploit people because in my company I don't pay as much as other companies or the government. I say the people exploit themselves. It's their fear, not mine. Though they accuse me I don't feel i should pay them more. It's true i don't have to. And besides, more money will not solve the problem. Just like I look at my neighbor.He makes a lot of money, and he still can't pay his bills. Most people, given more money, only get into more debt. As I can use an example of my neighbor, he went to school and got an excellent education, so he could get a high-paying job. Which he did But he still has money problems because he never learned anything about money at school. On top of that, he believes in working for money. If you want to learn to work for money, then stay in school. That is a great place to learn to do that. But if you want to learn how to have money work for you, then I will teach you that. But only if you want to learn and not everyone would want to learn that. Simply because it's easier to learn to work for money, especially if fear is your primary emotion when the subject of money is discussed. It's fear that keeps most people working at a job. The fear of not paying their bills.The fear of being fired.The fear of not having enough money. The fear of starting over. That's the price of studying to learn a profession or trade, and then working for money. Most people become a slave to money... and then get angry at their boss. Learning to have money work for you is a completely different course of study from what you were or you are taught in school.

Learning how to have money work for you is a life time study. Most people go to college for four years, and their education ends. I already know that my study of money will continue over my lifetime, simply because the more I Find out, the more I find out I need to know. Most people never study the subject. They go to work, get their paycheck, balance their checkbooks, and that's it. On top of that, they wonder why they have money problems. Then, they think that more money will solve the problem. Few realize that it's their lack of financial education that is the problem. Some people still have tax problems because they don’t understand money. Taxes are just one small section on learning how to have money work for you. I feel grateful for those who have the passion to learn about money. Most people don't. They want to go to school, learn a profession, have fun at their work, and earn lots of money. One day they wake up with big money problems, and then they can't stop working. That's the price of only knowing how to work for money instead of studying how to have money work for you.

If you learn the lesson, you'll enjoy a life of great freedom and security. If you don't learn the lesson, you'll wind up like Members of Parliament or other people working in educated places who beg for their vocations and spending a lot of time how much to be paid.

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I don’t mean that you don’t do these jobs but I’m trying to say! Do those to earn capital while you plan its deadline .Because everyone who’s educated is looking at it, remember many children are being educated to do the same jobs and their very focused to reach out there. And most cases they set out deadlines how long you must stay in that place. That’s what we call ‘’Working for Money’’ but not ‘’Money to work for you’’.

. Those people work very hard, clinging to the illusion of job security, that’s why many of them end up doing mistakes looking forward to a three-week vacation each year and a skimpy pension after forty-five years of work. I'm not trying to make fun of them. But I’m trying to show how it works to those people. Mr. Tamale Marandi is a good mentor to me. Cause ever since I started listening his programs my life was transformed because I managed to get the answers I was yearning for all along. I got to understand how money works for people .This man has spent four years ever since he got a problem on his working place as a President advisor, he lost his job because of the people who wanted to occupy his position ,he was denied and sent out of his job. These people who wanted to take over his position thought that he has to first resigned so that everything in their lives will be okay ,because they work for money .What do you learn in this lesson ,Ever since this man lost his job ,he was still capable with all his aspects.

-His children are still going to school, his still having security guards, his author, his still presenting his program and so on. That’s why I ask myself, though this man lost his job but his still earning a lot of money. I discovered that he is the job, and all the wealth of a person starts on his hearing, feeling, sight and decision making. , I may sound cruel because I'm doing my best to point something out to those who have the passion to learn. I want to expand a point of view to these lessons so you can see something. Something most people never have the benefit of seeing because their vision is too narrow. Most people never see the trap they are in. I may be somehow cruel, yet I wish you could sense I desperately want you to know something. When most people are called in for a high paying deal, it makes their heart beat a little faster and then start racing, because they are going to earn more thinking that it's going to solve the problem not realizing that they are going to spend it while working for it .Just because they lack financial knowledge on how to make it work for them. I know everyone gets excited when they make them aware of a new deal.

l know there is a part of everyone's emotions that wants to take the deal. I know that each human being has a weak and needy part of their soul that can be bought. And i know that each human being also has a part of their soul that is strong and filled with a resolve that could never be bought. It is only a question of which one is stronger. I have tested thousands of souls in my life. I test souls every time i interview someone for a job. I know there is a part of everyone's soul that is weak and needy and a part of everyone's soul that has no price. Most people have a price. And they have a price because of human emotions named fear and greed. First, the fear of being without money motivates us to work hard, and then once we get that paycheck, greed or desire starts us thinking about all the wonderful things money can buy. The pattern is then set. The pattern of get up goes to work, pay bills, get up, go to work, pay bills... Their lives are then run forever by two emotions, fear and greed. Offer them more money, and they continue the cycle by also increasing their spending. This is what I call the Rat Race.

LEARN TO TELL THE TRUTH

There is another way but only a few people find it; the first step is telling the truth. That's what I hope that everyone would understand. Telling the truth about how you're feeling. You don't have to say it to anyone else. Just yourself. I doubt if some people do that. Instead, they feel the fear of not having money. Instead of confronting the fear, they react instead of think. They react emotionally instead of using their heads, then, they get a few bucks in their hands, and again the emotion of joy and desire and greed take over, and again they react, instead of think. And their emotions do their thinking, Instead of telling the truth about how they feel, they react to their feeling, fail to think. They feel the fear, they go to work, hoping that money will soothe the fear, but it doesn't. That old fear haunts them, and they go back to work, hoping again that money will calm their fears, and again it doesn't. Fear has them in this trap of working, earning money, working, hoping the fear will go away. But every day they get up, and that old fear wakes up with them. For millions of people, that old fear keeps them awake all night, causing a night of turmoil and worry. So they get up and go to work, hoping that a paycheck will kill that fear gnawing at their soul. Money is running their lives, and they refuse to tell the truth about that. Money is in control of their emotions and hence their souls.

FEAR AND GREEDY

I want you, mostly the new generation to avoid that trap. That is really what I want to teach everyone. Not just to be rich, because being rich does not solve the problem. Let me also give you a hint on the other emotion, which is desire. Some call it greed, but I prefer desire. It is perfectly normal to desire something better, prettier, more fun or exciting. So people also work for money because of desire. They desire money for the joy they think it can buy. But the joy that money brings is often short lived, and they soon need more money for more joy, more pleasure, more comfort, and more security. So they keep working, thinking money will soothe their souls that are troubled by fear and desire. But money cannot do that. Not only the poor and the middle class but also the rich. In fact, the reason many rich people are rich is not because of desire but because of fear. They actually think that money can eliminate that fear of not having money, of being poor, so they amass tons of it only to find out the fear gets worse. They now fear losing it. I have friends who keep working even though they have plenty. I know people who have millions who are more afraid now than when they were poor. They're terrified of losing all their money. The fears that drove them to get rich got worse. That weak and needy part of their soul is actually screaming louder. They don't want to lose the big houses, the cars, and the high life that money has bought them. They worry about what their friends would say if they lost all their money. Many are emotionally desperate and neurotic, although they look rich and have more money. And so, I don't think if a poor man is happier. The avoidance of money is just as psychotic as being attached to money. I've met so many people who say, `Oh, I'm not interested in money.' Yet they'll work at a job for eight hours a day. That's a denial of truth. If they weren't interested in money, the why are they working? That kind of thinking is probably more psychotic than a person who hoards money. To the countless times, I often here some people say, “I’m not interested in money," and also cover themselves by always saying, "I work because I love my job." I'm not telling anyone not to work for money until all traces of fear and greed are gone. No, that would be a waste of time; Emotions are what make us human. Make us real. The word `emotion' stands for energy in motion. Be truthful about your emotions, and use your mind and emotions in your favor, not against yourself. I would advise anyone just be an observer, not a reactor, to your emotions. Most people do not know that it's their emotions that are doing the thinking. Your emotions are your emotions, but you have got to learn to do your own thinking. For example, When a person says, `I need to find a job,' it's most likely an emotion doing the thinking. Fear of not having money generates that thought. All I'm saying is that it's fear that is all too often doing the thinking. For example, if the fear of not having enough money arises, instead of immediately running out to get a job so they can earn a few bucks to kill the fear, they instead might ask themselves this question. `Will a job be the best solution to this fear over the long run?' In my opinion, the answer is `no.' especially when you look over a person's lifetime. A job is really a short-term solution to a long-term problem. Most parents recommend “stay in school, get good grades, so you can find a safe, secure job," and it's a good idea for most people. But people make that recommendation primarily.

They are terrified that their children won't be able to earn money and won't fit into society. I wish the young generation don't get me wrong. Your parent loves you and wants the best for you. And I think their fear is justified. An education and a job are important. But it won't handle the fear. That same fear that makes most people get up in the morning to earn a few bucks is the same fear that is causing them to be so fanatical about their children going to school. All in alit, i want to teach you to master the power of money. Not be afraid of it. And they don't teach that in school. If you don't learn it, you become a slave to money. I want you all to widen your views. To see what Mrs. Martin and many employees could not see. I use examples that sound cruel at the time, but I wish you never forget them. If you master the power of money, your vision will widen for a life time, and I you will begin to see the trap that lay ahead for most people. We’re all employees ultimately. We just work at different levels; I just want you my friends and my children to have a chance to avoid the trap. The trap caused by those two emotions, fear and desire. Use them in your favor, not against you. That's what I want to teach you. I'm not interested in just teaching you to make a pile of money. That won't handle the fear or desire. If you don't first handle fear and desire, and you get rich, you'll only be a high paid slave.

IDEA, PLAN, ACTION, CAN LEAD A UGANDAN INTO SUCCESSION.

Successful leaders come in all shapes and sizes. No two workplaces, situations, crises, or scenarios are the same, and no two leaders are the same. And while it’s fine to say that servant leadership is the most effective type of management style, that doesn’t explain how a manager can become an effective manager. That’s where the personal leadership development plan comes into play.

The idea of developing a personal leadership development plan might seem a bit wonky, especially if you’re already in a leadership position. But having a plan — more specifically, a written list of leadership development activities — is important.

Here’s why: on the most basic level, we want our personal leadership to develop plans to be readily accessible as both reminders and guidelines for the goals we’ve set for ourselves. We’ve all made mental to-do lists — and promptly forgotten everything on them. Same goes with a leadership plan.

Not sure where to start? Follow this step-by-step guide and you’ll have a leadership development plan in no time.

IDEA.

STEP 1: DEFINE WHAT GENERALLY MAKES A GREAT LEADER

The best way to make a leadership development plan is to draw inspiration from today's great leaders around you. Try to consider the goodness and the effectives they have contributed towards your life.

You can compare this with a child who has been well nurtured from a poor to rich family. Remember charity begins at home. During the process of being an adult you start to develop, admire the attitudes and the behaviors of your parents. That’s why most children have no different with their parents. Everyone can start to meditate about this stage of development when you begin to make your own decisions with much focus.

What was your most desirable thing you had when you were growing up? Take a bit of concentration , and think of it;

Think about where you were raised u, the school you studied from and the invisible life that you can’t hear, see and listen but life can drive you on it though their unseen and heard.

Your parents di…………d a great role to fulfill their duties while nurturing you, cause they had no any other option to make .There’s a certain proverbs which says ‘’The chances of receiving are more likely with losing.

To start, make a leadership skills list of qualities that you think make up the traits, competencies, abilities, and experience of a good leader.

Three samples of skills we might put on our list:

➢ Honest, ethical behavior

➢ Being able to clearly and succinctly communicate a vision

➢ Using creativity and intuition to navigate difficult and unpredictable situations.

➢ Obeying rules and regulations that govern the place where we're. And knowing your responsibilities.

➢ Knowing the value you have in the certain place as a Ugandan.

➢ Setting up your goals before you move from one place another.

STEP 2: TAKE A SELF-ASSESSMENT.

Before we go further, what’s self-assessment?

This refers to a process through which people at all levels evaluate the effectiveness ,performance ,determination in all areas of responsibility that will require to improve in everything they do.

Next we have to identify our core characters. These are personality traits like "adventurous," "observant," and "impulsive."

ADVENTUROUS ACTIVITIES:

Climbing

Water sports

Trekking

Caving

Challenges and skills.

This depends on the environment which they take place. However not all adventures are required to hold a license .Activity centers with an artificial climbing wall.

Risk awareness; the knowledge that risks can be identified and managed increases confidence about new or uncertain situations in this manner.

OBSERVANT

For example; Early childhood education is not about teaching , it’s about explanation and learning, and observations play an important role in meeting the developmental needs of the younger learners .Observation is often seen as one of the simple ,yet effective methods of assessing young children as they develop.

Personal and social development: Gearing activities for success allows for the development of self-confidence and self –esteem.

IMPULSIVE

It’s defined as acting suddenly while changing ignoring the consequences of the behavior.

Compare this as a boom, the way it bursts means the outcome of it is more dangerous.

The teen-age years are a time for erratic behaviors, making mistakes and what some call ‘’impulse ’’behaviors. Some of these decisions show up as uncontrolled energy, distraction (lack of concentration) and moment by moment changing ideas about what you want, where will you go today, with whom etc. It is also associated with frequent irritability and confusion about decisions; therefore some days may seem to be ‘impulsive’ because it’s easier to follow the group than to be responsible for your own decision-making.

To do this, Strengths Finder is to look for wisdom and understanding .You can find it though you don’t want to believe it .However you have to look for inspiration people for a better success. By the moment your aware with this, you have to put it in action .Cause whatever demand you have in life ,is within the people around you, Just give them opportunities ,you will see a change towards your life.

NB

The time you spend while judging one another I advise you to spend it on valuable things. For example employees to no why you need to be employed, no why you’re in that relationship, how parents can nurture their children, how you can lead the next generation ,how to create your own jobs and so on.

But breaking down this habit, we need to carry out personal traits and strength, this will have more insight into our personal styles so that we can be able to receive a better answer the “Who am I?” piece of the personal leadership development process, which we'll get to later.

.Knowing the advantages and disadvantages of you gain in that work.

.Can your behaviors promote you at the place of work, what you’re suspecting to be in future.)"Change"

STEP 3: IDENTIFY YOUR CORE VALUES.

Now we've identified our core characters, it’s time to get into the nifty gritty details and identify our core values.

Core values are the principles we must use to make decisions and define integrity and ethics. They are the things that help us weigh choices in life, and are typically unwavering.

To help you identify what your core values might be, we've listed a few below. Choose 8–12 of the following values that are most important to you:

● Achievement

● Advancement

● Adventure

● Affiliation

● Affluence

● Authority

● Autonomy

● Balance

● Challenge

● Collaboration

● Community

● Competency

● Competition

● Courage

● Creativity

● Duty

● Economic security

● Enjoyment

● Fame

● Friendship

● Health

● Helping others

● Humor

● Influence

● Inner harmony

● Integrity

● Knowledge

● Loyalty

● Personal development

● Responsibility

● Self-respect

● Spirituality

● Wisdom

From your selections, identify 3–5 as your main core values and how they work into your life.

PLAN.

STEP 4: WRITE A PERSONAL VISION STATEMENT

Personal vision statement reflects your personal traits and core values. It seeks to answer the question, “Who are I and what is my higher calling?”

To narrow this broad objective, focus on the following things:

➢ What you want to be (in terms of character traits – refer to your self-assessment!)

➢ What you want to achieve or contribute

➢ The principles/values you use to make decisions, big and small

The personal vision statement will become your personal constitution — a physical reminder for you to see where you’ve been, where you are, and where you want to go. By outlining your vision, we will have something to look back when it comes time to develop our goals and write an action plan.

For example of what this could look like, personal mission statement

➢ Does this represent the integrity I stand for?

➢ Are direction, purpose, and motivation signaled in this statement?

➢ Is this an accurate portrait of who we want to be?

➢ Does this inspire us?

Remember: nothing is set in stone. Our personal statement should — involve over time. It should reflect where we are now and where we hope to go. In the journey of life, you have to take a moment of studying and meditate about for better achievements.

.Changing mindset, creating self -belief, transforming lives and communities will make everyone to think independently.

Step 5: BENEFITS OF OBEYING THE LAWS

Time management.

.Any employee must follow the rules and regulations to protect his/her job.

.They can help us from hurting each other.

.Rules can create a positive image to the customers we work for.

STEP 6: IDENTIFY CURRENT AND LACKING LEADERSHIP SKILLS

Expanding on and further defining the skills needed to become your definition of an ideal leader.

First, identify the skills we already have. Skills are different than traits: Skills can be taught (E.g. Excel, communication, delegating, etc.). Traits are natural abilities that last a lifetime (E.g. thoughtful, risk-adverse, introverted, etc.).

Note; Writing a resume can help identify these skills. Or, draw inspiration from these types of skills:

➢ Personal skills: Developing self-awareness, managing personal stress, solving problems.

➢ Interpersonal skills: Coaching and counseling, other supportive communication, influencing and motivating others, managing conflict.

➢ Group skills: Empowering and delegating, building effective teams and teamwork, managing change.

➢ Technical skills: Making presentations, making policies, personnel management, budgeting, and project management.

➢ Lastly, cross reference the skills we've identified with the lists, are made of "skills all great leaders have" and "the skills others think we have.

Remember, we do not need to embody every trait a great leader may have. We also don't need to improve on every single skill others think you need.

Once you have a list of skills prioritized in descending order by "need development" and strengths, it's time to make some goals.

ACTION.

NB: Set Goals.

Here’s where all this prior self-analysis and research come into play. Using the prioritized personal leadership skills list you developed in step six, write 2–3 stretch leadership development goals (goals that are challenging) and 1–2 manageable goals (goals that are “SMART”) that will help us achieve each of our goals.

To improve the company in every area. The SMART steps he took to get there: building better relationships with the people you find there. I.e. empowering employees to make decisions at all levels of the hierarchy, and introducing tight fiscal controls.

SMART goals are:

ü Specific: ask who, what, where, when, why, and which

ü Measurable: establish concrete criteria for measuring progress; ask “how much?”, “how many?”, and, “how will i know when it is accomplished?”

ü Attainable: just about any goal can be attained when you plan steps wisely and establish a realistic time frame; ask yourself what conditions would have to exist to accomplish the goal.

ü Realistic: goals should be things you are willing and able to work toward — things you believe can be accomplished and that you actually want to accomplish.

ü Timely: goals should be grounded within a specific time frame

WRITE AN ACTION PLAN:

You have your goals. Now it's time to make an action plan for achieving them.

The action plan lays out the specific steps you’ll take, resources you’ll use, and the support system you’ll build to reach your stretch and SMART goals. If paper isn’t your thing, tools such as phones, computers are available to help you keep track of everything.

Remember: your finished personal development leadership plan represents where you are now and where you hope to go. Revisit your plan often, updating it and tweaking it as needed, so that it reflects where you are on the road to becoming a great leader.

Knowing your actions on earth can be referred to a pregnant woman .When you confirm that your wife is pregnant ,you have to wait until 9 month through facing several challenges but this can keep on increasing your happiness cause of what your about to receive. This is the best example I can show you. How we wait for our ideas, plans to see their achievements. When you try to update this to someone, he will keep his attention to see your successions.

Some things in life are even more precious than we think they are. There are materials that go beyond our wonderment, such as the sea , the mountains and the limitless sky. Then there are the things that shape our lives and our being which are less tangible than nature and its matter ,but are all the more profound and meaningful. Some may be positive and others negative , but ultimately, they all form part of the reality of your existence, and this is what makes them worth cherishing.

Your future is in God’s hands. The idea you’ve got in life ,has got it’s right time to come to pass.

Action is one of the symbols that represents some ones wisdom or how you feel about the outcome. Remember on earth there some people who plays a big role to see that you can survive in life.

You can compare this to and an employee, when you seek for a job, you may find out when you’re in need of each other.

That’s how action works into our lives; Mind’s Eyes Company Vision2025 has a vision statement which says: A vision without action is a daydream.

Wisdom without action is nothing.

Action without vision is a nightmare.

Whenever you meet several things in life mostly that disturbs and challenges you just note that they were made to happen in your life .Something which is worthy priceless is incredibly valuable. It’s so valuable that no one would ever want to sell it or be able to buy it. Since a price is what it costs to buy something, priceless things cannot be bought because they are too valuable. More often, priceless things are things without a monetary value-like friendship, love, honor etc.

God loved us and he wanted us to love one another .But many of us have suffered through this state .To marry someone you have to undergo several steps, no money, no marriage .The most relationships which are happening now days are like iPhone ,the more they create new model, the price it occurs. When you consider this towards your life, how much amount does it cost to buy a true love?

4. SERIOUS LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS (AND HOW TO FIX IT)

Everyone knows that long distance relationships are hard work, but what does that mean, exactly? What are the most serious long distance relationship problems out there? Can they be fixed, or are most long distance relationships ultimately doomed?

Don’t despair! Long distance relationships can totally work. They can even prove to be good for you, for a season.

However, long distance relationships are tricky to navigate well. And there are some particular long distance relationship problems that don’t plague same-city relationships to the same extent.

Let’s look at some of those now. What are the typical long distance relationship problems, and how should you deal with them?

Long distance relationship problems #1: Getting stuck in a rut

Do you ever struggle to find things to talk about with your long distance love? Have you ever felt heartsick with longing to be with your partner, but feel like you just have the same-old tired conversation over and over again when you get on the phone?

This is one of the most common long distance relationship problems. These sorts of “dry periods” are normal in long distance relationships, but that doesn’t make them any less depressing and frustrating.

What’s the fix?

Put your head together and plan some long distance dates (check out this article for ideas). And get a book of discussion questions for couples that will spark hours of fun and fascinating talk time.

2. STALLING IN LIFE

Do you find yourself moping around all the time–thinking about how much you’re missing your partner–while you wait until your next Skype call ,Imo call, messenger call, what Sapp call or visit?

Do you feel as if the rest of your life is on hold until you can be together?

Does it seem like too much effort to go out with friends or do something by yourself?

When you’re in a long distance relationship, it’s alarmingly easy to allow important things in life—family, friendships, hobbies, exercise—to stall. But this will only make you more depressed in the short term, and hurt you in the long run.

What’s the fix?

Do not spend every spare minute talking to your partner (or daydreaming about said partner). Build a life where you are—a life full of friends and fun.

Do things that make you fitter, smarter, and happier. Do things that interest you. Do these things alone, if need be. Remember, investing in yourself is another way of investing in your most important relationship. Start now.

3. NEGLECTING OTHER IMPORTANT RELATIONSHIPS

Are you spending all your spare time on your phone or computer? If you focus all your free time and energy on your long distance love, your relationships with those close to you will suffer. In a nutshell: this is bad news.

You will be happier and healthier if you have a strong network of friends beyond your partner. To do that, you need to spend time connecting with them.

What’s the fix?

Check in with yourself by answering these questions.

1. When’s the last time you went out to dinner with friends?

2. Had people over?

3. Had a quality catch-up with someone other than your long distance partner?

Who do you owe a phone call or email to? Make it a priority to properly connect with at least three people a week in addition to your partner.

4. GROWING APART

When your love moves far away and some aspects of your relationship pause or slow down, the rest of life continues. You don’t stop learning and growing and changing just because the person you love isn’t there every day. Neither do them. You are both accumulating experiences. Some of these experiences will change you.

When you’re in a long distance relationship it can be harder to identify ways in which your partner is changing, and track with them through that process.

The reverse is also true.

No matter how much you love each other; there is a real chance that a slow drift during your time apart will cause you to grow away from each other in ways that frequent flier miles cannot fix.

What’s the fix?

This is one of the hardest long distance relationship problems to fix. Talk about this risk with your partner. Discuss what you should do if one or both of you starts to feel that you’re drifting apart in important ways. And here are some things that will help prevent that from happening:

•Both agreeing that you want the distance to be temporary, and having a close-the-gap goal in mind.

•Regular visits in both directions

•Maintain good, regular communication and find a way to continue to learn new things and grow closer together even while you’re far apart. Check out our Great Dates Bundle below to find our best resources for helping you stay truly connected while you’re far apart.

5. GETTING TOO TIRED OR LAZY TO TALK WELL

Couples in long distance relationships often speak about how the distance has actually helped them learn to communicate well, and at a very deep level. However, the opposite can also be true. Distance can also enable poor communication patterns to become established.

For starters, especially when one or both of you is busy, it can become easy not to invest in connecting deeply with your partner. In-depth conversations can become fewer and farther in between. It can become habitual to mostly talk about how your day was, or keep the conversation fairly superficial and brief.

What’s the fix?

Set aside some “Skype date” time at least once a week that’s dedicated to more than talking about how your day was. If you’re feeling very busy or tired, it may also be helpful to dial back the talk time for a while. Try talking only a couple of times a week for a while so that you can recharge. Then, when you do talk, focus. Make it count.

6. JEALOUSY

Feeling a little jealous now and again is not unusual in a relationship, particularly when you are separated from your loved one. A little jealousy can even spark fresh attraction and a new appreciation for your partner.

However, while a single candle can illuminate a room, a blaze can burn it to the ground.

Uncontrolled jealousy can lead to a destructive combination of suspicion, possessiveness, insecurity, anger, and shame. If you’re feeling jealous, it’s a good idea to figure out how to control your jealousy before it starts to control you.

What’s the fix?

Controlling jealousy is not easy, but it can be done. Take a look at this article for more on the nuts and bolts of how to get a handle on overcoming jealousy: 6 Smart Ways To Stop Feeling Jealous In Your Long Distance Relationship.

7. JUMPING IN THE DEEP END

Growing apart is a particular pitfall for couples that were established before they started doing long distance. Couples who (like I did) start their relationship across distance face almost the opposite problem—the temptation to become too emotionally intimate, too quickly.

In some ways, getting to know someone via email and phone calls can help your relationship. The distance can force you to talk about all sorts of things you might not have discussed if doing other things (or, um, each other) was a realistic option. When there’s nothing to build your relationship on but words, you can get to know someone’s heart and mind at a very deep level, quite quickly.

On the other hand, falling in love long distance is a risky business. When you start dating someone you’ve never met in person, it’s very easy to assume that they possess all sorts of charming qualities. It’s easy to believe that they are “perfect” for you. It’s way too easy to move too fast in your head and your heart, and to make serious commitments before you’ve ever met.

What’s the fix?

Remember that the rules of long distance relationships should be the same as those posted at public pools: Walk, do not run. And no diving in headfirst.

Take your time getting to know each other. Don’t let your head and heart run away with you. Approaching your new relationship in a measured manner may yield benefits for years to come.

If you’re in the first 6-12 months of your long distance relationship, check out this special EARLY DAYS bundle. It contains all our best long distance dates resources PLUS a special guide written for couples who meet at a distance–From Stranger To Lover: 16 Strategies For Building A Great Long Distance Relationship.

8. MISCOMMUNICATIONS

Miscommunications and misunderstandings happen frequently in relationships. They happen when you share the same house with someone. They happen even more frequently when you’re miles apart and sharing life via emails or a phone line.

During the early stages of my correspondence with my husband, three consecutive messages of mine ended up in his inbox. Luckily for me, my husband is not easily offended or hurt (or, for that matter, deterred). If he had shut down and stopped writing to me because he assumed that I’d stopped writing to him, we may never have figured out what had happened.

Another time, my husband and I were discussing something that I was very worried about. I explained my fears and he said, “That’s a fair concern.”

What I interpreted that to mean was, “Yeah, you should be worried about that.”

However, after further discussion it turned out that what he had actually meant to communicate was, “I understand why you might be worried about that, but it’s not going to happen.”

If I hadn’t stayed calm enough to tell him that his first reply had only made me more worried and unsettled, then he would not have had an opportunity to clarify what he meant and I would have continued to feel anxious.

When you’re in a long distance relationship it is much harder to access nonverbal cues like gestures, body language, facial expressions, eye contact, and even voice tone. This makes effective communication harder.

What’s the fix?

Remember this! When you feel confused or hurt, remember that you may have misunderstood what your partner said or meant!

Ask questions to clarify, and really try to respond thoughtfully rather than just react. Respond, don’t react is a great mantra to remember whenever you find yourself confused, upset, or angry.

Beyond any specific incident, learn the natural similarities and differences in your communication styles, and how each of you tends to react to frustration, disappointment, or conflict.

9. STONEWALLING

People sometimes text us about their long distance relationship and say something like this: “My boyfriend hasn’t answered my calls or texts for three days now. I don’t know what I did wrong. What should I do?”

That, my friends, is stonewalling. It is using silence as a weapon or an escape. It is controlling the situation by simply refusing to engage. Distance makes this particularly easy to do, and it can drive your long distance partner crazy with frustration, second-guessing, and self-doubt.

What’s the fix?

If you catch yourself stonewalling, ask yourself why. Are you trying to punish or hurt the other person? Or are you mostly taking what looks like the easy way out by avoiding complicated emotions or discussions?

Whatever the answer is, stop it. It’s not a fair or respectful way to treat someone you claim to love. If you need some time to yourself, at least be front up and explain what’s going on for you before you go silent. Don’t just disappear.

If you are on the receiving end of stonewalling, don’t let it slide. When your partner does get back in touch, tell them how hurt and frustrated it made you feel to get the silent treatment. Tell them how you wish they had dealt with the situation instead of disengaging.

10. BECOMING POSSESSIVE

Another issue that often pops up in my inbox goes something like this: “My long distance girlfriend/boyfriend wants to talk all the time. They freak out when I don’t answer a text within five minutes, and they want to know where I am and who I’m with every minute of the day. I’m starting to feel smothered but I don’t know how to tell them to back off.”

If stonewalling is controlling someone by holding them at a distance, becoming possessive is trying to control someone by grasping at them too tightly. Distance can make it harder to trust and easier for jealousy and insecurity to run rampant. This combination often fuels possessive and controlling behavior.

What’s the fix?

If you are feeling and acting possessive, try to figure out why. This is a complicated issue, and that might not be easy to do. You can, however, act less controlling even before you sort out all your feelings.

Take a hard look at what you are asking for from your partner in terms of contact, accessibility, and updates. Are your expectations reasonable? If not, decide what is reasonable (preferably together) and then stick to that.

If your partner is smothering you, tell them. Don’t try to make them back off by disengaging or stonewalling. That will only make them more anxious and demanding. Explain how their behavior is making you feel, and how you’d prefer to interact.

11. CHEATING

Do you want the good news? Here it is: Several research studies have concluded that cheating does not occur more often in long distance relationships.

Now, here’s the bad news: Cheating is not uncommon in relationships (whether same-city or long distance). Lying and cheating happen in relationships, and distance makes deceit easier to hide, for longer.

What’s the fix?

I absolutely refuse to end this article on such a low note, so let me take a minute before signing off to say this…

Every relationship has challenges–whether long distance or not. And long distance relationships can be totally worth it. Here are just a couple of the amazing benefits that can come from being in a long distance relationship:

1. All that talking means you get to know each other very well

2. You are less likely to confuse lust with love

3. You get to road-test your trust

4. You can learn to communicate and resolve conflict well

5. You really appreciate the time you do spend together.

So take heart. If you’re in the middle of a rough patch right now that doesn’t necessarily mean you’re in the wrong relationship. I’m cheering you on and wishing you all the best as you try to work out what’s going on in your relationship, and grow closer and stronger even across the miles.

Though we face all those circumstances but we always have hope have hope to receive 800,000shs -1500,000shs at the end of the month .Someone who has got a family has hope to be develop. Sometimes we reach at the extent of forgetting that the people whom we trust most are the one leading us into failure. This happens when you think of developing yourself ,it’s the same time their developing themselves too. That’s how they end up satisfying their needs first before yours, eventually using you.

The only way you can escape out of this ,is to step up a clear foundation ,where you will invest your money .First ,write your vision plan, Know how much money you want to fulfill your goal ,find out who’s going to stand with you in all means. I assure you, this act will help many to achieve.

5. JOBS DONE IN OUR DAILY LIVES FOR BOTH YOUTH AND OLD

When you make some research about these jobs done in our daily lives ,you discover that every job can support you ,according to the needs you have .This depends to the job you’re doing by that time and how you earn at that moment.

Many can say that the income they receive isn’t enough to satisfy their own needs, which I don’t agree with. And I call it ignorance. Anything is enough as longer as you have a goal or a vision.

THESE JOBS INCLUDE;

Taxi driver, Restaurant, Motor cycle Rider, Tailoring, Retail Shop, Saloon, House Maid, Cleaner, Engineer , Mechanic , Butcher shop, Construction jobs ,Company jobs etc.

According the today’s generation, things have changed; they no longer consider your academics other than experience.

Selected jobs and how to deal with them;

COMPANY JOBS

Some of the changes we’ve got in day today’s life, are the companies which are mealy created to simplify someone’s needs. Through providing jobs and may find out when their salary payment is under 200,000shs-1,500,000shs. Really this is a lot of money to a beginner who’s trying to develop his life.

These are some of rules you must consider to fulfill your goals .Many people have benefited from them, according to the investigations we’ve carried out. I.e. BILL GATES and HENRY FORD.

Henry Ford discovered that to achieve everything well is to make the best quality of goods at the lowest cost possible and paying the highest wages possible.

Bill Gates also discovered four things in life ,he says when you tend to read any book especially to book readers ,you have to make notes in the margins .You have to finish what you started .Print or digital .Read what makes you comfortable .Block out an hour. At least an hour at a time for serious reading or things.

Success or winning is about discipline, not just achieving goal .It’s the road you take to get there .From start to finish there will be more routes to choose from left or right, which will lead you to the inevitable outcome or failure .The choices you make a long that route to the degree of success or failure of that goal. This is particularly important to the psychology of how much work or discipline you’re committed to put into your goal and how hard you’re will to push yourself. This is the toughest part of success. The discipline you need to have is to have the correct attitude will, not only dictate success or failure. This is and why most people quit.

Discipline creates self-respect to the people you meet within and they play a big role 0f letting you discover more and how they have benefited in that job. The ideas you get from other people can help you to go from one level.

It will add more opportunities towards your life .As longer as you follow your goals, no matter what you go through, it will remind you about your goal that will keep you on that job.

-You have to be focused.

-Be creative or destiny changer in that company, this will lead you to another level either in promotion or salary increments.

-Abstaining from gossips and rumors especially in agreements .Though you cook together, study together, and work together but you’ve got different destinations .So try to resist any obstructions in your life .Be with a burning desire of creating your own job, because a born child learns from the mother.

-Focusing on your employer’s income and output will lead you into failure.

-Abstain from opposite sex especially when you’re married.

Those ones, who wish to go to outside countries, don’t think of working any work apart from a driver, a cleaner, security guard and housemaid. That’s the main occupations found there and I can’t a sure you that there will be a change in future .Don’t allow any body to convince you.

Leaving your country to another country is a level of being a servant of your achievements . I understand where we’ve come from and where we are now .Someone to call you a servant means disrespecting but I don’t agree with it .If you’re a servant, you serve someone else. If you think your hard work gets no respect ,you might feel like a servant .But people who work for government like to be called servants ,’’ because they serve the good of public and not themselves. What about you? Remember you are called according to your own calling and it means you deserve it. This will create an impact and strength into your life.

This refers to people in love, when someone calls you my wife or husband; it’s a sign of love on both parties. And when you focus on it, it creates two things in your life. To do your best and leave the previous name to the present one. From being an employee to an employer.

That’s how God does his things to meet into our lives .The truth is getting a job in outside countries takes life, especially the changes that occurs to mature people to the extent of being far from their beloved ones .i. e relatives ,wife ,husband. This is a very big risk in life. To the extent of developing some problems in your relationship.

MOTOR CYCLING RIDER

These are types of jobs which are valuable in all countries .According to the jobs we’ve considered this is one of them.

I won’t talk about their disadvantages though it’s well known that everything on earth has got its own challenges but we are going to look at their advantages mostly.

This is the cheapest means of transport in the world .And it’s the quickest means of transport in Africa. Everyone who’s looking for an achievement must use this type for better serving .But the only way you can benefit from this job is by having your own motor cycle .In other wards earning in this job you must follow these rules.

1. The most important thing you can do to stay safe on a motorcycle is to wear a helmet.

2. You must be well qualified with these requirements that governs in that country you live, i.e. driving permit, driving license ,third party.

3. Be with a permanent working place when it’s near your home village for security purpose and marketing.

4. Your motor cycle should be in a good condition, i.e. the tyros.

5. Customer care, smartness , attitudes matters a lot.

6. Always dress up with leather, cause their strong enough to protect your skin when you slide along the road surface.

7. When you’re riding a motorcycle, you should put on boot shoes and they should be with ankle support and low heel to protect your feet.

8. To stay safe, make sure that you always ride within your skills.

9. If you’re on a motorcycle ,remove all the temptations for distraction. Don’t wear head phones and put your phone where you can’t get to it.

10. Riders , looking left and right are still a good rule to follow. Never assume that a driver sees you. Ride defensively and take responsibilities for staying safe around cars.

MECHANICS

This is a type of job than by men and women to build or repair machinery. And many have benefited in it.

There’s more to being a successful mechanic than being good for nothing. Whether you’re a recent mechanic or graduate have been doing this job.

These are some of the ideas and strategies that can help you to advance in this job.

1. Think like a business person.

2. Think outside your discipline.( Learn the basics of relevant specialist, cause there will be times when design issues will confront you that needs your outside discipline)

3. Be a team player .As a result of communication skills.

4. Follow the rules. To gain in this job, you have to think freely. Learn to live by your employer’s value and codes of conduct or move on.

5. Be part of the innovation pipeline. Always be open to new ideas, even if they come from outside your job.

6. Keep learning. This is a crucial as the tools used to do product design and analysis are constantly changing and improving. Stay ahead of the curve and seek out new assignments and opportunities to learn more technologies.

7. Find a mentor. Finding a good mentor is not always easy .There are plenty of them there ,but you need to find the one that works best for you and your plans .An important step in finding a mentor is reviewing your goals and understanding where you want to go in career. Once you are comfortable with your career plan, then you can go ahead and try to find a mentor that matches up well with your vision. I recommend that find someone that has achieved similar goals, as they will be able to give you specific advice .

8. Be with trustworthy towards your customers.

9. You have to be patient cause who are involved in this job are in old age.

10. You must be well organized to your clients and workmates.

Note;(Things have changed ,new materials have been introduced ,not only the services you deliver are required to make this profession perfect)

RESTAURANT

This is a wonderful business, a great business; a satisfying business .It’s a lucrative business.

Through the future looks bright for the food service industry overall, there are no guarantees in this business .Even the most successful operators will tell you this isn’t a ‘’get rich quick’’ industry. It’s more like a ‘’ work hard and make a living ‘’industry.

A hard reality is that many restaurants fail during their first year, frequently due to lack of planning. But that doesn’t mean your food service business has an extremely complex operation .In fact , the more streamlined you make ,the better your chances for success.

TO BE MORE SUCCESSFUL IN THIS BUSINESS, CONSIDER THIS;

1) A strong person is an essential component of a successful restaurant.

2) In order to have an awesome restaurant, your staff should well be awesome.

3) Food and nonfood contact surfaces should be cleanable, well designed and properly used.

4) It’s very important to train your employees on how to clean and maintain all the equipment’s

5) It’s also very important to invest in equipment that is easily cleanable.

6) Clean and sanitize food contact surfaces.

7) Be friendly to your clients and employers.

8) Spend time with your employees; this will create a moral towards you.

9) Don’t show your input to the customers.

10) Many businesses have failed with this act of borrowing ,so try to stay away from it.

11) Make make sure that you have all the ingredients needed by the customer.

12) But the most important of all is the location.

RETAILER SHOP

This is the quickest business done especially when your creative cause it has no segregation either your educated or non ,either your young or old.

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According to my saying ,you come to think of this generation where we’re in today , that what if I have 1M ,can I be able to start up a shop ,what skills should I consider most….But I have come to tell you that everything can be a starting point of your achievements though some of us we think that it’s not very easy cause of the highest demand of the capital.

An example; You 1M and you start using your subconscious mind and you select one type of thing in your shop .i.e. (soap) how many boxes can you purchase in this amount of money? Am very sure that this will be the starting point of your development. Remember this business has no difference with other types of business. It needs a space saving for almost 6 month without using your profits for proper balancing of your business.

The purpose of any business is to bring in customers ,and it can only be accomplished through marketing .If your cash registers don’t ring ,something is wrong and you had better find out what is wrong fast. Because in today’s competitive retail world getting results is what counts.

Successful retailers aren’t any more talented or intelligent than you’re. They simply have learned to do things in a different way and make money in the process.

HOW TO MAINTAIN A RETAILER SHOP?

1) Focus on your business; know the capital you need to start up your business.

2) Be able to follow the rules and regulations that governs the business you’re going to begin.

3) Location; Choosing your location is the most important step in making your dream of owning a retail shop come true.

4) Keep a theme; be committed to the name of your business. This will let the customers knows what to expect when they come to your shop.

5) Stay current and stay true ;Don’t think you know it all when it comes to trends. Keep up with local as well as national trends.

6) Loss prevention; You can always expect theft-count on it and set your prices because of it. The only way to find out how much your losing is to do inventory.

7) Have a specific place to keep customers.

8) Customer service is a key to any successful business ,so you must treat them as gold.

9) Know your industry; You can gain the greatest competitive edge if you have an intimate knowledge of your business. To thrive and prosper ,you must be committed to learn and have the desire and energy to accomplish your goals.

10) Understand your customers; Make it your business to give your customers what they want, and they will do business and buy from you .The products and services you provide should reflect your customers’ needs and wants.

11) Ask for help when you need it ;Remember getting results is what counts. Don’t be too proud to ask for help, we all need help sometimes. It’s good to recognize that what you don’t know can end up greatly reduce the chance of achieving your business goals.

CONSTRUCTION JOBS

What Skills / Qualifications are required in this job?

Before any of the actual building work can take place ,the plans must be discussed with architect , surveyors and buyers.

1. You must have an obligation to communicate with many different people .Therefore, people skills are essential.

2. You must be able to motivate your team to ensure that the project is completed to a high quality.

3. You must be creative in problem –solving to overcome any obstacles they may face in the process.

4. Proper maintenance makes tools last longer and reduce repair and replacement. Maintaining tools also makes sure they’re safe to use.

5. Having excellent organizational and planning skills are also important so that the project can be both effectively and efficiently plan to run according to schedule.

6. An awareness of health and safety is fundamental to maintain a safe work environment.

BUTCHER SHOP

Opening a butcher shop, with the right planning and attention to details, can put a nostalgic icon back on your community and fulfill consumers cravings for a responsible and sustainable source of proteins.

THINGS YOU SHOULD CONSIDER BEFORE YOU START UP THIS BUSINESS.

1 .Location;

Location is a critical consideration when you plan any business, but that rule is especially true. Most people are not in the habit of seeking out a butcher shop when they ‘re planning next week ‘s dinner menus , so you’ll have to make yourself known to the community.

2. MAKING YOU’RE BUTCHER SHOP A LEGAL ENTITY;

Once you have the perfect location, all the equipment and solid plan, the last step before opening your doors ,is to do a paperwork. You should consider licenses and butcher permits before you open up your business, and few will be a specific to your status as a food service establishes.

3. BUTCHER EQUIPMENT’S;

The art of processing meat requires a unique set of utensils, and the butchers most important tools .Implement safe cutting practices with cut-resistant gloves and protect your knives and surfaces with the right set of cutting.

Butcher blocks and work tables give you stable surfaces to prepare and package your offerings.

Film wrappers make quick work of packaging your fresh cuts for sale.

Textiles ,including chef clothes ,gloves ,apron and smocks will keep you and your staff clean and looking sharp.

Keeping your facilities sanitary and tidy comes down to stocking the right janitorial supplies from soap dispensers to closet organizers.

4. MARKET;

Some demographic research is in order at this point, too. Not all markets and communities will support a butcher shop. It’s unlikely you’ll be able to compete on price with national chains ,so you need to make sure that there are people in the community with the interest and the money to spend on the value that you add in the form of hometown service, variety ,as a superior product, and expertise.

SALON

It’s all about the experience now, people have less time for themselves and visiting a salon should provide them with an atmosphere where they can relax and enjoy themselves.

Salons can be hotbeds of interpersonal relationships. When you have a lot of attractive, creative people with similar interests in one place.

1. Always keeps your levels up so not to run out of things.

2. Keep your equipment and salon maintained. If things are broken, fix it or replace it. You have to spend money to make money.

3. Be a client in your salon and look around at your surroundings to see how you feel. I mean think about the things you would like if you were a client.

4. Listen to all negative feedback and use this information to your benefit.

5. Keep up to date with all the latest trends and fashion and attend courses where possible.

6. Always greet your clients on arrival as a sign of care and what you’re about to provide towards them.

7. Remember your clients are what makes your business ,so don’t take them for granted.

8. 8.Have regular staff meetings to ensure you’re on top of any issues.

9. 9. Dress accordingly, and that includes your hair! Your hair should inspire and motivate your clients to try new and exciting things with theirs.

10. SCHEDULE;

In order to best serve clients ,stylists and therapists need to maintain consistent schedules. However, possible it’s important to flexible with a stylist’s schedule.

TAILORING

The idea of starting a tailoring business can be burdensome times , especially to people who are not skilled in the art. But the fact is it is not as difficult as it may seems.

Tailoring business is not only a thriving business at the moment ,it is one business that has been generating profit for a very long time. And this is because, irrespective of circumstances, people will always cloth themselves.

THINGS YOU SHOULD CONSIDER WHILE STARTING THIS BUSINESS.

1. Capital;

To start a business one would need capital.

Try to find out the cost of everything that has to do with the business .Ensure to carry out a feasibility study. Know your income and output as you seek advice from entrepreneurs that are doing well in the business. This will help you to promote your business and easy balancing.

2. Location;

Like most business ,the importance of having a good location cannot be overemphasized .When thinking of getting a shop, it is a good idea to build or rent a place in a large shopping Centre.

3 .Facilitate your shop;

Once you’ve secured your shop in a very good location, the next step is to facilitate the shop with the necessary tailoring equipment that will keep the business running. All these include sewing machines, weaving machines, over lock machines, embroidery machines, a bulk of threads and needle etc.

4. Select a niche;

The most successful tailors are the ones that are specialized in a particular area. There are so many areas of sewing that one could pursue, and if you don’t select one or two things to specialized in , you can be worn thin and not properly market your business. Whether you want to do crafts , children’s or adult’s clothing, or sewing machine repair, there is a market of your business but narrowing down your focus is a key.

HOUSE MAID/ CLEANER

The essentials of good housekeeping are generally reduced to the principle of ‘’a proper place for everything and everything in its proper place’’.

1. Get mentally organized and make a plan .Choose your four house cleaning routines and do them daily.

2. Keep your laundry organized to keep the house tidy.

3. Make every ones bed daily .It’s the start to getting organized and making routines that help with every day simplicity.

4. Do a quick kitchen night time clean after dinner.

5. Sweep the floor and wipe the surfaces and clean the sinks too.

6. Be with a well-organized schedule

SALES JOB

A key to successfully sharing and selling a product ,service or idea, is to ask questions and then listen ,quietly and carefully to the answers. Many of us try too hard to convince people to buy instead of discovering what our future customer or client really wants ,needs and desires. Sincerely focus on your customer and how your products can best serve their hopes, dreams and goals. ‘’You can have everything in life that you want if you just give enough other people they want also’’.

1. One idea is to always be striving ,try to make your presentations shorter, simpler and more effective.

2. You must build intimacy & trust to that customer shares the details of their business with you. Making commitments and following through is sure fire way a potential customer can learn to trust you.

3. Strengthen your skills in this job by reading and writing.

4. Listen to customer requirements and present appropriately to make sale.

5. Maintain and develop relationships with exciting customers in person and via telephone calls and emails.

TAXI DRIVER

This is a simplest job done by everyone either educated or non-educated. It has no segregations in tribalism. So when you handle it with care ,you may end up hanging people’s lives .Because it’s a daily income.

1. Most challenges found in this job is too much taxes, road taxes, KCCA is paid every month, PSV ,3^rd party ‘’is a government taxes’’ .You should be aware with them.

2. You should be with driving license, driving permit, specific income, to prevent more wastage.

3. This job has no respect, but silence is the best way that will enables you to succeed .

4. Never let down the principle of trustworthy in everything you tend to do.

5. Make sure that the things you start with are new, i.e. The tyros of your vehicle.

6. Don’t share your taxi with someone whom you don’t trust.

7. Stay away from women for better saving.

8. Be with a specific location.

9. Try to understand the nature and personalities of people.

AGRICULTURE AND FARMING

How to Be a Farmer

The dream of living off the land, tilling the ground and growing your own crops, and connecting with nature is one that many people share. Particularly if you didn’t grow up on a farm, it can be easy to romanticize the farmer’s life, imagining it as a meditative, relaxed life far away from the frantic pace of “city life.” But this isn’t a genuine picture of farming, and not everyone is cut out to be a farmer. Some farmers would argue there’s a big difference between someone who knows how to farm and a farmer, so consider your personality, your goals, and your strengths when deciding whether or not to be a farmer.

Part 1

Examining Your Personality

1. Consider why you want to be a farmer.

Farming is hard work, and requires a lot of knowledge and upfront investment. You have to be part entrepreneur, part small business owner, part scientist, and part manual laborer. Even if you do everything right, farming is unpredictable: natural disasters such as floods or drought can wipe out crops, pests can decimate your harvest, and the price of crops can vary dramatically.

• Farming often requires a far greater time investment even than a full-time 9-to-5 job. Unless you want only a very tiny farm or large garden as a hobby, farming will have to become your life.

2. Think about your priorities.

Ask yourself some questions about what you want your life to look like. What goals do you have for yourself? Are they concrete, such as a certain annual income or time with your family? Are they more abstract, such as a certain quality of life or a feeling of satisfaction?

• Consider what you are willing to sacrifice and what you are not. What do you need to achieve your goals, and what are you willing to do to achieve them?

3. Decide whether your personality

Is a good fit for farming? Farming can offer you a life of independence and connection to your land, but it is also a huge responsibility. Knowing how you’re likely to respond to situations that may arise will help you decide if farming is right for you.

• Are you comfortable being solely responsible for a large operation? The success of many small farms hinges entirely on their owner(s). As a farmer, you’re in charge of all the day-to-day operations as well as long-term planning. You will have to make many decisions where the fate of your farm may hang in the balance.

• Are you able to accept uncertainty and variability in your life? A farmer’s life is full of uncertainty, and the possibility for failure is high. Even good years may see you operating at a break-even level and no more. Due to the hardships of farming, the number of farmers in America is expected to decline by 19% between 2012 and 2022.[1]

• Are you a creative problem-solver? Farming throws many problems your way, and having the imagination to think of creative solutions will be vital to your farm.

• Are you a patient person? Farming has a very steep learning curve and you will undoubtedly make many mistakes when you first start out. It can also take a long time, even years, until your farm is fully successful, so you will need to be able to work toward long-term prospects.

4, List your strengths and weaknesses. Be honest with yourself here. What are you good at? What are your weak spots?

• Are you good at accounting and bookkeeping? In order to keep your farm operating, you must be able to calculate risk margins, record sales and purchases, and track profits.

• Are you capable of heavy labor? Farming can be backbreaking manual labor, even with modern equipment like tractors. You will need to be fairly fit and in good health to be a farmer.

• Do you have enough money to invest in farming? Starting a small farm requires a lot of initial capital. You have to buy materials and equipment. You also have to buy land, or face unfavorable land lease relationships where you have little control over your farm.[2]

• Are you a fast learner? You will need to absorb a lot of information and keep up to date on many trends and techniques if you’re to succeed in farming.

• Do you have significant health problems? Health insurance can be quite expensive if you’re self-employed. If you have chronic health problems or require many expensive prescription medicines, farming may not offer you enough reliability in your health care.

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5, Decide whether the economic hardships of small farming are acceptable to you.Small-scale farming is a notoriously poor-earning business, and 91% of all small farms require outside income (either through other employment or through government and foundation grants) to stay afloat. If things like saving for retirement or sending your children to college are goals of yours, farming may not be for you. [3]

• The median farm income was -$1,453 in 2012. That means the average small farm in America lost almost $1500 a year.

Part 2

Learning Whether Farming Is For You

1, Visit farming resource websites. In order to make the decision about whether to become a farmer, you’ll want to collect as much information as possible about what the process requires,

• Farm Aid is a nonprofit organization that provides information and resources about farming. They have a resource center devoted entirely to beginning farms.

• The National Young Farmers Coalition provides information and resources geared specifically for beginning farmers.[4]

• The Beginning Farmer and Rancher Development Program, a branch of the USDA, has a project called Start2Farm that offers a vast amount of information on beginning a farm, finding funding, and locating services.

2, Reach out to your local cooperative extension. If you live near a college or university, you probably have access to their cooperative extension office. These offices are there to serve the needs of local small business owners and agricultural producers. They provide many resources on farming and agriculture, and often offer classes and seminars too.

3, Talk to farmers. Nothing beats talking with real-life farmers about their lives and experiences. If you have a local farmers’ market, get to know the farmers who sell their goods there. Ask them about what they love about their work, and what they hate.

• If you have farms in your area, call or email them to see if you can meet with them. While farmers are usually very busy, they are also usually very passionate about their work, and they will probably be happy to talk to you.

• You can also visit online message boards to ask questions and learn from farmers. It’s definitely preferable to talk with people in person, though.

4, Volunteer on a farm. If you are serious about becoming a farmer, volunteering on a farm is a good way to learn if the lifestyle is really for you before you have to make a major financial investment. Organizations such as World Wide Opportunities on Organic Farms link organic farms with volunteer opportunities (for a small fee), and many local farms also offer volunteer programs.[5]

5, Look around for farms that ask for “interns” or “apprentices” in your area. Many of these programs will offer you room and board as well as a small stipend in exchange for your labor.[6] Experts recommend that you spend three to four years “apprenticing” if you’re really serious about starting your own farm.[7]

Part 3

Beginning As a Farmer

1, Determine what crops to grow. It can be overwhelming to think about what types of crops your farm will grow, but there are ways to narrow this decision down. The majority of agricultural crops grown in the United States are grain crops, such as corn, soybeans, and wheat.[8] If you live in an area with a demand for it, organic vegetable production can also be a good choice, as it is one of the fastest-growing sectors in American farming.[9]There are many resources that can help you decide what crops are best for you and your area.

• The New England Small Farm Institute provides a wealth of links to help you conduct research on crop planning.[10]

• The National Agriculture Library is also a good place to start for information on regional crops.[11]

• Contacting your state or province department of agriculture will help you determine specific information for crop planning in your area.

2, Find land to farm. Most beginning farmers cannot afford to buy their own land, at least at first. In addition, 80% of America's farmland is controlled by owners who are not farmers. Most expert sources recommend that beginning farmers "start soft," by managing someone else's farm, leasing farmland (from private owners or from land trusts), or take over an existing (and hopefully, profitable) farm from someone else.

• Word of mouth is still one of the most powerful sources for information about finding farmland. Cultivate your network of farming connections and do your research.

• Sources such as the "Farm Link Program Directory"[12], "Farm On"[13], and the "Farmland Information Center"[14] may help you find farms to take over or farms that need managers.

3, be honest about your potential locations. You may need to relocate in order to find affordable, plentiful farmland, but keep in mind that such areas are also highly desirable to others and thus nearly prohibitively expensive. Look for farmland in an area that is populated enough to buy your products, but not so heavily populated that farmland is out of your price range.

4, Limit your initial development. One way to control your initial startup costs and limit your risk of failure is to start small and develop your farm gradually. You don't need a bunch of fancy, expensive equipment to begin farming. Your principal focuses should be your soil and your product.

5, Grow what you know. While experimentation is great, when you're first starting out, start by cultivating what you have experience with. If you apprenticed on a berry farm, grow berries. If you trained on a pig farm, raise pigs. You can diversify later if you choose, but beginning with some expertise and experience in your area will be invaluable as you get your farm up and running.

6, Promote your products. Your network of personal and community connections will be your single biggest way to promote your farm products, but fortunately, you can also take advantage of other marketing options too. Place coupons in the local paper, create "pick-your-own" events, even cold-call restaurants in your area to see if they want to purchase your locally grown goods.

7, Join a CSA (Community Supported Agriculture) society. These are usually organizations that connect people living in the area who want to buy locally grown produce with the farmers who produce it. Most often, people will buy "boxes" at a subscription rate, and you will deliver whatever fresh produce you're growing at that time. In addition to providing sales, this can be an excellent way to spread word-of-mouth about your farm.[21]

8,Consider farm tourism. While this route may seem like "selling out" to you, many city dwellers are eager to learn more about farming and get their hands (just a little bit) dirty. Consider promoting farm tours and gardening classes. You could even advertise as a wedding venue. Maximizing every revenue stream you can think of will help you stay afloat even if your crops don't do well one year.

• Wedding budgets are usually great news for farmers, as plenty of brides and wedding planners are willing to spend big to have their wedding in a picturesque rural locale. Prices for simply using your farm as the wedding venue can run into the thousands of dollars, which could be a significant chunk of your annual income.

Part 4

Thinking Like a Farmer

1, Continue to learn every day. Knowing how to grow crops and raise livestock is only the first step. Even once you’ve learned the basics, continue to do research on new techniques and opportunities, and always try to learn from other farmers. Don’t get complacent about your farming.

• Rely on those who have the experience and real-life knowledge of farming and raising/growing livestock/crops to get the information and knowledge you need.

• You will also have to learn from your mistakes and learn from the mistakes of others. There's a saying that is common among airplane and fighter pilots that is easily applicable to farmers: "Learn from the mistakes of others, because you won't live long enough to make them all yourself."

2, Engage with your community. A strong connection to your community is crucial for running a successful farm. Developing a good relationship with your community means you’re also developing a support network.

• You can't market your product or sell your livestock or crops if you can't or don't know how to communicate, network or talk with other people in your community. Make friends, acquaintances and business partners with the various people involved in agriculture, be they farm equipment mechanics, local butchers, local sale barn personnel, potential buyers, other local farmers, or various other tradesmen and -women.

3, Appreciate what you have. Most farmers are not rich, and they don’t have lots of money to spend on various "toys" and luxuries that others may be accustomed to. However, farming offers you the opportunity to think creatively and resourcefully, to be your own boss, and to feel proud when you’ve put in a long, hard day of work. Many farmers say that they love the sense of independence they get from farming and couldn’t imagine another life.[22]

• Don’t believe that you have to have all the latest equipment to be a farmer. Thinking they have to spend money on a bunch of unnecessary stuff is an often mistake for brand-new farmers. Ask established, experienced farmers for advice.

• Don't be afraid, though, to expand your assets to improve your farm. There's a fine line between working with what you have and having to spend money to get what you need (not simply want) for your farm.

4, Expect to be a jack or jenny of all trades. You will find you have to be a welder, a mechanic, an electrician, a chemist, a plumber, a construction builder, an accountant, a veterinarian, an entrepreneur, a marketer, and even an economist. Make sure you know which hats to put on given the situations that require them.

• If you don’t have all of these skills, find someone who will teach you! This is where your community engagement will come in handy.

5, Respect your farm. As a farmer, your success depends not only on your own hard work and skills but also on the land, the animals, and the forces of nature that you interact with. Love your farm for what it is, and don’t try to turn it into something it isn’t. Cultivating a deep appreciation for the whole ecosystem of your farm will give you a far deeper understanding of it.

• Where you live will dictate what kind of severe weather to expect and whether or not you can raise certain livestock with success or failure.

• Respect your farm’s equipment too. Farm machines aren’t toys, and you shouldn’t treat them as such. Understand that they are powerful machines that could easily maim or kill if not handled correctly, and follow safety procedures at all times.

6, Love and be proud of what you do. As a farmer you are growing food for other people who cannot grow food for themselves due to time, living spaces, or life choices. You, unlike many other people, get to experience rural life at its fullest: the highs, the lows, and the hard work that goes along with it. In Uganda is more than 96% of the population are actively farming. . As such, be proud of the fact that you are a part of the minority that get to provide food for others

SPORTS ACTIVITIES AND GAMES

Fun sports games are one fun thing that nearly all kids can agree upon. Whether its team sports activities, sports games for kids, kids exercises, or even just talking about sports, there is something for everyone.

UNICEF Kid Power is all about being kids being active, and a big part of being active can include kid’s sports games and activities. Whether it’s a parent, coach, teammate, or a kid, take a look at our list of sports resources below!

Table of Content:

· Best Kids’ Sports Games

· Indoor Sports Games

.Outdoor Sports Game

Best Sports Games & Activities:

UNICEF Kid Power understands the importance of kid’s team building when it comes to sports. And when sports activities are drawn up for kids, it usually includes fun kids’ sports games and other various kids’ sports activities for all ages including primary school.

Basketball Games:

Every kid dreams of making it to the NBA, and basketball is the most popular kids sport in some parts of the world.

Rugby Games:

It’s a rough sport but plenty of tough primary school kids want to play it!

Football Games:

The NFL is the most watched sport in America, so it’s no wonder why kids love this sport.

Tennis Games: Tennis is a great solo and team sport if you play with a partner. Your kid will be in Wimbledon in no time!

Running Games:

Running is a great sport for kids to stay in shape. Check out sports games list to make running fun for your kid!

Soccer Games:

There is a reason why soccer is the most watched sport in the world, including kids.

Track and Field Games:

This is an Olympics-style sport that many kids start to pick up on later in elementary school.

Gymnastics Games:

If your kid spends time in the gym, then this is for them!

Volleyball Games:

Playing volleyball is a fun kids sport activity in the gym, your backyard, or even on the beach!

Golf Games:

Though golf is more of an adult sport, everyone needs to start somewhere. Our post will help your kid make golf their favorite sport!

Ping Pong/Table Tennis Games:

Ping pong is a classic sports activity that kids love – in between classes, summer camp, wherever!

Hockey Games:

The NHL is waiting for your kids to take up hockey, so that they can become big NHL stars!

Swimming Games:

Swimming in the pool or the ocean is a fun sports activity – your kid can learn drills and have fun too with our list of swimming recommendations.

Cricket Games:

Cricket is more of a UK and Australian kids sport, but it is becoming a popular American kids’ sport as well.

Badminton Games:

You’ll need a net for this, but kids love Badminton, as it seems to be one of the most popular summer camp sports out there!

Indoor Bowling Games:

Bowling is a recreational activity for many families, and what could be better than a Sunday with the family going bowling and playing arcades?

Lacrosse Games and Drills:

Lacrosse has recently surged in popularity, so don’t be surprised if your kid comes home from school asking to play this sport with his friends.

Figure Skating & Ice Skating Games:

While ice skating is a fun family activity for Sundays, it can be a very competitive kids’ sports activity.

Skiing & Snowboarding Games:

When it gets cold outside, your kid will get the adventure bug and will want to experience extreme sports games in the snow.

Judo Training Drills:

Judo and karate is a serious sports activity that many kids take up for after school activities.

Karate Games:

Karate can be fun and educational if done correctly – our guide offers 5 great karate games along with safety guidelines.

Wrestling Drills:

Wrestling is another popular after-school sports activity for kids – make sure they learn how to wrestle properly.

Ten Pin Bowling Learning Drilling:

This popular kids sports game can be learned properly so that your kid can be the best ten pin bowler out there!

Kayaking Drills s:

Your kid probably came home from sleep-away camp wanting to go kayaking more! Not to worry, we’ve got you covered.

Surfing Drills:

If you live on the coast, your kid probably wants to go surfing with the waves – make sure they learn proper techniques.

Rowing Activities & Drills:

Rowing is a physical sport activity that your kid can definitely learn with proper drills and instruction.

Cheerleading:

Cheerleading games & tryout exercises for your kid to enjoy!

Rock Climbing Games:

Taking your kid rock climbing can be a lot of fun. Read our guide to learn some great rock climbing games and safety measures as well.

Fishing Games:

Taking your kid fishing can be fun, especially if you have a few fun and educational fishing games prepared that your kid is sure to love!

Sports Activities for Toddlers

Every parent and teacher is trying to think of the right sports activity or game for toddlers, aged 1-3. This is a tricky age period, as a baby who is just 12 months old is not ready for full sports activities, but can definitely be exposed to a small number of athletic activities to get them primed for sports when they get a bit older:

Throwing: Most babies possess the ability to toss a soft foam ball if prompted

Catching: It is important to use a very soft foamy ball for this, since although most toddlers comprehend being able to catch something, they are not yet of age where they can do so successfully

Tumbling: Having a toddler tumble on a soft mat (by following the lead of the sports teacher) can be fun and somewhat instructive

Walking/Running: Depending on the level of your toddler, having them walk or run toward a “finish line” can be a great toddler sports activity

Sports Activities for Pre-Schoolers & Kindergartners

Basketball: Ideally with a hoop that can be lowered to 5 feet, and with a foam ball (even a Nerf hoop in a classroom will suffice for the tots)

Baseball: Obviously it is ideal to start with a foam ball, and make sure there is enough space around the hitter so that they don’t accidentally wack anyone!

Gymnastics: Getting kids into the gym and onto a playmat with structured activities will be a great starting point

Swimming: This should be done with caution and lifeguard on hand (experts say age 5 is a good starting point)

Indoor Sports Games & Activities for Kids

Stuck indoors? No problem. There are plenty of fun sports activities for kids that can be played indoors. Whether it’s too hot or cold out, with rain, snow, or even a brutal heat wave, sometimes indoor sports is the best option for kids. Here are the most fun indoor sports activities and games for kids:

Balloon Football. Obviously you don’t want to play football in your family living room, which is why this safer version of football is the perfect indoor sports activity for kids. This game is easy: simply drop a balloon in the middle of a long rectangle table, and have each team try to blow the football toward the other’s side goal. For a funnier, larger than life version of indoor balloon football, check out this must-see video.

Hula Hoop. While most might think that Hula Hoops are a solo activity, you can totally play hula hoop with others as a fun kids indoor sports activity. The most fun team-based activity using a Hula Hoop is racing: Have two kids spinning Hula Hoops and then try to simultaneously move, whether they run, shimmy, or herky-jerky their way to the finish line, and is then declared winner!

Foam Sports: Foam sports are perfect for indoors, since most foam objects won’t break any windows inside your home! Take your kid to your local department store, and be sure to pick up a foam basketball, foam football, or even Nerf foam guns. Make sure you ensure boundaries in your home when letting your kid play indoors with foam sports toys.

Outdoor Sports Games & Activities for Kids

Many of the outdoor sports activities and games for kids have been covered above in our kids’ sports activity section. However, there are certain sports activities which are great for outdoors.

Additionally, outdoor sports activities for kids offer various benefits, including physical and social. The physical benefits of outdoor kids sports such as soccer, skateboarding, hiking, biking, and football include: building muscle, gaining acute flexibility, improving balance and coordination, losing weight, and general endurance.

The social benefits of outdoor sports are extremely obvious and, well, beneficial. Playing sports outdoors with a bunch of kids together can improve general social development, in that kids will learn to interact with each-other naturally but with sports as the main social anchor of the activity. Additionally, social interaction will improve other facets such as leadership, self esteem, and general teamwork through the construct of the sports games themselves.

Why Kids’ Sports Games & Team Activities Are Important

Now that we’ve presented to you a huge list of kids sports games and activities to make your kid a better athlete, we want to discuss the importance of sports games. Though it might seem like a normal fun activity, (and your kid having fun is important too), there are very important developmental aspects to your kid playing sports games.

There is tons of evidence out there that simply getting kids together for an activity or game is beneficial for their development. By making this activity a sports activity simply makes it more an active and healthy exercise, as it gets kids outdoors, moving around, and interacting with one another.

And it’s not enough to just participate – once your kid becomes talented at the (sports) activity or exercise he is participating in, simply makes their development that much better:

How to Build Confidence in Kids Sports

The most important attribute to instill in kids is to stress the importance of hard work. All of the greatest athletes succeeded because they put in hard work. Talent and opportunity is not enough, and kids need to know this. Kids might find it hard to exert themselves physically, especially if it causes injuries. And of course they should know their limits, which is why parents should be on call and aware of their kids’ sports activities.

However, any kid who wants to be great, has to know that the more effort they put in, the more they work, practice, and train, the more likely they are to be better than their peers and become something truly great. Building confidence in kids when they play sports from a young age can have a great effect on their future performance and confidence as well.

How Do Team Sports Help Kids in School?

Beyond the classroom, it is no surprise that sports, and especially team sports offers a multitude of benefits to kids in their life development. Partaking in sports activities with others increases social interaction, forces kids to work together toward a goal, and creates a sense of competition which each kid can tap into later in life in various situations.

Sure, on the surface, sports sounds like a way out of the classroom, but really, kids sports activities will help propel a kid further in and out of the classroom.

Benefits of Team Sports for Kids

In keeping with the theme of the benefits of sports for kids, it is important to understand that teams provide more than just a fun place to hang out with friends and kick or toss a ball around.

Team sports provides an outlet for kids outside of their classrooms and homes. It provides a way for kids to channel their talents, and exert themselves in ways that they otherwise could not have in a classroom or at home.

Furthermore, the idea of team sports for kids presents opportunities for kids to work together toward a common goal, which is usually to win the game.

But regardless of the outcome of a sports game, the real goal is for a kids sports team to develop camaraderie, respect for one another, and to learn about each other.

These skills developed during team sports activities will undoubtedly help these kids in both school and professionally later in life.

Just like adults, sometimes kids need inspiration to succeed in sports. Whether it is a locker room speech from a coach, a pep talk from a parent, or even members of the team talking and motivating one another – the point is that inspiration can come from anyone

MUSIC ,DANCE AND DRAMA(MDD)

Degree Level

None required, but many have a bachelor's or master's degree

Degree Field

Dance

Experience

Training often starts as early as the age of five in order for dancers to gain enough experience to find professional work

Key Skills

Creativity, teamwork, and persistence; balance and physical stamina; knowledge of dance techniques

Professional dancers display choreographed body movements and might appear in theater productions, TV shows, movies, and dance recitals. Dancers tell stories and display emotions with their bodies through various styles like ballet, hip-hop, and modern dance. They are likely to pursue other dance-related professions after they can no longer perform professionally.

Fierce competition exists among professional dancers for available jobs. Some risk of injury is present with this career, since it is very physically demanding. Work hours are highly irregular and may include days of rehearsal followed by evenings of performance, seven days a week. Travel is often required as a professional dancer, sometimes to exotic destinations. Tours may last for months away from home. Additionally, about 15% of these workers are self-employed, according to the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics (BLS). Dancers must display creativity, teamwork and persistence. Additionally, they need balance, knowledge of dance techniques and physical stamina.

Begin Training

Most dancers start their training before adolescence and audition for full-time work by the age of 18. Even after a dancer finds employment, training must continue throughout the dancer's entire career. Many students attend dance training programs in their teens. Private dance or performing arts schools and colleges can provide the experience needed to join a professional dance company. To gain acceptance into an advanced dance school, students must often must participate in a summer workshop, which can serve as an audition for a full-time dance training academy.

Consider an Undergraduate Degree

Although postsecondary education is not a requirement for a dancing career, undergraduate programs in dance can allow students to explore various dance genres or concentrate on a specific discipline. Performance opportunities are often available to give students practical experience. Curriculum for a bachelor's degree program in dance includes classes in choreography, contemporary dance trends, movement analysis, ballet, jazz, rhythm and dynamics, dance composition and dance history.

There are also Master of Fine Arts programs available in dance that can allow students to study advanced dance theory and perform independent practice in a chosen dance style under the guidance of a faculty mentor. This might benefit those who wish to advance into choreography positions or become dance teachers.

Stay Conditioned and Strong

Dancers typically must stay in top physical condition through regular exercise and training. Dancing is extremely taxing on the body, and dancers might spend eight hours a day or more in class or practicing. According to the BLS, dancers have one of the highest on-the-job injury reports, so it's important to keep the body healthy and strong in order to continue working.

Additionally, dancers face intense competition to earn their next gig, and only the most successful dancers find steady and well-paid work. Dancers who join unions, such as the Kampala music school, Kiwatule Music school, Esom school of music,Africa Institute of music Kampala Uganda and music academy ntinda Kampala, are entitled to collective bargaining services that can ensure a minimum salary. Additionally, members can be informed of local auditions in their area of expertise.

Because dancers cannot dance their entire lives, many pursue another line of work, such as teaching. Other careers are available as dance therapists. These professionals can help students with self-esteem issues. After performing professionally becomes too demanding on the body, a dancer may also continue to work as a dance choreographer or director. Some dancers may need to start a second job while still dancing in order to support them in a competitive job market.

6. THE HONOR OF TODAY’S YOUTH

Every day the sun rises on a new day and many youth wake up and make a decision in their lives but they don’t think either it’s a wrong side of life or good side of their life on which to walk. The day is consumed with activities eitherunproductivenor productive but it’s still counted, that’s where we make mistakes as youth. We are not supposed to count a day but what we have done during the day to live in this world.

>CHARACTER

Building a character fosters ethical, responsible and caring young people by modeling and teaching behavior through an emphasis on universal value. It builds the intentional ,proactive focus on values such as respect for self and others, responsibility ,integrity, duty ,personal development, inner harmony, wisdom ,spirituality, loyalty ,economic security, enjoyment, friendship, influence, creativity (imagination),knowledge,Fame,collaboration, community ,challenge, balance, courage, authority, and discipline. These characters are some of the cores to develop emotional intelligence in youth.

Character is an elusive concept to those who despise suffering .Talk about character produces nothing. Endurance is what produces true character! Character produces hope. One of the greatest attributes of character is the evenness it creates.

How Does Character Produce Hope?

When I experience difficulties I admit I don’t always rejoice in them. However , I do see how suffering has built up my endurance because I can deal with a lot more challenges today; and I can usually do so with maturity, wisdom, and patience instead of immaturity, self –pity, and impatience. It’s the unappealing times in life that develop our appealing character traits. But how does it produce in today’s world. Our characters are shaped by where we’ve been, where we are and where we want to go.

Mind Your Own Business

It’s often tempting to get involved in other people’s private conversations, lives, and problems. However, interrupting or entangling yourself with personal dramas that don’t directly affect you can be both unhelpful to the parties concerned and damaging to your own mental health. You will be happier and earn more respect from your peers if you learn when and how to mind your own business. Minding your own business doesn’t mean evading responsibility or ignoring the world around you. It simply means knowing when it’s best to avoid interfering.

Knowing When to Step Back

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Recognize if an issue directly concerns you or not. Unless you are an immediate participant in a personal situation, it’s best to mind your business by not getting yourself directly involved. Even if you are indirectly affected by an issue, that does not mean that it’s about you or give you the right to intervene.[1]

• A useful exercise for gaining perspective on a situation is making a ring chart to analyze your relationship to it. Start by drawing a circle and writing those who are directly involved in the situation in the center. Then, draw another ring for those people who are most affected by the issue. Keep drawing outer circles like ripples for each level of people affected, and see where you fall on the chart.

• For example, if you’re thinking about a friend’s breakup, the couple would go in the center. Their family would come next, and friends like you would come third. Seeing this visually can help you recognize that, though you’re affected, it’s still not your drama to sort out. The best thing you can do is support those who are more directly involved.

• Keep in mind that this is not to say that you should not get involved with social issues, like poverty or children’s health, that don’t affect you directly. However, you should be sensitive to work with those people who the issue at hand does directly affect if you do.

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Respect boundaries. Recognize that everyone has a right to privacy and that each person is in charge of their own lives. Don’t expect people to share personal information or try to exert control over how others use their time or resources.[2]

• One good way of respecting boundaries is being careful not to overstep your relationship with a person. For instance, if you’re dealing with someone who is a co-worker or client, be sure to keep your interactions professional. If you’re not a child’s parent, it’s not a good idea to try and discipline them.

• Another important element of respecting boundaries is accepting other people’s right to their own values, beliefs, and opinions. While you may disagree with them, it’s often best to mind your business rather than trying to interfere with others’ belief systems.

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Pay attention to cues. Step back when people communicate directly or indirectly that you should do so. Respect others when they tell you that something is not your business and/or change the subject. Even when they don’t explicitly tell you to butt out, be aware of what their body language is saying.[3]

• For instance, if people are avoiding eye contact, angling away from you, or crossing their arms as you speak, they’re probably silently asking for you not to interrupt or intervene.

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Assess the risk involved in a situation. Minding your own business does not mean being a bystander when you encounter a situation that’s potentially dangerous. If you see someone engaging in a high-risk behavior that is illegal, physically destructive, and/or potentially harmful to themselves or others, it’s responsible to intervene, especially if no one else is.[4]

• For example, if you see two people getting into an altercation, it’s time to call the police, not to mind your own business. If a person is drunk and planning on driving, it’s fine to intervene and take their keys since they have great potential to do harm to themselves and others.

Self Respect

Self –respect forms the foundation of all the decisions you’ll ever make ,how you treat yourself , and how you allow others to treat you.

Unfortunately , while growing up ,everyone repeatedly told you to respect others. And because of this ,you may have became obsessed with pleasing everyone ,putting yourself last, as you were told self-importance is wrong.

You might even start to confuse self –respect with over –confidence or having an inflated ego, but that’s not accurate. Yet self –respect is a crucial for happiness. So self respect is the respect you have for yourself , while ego is your understanding of your own importance.

Responsibility

Being responsible brings us many benefits. It can help you achieve your goals and objectives in any area of your life. Responsibility allows you to create principles, morals and helps you to lead your life. Being a responsible person helps us to:

§ Be more honest: When we tend to tell the truth and keep our promises, the people around us will believe us and see us as an honest person.

§ Be more independent: Assuming the consequences of our actions will help us make better decisions.

§ Be more reliable: By being responsible, we gain other’s trust and we will also gain confidence in ourselves. Doing the right thing will make us feel good. And even if we are wrong, we will be satisfied because we know that we have done our best.

The value of responsibility

Responsibility is taught from childhood. Both in families and in schools, the aim is to educate in values and morals.

It is clear that everyone wants a committed and responsible partner, responsible children who don’t get into trouble, responsible parents and teachers who take care of the children, professionals who do their work responsibly. Why is that?

Because having people like that around us generates confidence, gives us security. We think, "yes, he is a responsible person, he will do it and things will work out.

This is one of the reasons why in our society, responsibility is so positively and highly valued because it gives us security, confidence, and a certain stability.

How can I be more responsible?

There is no magic formula that makes us more responsible. However, responsibility can be trained.

If you want to fulfill your purposes, your obligations, and commitments, what you need is, to a large extent, predisposition and motivation. Now, if you’re still reading this then it’s a sign that you do want to be more responsible so here are some guidelines for you:

1. Set goals: It’s important to know what we do things for. Having a sense and direction helps us to be consistent and to continue to do our duty. If you think the goal is too long term, set small goals to achieve it. I advise you to write them down. It sounds silly, but putting it on paper makes them real. Writing your goals can help you be more responsible!

2. Objectivity: What is under my control or up to me and what is not? Make a list of the things that depend on you and you can control them. Your attention must be directed to those aspects, for what does not depend on you is not your responsibility.

3. Routines: If it takes a lot of effort to “get dressed”, it’s best to get organized. If you have a routine, you’ll know what to do at every moment. But not only that, sometimes, knowing how much time you have to put in the effort also helps. “Come on, it’s only an hour of study before I go to the movies!”

4. Rewards: Internal attributions come into play here. If you’ve reached what you set out to do, why not admit it? It’s your moment, give yourself a pat on the back.

5. Be honest with yourself: Have you failed; was it something that you could control? Take responsibility, assume the consequences and analyze what you could have done differently, how would you improve for another time?

6. Share your plans: I’m not talking about posting on social networks. No, I mean something more intimate. Talk to your partner, your mother or your best friend and tell them what you’re going to do, when and how. This way they will ask and become more involved and there will be no escape, you will have to comply.

7. Operationalize: This means that the things you can take responsibility for are actions. For example, picking up your room, delivering a job, preparing food, etc. These are concrete behaviors that you can take on as responsibilities and obligations to fulfill, but you cannot assume responsibility for the consequences. For example, the teacher can give you an A, people might like or not the food you prepared or flatter you but this is not up to you. Therefore, specify activities and tasks that you have the resources and willingness to do and get on with it!

I’m not going to trick you, becoming a responsible person will not come overnight. It requires effort and a commitment. Remember, the key to success is consistency. I encourage you to focus and get it.

You can start by writing your final goals in capital letters and their subtypes or sub-objectives with minuscules. It begins little by little, assuming responsibilities and step by step.

Remember the responsibility for your actions (not the arbitrary consequences). If one day you don’t get the result you were expecting or you haven’t found the clues to using your willpower, don’t punish yourself. Analyze, think that you are on the right track because you are realizing the difficulties and accept the challenge again.

Someone who takes people’s fundamental needs into account when he or she interacts with them.

Human behavior is driven by three fundamental needs: control, connection and consistency.

Those of our ancestors who answered those needs survived long enough to reproduce and pass on their genes to their children.

Thanks to evolution, the needs are still with us today. Individually or combined, they drive everything we think and do. They express themselves in infinite ways in a world that has become generally less threatening to survival and reproduction, but more complex.

Understanding and satisfying those three needs, both in yourself and in others, is key to navigating today’s world, to communicating effectively (or influencing if you prefer) and achieving what you want. The three needs are:

* Need to feel in CONTROL of one’s life. This explains people’s taste for things like knowledge, freedom, choice, power, insurance, property, contracts, astrology, novelty, numbers and money. Losing one’s control over one’s life or loss of any kind, whether real or potential, is something we avoid and act on.

* Need for CONNECTION. There is very little, including reproduction that we can achieve alone. Evolution has hardwired us to assume we can achieve much more by collaborating with others and being sociable (watch how babies instinctively attract attention, for instance). We also need to feel emotionally connected to the world around us, to what we do in it, to what things mean, to who we are and to who we might become. Important: numbers rarely help people connect with anything. Feelings and stories do. Isolation or exclusion, whether real or potential, is situations we instinctively fear and may go to extremes to avoid.

* Need for CONSISTENCY. This need supports the first two. How do we spot threats to our control and connections? How do we spot opportunities to test and improve them? By constantly checking our surroundings for consistencies and inconsistencies. Consciously or not, we can’t stop ourselves filling gaps, spotting patterns, inventing or finding explanations (through religion, for example) and drawing conclusions. The world might seem to be in a turmoil of change, but most of life is actually consistent. We know from observation and learning that the same causes have the same effects and that reality in its millions of tiny details, including our own thoughts, actions and identity, is mostly consistent with our expectations and remains so from one timeframe to the next. This means, crucially, that anything that we know to be consistent can be safely ignored in most cases. This in turn frees up our mind to pay attention to inconsistencies, which signal threats to our control and connections or opportunities to improve them.

Discipline

Discipline is a way of life, where one tries to be on time and live in a systematic way.

It is not limited to money, riches or by poverty but it is just a personal orientation towards life.

It is a habit and not an adaptation in life. So one can practice discipline for a better life.

Many successful people attribute their success to discipline.

For them more than knowledge, communication or skill, discipline played a key role in their way to success.

Discipline in life has many virtues like being focused, staying healthy and also avoiding problems. As per the current lifestyle and social trends, discipline techniques seems to be one of the essential life skills.

Discipline is one of the factors by which people judge others. Those highly talented and hard working people cannot be successful if they are not disciplined.

Discipline extends to personal life, career, work, study, lifestyle and even social life. So it is good to inculcate student discipline in schools. This school discipline can help children habituate it and can be carried on for life.

Being disciplined is a way to gain many advantages and benefits in life. Disciple helps one to be

1. Being focused: Being disciplined helps one stay focused towards his work, activities or goals.

A person with strong goals are more focused and keep up to work on time in everyday life. vice-versa anyone with discipline has to keep his mind focused on his work or goals avoiding mental disturbances. If not he cannot complete his work in time and also be undisciplined.

2. Respected by others: Discipline helps command respect from others. Many people struggle to gain respect from others in the workplace. But the easiest way to get respect is to be disciplined. People around and also the sub-ordinates respect a person who is disciplined. The reasons are

Firstly it is tough to be disciplined for anyone. And if you are one, then you have respect from others for that ability.

If you are an employee, due to discipline you tend to complete work in time, be in the workplace at a time etc. This helps you win respect from your boss or employer.

In studies being disciplined helps you complete your exam preparation, homework in time and helps you gain the highest score. This wins you respect from your colleagues.

If you are a boss or leader of the group etc. being disciplined helps you command respect from your subordinates. In turn, they tend to be disciplined and helps to complete your goals and reach higher levels.

There are chances that seeing your self discipline others might consider you as a role model.

3. Stay healthy: Disciplined life includes regular habits like taking food, medicine (if any), having a bath, exercise, walking and sleeping at right time. Exercise and other regular habits will tune the body and mind so well that always the person remains healthy. Even in case of a chronic disease taking medicines at a regular time helps get well soon. Having food in time is very important because even food is also a medicine. Read the importance of food for life.

4. Stay active: Discipline is a way of a positive outlook to life. There are enthusiasm and self-confidence from within. So it keeps one active and not lazy instead.

Notice anyone who is disciplined, he/ she is always active in comparison to others. Also due to disciplined habits like having food, sleep and exercise regularly, they stay active whole of the day.

5. Self-control: A person with self-discipline has more self-control over himself. He is careful in his use of words while talking, his behavior etc. avoiding himself from being entangled in silly problems. This way he also builds good relations with people.

6. Better academic performance: Discipline in education is very important for better education. Education is incomplete without learning discipline. Classroom discipline helps students to listen to teachings well and also cover the entire syllabus. While coming to school in time helps them awake early, attend nature calls, have a bath and breakfast in time. Hence discipline in schools helps students to stay healthy which is good for the growth of both body and mind.

7. Get things done & be happy: Being disciplined helps get things done faster and at the right time. Though some things happen late due to other factors, still one with discipline gets them done faster than others due to his self-discipline like being on time. So this leads to peace of mind and keeps one happier.

Consider yourself in a situation when one of your family members asked you to go out in an evening. If you are disciplined, you complete your work in time and try to give your time for them. If not they get hurt by you and this leads to loss of happiness. This is a common or routine issue in many families. So try to stay disciplined. It helps you to keep your family and friends happy as you can give them extra time.

8. Have more time in a day: A disciplined person have more time in a day than an undisciplined person. So more time means there is more chance to do extra works or other pending works. We can overcome procrastination and laziness in work.

9. Stay stress or tension free: One has tension during competitive exams or daily routine work. This is internal anxiety or unknown fear about the outcome of the work. Staying disciplined helps one study well in advance and not just before exams so he remains tension free. If it is a workplace, due to discipline the work is planned well and executed in time so there is no stress. So discipline helps one stay stress-free rise your self-esteem and also get out of possible depression.

Seeing the list advantages of discipline, there should be proper guidance and discipline in early childhood. Parents need to habituate self-discipline techniques in children.

For this, they can take help of schools which inculcate high discipline.

When you live a disciplined life people around you will have always respect for you and have a faith in you .you will be always given opportunity to move ahead in life .while moving ahead through different spectrum of life you will learn a lot many thing that will add exceptional dimension in your personality. let me tell about my schooling days to justify my point.

When i was in my school , i would always follow every rules and regulations of school ,for instance ,punctuality -in morning schedules , in both morning and evening assembly , ,proper dress code during non -academic time and so on. When our Head Master passed out from school then it was time to select the Head Prefect of school .I was selected .I was little bit suprisedwhy i was selected in such a position. Only reason latter i came to know is that i was one of the discipline girls from my school .School administration had faith in me to lead the school effectively .Days of leading of one year was very learning stage for me .I learnt to take decision when people around me always criticize you .i learnt to convince the other to do what they think they can not do. I learnt to go along with team. In short, this opportunity helped me develop leadership quality.

Integrity

The single most important quality you can ever develop that will enhance every part of your life, is the value of integrity. Integrity is the core quality of a successful and happy life. Having integrity means being totally honest and truthful in every part of your life. By making the commitment to become a totally honest person, you will be doing more to ensure your success and happiness in life than anything else you can ever do.

Integrity is a value, like persistence, courage, and intelligence. It is your choice of values and resolution to live by those values that form your character and personality. And it is integrity that enhances all your other values. The quality of person you are is determined by how well you live up to the values that are most important to you. Integrity is the quality that locks in your values and causes you to live consistent with them.

Integrity is the foundation of character. A person who has integrity also has an unblemished character in every area of his or her life. One of the most important activities you can engage in, is developing your character. And one of the best ways to develop your character is by consistently doing the same things that a thoroughly honest person would do in every area of his or her life.

To be totally honest with others, you first have to be totally honest with yourself. You have to be true to yourself. You have to be true to the very best that is in you. Only a person who is consistently living a life with the highest values and virtues is a person truly living a life of integrity. If you are always honest and true to yourself you cannot be false to anyone else.

The mark of people who have high integrity is, they always do the highest quality of work in everything they do. They are the people who are always totally honest with themselves in everything they do, and strive to excellent work on every occasion. People with high integrity realize that everything they do is a statement about who they are as a person.

The Universal Law of Attraction says that you inevitably attract into your life the people and circumstances that are in harmony with your dominant thoughts and values. This means that everything in your life you have attracted, because of the person you are. If there is anything in your life, your relationships, or your work that you are not happy with, you need to begin changing the person you are, so that you stop attracting those people and situations into your life.

Your integrity is manifested in your willingness to adhere to the values that are most important to your. It’s easy to make promises but often very hard to keep them. But every time you keep a promise that you’ve made, it is an act of integrity, which in turn strengthens your character. As you act with integrity in everything you do, you will find that every part of your life will improve. You will begin to attract the best people and situations into your life. You will become an outstanding person as well as a success in everything you do.

Authority

The word authority is often heard in discussions about building modern, progressive human endeavours. Yet how it works in practice is widely misunderstood, and that leads to confusion and frustration. So here’s a little guide.

I’m not proposing this as a ‘best practice’ for working with authority. Instead, I’m suggesting that it helps to think of authority as having a natural way that it works. Once you understand the nature of authority you can work with it consciously, and everything gets easie

GUIDELINES

1. Authority comes in two forms: creative and formal

2. Creative authority comes before formal authority

3. Creative authority forms natural hierarchies

4. Creative authority materializes naturally and automatically

5. Responsibility goes hand-in-hand with authority

6. Authority can be passed from one person to another

7. Only formal authority can be shared

8. Creative and formal authority are distributed differently

1. AUTHORITY COMES IN TWO FORMS: CREATIVE AND FORMAL

Most of us think of authority as one single thing: who is authorized to take specific actions within an endeavor. It’s about rights, and permission. Yet there’s a creative form of authority and a formal one. It helps to understand the difference.

Formal authority is the thing we usually associate with authority in organizations. It’s about who has been granted the right to take specific actions. It covers things like who can sign a company chequeen and who can make a job offer (or fire someone.)

On the other hand, creative authority should be thought of as being related to authorship. So you can think of a person who is the creative authority for something as being its author. Authors have a special, intimate connection to the story they are telling.

In this guide I use the term ‘creative authority’ both to refer to the attribute of creative authority as well as for a person who holds that authority.

2. CREATIVE AUTHORITY COMES BEFORE FORMAL AUTHORITY

Formal authority cannot exist without creative authority. All attempts to establish formal authority happen within a creative endeavour, so that means there must already be creative authority.

Think of creative authority as supplying the brief which all formal authority should ultimately be supporting. If the formal authority is set up to support the brief or vision being realized then you’ll have the conditions for creative work to flow. If the formal authority becomes the main thing, you may well find that it stifles creativity.

3. CREATIVE AUTHORITY FORMS NATURAL HIERARCHIES

In organizations, you can find the individual with creative authority for the vision for the entire endeavour. This is will be either the originating founder or a successor.

You will also find people holding the creative authority for more specific parts of the overall vision. And within those elements you may find ever smaller, more specific visions. At every step, someone holds the creative authority.

This naturally forms a creative hierarchy. Not an upside-down pyramid of layers of bosses, but a pattern of authors, all ultimately contributing to one overall story, each with creative authority over their part.

It’s very useful to map and visualize the creative hierarchy within an endeavor — it creates a lot of clarity for people working together and is often more useful than the usual organization chart.

4. CREATIVE AUTHORITY MATERIALISES NATURALLY AND AUTOMATICALLY

Formal authority can be assigned to people as needed. It’s often associated with specific roles within organizations to which people are appointed either by someone higher up a chain of command, or by a democratic decision.

Whereas creative authority materializes naturally at the moment somebody takes a first step to realize some kind of idea in the world. Like when an author first puts pen to paper to begin the process of bringing a new story from their imagination into the world.

This means that nobody can decide who has creative authority. It just naturally rests with an individual. So it’s most useful to search for and recognize the creative authority, rather than trying to appoint them like you would a formal authority.

5. RESPONSIBILITY GO00ES HAND-IN-HAND WITH AUTHORITY

Charles Davies writes:

Both authority and responsibility arise in the same moment — in that moment where some inner vision meets the world in a concrete action. Authority and responsibility are twins — born in the moment when we take the initiative.

I have authority over the thing I am authoring... As the author, I hold the vision. And I have a responsibility to that vision: to articulate and to act on that vision. Because no one else can. Authority and responsibility are the same size. I have responsibility for what I have authority for. I have authority for what I have responsibility for. Without responsibility, there is no authority.

How often have you heard leaders complain about giving people responsibility for things but they’re just not happening?

The mistake is to believe you can give someone responsibility. It only works when someone takes responsibility. This means they do it of their own volition because it meets a need for them personally to be responsible. Without that, they are not responsible.

6. AUTHORITY CAN BE PASSED FROM ONE PERSON TO ANOTHER

Formal authority can be changed using an official governance process, either top-down or democratic.

Creative authority needs to be handled differently and more sensitively. Although it occurs naturally, it can be passed from one person to a successor. If they are willing, a creative authority can ‘pass the torch’ to a willing recipient, who then assumes the role. In this way, an endeavour can remain fresh and creative through many generations.

7. ONLY FORMAL AUTHORITY CAN BE SHARED

It’s popular today to talk about sharing authority. Yet only formal authority can be successfully shared. You can designate multiple people as having the right to sign company chequeens for example.

However, creative authority always rests with individuals. Whilst it can create a positive feeling to view creative authority as being shared and talk about ‘shared vision,’ you can be sure that gradually, perhaps over a period of a few years, unnecessary confusions, tensions and struggles will arise or the vision will become diluted. The root of this is not recognizing the individual who is naturally holding the creative authority.

8. FORMAL AND CREATIVE AUTHORITY ARE DISTRIBUTED DIFFERENTLY

Formal authority can be distributed by giving more people more authority to do more things. This can be a powerful force in reducing decision-making bottlenecks, eliminating bureaucracy and empowering people who are closest to customers and other external stakeholders to do whatever needs to be done to serve them.

Since creative authority cannot be shared or simply bestowed on people, the distribution of creative authority comes instead by a person holding creative authority holding a space where other people can take responsibility for parts of it, forming the creative hierarchy.

Friendship

As human beings, we become so busy with our jobs, family, household chores, daily activities that we often neglect one of the most important aspects of life; friendships, the relationships that develop over time that hold a very special place in our heart and that society continues to ignore. Friends are family members that we choose to allow and keep in our lives. From our first childhood friend to those lifelong friends we have known for decades; friends are treasures that can bring so much positivity into our lives but yet we often become too busy and neglect these important people. I am guilty of this as well!

The philosopher Aristotle said, “In poverty and other misfortunes of life, true friends are a sure refuge. They keep the young out of mischief; they comfort and aid the old in their weakness, and they incite those in the prime of life to noble deeds.” Growing up, my mother always used to tell me “your friends are a reflection of you”. I did not quite understand this until I started meeting individuals who kept, not so healthy friends in their lives and suddenly, as a young teenager, I learned to understand that the friends I keep in my life reflect who I am and desire to be as a person and therefore I have learned to choose my friends wisely over the years. I do not care about the superficial attributes such as looks, money, success or status but rather I emulate those who bring laughter, joy, honesty and who can be there for me and also give me a firm kick in the butt when I need it. I always find it intriguing to meet friends of people I know because I can really get a sense of that person by the company they choose to keep in their life.

ü Friends are there to lift you up in joy and comfort you in sorrow

Good friends can be and will be your backbone. Whether you are celebrating a great life event they will show up with a bottle of wine, or two, and celebrate with you. If you are going through a rough patch in life, they are there to listen, give you advice and try to get you out of that slump. True friends show up, no matter what. True friends do not make excuses, do not flake on you and do not bring you down.

ü Friends help you develop social skills

I am a true introvert. I love people, but only in small doses. When someone invites me to a party or to a wedding, I cringe on the inside because I know I will have to be around a lot of people, which gives me anxiety. However, my friends definitely push me out of my comfort zone and always get me into social gatherings. From childhood, friends are there to invite you to birthday parties, have play dates and as we get older we grab drinks and dinners with our cherished friends to catch up on the week or the past month. Life is so much better socializing with friends and getting out to experience new places and meet new people.

ü True friends will give you a reality check

We have all been there and we all have that friend; that instance where he or she is being completely inappropriate whether they are throwing a fit, copping an attitude or just being downright rude and nasty. We as friends need to give each other a reality check. It could be the ridiculous outfit we are wearing or the boyfriend cheating on us. True friends bring the harsh truth in front of us. It is always important to be honest with our friends however it is just as important to approach these touchy issues with kindness and to address these matters in the appropriate setting and time, ideally behind closed doors. The beauty of true friends is they will tell you like it is, but from a good place in their heart.

ü Friendships at a young age can help you develop healthy romantic relationships

Having friends early in childhood and throughout your teenage years can help you learn how to compromise in relationships, which fights to go to battle and how to communicate. Friendships are very similar to romantic relationships (without the sex) and healthy friendships can allow you to develop boundaries and skills that can help you navigate successful and healthy romantic relationships in the future,

ü Couple friendships can help your own relationship

We all have that friend, he or she becomes romantically involved and POOF, off they disappear. Some couples withdraw from their friendships when their relationship turns serious. This can be hurtful in many ways but instead of waiting for that friend to reappear, try to get to know their significant other. Go on double dates, ask to hang out with your friend and his or her partner, make an effort to get to know this important person. This can mean the world to your friend and by embracing couple friendships; you can go through life transitions together such as engagements, marriage and raising children.

ü Friends can improve our health and longevity

Studies have shown that older people with friends are more likely to live a healthier happier life than those who do not have many close friends. Older people without close friends are more likely to develop chronic diseases such as heart disease, diabetes, and depression than their counterparts. Although family members are usually the caretakers to the elderly, they often do so out of obligation whereas lifelong friends provide endless joy with no strings attached.

Go on, get out there and rekindle old friendships, strengthen weakened friendships and develop new friendships. We are living on borrowed time and we will not be remembered for what we did in life but rather whom we touched throughout our journey in life.

Challenge

Why life challenges are good for you

How many times you felt really bad because you suddenly encountered a tough life challenge? I am sure this happened to you before.

We humans like stability and we all prefer to live a life that doesn't have tough challenges but do you know that your self esteem can be reduced if you didn't face such challenges?

And do you know that life challenges can be a source of growth and even happiness?

I know this might seem confusing so in order to get it all, read this post.

Why life challenges are a source of growth

Do you know how self confidence is built? When a person manages to learn something new or when he manages to solve a certain life problems he feels confident about himself.

Now the question that most people ask is: why learning certain skills never add to my self confidence and why learning other skills can boost my confidence?

The answer is simple, only the skills that you are greatly in need of or the ones that will help you solve your important life problems will increase your self confidence.

Here is an example taken from the Solid Self confidence program. Lets suppose that you had a shyness problem, in such a case learning football might add a little to your self confidence but learning how to approach strangers will add a great deal of confidence to your personality.

So what does all this has to do with life challenges?

Because a problem is only considered a life challenge when it affects an important area of your life solving it will certainly add a great deal of confidence to you.

If you managed to deal with that tough life challenge you will feel that you are really confident and that you are not beatable. (see also How to be strong in life)

Lack of life challenges and beliefs that wear out

Beliefs keep wearing out as the time passes because we always keep collecting new information. If you once succeeded or made a great achievement then after sometime you might start to believe that you only did it because you were lucky and not because you are really good.

If that situation persisted you might lose your self confidence on the medium or the long term. On the other hand, if you faced the life challenge and managed to deal with it you will renew your self confidence and you will reinforce your positive beliefs about yourself. (see also How limiting beliefs are created)

I was strong then i became weak

I get many mails from readers who tell me that they used to be strong then they became weak and lost their self confidence.

In most of these cases those people didn't deal with the new life challenges that they faced and as a result they lost their self confidence.

All what those people need to do to regain their self confidence is to face these life challenges.

1. With every unsuccessful change, you learn something new to use in the next challenge.

That’s a bit extreme, but the learning is the same. Don’t look at failures as setbacks, but rather learn from them. Analyse what you could have done better and use the learning in your next challenge.

It triggers creativity.

· Challenges are meant to push you. You will often find yourself pushed to the limits of your time, patience, and capacity. Creativity will be your best friend in times like these and will help you prevail and come out on top.

It will expand your social growth.

· You cannot grow in isolation. At times you will be required to meet new people to help and seek help from them. The right mindset with these meetings can give a huge boost to both your confidence and eventually your social status.

You get rid of the boredom, the drudgery, and the unhappiness.

· Nothing more to say. You will experience this yourself.

You will lose the fear of the unknown.

· Challenges will motivate you to embrace any curveball life throws at you. It will become second nature to navigate the challenges life gives and come out a winner.

It will help you achieve that big, audacious goal you have dreamt of, one small challenge at a time.

One word of caution: Don’t wait for things to be perfect or for your wake up-call to kick you out of your comfort chair.

I chose to change, to challenge myself, to grow. It was after several such “slaps”, but better late than never. I am challenging myself using the guidelines in this book.

Inner harmony

Inner harmony is an internal state that permits us to be at peace and act confidently even in the face of difficulties. Inner harmony is not being in a good mood all the time; it is not ceasing to experience problems or the emotions associated with them. Inner harmony is neither the permanent show of a smiling face, nor the constant display of an optimistic posture. Instead, inner harmony is an evenness of the mind that, when troubles do arise, prompts our skills toward corrective actions, if they exist, or submits us serenely to the acceptance of reality, if problems actually have no solution.

Inner harmony is a worthy state of being—the ideal state—where most everybody would like to dwell. When we are enjoying inner harmony, we are living well. The paradox is, however, that we cannot move to such a wonderful state directly; we cannot take a particular sequence of steps that lead us there; we cannot produce inner harmony in a straight line.

Inner harmony is more the spontaneous result of a way of living than an intended, planned goal. People may look for things such as money, friends or academic degrees; these pursuits, though they may bring success, do not necessarily lead to inner harmony. While inner harmony is quite different from success, the two qualities do not exclude each other. People enjoying inner harmony might be successful—they might have money, friends and academic degrees—but those things come to them naturally and they do not get frustrated if such effects do not arrive. To the eyes of others, they are successful; to themselves they are at peace with whatever happens in their lives. Inner harmony, which is personal and intimate, cannot come from outside; this would make it outer harmony.

We should not seek inner harmony; when we are chasing inner harmony, we are losing it. If we should not hunt inner harmony, how do we get to experience it? How do we fulfill a yearning that we should not pursue? Instead of running after inner harmony, we have to direct our actions toward eliminating suffering, the opposite of inner harmony. Since suffering means anguish, agony, anxiety, desperation, pain, affliction, and a few more states or experiences, the word needs to be delimited.

Suffering is the set of negative feelings generated by cravings for what we lack, and aversions to what imaginarily or actually surrounds us. Since cravings and aversions are the originators of suffering, it is these maladies what we have to eradicate from our lives.

We can compare inner harmony to silence. Both occurrences come from the absence of certain disruptions; they are not the outcome of specific actions. When there is noise in the environment and we are longing for quietness, we work on the sources of the distressing sounds: we turn off loudspeakers, end chattering and still motions. When the noise sources settle down, silence comes about.

Similarly, we cannot design or produce inner harmony; there are no instructions to build it. Instead, if we wish to experience inner harmony, we should work on the sources of the mental noise and shut them down; we must attack and destroy the roots of suffering. Cravings and aversions are the sources of the distressing sounds; they are like loudspeakers the stridencies of which break off inner harmony; we must turn off the sound system if we want to stop the noise. When we eliminate cravings and aversions, the suffering they are producing disappears; then inner harmony spontaneously blossoms.

What is Personal Development?

Personal development is a lifelong process. It is a way for people to assess their skills and qualities, consider their aims in life and set goals in order to realise and maximise their potential.

This page helps you to identify the skills you need to set life goals which can enhance your employability prospects, raise your confidence, and lead to a more fulfilling, higher quality life. Plan to make relevant, positive and effective life choices and decisions for your future to enable personal empowerment.

Although early life development and early formative experiences within the family, at school, etc. can help to shape us as adults, personal development should not stop later in life.

This page contains information and advice that is designed to help you to think about your personal development and ways in which you can work towards goals and your full potential.

‘Personal Development’ and ‘Personal Empowerment’ are two areas that overlap and interweave, so it is recommended that you read this page in conjunction with our page on Personal Empowerment.

Why is Personal Development Important?

Self-Actualization

Minds Eyes suggests that all individuals have an in-built need for personal development which occurs through a process called self-actualisation.

The extent to which people are able to develop depends on certain needs being met and these needs form a hierarchy. Only when one level of need is satisfied can a higher one be developed. As change occurs throughout life, however, the level of need motivating someone’s behaviour at any one time will also change.

Personal Development

At the bottom of the hierarchy are the basic physiological needs for food, drink, sex and sleep, i.e., the basics for survival.

• Second are the needs for safety and security in both the physical and economic sense.

• Thirdly, progression can be made to satisfying the need for love and belonging.

• The fourth level refers to meeting the need for self-esteem and self-worth. This is the level most closely related to ‘self-empowerment’.

• The fifth level relates to the need to understand. This level includes more abstract ideas such as curiosity and the search for meaning or purpose and a deeper understanding.

• The sixth relates to aesthetic needs of beauty, symmetry and order.

• Finally, at the top of Maslow’s hierarchy is the need for self-actualization.

We have to see all the individuals have the need to see themselves as competent and autonomous, also that every person has limitless room for growth.

Self-actualization refers to the desire that everybody has ‘to become everything that they are capable of becoming’. In other words, it refers to self-fulfilment and the need to reach full potential as a unique human being.

The path to self-actualization involves being in touch with your feelings, experiencing life fully and with total concentration.

Managing Your Personal Development

1. Developing a Personal Vision

Personal development can simply be for fun. Most of us, however, find it easier to motivate ourselves to learn and improve if we have a purpose in doing so. Developing your personal vision - a clear idea of where you want to be in a few months or years, and why - is a crucial part of developing this purpose.

There is more about this in our pages on Developing a Personal Vision, Refining and Narrowing Your Vision, and Setting Personal Goals.

2. Planning Your Personal Development

Once you are clear about where you want to be, you can start planning how to get there. Drawing up a personal development plan is not essential, but it does make the planning process more realistic.

For more about this part of the process, take a look at our page on Planning Your Personal Development.

If you are struggling to identify which areas to target for development and improvement, you may find it helpful to read our pages on Personal SWOT Analysis and Identifying Areas for Improvement.

3. Starting the Improvement Process

There are a number of different ways in which you can learn and develop.

Our page on Learning Preferences suggests how different types of learning process may be more effective for certain people. You may also find our page on Learning Styles helpful in understanding how you like to learn.

4. Recording Your Personal Development

It is often a good idea to keep a record of your personal development. By writing down key developments in your learning and development as and when they occur, you will be able to reflect on your successes at a later date.

There is more about this on our page or YouTube channel, Recording Your Personal Development.

This reflection may well help to motivate you to learn more skills in the future. Try keeping a learning log or journal as you develop your skills and knowledge.

See our page on Reflective Practice for some ideas of how to do this.

5. Reviewing and Revising Personal Development Plans

For more effective learning, it is important to reflect on your experience, and consider what you have learnt from it. Regular review of your personal development plans, and your development activities, will ensure that you learn from what you have done. It will also ensure that your activities continue to move you towards your goals, and that your goals or vision remain relevant to you.

Creativity( Imagination )

Why is creativity important in everyday life? It is because it makes life infinitely interesting and fulfilling. Creativity is a way of living life that embraces originality and makes unique connections between seemingly disparate ideas. Creativity is about living life as a journey into seeing and communicating the extra-ordinariness of the simplest, most every day acts.

We often think about creativity as making something, but in fact the root meaning of the word means ‘to grow’. When we are creative we feel as if the world and all that is in it is vibrantly alive. Creativity’s by-products are some of the major achievements of civilization–from the invention of the wheel to Mozart’s sonatas.

Human beings are essentially born creative–from infancy on we find innovative ways to negotiate life. The most creative people find ways around obstacles because they see them not just as roadblocks but also as opportunities. Creativity expands our perceptions and along with expanded perceptions come new ways of problem solving–from making an exquisite meal when you don’t know how to cook to painting an extraordinary landscape when you are living in a freezing attic and can’t afford a full box of paints.

Knowledge

It is said that “Knowledge is Power”. This quote has variety shades of application and holds good in several contexts.

· Knowledge has enabled us make all the advancements in the science and technology spheres that we have been able to achieve. It has made us far more capable, superior and sophisticated beings on this earth.

· Knowledge is the primary factor that clearly distinguishes the human race from the animals.

Human has the power to judge situations, decide between what is good and what is bad and make decisions voluntarily. It is important that we make the best use of the gift of knowledge so that we achieve great feats and heights in every domain of our life.

Since knowledge is the fuel that drives human life, gaining knowledge is deemed the most primary activity that prepares man for a long and successful life.

Schooling is the very first phase of a child’s life. During this stage, the society gives a variety of inputs to make the child knowledgeable learning many things under every known topic.

While the education during the initial years of schooling are general, special streams of courses are pursued by children as they grow up so that they attain proficiency and skill in the field in which they want to excel and build their career.

WITHOUT KNOWLEDGE, ONE CANNOT BE SUCCESSFUL IN LIFE.

To grow in one’s career, gaining as much knowledge as possible is important. Knowledge does not pertain to science and technology and the fields we study in books. Knowledge is also very important to shape our personality and perfect our behavior and dealings with people.

· We need to understand ourselves, our strengths and weaknesses. We need to learn the art of life.

· We must master the techniques of adjusting and accommodating with the changes in our surroundings and life situations.

· We must move well with the people and persuade them effectively to get things done in our favor.

· We must make best judgments and decide on the right course that will let us move successfully.

· We must save ourselves from dangers and stay balanced and strong during difficulties and adversities.

· We must know how to assert our views and also give room to accept the good views of others.

· We must learn how to successfully manage relationships and people both at homes and professional spheres.

For all this, knowledge is important.

Knowledge accounts for the success of people. The more knowledgeable you are, the more advantage you have over the other people. The better you are equipped to manage yourself and others, the easier your journey of life. More than anything, knowledge must be put to good use.

There is no use of such knowledge that paves way for one’s own destruction, Knowledge should let you take the right course in life in a way useful to yourself and the society at large.

Great men and women have put their knowledge to good use and have reached exalted heights being remembered for long on this earth.

Knowing the importance of knowledge, people must look to the potential avenues to gain knowledge and make use of it positive.

Knowledge is understood as the fact or condition of knowing something with familiarity gained through experience or association. Knowledge is something that we come to know by seeing, hearing, touching, feeling and tasting. Knowledge is the fact or condition of being aware of something. Knowledge can be referred to as the information that we receive or acquire through any medium. It gives us the power to explore things and to take decisions accordingly. Knowledge can also be considered as the knowledge about a domain that can be used to solve problems in that domain. In order to solve many problems, it requires much knowledge and this knowledge must be represented or stored in a trusted device.

Knowledge storing:

To acquire knowledge we need to understand it first. We learn and gain knowledge in our own preferable language. Every human or domain has their own way of understanding the knowledge and stores it as per required. It is a natural language for people to understand knowledge.

· Symbols for computer: The knowledge in a computer is stored as a number or character string which represents an object or idea (Internal representation of the knowledge).

· The core concepts: It means the mapping from facts to an internal computer representation and also to a form that people can understand.

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Importance of Knowledge:

Sufficient amount of knowledge preludes to intelligence. If we have enough knowledge then we can achieve intelligence. That is to exhibit intelligence knowledge is the must. Knowledge plays a major role in building intelligent systems. Not only that, knowledge is very important even in our daily lives. It makes us superior and gives us wisdom.

Knowledge is very important. When you are acquiring knowledge your mind is grinding and learning. So it feels its worth. Thus the beginning time of your life as an infant child. When u learn to walk, eat and do basic things like write and read that time feels very long. Suddenly you stop learning and taking knowledge. Time will pass very soon. As your mind does not have to out any effort to pass that time.

Knowledge makes you realise that speaking at the right time and listening to the right things is very important.

Knowledge makes you think and analyze. Knowledge makes you build your opinion. It makes you feel content and help you finding peace.

Thus knowledge is very important.

Knowledge is the “facts, information, and skills acquired through experience or education; the theoretical or practical understanding of a subject.”

Knowledge is very diverse and exists in many forms. You are able to live because of knowledge. The mere fact that you know how to eat and why to eat is the reason why you are able to survive.

Without the knowledge of why to eat, you would not have survived. That is the importance of knowledge. You cannot survive without knowledge. You live in a house. Many years ago the same houses were made of straw and stone and mud. It's knowledge which helped man to make houses out of cement.

That is the essence of knowledge.

That's why the saying goes

“Knowledge is power.

Our knowledge comes forth out of curiosity. This is especially seen in a newborn child. He will figure out that some things can’t be eaten or touched as it either hurts or tastes funny. The information we gain from this will eventually help us dealing with life itself a little better. We may share this knowledge with other people to make it more efficient when so much as desired. Science came forth out of curiosity to how things work and functions as a system to peer review our findings. So to answer your question:

Knowledge is important because it helps us surviving and to maintain things like peace and joy, be it spiritual or rational ‘knowledge’. Knowledge is quite a controversial term to begin with.

Maintaining a balanced life is becoming increasingly more important for your personal health and well-being in a fast-paced, modern world. Sustaining a balanced diet, alongside personal fitness, can help improve and stabilise overall health and wellbeing.

This post unravels some of the contradictions surrounding how to achieve a well-balanced lifestyle and provides some top tips for conquering a balanced lifestyle. BALANCING

Understanding the importance of a balanced life

What does a healthy and balanced lifestyle mean to you?

We live in a world full of different beliefs and opinions, so one person’s answer to one question could be completely different to the next person. The internet, particularly social media, advertises all sorts of information on exercise and nutrition. We see at least one ‘brand new’ diet advertised on a daily basis. Whether it’s low carb, high fat, low- Glycemic Load (GL), macrobiotic, carb cycling, gluten/grain free, Slimming World or Herb life, our brains are constantly bombarded with conflicting information.

It’s important to understand some of the key components involved in maintaining a balanced lifestyle. There are many reliable sources online to help you with upholding the balance – the NHS provides a wealth of information through its ‘Live Well’ section covering everything from Alcohol limits to getting started with fitness.

The minefield of conflicting information extends further than just dieting; it can also be confusing finding a definitive answer to the best types of exercise for achieving a great balance. There’s heaps of contradictory information regarding exercise, from weightlifting, fasted cardio, marathon running, insanity, cross fit, yoga or interval training at every corner you turn. In simple terms, all types of exercise help with maintaining this balance. If you find a sport or training programmer you enjoy stick to it, consistent lps lead the most positive impact on your life balance.

Which way is the best way to keep a balanced life?

There is no right or wrong answer, despite what you may read. Everyone’s bodies and minds respond in different ways; the most important thing is that you are getting the right balance.

It’s crucial that you find the balance that you enjoy. It is far too easy to think that you are doing everything wrong, and it is even easier to scroll through Instagram or Facebook and compare yourself to others that seem to live the perfect healthy lifestyle. The key point here is not to be hard on you; everyone has their own journey to take. Being healthy doesn’t happen overnight, but each little change we make is a step in the right direction. If we get lost and take the wrong path, it isn’t a disaster, we just need to carry on – it is part of the journey. Keep it simple, and be kind to yourself.

Top tips for keeping a balanced lifestyle

Everyone responds to exercise and diet differently, however, there are a number of steps you can take that are sure to help you keep a great balanced lifestyle.

• Take care and look after yourself – In order to achieve a balanced lifestyle, you must make sure you are healthy. Your body needs plenty of rest, exercise and healthy food. It’s important to take some time out from a busy day to enjoy activities and unwind by reading or meditating.

• Be organized – It’s important to keep a clear mind plan in advance, allowing time for your tasks and making room for activities you enjoy. Being organized can help reduce stress and improve your life balance.

• Set goals – Achieving goals can help assist with gaining a positive mindset. Your goals can cover anything from your job, your finances or your fitness goals.

• Eat right – Your body needs healthy foods and nutrients to create new cells, clean toxins and function properly. Ensuring you get your 5 a day can help improve your diet and life balance.

Key benefits of maintaining a balanced lifestyle.

There are many great reasons for ensuring you have a good life balance, below are our key benefits for maintaining a balanced lifestyle.

• Reduces stress

• Improves general health and well being

• Improves your mental state of mind – According to helpguide.org eating well and keeping a good life balance can help fight against depression.

• Helps to boost your energy – Eating smart helps provide your body with the nutrients it needs and can lead to improved levels of energy say helpguide.org

• Improves your mood – It’s not just exercise that can lead to improvement of your mood. Healthy habits such as social connections can too by keeping the mind active.

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Fame

On the Desire for Fam

We don’t always feel comfortable admitting it to our friends; it is embarrassing. But, secretly, the idea of being famous has great appeal.

Fame is deeply attractive because it seems to offer very significant benefits. The fantasies go like this: when you are famous, wherever you go, your good reputation will precede you. People will think well of you, because your merits have been impressively explained in advance. You will get warm smiles from admiring strangers. You won’t need to make your own case laboriously on each occasion. When you are famous, you will be safe from rejection. You won’t have to win over every new person. Fame will mean other people will be flattered and delighted even if you are only slightly interested in them. They will be amazed to see you in the flesh. They’ll ask to take a photo with you. They’ll sometimes laugh nervously with excitement. Furthermore, no one will be able to afford to upset you. When you’re not pleased with something, it will become a big problem for others. If you say your hotel room isn’t up to scratch, the management will panic. Your complaints will be taken very seriously. Your happiness will become the focus of everyone’s efforts. You will make or break other people’s reputations. You’ll be boss.

The desire for fame has its roots in the experience of neglect, in injury. No one would want to be famous who hadn’t also, somewhere in the past, been made to feel extremely insignificant. We sense the need for a great deal of admiring attention when we have been painfully exposed to earlier deprivation. Perhaps one’s parents were hard to impress. They never noticed one much, they were so busy on other things, focusing on other famous people, unable to have or express kind feelings, or just working too hard. There were no bedtime stories and one’s school reports weren’t the subject of praise and admiration. That’s why one dreams that one day the world will pay attention. When we’re famous, our parents will have to admire us too (which throws up an insight into one of the great signs of good parenting: that your child has no desire to be famous).

But even if our parents were warm and full of praise, there might still be a problem. It might be that it was the buffeting and indifference of the wider world (starting with the schoolyard) that was intolerable after all the early years of adulation at home. One might have emerged from familial warmth and been mortally hurt that strangers were not as kind and understanding as one had come to expect. The crushing experience of humiliation might even have been vicarious: one’s mother being rudely dismissed by a waiter; one’s father standing awkwardly alone.

What is common to all dreams of fame is that being known to strangers emerges as a solution to a hurt. It presents itself as the answer to a deep need to be appreciated, and treated decently by other people.

And yet fame cannot accomplish what is asked of it. It does have advantages, which are evident. But it also introduces a new set of very serious disadvantages, which the modern world refuses to view as structural rather than incidental. Every new famous person who disintegrates, breaks down in public or loses their mind is judged in isolation, rather than being interpreted as a victim of an inevitable pattern within the pathology of fame.

One wants to be famous out of a desire for kindness. But the world isn’t generally kind to the famous for very long. The reason is basic: the success of any one person involves humiliation for lots of others. The celebrity of a few people will always contrast painfully with the obscurity of the many. Being famous upsets people. For a time, the resentment can be kept under control, but it is never somnolent for very long. When we imagine fame, we forget that it is inextricably connected to being too visible in the eyes of some, to bugging them unduly, to coming to be seen as the plausible cause of their humiliation: a symbol of how the world has treated them unfairly.

So soon enough, the world will start to go through the rubbish bags of the famous, it will comment negatively on their appearance, it will pour over their setbacks, it will judge their relationships, it will mock their new movies.

Fame makes people more, not less, vulnerable, because it throws them open to unlimited judgement. Everyone is wounded by a cruel assessment of their character or merit. But the famous have an added challenge in store. The assessments will come in from legions of people who would never dare to say to their faces what they can now express from the safety of the newspaper office or screen. We know from our own lives that a nasty remark can take a day or two to process.

Social media hasn’t helped. It’s made it far easier than before to be famous. And therefore, by necessity, far easier to be hated. A minor celebrity can now regularly face all the vitriol previously accorded only to Hollywood stars.

Psychologically, the famous are of course the very last people on earth to be well equipped to deal with what they’re going through. After all, they only became famous because they were wounded, because they had thin-skin; because they were in some respects a bit ill. And now far from compensating them adequately for their disease, fame aggravates it exponentially. Strangers will voice their negative opinions in detail, unable or simply unwilling to imagine that famous people bleed far more quickly than anyone else. They might even think the famous aren’t listening (though one wouldn’t become famous if one didn’t suffer from a compulsion to listen too much).

Every worst fear about oneself (that one is stupid, ugly, not worthy of existence) will daily be actively confirmed by strangers. One will be exposed to the fact that people one has never met, about whom one would have only goodwill, actively loathe one. One will learn that detestation of one’s personality is – in some quarters – a badge of honor. Sometimes the attacks will be horribly insightful. At other times, they’ll make no sense to anyone who really knows one. But the criticisms will lodge in people’s minds nevertheless – and no lawyer, court case or magician can ever delete them.

Needless to say, as a hurt celebrity, one won’t be eligible for sympathy. The very concept of a hurt celebrity is a joke, about as moving for the average person as the sadness of a tyrant.

To sum up: fame really just means you get noticed a great deal – not that you get understood, appreciated or loved.

At an individual level, the only mature strategy is to give up on fame. The aim that lay behind the desire for fame remains important. One does still want to be appreciated and understood. But the wise person accepts that celebrity does not actually provide these things. Appreciation and understanding are only available through individuals one knows and cares about, not via groups of a thousand or a million strangers. There is no shortcut to friendship – which is what the famous person is in effect seeking.

For those who are already famous, the only way to stay sane is to stop listening to what the wider world is saying. This applies to the good things as much as to the bad. It is best not to know. The wise person knows that their products need attention. But they make a clear distinction between the purely practical needs of marketing and advocacy and the intimate desire to be liked and treated with justice and kindness by people they don’t know.

At a collective, political level we should pay great attention to the fact that, today, so many people (particularly young ones) want to be famous – and even see fame as a necessary condition for a successful life. Rather than dismiss this wish, we should grasp its underlying worrying meaning: they want to be famous because they are not being respected, because citizens have forgotten how to accord one another the degree of civility, appreciation and decency that everyone craves and deserves. The desire for fame is a sign that an ordinary life has ceased to be good enough.

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The solution is not to encourage ever more people to become famous, but to put massive efforts into encouraging a greater level of politeness and consideration for everyone, in families and communities, in workplaces, in politics, in the media, at all income levels, especially modest ones. A healthy society will give up on the understandable but erroneous belief that fame might guarantee the kindness of strangers.

Collaboration

So what does this mean as it relates to our daily lives? How can we be authentically who we each are, stand up for our beliefs and make the best decisions while being collaborative? I suggest that we can take three actions:

1. Speak up for what you believe unabashedly, with courage and conviction.

Be willing to lean into the discomfort of knowing all will not agree with you. After all, if they did you probably did not push the envelope far enough for sustainable change. So many people go along to get along that great ideas never surface for fear of criticism. The great leaders of this world were willing to speak their truth. Speak your truth in a way that others can hear it. Relate your idea or recommendation to something others already care about.

2. Encourage others to improve upon your idea or suggest alternatives, and then really listen to different perspectives.

My global team and I wrestled with several critical issues that could make or break the organization, long term. We constantly reminded ourselves of the values and goals of the organization, as we explored the best solutions. Ultimately, we recognized that the best solutions were sometimes not our ideas. The path to the best solution was to make sure the key stakeholders were at the table, so they could share their point of view and provide the institutional history that would clarify the context for their point of view. When a team comes up with a solution, they do not argue with their own data. They become the champions to implement the idea.

3. Recognize that the best leaders know how to facilitate the sharing of ideas and solutions.

It is amazing the results you can achieve when you do not care who gets the credit.” In an ego driven society this is difficult for many to do. My recommendation is to get to know your team. What is important to each of them personally and professionally? Shine a light on each of them as often as you can. Provide the support they need to know that it is safe for them to share their ideas with you and with the team.

This might be the most difficult step, because it requires that you address your own biases head on. Do not assume that certain team members do not have great ideas, just because they do not look, speak or act like you think they should. Be willing to reach out to team members who are least like you to solicit their ideas. Make sure they are heard in team meetings. Call upon them to share.

The best leaders know they do not have all the answers. They surround themselves with people different than themselves and encourage all to share. They look for ways to be courageous and kind and cause others to want to be on their team.

In essence, the best leaders value the diversity of thought, seek it, encourage it, and find ways to make decisions that reflect the voices of the stakeholders involved.

A weak leader only trusts her/his own ideas. What will you do today to seek those various points of view that will ultimately make you a strong leader?

Community

"We must become bigger than we have been: more courageous, greater in spirit, larger in outlook. We must become members of a new race, overcoming petty prejudice, owing our ultimate allegiance not to nations but to our fellow men within the human community

Human being is a social being. We live in a society and like to share our feelings, happiness and sorrows with our friends, relatives and others. This wish of togetherness and belonging leads to create a community as a whole.

Community is a broader term and has a larger connotation. Presently, the Internet has contributed a lot in connecting people through various communities. By the way, don't you want to know the value of this very term?

Importance of Community

Usually community refers to a group of people living in a common geographical location. This group of people obeys some social norms and some common value among themselves. As such, there are so many communities the world over, separated by languages, cultures, or geographical locations. However, they are related to each other in some way or other, thus making entire world a one, single community.

A sense of community is important to establish peace and harmony among the society. The division of work, feeling of association, togetherness, and cooperation - all these help in establishing a healthy atmosphere filled with unity, harmony and friendship. This is also important in fostering a feeling of intra-national as well as international brotherhood. Let us discuss these points, in an absence of which there will be complete chaos in the community.

Sense of Togetherness

A sense of togetherness lies in the soul of every individual. This comes from our care and dependency on our fellow beings. From our childhood days to our adulthood, we care for our family members, our relatives, our neighbors and friends. This leads to a need of togetherness among people, which helps in creating a community. We tend to enjoy any festival or social ritual together. This is a kind of community feeling. Without it, people will be alone, there won't be anyone to talk to or to share with.

Division of Work

We share our work, and this division of work leads to our dependency on other people working in different roles. In every walk of our lives, we have to depend on others apart from our family members. For example, the cobbler repairs shoes for us, the barber cuts our hair, the tailor stitches fashionable clothes for us, the butcher cuts meat for us, bakers prepares biscuits for us, engineers make houses for us, etc. All these individuals fall into a community, without whom our lives will be very difficult. Division of work is, therefore, important for a well-formed and well-functioning community.

Cooperation

The very idea of community comes into being because people like to cooperate with each other. The sense of cooperation begins at home and it leads to a strong feeling of international brotherhood.

Feeling of Association

In a community, people live by associating with one another. The feeling of association is a common human feeling. This helps in establishing peace and harmony within a community. Without a feeling of association there will be chaos and disharmony in the society or community. Hence, this point plays an important role in making it lively and vibrant.

Thus, with all these points in a perfect combination, a community can help in making a peaceful and progressive society. Likewise, any imbalance could give rise to umpteen problems that are disrupting peace and harmony the world over.

Economic Security (Occupation)

YOUR PURPOSE IS NOT YOUR OCCUPATION

Our life purpose is not what we do for a living. Most people tend to confuse these two things. What we do as a career or how we end up spending our time might not necessarily be directly linked with what our purpose is.

Our purpose is something bigger than our career or occupation, something that sometimes we don’t even get to choose; but I do agree that our career or occupation is normally closely related to our purpose and can either be a catalyzer, enabler of our purpose or even a detractor or derailed.

Our purpose is the bigger reason why we are here or the ultimate personal goal we choose in order to give meaning and sense to our lives. Our occupation on the other hand is how we decide to spend our time and/or earn a living. Our occupation is probably one of the biggest contributors to our chosen purpose and it is also a big source of happiness and fulfillment to our lives, but it is not necessarily the purpose itself, although many people chose to make their life purpose their career. LIVING YOUR PURPOSE

On my journey to unravel purposeful living, I’ve been interviewing people who claim to know what their purpose is and who claim and seem to be happy, fulfilled and thriving. I’ve asked them how they found out what their purpose was and what puzzles me is that many of them actually were never ‘on the search’ for it. For many of them it was a random chain of events or they ended up having to do something at that moment because essentially they had nothing else to do at that point. What happened was that with time they made that their purpose or they discovered their state of flow through that activity. They certainly live a purposeful life, the question that I ask myself now is: Did they discover their purpose through coincidence or did they found a way of making their life purposeful?

To live a ‘purposeful life’ is to take something and make it our own and to choose to be happy and fulfilled with what we do. For many people it is not about finding the job and career that makes them happy, many people actually land in their careers by chance and still have very purposeful and happy lives. For many people it is about learning to find meaning and happiness in which to succeed.

SAVING

Why do we save our money and not spend everything we have the second we have the money? What is it we are accomplishing with our money when it sits in a bank account adding a tiny bit each month, instead of using it to buy delicious meals, beautiful clothes, fun experiences, or other equally desirous things? I want to use this message to take a philosophical approach on the topic and, more importantly, I want to get your feedback below.

Many people who are frugal say that they could afford to buy something more expensive, but that they will only pay what they feel is appropriate and only for something that is necessary. This is a great strategy, but it’s hard to develop this mindset on your own, and if you used to have more money, it’s difficult to comprehend and adopt this lifestyle. For example, I used to make a great deal more money, and hardly cared what things cost. Since that’s definitely not the case now, I am shocked when I look back and realize that I once thought nothing of taking six friends to dinner and footing the bill, since that cost roughly what I now spend on all necessities every two weeks. It has taken a lot of readjusting for me to change my spendthrift lifestyle.

Now that I am somewhat reformed, I understand the saver’s pleasure of simply having money in the bank and knowing that it is there. For me, I save money for security – to know that if my car breaks down, the furnace stops working, if my dog gets sick or I get sick, nothing worse will happen than the balance on that account getting a little lower. I won’t have to run up debt to buy food and keep the lights on, and my life won’t change much. As you can tell, I’m a big proponent of the emergency fund.

Some of my desire to save also arises out of my long-standing problem with accepting help from others. This may sound like a good thing, but when you need help, sometimes you need to be able to accept it without feeling bad about yourself or losing your sense of pride. Since I don’t like being in debt or taking things that I believe others need, having a good savings cushion gives me the satisfaction of knowing that I can fully care of myself and won’t have to bum off my parents. (Thanks for the car loan, Mom and Dad!)

If you are primarily saving for retirement, you’re essentially asking your current self to take care of your future self. You’re giving yourself the ability to depend on you for a while longer. You’re earning money now because you won’t be able to later.

Antoine de Saint-Exupery once said, “As for the future, your task is not to foresee it, but to enable it.” You don’t know what’s coming in the future, but saving now means you’ll be able to make the most of whatever does come. You’ll be able to take advantage of opportunities that others who weren’t as prepared won’t be able to jump on as quickly as you can. And the future might contain surprises (hello triplets!) that could potentially alter your lifestyle, but if you’re financially prepared, you will be able to provide the life for yourself and your family that you have always desired. This is why I also take special pleasure in having money set aside for no particular purpose whatsoever – because you never know what you’re going to want in the future, and there’s no greater pleasure than your past self giving your present self exactly what you want!

So for me, it seems that it is my independent mindset and the desire to never have to turn down an enticing opportunity in the future that motivates my desire to save. But what is it that drives you to realign your goals so that saving money and spending less is such a big priority. Are you saving for a specific item or a less tangible goal? Can you even quite put your finger on it? Let’s get a healthy discussion going!

7.Work to Learn Don’t Work for Money.

Few years back, I granted an interview with a newspaper in Kenya. The young female reporter was on time, and the interview got under way immediately. We sat in the lobby of a luxurious hotel, sipping coffee and discussing the purpose of my visit to Kenya, I was to share a platform with someone who was speaking on motivation, and I was speaking on "The Secrets of the Rich." "Someday, I want to be successful in my business like you," she said. Writing. "What holds you back from achieving your dream?" I said in reply "My work does not seem to go anywhere," she said quietly. "Everyone says that my novels are excellent, but nothing happens. So I keep my job with the paper. At least it pays the bills. Do you have any suggestions?" "Yes, I do," I said brightly. "A friend of mine here in Kenya runs a school that trains people to sell. He runs sales-training courses for many of the top corporations here in Kenya, and I think attending one of his courses would greatly enhance your career." She stiffened. "Are you saying I should go to school to learn to sell?" I nodded. "You aren't serious, are you?" Again, I nodded. "What is wrong with that?" I was now back peddling. She was offended by something, and now I was wishing 11 had not said anything. In my attempt to be helpful, I found myself defending my suggestion. "I have a master's degree in English Literature. Why would I go to school to learn to be a salesperson? I am a professional. I went to school to be trained in a profession so I would not have to be a salesperson. I hate salespeople. All they want is money. So tell me why| I should study sales?" She was now packing her briefcase forcibly. The interview was over. You are a great writer. I went to sales school. You have a master's degree, try and go to sales school. After put they together and you get a 'best-selling author' and a 'best-writing author.'" Anger flared from her eyes. "I'll never stoop so low as to learn how to sell. People like you have no business writing. I am a professionally trained writer and you are a business man. It is not fair." She hurried out through the large glass doors into the humid Kenya morning. At least she gave me a fair and favorable think-up about life. The world is filled with smart, talented, educated and gifted people. We meet them every day. They are all around us. A few days ago, my car was not running well. I pulled into a garage and the young mechanic had it fixed in just a few minutes. He knew what was wrong by simply listening to the engine. I was amazed. The sad truth is, great talent is not enough.

I am constantly shocked at how little talented people earn. I heard the other day that less than 5 percent of Ugandans earn more than 40 million a year. I have met brilliant, highly educated people who earn less than 5millions a year. A business consultant who specializes in the medical trade was telling me how many doctors, dentists and chiropractors struggle financially. All this time, I thought that when they graduated, the millions would pour in. It was this business consultant who gave me the phrase, "They are one skill away from great wealth." What this phrase means is that most people need only to learn and master one more skill and their income would jump exponentially. I have mentioned before that financial intelligence is a synergy of accounting, investing, marketing and law. Combine those four technical skills and making money with money is easier. When it comes to money, the only skill most people know is to work hard. The classic example of a synergy of skills was that young writer for the newspaper. If she diligently learned the skills of sales and marketing, her income would jump dramatically. If I were her, I would take some courses in advertising copywriting as well as sales. Then, instead of working at the newspaper, I would seek a job at an advertising agency. Even if it were a cut in pay, she would learn how to communicate in "short cuts" that are used in successful advertising. She also would spend time learning public relations, an important skill. She would learn how to get millions in free publicity. Then, at night and on weekends, she could be writing her great novel. When it was finished, she would be better able to sell her book. Then, in a short while, she could be a "best-selling author." When I was creating my face book page' How can you set your life to become easier? One of my friends suggested I change the title to The Religious of Education. I told him that with a title like that, few people would be engaged on my page: The obnoxious title How can you set your life to become easier was chosen because l knew it would get tons of publicity and join us together with all religious beliefs. I'm a person who thinks deep, clearly and come out with great ideas just because I chose to learn. Otherwise, why would I continue to press for separating our religious belief? So I chose a title that would bring the world together, simply because I was willing to make it controversial. Many people thought I was a fruitcake, but the page boomed and boomed and so many people across the world liked and followed it. The highly educated people often admit •; that schools reward people who study more and more about less and less. The rich encourage doing exactly the opposite. "You want to ' know a little about a lot" is my suggestion. That is why for years I worked in different areas and different jobs. For a while, I worked as a Corp, I worked in different companies, I also worked as a motorist and construction worker, as well as in sales, reservations and marketing. I used to insist to sit in on the meetings with different people discussing about business. I wanted to know a little about every aspect of different businesses. I liked it when I was a motorist ,so many admired me because I was my own boss, i was paying myself, I used to have time off and many opportunity of becoming rich. When I quit that job, my friends had a heart-to-heart with me. They were bewildered. They could not understand my decision to quit. My friends asked me one evening, "Why did you quit?" I could not explain it to them, as much as I tried. My logic did not fit their logic; the big problem was that they believed in job security. Job security meant everything to them. Learning meant everything to me.

My friends just could not understand why I decided to quit and formed another job. I told them I wanted to learn new ideas, how people are become rich, how the rich manage themselves, how things are handled in other business because I had a dream, desire and a vision of starting a company. In the researches I made, I realized that the hardest part of running a company is to manage people. Leadership is what I needed to know. If you're not a good leader, you'll get shot in the back, just like they do in business. While I was working for Smasco, one of the greatest companies in the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia.1 formed a company. I struggled in all means to be successful fulfill my dream. I always groom myself to take over companies. So I now form them and put them together.

When you go broke before 30, you still have time to recover that's my advice. There is an old cliché that goes, "Job is an acronym for 'Just over Broke.'" And unfortunately, I would say that the saying applies to millions of people. Because school does not think financial intelligence is intelligence, most workers "live within their means." They work and they pay the bills. There is another horrible management theory that goes, "Workers work hard enough to not be fired, and owners pay just enough so that workers won't quit." And if you look at the pay scales of most companies, again I would say there is a degree of truth in that statement. The net result is that most workers never get ahead. They do what they've been taught to do: "Get a secure job." Most workers focus on working for pay and benefits that reward them in the short term, but is often disastrous in the long. Instead I recommend to young people to seek work for what they will learn, more than what they will earn. Look down the road at what; skills they want to acquire before choosing a specific profession and before getting trapped in the "Rat Race." Once people are trapped in the lifelong process of bill paying, they 1 become like those little hamsters running around in those little metal wheels. Their little furry legs are spinning furiously, the wheel is turning furiously, but come tomorrow morning, they'll still be in the same cage: great job. In the movie Jerry Maguire, starring Tom Cruise, there are many great one liners. Probably the most memorable is "Show me the money." But there is one line I thought most truthful. It comes from the scene where Tom Cruise is leaving the firm. He has just been fired, and he is asking the entire company "Who wants to come with me?" And the whole place is silent and frozen. Only one woman speaks up and says, "I'd like to but I'm due for a promotion in three months." That statement is probably the most truthful statement in the whole movie. It is the type of statement that people use to keep themselves busy working away to pay bills. I know the highly educated people look forward to their pay raise every year, and every year they are disappointed. So they would go back to their jobs to earn more qualifications so they could get another raise, but again, it would be another disappointment. The question I often ask people is, "Where is this daily activity taking you?" Just like the little hamster, I wonder if people look at where their hard work is taking them. What does the future hold?

I visited one of the nursing homes in Kampala and they were complaining that the price low. Already, many hospitals in countries with socialized medicine need to make tough decisions such as "Who will live and who will die?" They make those decisions purely on how much money they have and how old the patients are. If the patient is old, they often will give the medical care to someone younger. The older poor patient gets put to the back of the line. So just as the rich can afford better education, the rich will be able to keep themselves alive, while those who have little wealth will die. So I wonder, are workers looking into the future or just until their next paycheck, never questioning where they are headed? When I speak to adults who want to earn more money, I always recommend the same thing. I suggest taking a long view of their life. Instead of simply working for the money and security, which I admit are important, I suggest they take a second job that will teach them a second skill. Often, I recommend joining my What Sapp group 'Never give up family', if they want to learn sales skills, it has excellent training programs that help people get over their fear of failure and rejection, which are the main reasons people /j are unsuccessful. Education is more valuable than money, in the long run. When I offer this suggestion, I often hear in response, "Oh that is too much hassle," or "I only want to do what I am interested in."

To the statement of "It's too much of a hassle," I ask, "So you would; rather work all your life giving 50 percent of what you earn to the government'" To the other statement-"I only do what I am interested in"-I say, "I'm not interested in going to the gym, but I go because I want to feel better and live longer." Unfortunately, there is some truth to the old statement "You can't teach old dog new tricks." Unless a person is used to changing, it's hard to change. But for those of you who might be on the fence when it comes to the idea of working to learn something new, I offer this word of encouragement: Life is much like going to the gym. The most painful part is deciding to go. Once you get past that, it's easy. There have been many days I have dreaded going to the gym, but once I am there and in motion, it is a pleasure. After the workout is over, I am always glad I talked myself into going. If you are unwilling to work to learn something new and insist on, instead, becoming highly specialized within your field, make sure the company you work for is unionized. Labor unions are designed to protect specialists. One of my friends who is highly educated, after for his hard work, became the head of the teachers union in Managing He told me that it was the hardest job he ever held. My rich friend who didn't go further with his studies, on the other hand, spent his life doing his best to keep his companies from becoming unionized. He was successful. Although the unions came close, he was always able to fight them off. Personally, I take no sides because I can see the need for and the benefits of both sides. If you do as school recommends, become highly specialized, then seek union protection. For example, I had a friend who had a flying career but he then quit for his personal reasons, if he continued on with his flying career, he would have sought a company that had a strong pilots union. Why? Because his life would be dedicated to learn a skill that was valuable in only one industry. If he were pushed out of that industry, his life's skills would not be as valuable to another industry. A displaced senior pilot-with 10 million hours of heavy airline transport time, earning as much money a year-would have a hard time finding an equivalent high-paying job in school teaching. The skills do not necessarily transfer from industry to industry, because the skills the pilots are paid for in the airline industry are not as important in, say, the school system. The same is true even for doctors today. With all the changes in medicine, many medical specialists need to conform to medical organizations. Schoolteachers definitely need to be union members.

Today in my country Uganda the teachers union is the largest and the richest labor union of all. The NEA, National Education Association, has tremendous political clout. Teachers need the protection of their union because their skills are also of limited value to an industry outside of education. So the rule of thumb is, "Highly specialized, then unionize." It's the smart thing to do. When I ask the people I teach, "How many of you can manage business than I do"? Almost all they raise their hands. I then ask, "So if most of you can manage business, how come i make more money than you?" The answer is obvious: You are excellent at business systems. The reason so many talented people are poor is because they focus on building a business career and know little to nothing about business systems. A friend of mine in Kampala is a great artist. He makes a sizable amount of money. One day his Father's attorney called to tell him that he had left him 30 million that is what was left of his estate after the attorney and the government took their shares. Immediately, he saw an opportunity to increase his business by using some of this money to advertise. Two months later, his first four-color, full-page ad appeared in an expensive magazine that targeted the very rich. The ad ran for three months. He received no replies from the ad, and all of his inheritance is now gone. He now wants to sue the magazine for misrepresentation. This is a common case of someone who can build a business career but knows little about business. When I asked him what he learned, his only reply was that "advertising salespeople are crooks." I then asked him if he would be willing to take a course in sales and a course in direct marketing. His reply, "I don't have the time, and I don't want to waste my money." The world is filled with talented poor people. All too often, they're • poor or struggle financially or earn less than they are capable of, not because of what they know but because of what they do not know. They focus on perfecting their skills at building a better career rather than the skills of selling and delivering the career. The highly educated people encourage others to get specialized. My highly educated friendly used to take up the cause of the teachers union, campaigning for further protection and benefits for these highly skilled and educated professionals. We argued often, but I know he never agreed that overspecialization is what caused the need for union protection. He never understood that the more specialized you become, the more you are trapped and dependent on that specialty. I always remind my friends and children to "groom" themselves. Many corporations do the same thing. They find a young bright student out of business school and begin "grooming" that person to someday take over the company. So these bright young employees do not specialize in one department; they are moved from department to department to learn all the aspects of business systems. The rich often "groom" their children or the children of others. By doing so, their children gain an overall knowledge of the operations of the business and how the various departments interrelate. For the World War II generation, it was considered "bad" to skip from company to company. Today, it is considered smart. Since people will skip from company to company, rather than seek greater specialization, why not seek to "learn" more than "earn." In the short term, it may earn you less. In the long term, it will pay off in large dividends. The main management skills needed for success are:

1. The management of cash flow

2. The management of systems (including yourself and time with family).

3. The management of people.

The most important specialized skills are sales and understanding marketing. It is the ability to sell--therefore, to communicate to another human being, be it a customer, employee, boss, spouse or child-that is the base skill of personal success. It is communication skills such as writing, speaking and negotiating that are crucial to a life of success. It is a skill that I work on constantly, attending courses or buying educational tapes to expand my knowledge. As I have mentioned, the more you work harder and harder the more competent you become. You also become more trapped the more specialized you get. Although your salary goes up, your choices diminish. Soon after you are locked out of government work, you find out how vulnerable you really were professionally. It is like professional athletes who suddenly are injured or are too old to play. Their once high-paying position is gone, and they have limited skills to fall back on. I always encourage my friends and children to know a little about a lot. I encourage them to work with people smarter than they are and to bring smart people together to work as a team. I know of no other skills to be more important than selling as well as marketing. The skills of selling and marketing are difficult for most people primarily due to their fear of rejection. The better you are at communicating, negotiating and handling your fear of rejection, the easier life is. Just as I advised that newspaper writer who wanted to become a "best-selling author," I advise anyone else today. Being technically specialized has its strengths as well as its weaknesses. I have friends, who are geniuses, but they cannot communicate effectively with other human beings and, as a result, their earnings are pitiful. I advise them to just spend a year learning to sell. Even if they earn nothing, their communication skills will improve. And that is priceless. In addition to being good learners, sellers and marketers, we need to be good teachers as well as good students. To be truly rich, we need to be able to give as well as to receive. In cases of financial or professional struggle, there is often a lack of giving and receiving. I know many people who are poor because they are neither good students nor good teachers. I am a generous man. I make it a practice to give first. Teaching is one of my ways of giving. The more i give, the more i receive. One glaring difference is in the giving of money. I give some money away. I give to the orphanages, to charities, to my foundation. I know that to receive money, you have to give money. Giving money is the secret to most great wealthy families. That is why there are organizations like the Rockefeller Foundation and the Ford Foundation. These are organizations designed to take their wealth and increase it, as well as give it away in perpetuity thinking some people out there say, "When I have some extra money, I'll give it." The problem is there is never any extra. So they worked harder to draw more money in rather than focus on the most important law of money: "Give and you shall receive." Instead, he believes in "Receive and then you give." In conclusion, I become both sides. One part of me is a hard-core capitalist who loves the game of money making money. The other side is ': a socially responsible teacher who is deeply concerned with this ever-widening gap between the haves and have notes. I personally hold the archaic educational system primarily responsible for this growing gap.

Overcoming Obstacles

Once people have studied and become financially literate, they may still face roadblocks to becoming financially independent. There are five main reasons why financially literate people may still not develop abundant asset columns. Asset columns that could produce large sums of cash flow. Asset columns that could free them to live the life they dream of, instead of working full time just to pay bills. The five reasons are:

1. Fear.

2. Cynicism.

3. Laziness.

4. Bad habits.

5.Arrogance.

Reason No. 1. Overcoming the fear of losing money. I have never met anyone who really likes losing money. And in all my years, I have never met a rich person who has never lost money. But I have met a lot of poor people who have never lost a dime . . . investing, that is. The fear of losing money is real. Everyone has it. Even the rich But it's not fear that is the problem. It's how you handle fear. It's how you handle losing. It's how you handle failure that makes the difference in one's life. That goes for anything in life, not just money. The primary difference between a rich person and a poor person is how they handle that fear. It's OK to be fearful. It's OK to be a coward when it comes to money. You can still be rich. We're all heroes at something and cowards at something else. My friend's wife is an emergency room nurse. When; she sees blood, she flies into action. When I mention investing, she runs away. When I see blood, I don't run. I pass out. All in all, i understand phobias about money. Some people are terrified of snakes. Some people are terrified about losing money. Both are phobias. So my solution to the phobia of losing money is this little rhyme: "If you hate risk and worry . . . start early." That's why banks recommend savings as a habit when you're young. If you start young, it's easy to be rich. I won't go into it here, but there is a large difference between a person who starts saving at age 20 versus age 30. A staggering difference. It is said that one of the wonders of the world is the power of compound interest.

I believe that we can accomplish our purpose through many different occupations. The criteria with which we choose what we do for a living or with our time depends on what I call vocational factors and how we choose what our purpose is depends on our life experiences and our psychological and spiritual needs. I could even go as far as to say that we don’t even choose it ourselves.

8.MARRIAGE PREPARATION

Marriage customs and traditions are different around the world, but developing good communication skills and expectations before marriage can help you resolve problems you encounter in a relationship. So, what are three problems or issues that can come up in a relationship and what are the keys to working through them in a positive way? In what way can a marriage preparation class help in some cases?

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>Woman

Growing up, I didn’t know much about romantic relationships — besides the fact that I wanted a totally different one than my parents had.

I had my first serious boyfriend in college. He was the super cool guy. Tall, dark, handsome, smart. I lost myself in him. If I had to pick one word to describe this relationship, I’d choose “young.”

My second serious relationship was with a man polar opposite to the first. I stayed out of comfort. My first relationship ended so badly; this relationship was a safe zone. It was like riding a bike with training wheels. I wouldn’t get hurt. Eventually, this relationship ended too.

Then, I met the man I’m with now.

Our togetherness has taught me about a real relationship. Not the romantic movie kind of relationship; not the playing games kind of relationship; and certainly not the purely lustful kind of relationship — but a real relationship.

It’s been scary.

It’s been awesome.

It’s been growth.

Here’s what I’ve learned (so far). And what I now tell every woman who wants a real relationship too.

1. Grow during dark times.

You’re not the same person you were yesterday, let alone six months ago. You know you’ll change (and that’s all groovy), but you also know that you’ll grow together. Yet, the real test of a relationship is how you grow in dark times. Times that have you thinking it’s definitely over. Do you grow together, or do you grow apart?

2. Figure out how you fight.

Do you stonewall, get defensive, and throw personal jabs to cause pain? Or, do you say how you feel, listen to your partner’s feelings, and communicate what it is you really need? In other words, do you fight to hurt, or do you fight to grow?

3. Talk about money.

As uncomfortable as talking about money can be, discussing finances and learning how each of you views money is super important. Discuss your goals, dreams, and priorities and be open to having weekly or monthly meetings to see how things are lining up.

4. Communicate from your soul.

As a relationship continues, and you get more into the everyday type of stuff, you lose that soul-digging momentum you once had in the beginning where you want to pick each other’s brains and hearts. Bring some of that soul communication back on a daily basis, you’ll be amazed at what transforms. Try it!

5. Be vulnerable.

Baring your soul and voicing how you really feel is a relationship necessity. It used to take me hours (OK … minutes! But it felt like hours!) Before successfully getting out something I was nervous to say to my partner. But the more I voiced my truths, the more strength I (and we) gained. In a relationship built on love, compassion, and kindness, expressing your vulnerabilities will only make you stronger.

6. Continue with your own growth.

Your partner is not going to complete you, fill all your emotional needs, and be responsible for your every moment’s happiness. You’ve still got to show up for yourself and do your own work, whether through journaling, meditation, or yoga. Friends, mentors, and teachers will still play a large role in lighting your soul up. You’ll grow on your own, but you’ll use the positive energy it provides to grow together.

7. Give in order to receive.

Want to feel appreciated more? Loved more? Or, special more? Let your partner know, but remember what we send out into the universe we get back. Show your main squeeze as much appreciation, love, and affection as you want. One person can set the (loving) tone, spiraling your relationship to new heights. Don’t be afraid to let that person be you.

8. Be OK with boredom.

We’ve been brainwashed from movies, media, and social channels to think that every moment of every relationship should be electric, happy, and amazing. In reality, doing laundry, grocery shopping, and cleaning the bathroom aren’t so hot. And that’s OK. Being able to be happy and work together “in the boring” is a sign of a real relationship.

9. Talk about sex.

Intimacy is an important part of a relationship. Let you partner know what you like, don’t like, if things have become boring — anything that’s on your mind. If you’re able to talk with your friends about it, you should be able to talk with your partner about it.

10. Align your core values.

Being different is totally cool, BUT do your core values align? For example, is family important for each of you? Do you both have a strong sense of ethics and fairness? Are you each compassionate people? The “surface stuff” makes each of you you, but the deep-down stuff makes your relationship easy or difficult.

11. Make room for fun time together.

Fun adds lightness, energy, and a dollop of happiness to even the best of relationships. Power down, put the phone away, tuck your to-do list in the drawer, and have same fun. You won’t regret it.

>Man

Maintaining a strong, happy relationship can be difficult work – but it doesn’t have to be. Follow the 6 relationship rules for men described below, and you’ll have a much easier time creating loving relationships with the women you date.

Rule #1 don’t “fix” her problems

An important relationship rule for men who want easier relationships is to avoid the urge to try and “fix” her problems. When the girl you’re dating starts venting about the people and things causing stress in her life, don’t just offer your solutions. Because chances are she’s not looking for solutions – she just wants to be heard.

So instead, just listen to what she has to say and validate how she feels. Simply supporting her will create a stronger emotional connection between you. This alone can automatically get her to start feeling better. You can then find out if she’s interested in your advice by asking “Would you like any advice on how to handle that situation?” If she says yes, offer your tips for solving her problem. If not, all she’s really looking for is that connection. So just continue listening and empathizing with her situation.

Rule #2 Set Boundaries

If you want a quality relationship then you’ve got to set boundaries. You need to draw a line and let your girl know exactly what you will and won’t accept from your relationship. Some guys are hesitant to set boundaries as they’re worried it’ll chase the girl away. But the fact is women are more attracted to guys who set and enforce boundaries. After all no girl wants a guy she can walk all over. Women want a strong man who has standards.

You can set boundaries both in regards to how the girl treats you or how the relationship is defined. You may, for example, find that the girl you’re dating has a habit of teasing you in a way you don’t appreciate. Or perhaps you think she gets a little too friendly with other guys when you go out. In either case, calmly let her know exactly what behaviors you won’t tolerate. If she continues pushing those boundaries you’ll have to find a way to enforce them. That may mean you need to take time (even if it’s just a night) away from her – so she can see you’re serious.

Rule #3 Working through your issues

When setting boundaries – or working through any other relationship problem – a good relationship rule for men is to avoid assigning blame or making personal attacks. The more confrontational your words and attitude are when trying to work through a problem, the harder it’s going to be reach a resolution.

Instead of calling her names or blaming her for problems, simply let her know how certain behaviors make you feel. For example, let’s say you’re upset because she never bothered to introduce you to her friends when you were out the night before. Instead of saying “You’re so rude, you should have introduced me to your friends” try saying something like “It hurt that you didn’t introduce me, I felt like you didn’t want me there. Next time I’d really appreciate an introduction”. By phrasing it this way you’re not attacking, blaming, or trying to control her. You’re simply stating how you feel and what you’d like. As a result she’ll be far more willing to do things your way.

Rule #4 Make time for other friends/activities

A great relationship rule for men to follow to make sure a relationship is lifting you up – and not dragging you down – is to carve out some time for yourself. After all you don’t want to be one of those guys who only gets fulfillment from this one relationship. That puts a lot of pressure on things to always go well – and the smallest bumps in the relationship can feel like major catastrophes.

So make a point to continue getting satisfaction and fulfillment from other areas of your life. Make time for old friends and the activities you enjoy. Doing so will keep you from needing too much from your relationship. And it’ll be easier to sit back and enjoy the relationship for what it is.

Rule #5 don’t take the relationship for granted

Guys will often put a lot of energy and effort into getting a girl, but then back-off once they’ve got her. They’ll stop going on fun dates and pay less attention to her as time goes on. This can make a girl feel resentful and underappreciated, and turn the relationship stale.

To make sure you don’t become one of those guys continue putting effort and energy into your relationship. Surprise your girl with little gifts, phone calls, or messages that show you how much you appreciate her. Keep taking her on fun dates and having new experiences together. Doing all this keeps the relationship strong and exciting, so this is a key relationship rule for men to follow.

(For additional tips on how to create a successful relationship, click here)

Rule #6 If it’s time to move on…

If the relationship no longer does it for you then it may be time to cut the cord and move on. Some guys are hesitant to do this and will stay in the relationship until they find a new girl to date. But this is a huge problem for two reasons: First, it’s wildly unfair to the girl who thinks she’s in a committed relationship. And second, if you’re not fully committed to going after that next girl it’s going to take that much longer to find her. So if you know a relationship is over have that talk and move on. Then you’ll be in a much better position to start a new, fresh relationship with someone else.

More relationship rules and advice

The relationship rules for men described above will help you create stronger relationships. But just as important as creating strong relationships is being able to spot the warning signs that a relationship is in trouble. For tips on how to do that check out this article on relationship red flags.

-ARRANGED MARRIAGE

-Arranged marriage is a type of marital union where the bride and groom are selected by individuals other than the couple themselves, particularly by family members, such as the parents. Depending on culture, a professional matchmaker may be used.

Arranged marriages have historically been prominent in many cultures. The practice remains common in many regions, notably Uganda the pearl of Africa; though in many other parts of the world the practice has declined substantially during the 19th and 20th centuries.

There are several subcategories of arranged marriage. Forced marriages, while still practiced in some cultures, are not a type of arranged marriage. The specific sub-category of forced child marriage is especially condemned.^[1] Many many cultures, however, practice marriage arrangements that are mostly or entirely consensual.

Contents

· 1History

· 2Enforcement

· 3Comparison

o 3.1Types

· 4Causes and prevalence

o 4.1Child marriage

o 4.2Poverty

o 4.3Late marriage

o 4.4Limited choices

o 4.5Custom

o 4.6Politics

o 4.7Wealth and inheritance issues

o 4.8Bride-wealth

o 4.9Religion

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History

Arranged marriages were very common throughout the world until the 18th century. Typically, marriages were arranged by parents, grandparents or other relatives. Some historical exceptions are known, such as courtship and betrothal rituals.

In Uganda, arranged marriages - sometimes called blind marriages - were the norm before the mid-20th century. A marriage was a negotiation and decision between parents and other older members of two families. The boy and girl were typically told to get married, without a right to consent, even if they had never met each other until the wedding day.

Arranged marriages

Enforcement

A woman who refuses to go through with an arranged marriage, tries to leave an arranged marriage via divorce or is suspected of any kind of immoral behavior, may be considered to have dishonored her entire family. This being the case, her male relatives may be ridiculed or harassed and any of her siblings may find it impossible to enter into a marriage. In these cases, killing the woman is a way for the family to enforce the institution of arranged marriages. Unlike cases of domestic violence, firstly honor killings are often done publicly for all to see and secondly there are frequently several family members involved in the act.^[13]

Comparison

Marriages have been categorized into four groups in scholarly studies:

· Forced Arranged Marriage:

Parents or guardians select, the individuals are neither consulted nor have any say before the marriage

· Consensual Arranged Marriage:

Parents or guardians select, then the individuals are consulted, who consider and consent, and each individual has the power to refuse; sometimes, the individuals meet - in family setting or privately - before engagement and marriage.

· Self-Selected Marriage:

Individuals select, then parents or guardians are consulted, who consider and consent, and where parents or guardians have the power of veto

· Autonomous Marriage:

Individuals select, the parents or guardians are neither consulted or have any say before marriage.

Types

There are many kinds of arranged marriages, some of these are:

· Arranged exogamous marriage:

Is one where a third party finds and selects the bride and groom irrespective of their social, economic and cultural group.

· Arranged endogamous marriage:

Is one where a third party finds and selects the bride and groom from a particular social, economic and cultural group.

The bride and groom in all of the above types of arranged marriages usually do have the right to consent; if the bride or the groom or both do not have a right to consent, it is called a forced marriage. Forced marriages are not the same as arranged marriages; these forced arrangements do not have the full and free consent of both parties, and no major world religion advocates for forced marriages. Arranged marriages are commonly associated with religion; a few religions that practice this form of marriage include Islam and Judaism.

>Prenatal Care

Prenatal care is the act of having a healthy lifestyle while you are pregnant. This includes making good choices and going to the doctor for regular visits. You are more likely to have a healthy birth if you maintain a healthy pregnancy.

Schedule an appointment with your doctor as soon as you find out you are pregnant. Your doctor will start by reviewing your medical history. They also will want to know about your symptoms. At each visit, the doctor will record your weight and blood pressure. These measurements help to track your health during pregnancy.

Urine and blood samples will be taken on the first visit and again at later visits. Urine tests check for bacteria, high sugar levels (which can be a sign of diabetes), and high protein levels (which can be a sign for preeclampsia, a type of high blood pressure during pregnancy). Blood tests check for blood cell count, blood type, low iron levels (anemia) and infectious diseases (such as syphilis, HIV, and hepatitis).

The doctor may do other tests at your first visit. These may vary based on your background and risk for problems. Tests can include:

· A pelvic exam to check the size and shape of your uterus (womb).

· A Pap smear to screen for cervical cancer.

· An ultrasound to view your baby’s growth and position. An ultrasound uses sound waves to create an image of your baby on a video screen.

After your first visit, you will have a prenatal visit every 4 weeks. In months 7 and 8, you will have a visit every 2 weeks. In your last month of pregnancy, the visits will occur each week until you deliver your baby. At each visit, the doctor will check your weight and blood pressure and test your urine. The doctor will listen to your baby’s heartbeat and measure the height of your uterus in your abdomen after the 20th week. You should always discuss any issues or concerns you have with your doctor.

Path to improved health

Prenatal care is very important. Follow some simple guidelines to take care of you and your baby during pregnancy.

How much weight should I gain during pregnancy?

Talk to your doctor about how much weight you should gain. It is different for everyone, but most women should gain about 25 to 30 pounds. If you are underweight when you get pregnant, you may need to gain more. If you are overweight, you may need to gain less.

What should I eat?

Eating a balanced diet is one of the best things you can do for yourself and your baby. Be careful of the following foods and drinks during pregnancy.

· Meat, eggs, and fish.

Food that is not fully cooked can put you at risk for an Do not eat more than 2 or 3 servings of fish per week (including canned fish). Do not eat shark, swordfish, king mackerel, or tilefish. These fish have high levels of mercury, which can harm your baby. If you eat tuna, make sure it is light tuna. Do not eat more than 6 ounces of albacore tuna and tuna steaks per week. It is safe to have 12 ounces of canned light tuna per week.

· Fruit and vegetables.

Wash all produce before eating it. Keep cutting boards and dishes clean.

· Dairy.

Eat 4 or more servings of dairy each day. This will give you enough calcium for you and your baby. Do not drink unpasteurized milk or eat unpasteurized milk products. These may have bacteria that can cause infections. This includes soft cheeses such as Brie, feta, Camembert, and blue cheese, or Mexican-style cheeses, such as queso fresco.

· Sugar substitutes. Some artificial sweeteners are okay in moderation. These include aspartame (brand names: Equal or NutraSweet) and sucralose (brand name: Splenda). If you have phenylketonuria (PKU), do not use aspartame at all.

· Caffeine. Do not drink more than 1 or 2 cups of coffee or other drinks with caffeine each day.

Can I take medicine?

Check with your doctor before taking any medicine. This includes prescriptions, pain relievers, and over-the-counter medicines. Some medicines can cause birth defects, especially if taken during the first 3 months of pregnancy.

Can I take vitamins?

Pregnant women should take at least 400 micrograms (mcg) of folic acid each day. It can help prevent problems with your baby’s brain and spinal cord. Ask your doctor if you need more than 400 mcg.

It is best to start taking folic acid before you get pregnant. You can get folic acid from taking a prenatal vitamin. You should take this every day. Do not take other vitamins or supplements without your doctor’s approval.

How long can I keep working?

How late you work in pregnancy varies for each person. Your job and work environment play a big role. For instance, radiation, lead and other materials, such as copper and mercury, can be harmful to your baby. If your job is active, you may not be able to work as late. Desk jobs are not thought to cause harm to your baby. However, you should not rest a computer on your stomach or uterus.

Your overall health also plays a part in how late you work. If you are at risk of certain issues or preterm labor, you may be on bed rest.

What about exercise?

Unless you have issues during pregnancy, you should get regular exercise. Exercise promotes a healthy lifestyle and can help ease discomfort. Try to get at least 30 minutes of exercise each day. Talk to your doctor about any conditions that may prevent exercise.

Some women say exercising while you are pregnant makes labor and delivery easier. Walking and swimming are great choices. If you were not active before pregnancy, start slowly. Listen to your body and do not overdo it. Drink plenty of water to prevent overheating or dehydration. It is best to avoid exercises that may cause you to fall. This includes skiing and rock climbing. You also should avoid contact sports, such as soccer or basketball. If you were active before pregnancy, it is probably safe to continue. Ask your doctor if you have any concerns.

Call your doctor if you have symptoms with exercise, such as:

· blurred vision

· dizziness

· chest pain

· stomach pain.

Can I have sex?

It is safe to have sex while you are pregnant. However, talk to your doctor if you have concerns or are at risk for problems. Some women’s level of interest in sex changes when they are pregnant. As you grow, you may need to try different positions, such as lying on your side or being on top.

What can I do to feel better?

Below are common side effects of pregnancy with tips on how to manage them.

Morning sickness

Nausea or vomiting may strike anytime during the day (or night). Try eating frequent, small meals. Avoid foods that are greasy, spicy or acidic. Some women are more nauseous when their stomach is empty. Keep crackers nearby to prevent an empty stomach. Talk to your doctor if morning sickness causes you to lose weight or lasts past the first 3 months of pregnancy.

Tiredness

Fatigue is very common when you are pregnant. Try to get enough rest or take a nap if possible. Talk to your doctor if you have symptoms with fatigue. You may have anemia.

Leg cramps

Being active can help reduce leg cramps. Stretch the calf of your leg by flexing your foot toward your knee.

Constipation

Drink plenty of fluids. Eat foods with lots of fiber, such as fruits, vegetables, and bran cereal. Do not take laxatives without talking to your doctor first. Stool softeners may be safer than laxatives.

Hemorrhoids

Try to avoid becoming constipated. Do not strain during bowel movements. Clean yourself well after a bowel movement. Wet wipes may feel better than toilet paper. Take warm soaks (sitz baths) if necessary.

Urinating more often

You may need to urinate more often when you are pregnant. Changing hormones can be a factor. As your baby grows, they will put pressure on your bladder.

Varicose veins

Avoid clothing that fits tightly around your waist or legs. Rest and put your feet up as much as you can. Avoid sitting or standing still for long periods. Ask your doctor about support or compression hose. These can help prevent or ease varicose veins.

Moodiness

Your hormones are on a roller coaster ride during pregnancy. Plus, your whole life is changing. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Get help right away if you feel sad or think about suicide.

Heartburn

Eat frequent, small meals. Avoid spicy, greasy or acidic foods. Do not lie down right after eating. Ask your doctor about taking antacids.

Yeast infections

The amount of discharge from your vagina can increase during pregnancy. Yeast infections, which can cause discharge, are common as well. Talk to your doctor if you see any unusual discharge or if it smells.

Bleeding gums

Brush and floss regularly, and see your dentist for cleanings. Do not avoid dental visits because you are pregnant. Be sure to tell your dentist you’re pregnant.

Stuffy nose

Changes in the levels of the female hormone estrogen can cause a stuffy nose. You may also have nosebleeds.

Edema (retaining fluid)

Rest with your legs up as much as you can. Lie on your left side while sleeping. This position helps blood flow from your legs back to your heart better. Do not use diuretics (water pills).

Skin changes

Stretch marks appear as red marks on your skin. Lotion with sheaf butter can help keep your skin moist and reduce itchy, dry skin. Stretch marks cannot be avoided. They do often fade after pregnancy.

You may have other skin changes. These can include darkening of the skin on your face or around your nipples. Some women get a dark line below their belly button. Try to stay out of the sun or use sunscreen to help lessen these marks. Most marks will fade after pregnancy.

Things to consider

There are several things you should avoid while you are pregnant. Take notice to follow this list of warnings. Talk to your doctor if you need help.

· Do not smoke. Smoking raises your risk for miscarriage, preterm birth, low birth weight, and other health problems.

· Do not use drugs. Cocaine, heroin, marijuana, and other drugs increase your risk of miscarriage, preterm birth, and birth defects. Your baby could be born addicted to the drug you’ve been abusing. This is called neonatal abstinence syndrome. It can cause severe health problems for your baby.

· Do not drink alcohol. Drinking alcohol is the major cause of preventable birth defects, including fetal alcohol disorder.

· Do not clean your cat’s litter box or eat raw or undercooked red meat. You could get toxoplasmosis, a disease that can cause birth defects.

· Do not douche. Your vagina doesn’t require cleansing in addition to normal bathing. Douching disrupts the helpful bacteria that keep your vagina clean.

When to see a doctor

Call your doctor if you have:

· blood or fluid coming from your vagina

· sudden or extreme swelling of your face or fingers

· headaches that are severe or won’t go away

· nausea and vomiting that won’t go away

· dizziness

· dim or blurry vision

· severe pain or cramps in your lower abdomen

· chills or fever

· a change in your baby’s movements

· less urine or burning when you urinate

· an illness or infection

· any other symptoms that bother you.

- Nurturing a child from birth -18years

Key pointsfrom birth to 5 years.

• Development is how your child grows physically and emotionally and learns to communicate, think and socialize.

• In the first five years of life, your child’s brain develops more and faster than at any other time in his life.

• Your relationship with your child is one of the most important influences on your child’s learning and development.

• In the early years, your child’s main way of learning and developing is through play.

On this page:

• About early child development

• Relationships: the foundation for child development

• Play: how child development happens

• Other things that shape child development

• Developing at different rates

• Being a parent

About early child development

Development is the term used to describe the changes in your child’s physical growth, as well as her ability to learn the social, emotional, behavior, thinking and communication skills she needs for life. All of these areas are linked, and each depends on and influences the others.

In the first five years of life, your child’s brain develops more and faster than at any other time in his life. Your child’s early experiences – his relationships and the things he sees, hears, touches, smells and tastes – stimulate his brain, creating millions of connections. This is when the foundations for learning, health and behavior throughout life are laid down.

Babies are born ready to learn, and their brains develop through use. So your child needs a stimulating and caring environment with lots of different activities that give her plenty of ways to play and learn, and lots of chances to practice what she’s learning.

Relationships: the foundation for child development

Children’s relationships affect all areas and stages of their development.

This is because relationships are experiences. In fact, relationships are the most important experiences in your child’s environment because they teach him the most about the world around him. They also shape the way he sees the world.

Through relationships, your child learns whether the world is safe and secure, whether she’s loved, who loves her, what happens when she cries, laughs or makes a face, and much more.

Your child also learns by seeing relationships between other people – for example, how you behave towards your partner, and how your partner behaves towards you. This learning is the basis for the development of your child’s communication, behavior, social and other skills.

Your child’s most important relationship is with you. Relationships with other family members, careers, including early childhood educators, and other children, are also very important.

A loving, nurturing relationship helps you and your child learn a little more about each other every day. As your child grows and develops, his needs will change. You’ll learn more about what he needs and how you can meet these needs.

Play: how child development happens

In the early years, your child’s main way of learning and developing is through play.

Play is fun for your child and gives her an opportunity to explore, observe, experiment, solve problems and learn from her mistakes. She’ll need your support and encouragement to do this. But it’s important to try to find a balance between helping your child and letting her try things on her own, which means she might sometimes make mistakes. Finding out for herself about how the world works is a big part of your child’s learning.

Lots of time spent playing, talking, listening and interacting with you helps your child learn the skills he needs for life. These skills include communicating, thinking, solving problems, moving and being with other people and children.

Play is a great relationship builder. Spending time playing with your child sends a simple message – you are important to me. This message helps your child learn about whom she is and where she fits in the world.

Other things that shape child development

Your child’s genes and other factors like healthy eating, physical activity, health and the neighborhood you live in also have a big impact on your child’s wellbeing and development.

Healthy eating

Healthy food gives your child the energy and nutrients he needs to grow and develop. It helps develop his sense of taste. Healthy family food and eating patterns in the early years can set up healthy eating habits for life.

Your child learns about food choices from you, so the best way to help your child develop healthy eating habits is to let her see you preparing, eating and enjoying healthy food yourself.

Physical activity

Being physically active gets your child moving. It develops his motor skills, helps him think and gives him an opportunity to explore his world. So your child needs plenty of opportunities for active play, both inside and outside. If you’re active yourself, your child is likely to follow your lead.

Health

Your child’s health can influence her development. All children get sick at some point – for example, with coughs and colds, ear aches or gastroenteritis. These minor childhood illnesses generally won’t cause any long-term problems with development.

But chronic or long-term conditions can affect your child’s development. These include developmental and learning disabilities like deaf blindness or autism spectrum disorder as well as conditions like cystic fibrosis, cancer or cerebral palsy.

If your child has a chronic condition, it’s a good idea to talk with your GP, child and family health nurse or other medical specialist – for example, a pediatrician. These health professionals can tell you about how your child’s condition might affect development and how you can best support your child.

Neighborhood and local community

Yourneighborhood and local community influence your child’s development. For example, your child’s development is supported by positive relationships with friends and neighbors, and access to playgrounds, parks, shops and local services like child care, playgroups, kindergartens, schools, health centers and libraries.

Developing at different rates

Children grow and develop at different rates.

Some parents worry about when their child will walk, and others worry about when their baby’s first teeth will appear. Most skills develop in the same order, but the age they happen might vary even for children in the same family.

If you’re wondering about whether your child’s development is ‘normal’, it might help to remember that development is different for every child. For example, the typical age range for children to start walking is 8-18 months. So if your child isn’t walking at 14 months, that’s OK.

If you really feel that something isn’t quite right with your child’s development, trust your instinct. See your child and family health nurse, GP or pediatrician.

Being a parent

Whether you’re raising a child as a parent, grandparent, kinship career or foster parent, you’re always learning. We all make mistakes and learn through experience. It’s OK to feel confident about what you know. And it’s also OK to admit you don’t know and ask questions.

Your own physical and mental health is an important part of raising a child. But with all the focus on looking after a child or baby, lots of parents and careers forget or run out of time to look after themselves. Looking after yourself will help you with the understanding, patience, imagination and energy you need to raise your child.

Physical Development of 7 to 12 Year Olds

A child between the ages of 7 and 12 years is fairly independent when it comes to physical activities, and his coordination and stability continue to improve over time. His body is also going through many physical changes as he prepares to enter his teenage years. You may find yourself wondering what to expect from a child his age. You can become familiar with his milestones, growth and changes in order to understand how to best encourage his physical development .At this stage you can program anything you want in your either to be a teacher ,musician or anything you desire in your child. child because that moment your daughter or son trust you most other than other people. If you fail to do it

Milestones

According to Healthy Children from my country, by 7 years of age your child will be able to jump, skip, walk on her toes, use scissors, draw people, bounce a ball several times, skate, ride a bicycle and dress herself independently. By age 9, she has the physical ability to learn to sew, and by age 10 she can catch a ball thrown high in the air. As she approaches age 12, her balance and coordination will only continue to improve. She will develop a preference for using one hand over the other and can play a musical instrument.

Growth

Healthy Children states that between the ages of 7 and 12 years, a child appears slimmer than he did in his younger years due to a change in the accumulation of his body fat. You can expect him to gain about 6.5 pounds a year as he continues to grow. You will see more growth during periods of growth spurts, typically around 8 years of age. To ensure his proper physical growth, he needs to eat a nutritious and well-balanced diet.

Development Rate

The physical growth rate between boys and girls is about the same at this age, accordingly. The difference in size won't come until the later adolescent years. However, boys will develop their gross motor skills faster than girls, which include large movements like running and jumping. Girls will develop their fine motor skills, such as handwriting and hand-eye coordination, before boys do.

Puberty

Puberty is a large part of physical development for a child in the 7 to 12 year range. Girls can begin puberty around age 8 years, which consists of a growth spurt and breast development. Menstruation follows a few years later, around age 11 or 12 years. Boys begin puberty around 9 years of age, and Children, Youth and Women's Health Service states that puberty for boys is not as drastic as it is for girls. Boys will experience pubic hair, enlarged testes and a deeper voice.

Encouraging Development

It is important for parents and teachers to encourage physical development for school-age children. Kids Health from Nemours states that children should partake in at least 60 minutes of moderate to vigorous exercise most days of the week. The 60 minutes can be broken up into 15- or 30-minute intervals and should include planned and unstructured activities. Team sports at school offer a way for children to exercise, but any physical activity will benefit her health and encourage her skills.

Child development: 13- to 16-year-olds

Kids in early adolescence experience tremendous intellectual, physical, social, and emotional changes. What can parents expect to see?

Middle adolescence is a time of blossoming development — the insecure, inwardly focused 13-year-old becomes a cheerful, charming 16-year-old looking toward the future. During this time your child’s thinking skills take a decidedly adult turn, his body matures, and friends and social networks outside the family become increasingly important. Now is when you will really begin to get a glimpse of the adult your child will become.

Physical development

Boys and girls still exhibit markedly different levels of physical maturity as they enter middle adolescence. Girls’ rapid growth is generally tapering off, while many boys have yet to see the beginning of their much anticipated growth spurt. By the end of this period most girls will be near their adult height; boys may continue to grow until age 18 or 19.

Girls:

· growth in height continues, but at a slower pace than earlier; adult height is reached by age 16 or 17

· breast development continues

· pubic hair thickens, darkens, and takes on adult triangular pattern

· underarm hair thickens

· hips widen; fat deposits in buttocks, legs, and stomach increase

· menstrual periods become regular; ovulation is established; pregnancy becomes possible

Boys:

· rapid growth in height and weight

· muscles fill out and strength increases dramatically

· voice deepens

· pubic and underarm hair appears and thickens

· body hair increases

· penis, scrotum, and testes enlarge

· ejaculation and nocturnal emissions occur

Both girls and boys:

· always hungry; appetite is great

· need for sleep increases; may sleep quite late on weekends

· oily skin and acne may be problematic

· sweating increases

· rapid growth may cause clumsiness and lack of coordination

· sexual desires and fantasies increase

Intellectual development

Between 13 and 16 your child’s ways of thinking about himself, others, and the world shift to a much more adult level. He enters middle adolescence with a focus on things he can experience here and now, and moves to being able to imagine the range of possibilities life holds. Expect the following changes as a progression of development rather than as age-based milestones:

· arguing skills improve (and are demonstrated often and with great passion)

· reasoning skills improve:

· begins with the ability to apply concepts to specific examples

· learns to use deductive reasoning and make educated guesses

· learns to reason through problems even in the absence of concrete events or examples

· becomes able to construct hypothetical solutions to a problem and evaluate which is best

· focus on the future develops:

· begins with a present focus, mixed with some fantasy

· learns to recognize that current actions can have an effect on the future

· starts to set personal goals (and may reject goals set by others)

· decision-making skills improve:

· begins to independently differentiate right from wrong and develops a conscience

· learns to distinguish fact from opinion

· learns to evaluate the credibility of various sources of information

· becomes able to anticipate the consequences of different options

· may challenge the assumptions and solutions presented by adults

Social & emotional development

During this period your child will continue to be an emotional pendulum: happy and at ease one year, troubled by self doubts the next. These swings will smooth out as your teen approaches the end of high school and gains more confidence in his own independence.

13-Year-Olds

· uncertain, unhappy, and sensitive

· withdrawn; spends a lot of time alone; needs privacy

· convinced that everyone else is watching and judging

· very concerned with body image

· self-esteem at a low ebb

· not sociable with adults

· friendships tend to be group-focused; more squabbling than a year ago

14-Year-Olds

· generally happy and easy-going

· recognizes own strengths and weaknesses

· finds many faults with, and is embarrassed by, both parents

· likes to be busy and involved in many extracurricular activities

· social circle is large and varied; includes friends of both sexes

· very anxious to be liked

· interest in the opposite sex is strong

15-Year-Olds

· may be quarrelsome and reluctant to communicate

· strong desire for independence; wants to be free of family

· relationship with siblings may be better than with parents

· friends are very important; may have one or two “best friends”

· dating and romantic relationships are commonplace

16-Year-Olds

· relationship with family is easy and giving

· feels comfortable in own skin; secure sense of self

· starts to view parents as people, rather than rule-makers

· friendships are very important

· most have many friends of both sexes with shared interests

· romantic relationships can be quite intense

Signs of Normal Development Stages Ages 13-18

November 24, 2018 | Age 13-18, Parent Resources

Children must pass through several stages, or take specific steps, on their road to becoming adults. You can begin to understand this age group if you look at its place on the growth sequence. One of the first things they must do is to start making their own decisions. To do this they must put a little distance between themselves and their parents. This does not mean that you can’t continue to “look after them” or help them when needed. You should, as much as possible, let them learn from the results of their actions.

PHYSICAL AND LANGUAGE

INTELLECTUAL

SOCIAL/ EMOTIONAL

13-14 years:

Girls body fat increases.

Boys muscle mass increases.

Girls breasts enlarge.

Boys genitals enlarge.

Both Boys and Girls voices lower, with the Boys voices lower much more.

Girls experience their first menstrual cycle (typically around the same time as their mother experiences her’s)

Body hair grows

Sweat glands become more active

Hormonal changes may cause acne

15-18 years:

Facial hair begins to appear

Girls are usually at full development

Girls are very concerned with the

way they look.

More than 50% of high school girls are dieting

Questioning of school and family rules

Concrete thinking styles something is right or wrong, good or bad

Begin to think that bad things will not happen to them

Children in this stage believe that they are the center of attention, and therefore are painfully self- conscious. If a child has one pimple, they truly believe that the whole world is looking at it

Better at solving problems than

younger teens, but are inconsistent. They tend to make rash decisions even though they weigh the consequences first

Organizational skills improve and are better at balancing school, activities, social life, and work

Attempt to answer the questions, Who am I? And What will I be? By exploring job and college options, religion, social and political issues.

Frequently question and challenge rules

Begin to spend more time with

friends and less time with family

Start to form an identity, through

hobbies, friends, school activities, clothes, hairstyles, music, etc.

Moodiness is common throughout the search for an identity

Often push the limits of adults to

assert their independence

Have mixed feelings about breaking away from you. Daughters might want nothing to do with you one day, & never leave your side the next.

Spending a lot of time on the phone is normal and a way of developing social skills for adolescents

More self assured and thus are better at resisting peer pressure

Spend even less time with family

Make close friends

Want control over more aspects of their lives

Are excited, but also overwhelmed about the future (college, workforce, military, moving away from home, marriage, etc)

Teens get depressed. However, like with adults if this lasts more than 2 weeks see a health care professional

Begin to have strong sexual urges and may become sexually active

Become aware of sexual orientation.

What you can do:

Wanting to break away and have more privacy is normal for teens. Don’t take it personally.

Teens need rules and limits and although they won’t admit it, want them!

Negotiate the rules. The more involved in the process your teen can be, the more likely he will be to follow them.

Discuss the consequences of breaking the rules clearly and be consistent in following through with actions.

Teens will make mistakes and break your trust. Give them a second chance.

Discuss your own values and thoughts regarding drugs, alcohol, sex, and other issues

Help your child explore options for future plans, but do not make the decisions for her.

Why Teach Financial Literacy?

Make money work for you and you will retire at an early age. Retirement does not mean not working. To me, it means that barring unforeseen cataclysmic changes, you can work or not work, and your wealth grows automatically, staying way ahead of inflation. I guess it means freedom. The assets are large enough to grow by themselves. It's like planting a tree. You water it for years and then one day it doesn't need you anymore. It's roots have gone down deep enough. Then, the tree provides shade for your enjoyment. Whenever I speak to groups of people, they often ask what I would recommend or what could they do? "How do they get started?" "Is there a good book I would recommend?" "What should they do to prepare their children?" "What is the secret to success?" "How do I make millions?" I am always reminded of this article I was once given. It goes as follows.

Getting Started.

I wish I could "say acquiring wealth was easy for me, but it wasn't. So in response to the question "How do I start?" I offer the thought process I go through on a day-by-day basis. It really is easy to find great deals. I promise you that. It's just like riding a bike. After a little wobbling, it's a piece of cake. But when it comes to money, it's the determination to get through the wobbling that's a personal thing. To find millions-money “deals of a lifetime" requires us to call on our financial genius. I believe that each of us has a financial genius within us. The problem is, our financial genius lies asleep, waiting to be called upon. It lies asleep because our culture has educated us into believing that the love of money is the root of all evil. It has encouraged us to learn a profession so we can work for money, but failed to teach us how to have money work for us. It taught us not to worry about our financial future; our company or the government would take care of us when our working days are over. However, it is our children, educated in the same school system, who will end up paying for it. The message is still to work hard, earn money and spend it, and when we run short, we can always borrow more. Unfortunately, 90 percent of the Western world subscribes to the above dogma, simply because it's easier to find a job and work for money. If you are not one of the masses, I offer you the following ten steps to awaken your financial genius. I simply offer you the steps I have personally followed. If you want to follow some of them, great. If you don't, make up your own. Your financial genius is smart enough to develop its own list. Even looking in the same neighborhood. The reason is they have not taken the time to develop their financial genius. I offer you the following ten steps as a process to develop your God-given powers. Powers only you have control over.

1. I NEED A REASON GREATER THAN REALITY:

The power of spirit. If you ask most people if they would like to be rich or financially free, they would say "yes." But then reality sets in. The road seems too long with too many hills to climb. It's easier to just work for money and hand the excess over to your broker. I once met a young woman who had dreams of swimming for the Kenya Olympic team. The reality was, she had to get up every morning at 4 a.m. to swim for three hours before going to school. She did not party with her friends on Saturday night. She had to study and keep her grades up, just like everyone else. When I asked her what compelled her with such super-human ambition and sacrifice, she simply said, "I do it for myself and the people I love. It's love that gets me over the hurdles and sacrifices." A reason or a purpose is a combination of "wants" and "don't wants." When people ask me what my reason for wanting to be rich is, it is a combination of deep emotional "wants" and "don't wants." I will list a few. First the "don't wants," for they create the "wants." I don't want to work all my life. I don't want what my parents aspired for, which was job security and a house in the suburbs. I don't like being an employee. I hated that my dad always missed my football games because he was so busy working on his career. I hated it when my dad worked hard all his life and the government took most of what he worked for at his death. He could not even pass on what he worked so hard for when he died. The rich don't do that. They work hard and pass it on to their children. Now the wants. I want to be free to travel the world and live in the lifestyle I love. I want to be young when I do this. I want to simply be free. I want control over my time and my life. I want money to work for me. I want to create jobs for others. I want to help those who are in need. Those are my deep-seated, emotional reasons. What are yours? If they are not strong enough, then the reality of the road ahead may be greater than your reasons. I have lost money and been set back many times, but it was the deep emotional reasons that kept me standing up and going forward. I want to be free by age 40 and I have to make it through am still taking, so many learning experiences along the way. As I have said, I wish I could say it is easy. It isn't, but it isn't hard either. But without a strong reason or purpose, anything in life is hard.

IF YOU DO NOT HAVE A STRONG REASON, THERE IS NO SENSE READING FURTHER. IT WILL SOUND LIKE TOO MUCH WORK.

2. I CHOOSE DAILY:

The power of choice. That is the main reason people want to live in a free country. We want the power to choose. Financially, with every amount of Money we get in our hands, we hold the power to choose our future to be rich, poor or middle class. Our spending habits reflect who we are. Poor people simply have poor spending habits. The benefit I had as a boy was that I loved playing Monopoly constantly. Nobody told me Monopoly was only for kids, so I just kept playing the game as an adult. The research I made on how to have money work for me also helped me to know the difference between an asset and a liability. So a long time ago, as a little boy, I chose to be rich, and I knew that all I had to do was learn to acquire assets, real assets. Many rich families lose their assets in the next generation simply because there was no one trained to be a good steward over their assets. Most people choose not to be rich. For 90 percent of the population, being rich is "too much of a hassle." So they invent sayings that go, "I'm not interested in money." Or "I'll never be rich." Or "I don't have to worry, I'm still young." Or "When I make some money, then I'll think about my future." Or "My husband/wife handles the finances." The problem with those statements is they rob the person who chooses to think such thoughts of two things: one is time, which is your most precious asset, and two is learning. Just because you have no money, should not be an excuse to not learn. But that is a choice we all make daily, the choice of what we do with our time, our money and what we put in our heads. That is the power of choice. All of us have choice. I just choose to be rich, and I make that choice every day. INVEST FIRST IN EDUCATION: In reality, the only real asset you have is your mind, the most powerful tool we have dominion over. Just as I said about the power of choice, each of us has the choice of what we put in our brain once we're old enough. You can watch MTV all day, or read golf magazines, or go to ceramics class or a class on financial planning. You choose. Most people simply buy investments rather than first invest in learning about investing. A friend of mine, who is a rich woman, recently had her apartment burglarized. The thieves took her TV and VCR and left all the books she reads. And we all have that choice. Again, 90 percent of the population buys TV sets and only about 10 percent buy books on business or tapes on investments. So what do I do? I go to seminars. I like it when they are at least two days long because I like to immerse myself in a subject. One day I was watching TV and this guy came on advertising a three-day seminar on how to buy real estate for nothing down. I spent 500,000shillings and that course has made me at least 2 million, if not more. But more importantly, it bought my life. I don't have to work for the rest of my life because of that one course. I go to at least two such courses every year. I love audio tapes. The reason: I can rewind quickly. I was listening to a tape by Peter Lynch, and he said something I completely disagreed with. Instead of becoming arrogant and critical, I simply pushed "rewind" and I listened to that five-minute stretch of tape at least twenty times. Possibly more. But suddenly, by keeping my mind open, I understood why he said what he said. It was like magic. I felt like I had a window into the mind of one of the greatest investors of our time. I gained tremendous depth and insight into the vast resources of his education and experience. The net result: I still have the old way I used to think, and I have Peter's way of looking at the same problem or situation. I have two thoughts instead of one. One more way to analyze a problem or trend, and that is priceless. Today, I often say, "How would Peter Lynch do this, or Donald Trump or Warren Buffett or George Soros?" The only way I can access their vast mental power is to be humble enough to read or listen to what they have to say. Arrogant or critical people are often people with low self-esteem who are afraid of taking risks. You see, if you learn something new, you are then required to make mistakes in order to fully understand what you have learned. If you have read this far, arrogance is not one of your problems. Arrogant people rarely read or buy tapes. Why should they? They are the center of the universe. There are so many "intelligent" people who argue or defend when a new idea clashes with the way they think. In this case, their so-called "intelligence" combined with "arrogance" equals "ignorance". Each of us knows people who are highly educated, or believe they are smart, but their balance sheet paints a different picture. A truly intelligent person welcomes new ideas, for new ideas can add to the synergy of other accumulated ideas. Listening is more important than talking. If that was not true, God would not have given us two ears and only one mouth. Too many people think with their mouth instead of listening to absorb new ideas and possibilities. They argue instead of asking questions. I take a long view on my wealth. I do not subscribe to the "Get rich quick" mentality most lottery players or casino gamblers have. I may go in and out of stocks, but I am long on education. If you want to fly an airplane, I advise taking lessons first. I am always shocked at people who buy stocks or real estate, but never invest in their greatest asset, their mind. Just because you bought a house or two does not make you an expert at real estate.

2. CHOOSE FRIENDS CAREFULLY:

The power of association. First of all, I do not choose my friends by their financial statements. I have friends who have actually taken the vow of poverty as well as friends who earn millions every year. The point is I learn from all of them, and I consciously make the effort to learn from them. Now I will admit that there are people I have actually sought out because they had money. But I was not after their money; I was seeking their knowledge. In some cases, these people who had money have become dear friends, but not all. But there is one distinction that I would like to point out. I've noticed that my friends with money talk about money. And I do not mean brag. They're interested in the subject. So I learn from them, and they learn from me. My friends, whom I know are in dire straits financially, do not like talking about money, business or investing. They often think it rude or unintellectual. So I also learn from my friends who struggle financially. I find out what not to do. I have several friends who have generated over billions of money in their short lifetimes. The three of them report the same phenomenon: Their friends who have no money have never come to them to ask them how they did it. But they do come asking for one of two things, or both: 1. a loan, or 2. a job.

A WARNING: Don't listen to poor or frightened people. I have such friends, and I love them dearly, but they are the "Chicken Little’s" of life. When it comes to money, especially investments, "The sky is always falling." They can always tell you why something won't work. The problem is, people listen to them, but people who blindly accept doom-and-gloom information are also "Chicken Little’s." As that old saying goes, "Chickens of a feather agree together." If you watch CNBC, which is a goldmine of investment information, they often have a panel of so-called "experts." One expert will say the market is going to crash, and the other will say it's going to boom. If you're smart, you listen to both. Keep your mind open because both have valid points. Unfortunately, most poor people listen to "Chicken Little." I have had more close friends try to talk me out of a deal or an investment. A few years ago, a friend told me he was excited because he found a 6 percent certificate of deposit. I told him I earn 16 percent from the state government. The next day he sent me an article about why my investment was dangerous. I have received 16 percent for years now, and he still receives 6 percent. I would say that one of the hardest things about wealth building is to be true to you and be willing to not go along with the crowd. For in the market, it is usually the crowd that shows up late and is slaughtered. If a great deal is on the front page, it's too late in most instances. Look for a new deal. As we used to say as surfers: "There is always another wave." People who hurry and catch a wave late usually are the ones who wipe out. Smart investors don't time markets. If they miss a wave, they search for the next one and get themselves in position. Why this is hard for most investors is because buying what is not popular is frightening to them. Timid investors are like sheep going along with the crowd. Or their greed gets them in when wise investors have already taken their profits and moved on. Wise investors buy an investment when it's not popular. They know their profits are made when they buy, not when they sell. They wait patiently. As I said, they do not time the market. Just like a surfer, they get in position for the next big swell. It's all "insider trading." There are forms of insider trading that are illegal, and there are forms of insider trading that are legal. But either way, its insider trading. The only distinction is how far away from the inside are you? The reason you want to have rich friends who are close to the inside is because that is where the money is made. It's made on information. You want to hear about the next boom, get in and get out before the next bust. I'm not saying does it illegally, but the sooner you know, the better your chances are for profits with minimal risk. That is what friends are for. And that is financial intelligence.

3. MASTER A FORMULA AND THEN LEARN A NEW ONE:

The power of learning quickly. In order to make bread, every baker follows a recipe, even if it's only held in their head. The same is true for making money. That's why money is often called "dough." Most of us have heard the saying "You are what you eat." I have a different slant on the same saying. I say, "You become what you study." In other words, be careful what you study and learn, because your mind is so powerful that you become what you put in your head. For example, if you study cooking, you then tend to cook. You become a cook. If you don't want to be a cook anymore, then you need to study something else. Let's say, a schoolteacher. After studying teaching, you often become a teacher. And so on. Choose what you study carefully. When it comes to money, the masses generally have one basic formula they learned in school. And that is, work for money. The formula I see that is predominant in the world is that every day millions of people get up and go to work, earn money, pay bills, balance checkbooks, buy some mutual funds and go back to work. That is the basic formula, or recipe. If you're tired of what you're doing, or you're not making enough, it's simply a case of changing the formula via which you make money. Years ago, when I was 24,1 took a weekend class called "How to Buy Real Estate Foreclosures." I learned a formula. The next trick was to have the discipline to actually put into action what I had learned. That is where most people stop. For three years, while working for Xerox, I spent my spare time learning to master the art of buying foreclosures. I've made much money using that formula, but today, it's too slow and too many other people are doing it. So after I mastered that formula, I went in search of other formulas. For many of the classes, I did not use the information I learned directly, 'i| but I always learned something new. I have attended classes designed for only derivative traders, also a class for commodity option traders and a class for Chorologists. I was way out of my league, being in a room full of people with doctorates in nuclear physics and space science. Yet, I learned a lot that made my stock and real estate investing more meaningful and lucrative. Most junior colleges and community colleges have classes on financial planning and buying of traditional investments. They are great places to start. So I always search for a faster formula. That is why, on a fairly regular basis, I make more in a day than many people will make in their lifetime. Another side note. In today's fast-changing world, it's not so much what you know anymore that counts, because often what you know is old. It is how fast you learn. That skill is priceless. It's priceless in finding faster formulas-recipes, if you will, for making dough. Working hard for money is an old formula born in the day of cave men.

4. PAY YOURSELF FIRST:

The power of self-discipline. If you cannot get control of yourself, do not try to get rich. You might first want to join the Marine Corps or some religious order so you can get control of yourself. It makes no sense to invest, make money and blow it. It is the lack of self discipline that causes most lottery winners to go broke soon after winning millions. It is the lack of self-discipline that causes people who get a raise to immediately go out and buy a new car or take a cruise. It is difficult to say which of the ten steps is the most important. But of all the steps, this step are probably the most difficult to master if it is not already a part of your makeup. I would venture to say that it is the lack of personal self-discipline that is the No. 1 delineating factor between the rich, the poor and the middle class. Simply put, people who have low self-esteem and low tolerance for financial pressure can never, and I mean never, be rich. As I have said, a lesson learned from this fast-changing world and the struggles I have been through to where I am now is that the world will push you around. The world pushes people around not because other people are bullies, but because the individual lacks internal control and discipline. People who lack internal fortitude often become victims of those who have self-discipline. In the entrepreneur classes I teach, I constantly remind people to not focus on their product, service or widget, but to focus on developing management skills. The three most important management skills necessary to start your own business are:

1. Management of cash flow.

2. Management of people.

3. Management of personal time.

I would say, the skills to manage these three apply to anyone, not just entrepreneurs. The three matter in the way you live your life as an individual, or as part of a family, a business, a charitable organization, a city or a nation. Each of these skills is enhanced by the mastery of self-discipline. I do not take the saying "pay yourself first" lightly. The Richest Man in Babylon, by George Classmen, is where the statement "pay yourself first" comes from. Millions of copies have been sold. But while millions of people freely repeat that powerful statement, few follow the advice. As I said, financial literacy allows one to read numbers, and numbers tell the story. By looking at a person's income statement and balance sheet, I can readily see if people who spout the words "pay yourself first" actually practice what they preach. A picture is worth a thousand words. So let's again compare the financial statements of people who pay themselves first against someone who doesn't. People who pay themselves first

Study the diagrams and notice if you can pick up some distinctions. Again, it has to do with understanding cash flow, which tells the story. Most people look at the numbers and miss the story. If you can truly begin to understand the power of cash flow, you will soon realize what is wrong with the picture on the next page, or why 90 percent of most people work hard all their lives and need government support like Social Security when they are no longer able to work. Do you see it? The diagram above reflects the actions of an individual who chooses to pay himself first. Each month, they allocate money to their asset column before they pay their monthly expenses. Although millions of people have read Classmen’s book and understand the words "pay you first," in reality they pay themselves last. Now I can hear the howls from those of you who sincerely believe in paying your bills first. And I can hear all the "responsible" people who pay their bills on time. I am not saying be irresponsible and not pay your bills. All I am saying is do what the book says, which is "pay you first." And the diagram above is the correct accounting picture of that action. Not the one that follows. I have had many bookkeepers and accountants and bankers who have had a major problem with this way of looking at "pay you first." The reason is that these financial professionals actually do what the masses do, which is paying them last. They pay everyone else first. There have been months in my life, when for whatever reason, cash flow was far less than my bills. I still paid myself first. My accountant and bookkeeper screamed in panic. "They're going to come after you. The IRS is going to put you in jail." "You're going to ruin your credit rating." "They'll cut off the electricity." I still paid myself first. "Why?" you ask. Because that's what the story The Richest Man in Babylon was all about. The power of self-discipline and the power of internal fortitude."Guts," in less elegant terms. Most people allow the world to push them around. A bill collector calls and you "pay or else." So you pay and not pay yourself. A sales clerk says, "Oh, just put it on your charge card." Your real estate agent tells you to "go ahead the government allows you a tax deduction on your home." That is what the book is really about. Having the guts to go against the tide and get rich. You may not be weak, but when it comes to money, many people get wimpy. I am not saying be irresponsible. The reason I don't have high credit card debt, and doodad debt, is because I want to pay myself first. The reason I minimize my income is because I don't want to pay it to the government. That is why, for those of you who have watched the video The Secrets of the Rich, my income comes from my asset column, through a Nevada corporation. If I work for money, the government takes it. Although I pay my bills last, I am financially astute enough to not get into a tough financial situation. I don't like consumer debt. I actually have liabilities that are higher than 99 percent of the population, but I don't pay for them; other people pay for my liabilities. They're called tenants. So rule No. 1 in paying yourself first is doing get into debt in the first place. Although I pay my bills last, I set it up to have only small unimportant bills that I will have to pay. Secondly, when I occasionally come up short, I still pay myself first. I let the creditors and even the government screams. I like it when they get tough. Why? Because those guys do me a favor. They inspire me to I go out and create more money. So I pay myself first, invest the money, and let the creditors yell. I generally pay them right away anyway. I have excellent credit. I just don't cave into the pressure and spend our savings or liquidate stocks to pay for consumer debt. That is not too financially intelligent. So the answer is:

§ Don't get into large debt positions that you have to pay for. Keep your expenses low. Build up assets first. Then, buy the big house or nice car. Being stuck in the rat race is not intelligent.

§ When you come up short, let the pressure build and don't dip into your savings or investments. Use the pressure to inspire your financial genius to come up with new ways of making more money and then pay your bills. You will have increased your ability to make more money as well as your financial intelligence. ; : So many times I have gotten into financial hot water, and used my brain to create more income, while staunchly defending the assets in my asset column. My bookkeeper has screamed and dived for cover, but I was like a good trooper defending the fort, Fort Assets. Poor people have poor habits. A common bad habit is innocently called "Dipping into savings." The rich know that savings are only used to create more money, not to pay bills. I know that sounds tough, but as I said, if you're not tough inside, the world will always push you around anyway. If you do not like financial pressure,

5. PAY YOUR BROKERS WELL:

The power of good advice. I often see people posting a sign in front of their house that says, "For Sale by Owner." Or I see on TV today many people claiming to be "Discount Brokers. My ambitiousness of making money work for me taught me to take the opposite tack. It helped me to believe and adopt the policy of paying professionals well. Today, I have expensive attorneys, accountants, real estate brokers and stockbrokers. Why? Because if, and I do mean if, the people are professionals, their services should make you money. And the more money they make, the more money I make. We live in the Information Age. Information is priceless. A good broker should provide you with information as well as take the time to educate you. I have several brokers who are willing to do that for me. Some taught me when I had little or no money, and I am still with them today. What I pay a broker is tiny in comparison with what kind of money I can make because of the information they provide. I love it when my real estate broker or stockbroker makes a lot of money. Because it usually means I made a lot of money. A good broker saves me time in addition to making me money-as when I bought the piece of vacant land for 9,000,000million and sold it immediately for over 23,000,000 million so I could buy my Porsche quicker. A broker is your eyes and ears to the market. They're there every day so I do not have to be. I'd rather play golf. Also, people who sell their house on their own must not value their time much. Why would I want to save a few bucks when I could use that time to make more money or spend it with those I love? What I find funny is that so many poor and middle class people insist on tipping restaurant help 15 to 20 percent even for bad service and complain about paying a broker 3 to 7 percent. They enjoy tipping people in the expense column and stiffing people in the asset column. That is not financially intelligent. All brokers are not created equal. Unfortunately, most brokers are only salespeople. I would say the real estate salespeople are the worst. They sell, but they themselves own little or no real estate. There is a tremendous difference between a broker who sells houses and a broker who sells investments. And that is true for stock, bond, mutual fund and insurance brokers who call themselves financial planners. As in the fairy tale, you kiss a lot of frogs to find one prince. Just remember the old saying, "Never ask an encyclopedia salesperson if you need an encyclopedia." When I interview any paid professional, I first find out how much property or stocks they personally own and what percentage they pay in taxes. And that applies to my tax attorney as well as my accountant. I have an accountant who minds her own business. Her profession is accounting, but her business is real estate. I used to have an accountant that was a small business accountant, but he had no real estate. I switched because we did not love the same business. Find a broker who has your best interests at heart. Many brokers will.’ spend the time educating you, and they could be the best asset you find. Just be fair, and most of them will be fair to you. If all you can think about is cutting their commissions, then why should they want to be around you? It's just simple logic. As I said earlier, one of the management skills is the management of people. Many people only manage people they feel smarter than and they have power over, such as subordinates in a work situation. Many middle managers remain middle managers, failing to get promoted because they know how to work with people below them, but not with people above them. The real skill is to manage and pay well the people who are smarter than you in some technical area. That is why companies have a board of directors. You should have one, too. And that is financial intelligence.

6. BE AN "INDIAN GIVER":

This is the power of getting something for nothing. When the first white settlers came to America, they were taken aback by a cultural practice some American Indians had. For example, if a settler was cold, the Indian would give the person a blanket. Mistaking it for a gift, the settler was often offended when the Indian asked for it back. The Indians also got upset when they realized the settlers did not want to give it back. That is where the term "Indian giver" came from. A simple cultural misunderstanding.

In the world of the "asset column," being an Indian giver is vital to wealth. The sophisticated investor's first question is, "How fast do I get my money back?" They also want to know what they get for free, also called a piece of the action. That is why the ROI, or return of and on investment, is so important. For example, I found a small condominium, a few blocks from where I live, that was in foreclosure. The bank wanted 6,000,000 million, and I submitted a bid for 5, 0000,000 million, which they took, simply because, along with my bid, was a cashier's check for 5,000,000 million. They realized I was serious. Most investors would say, aren't you tying up a lot of cash? Would it not be better to get a loan on it? The answer is, not in this case. My investment company uses this as a vacation rental in the winter months, when the "snowbirds" come to Arizona, and rent it for 2,500,000millions a month for four months out of the year. For rental during the offseason, it rents for only 1,000,000million a month. I had my money back in about three years. Now I own this asset, which pumps money out for me, month in and month out. The same is done with stocks. Frequently, my broker will call me and recommend I move a sizable amount of money into the stock of a company that he feels is just about to make a move that will add value to the stock, like announcing a new product. I will move my money in for a week to a month while the stock moves up. Then, I pull my initial amount out, and stop worrying about the fluctuations of the market, because my initial money is back and ready to work on another asset. So my money goes in, and then it comes out, and I own an asset that was technically free. True, I have lost money on many occasions. But I only play with money I can afford to lose. I would say, on an average ten investments, I hit home runs on two or three, while five or six do nothing, and I lose on two or three. But I limit my losses to only the money I have in at that time. For people who hate risk, they put their money in the bank. And in the long run, savings are better than no savings. But it takes a long time to get your money back and, in most instances, you don't get anything for free with it. They used to hand out toasters, but they rarely do that these days. On every one of my investments, there must be an upside, something for free. A condominium, a mini-storage, a piece of free land, a house, stock shares, office building. And there must be limited risk, or a low-risk idea. There are books devoted entirely to this subject that I will not get into here. Ray Kroc, of McDonald's fame, sold hamburger franchises, not because he loved hamburgers, but because he wanted the real estate ; under the franchise for free. So wise investors must look at more than ROI; it's the assets you get for free once you get your money back. That is financial intelligence. :

7. ASSETS BUY LUXURIES:

The power of focus…………………….

. Too often today, we focus to borrowing money to get the things we want instead of focusing on creating money. One is easier in the short term, but harder in the long term. It's a bad habit that we as individuals and as a nation have gotten into. Remember, the easy road often becomes hard, and the hard road often becomes easy. The earlier you can train yourself and those you love to be masters of money, the better. Money is a powerful force. Unfortunately, people use the power of money against them. If your financial intelligence is low, money will run all over you. It will be smarter than you. If money is smarter than you, you will work for it all your life. To be the master of money, you need to be smarter than it. Then money will do as it is told. It will obey you. Instead of being a slave to it, you will be the master of it. That is financial intelligence.

8. THE NEED FOR HEROES:

The power of myth

. By having heroes, we tap into a tremendous source of raw genius. But heroes do more than simply inspire us. Heroes make things look easy. It's the making it look easy that convinces us to want to be just like them. "If they can do it, so can I." When it comes to investing, too many people make it sound hard. Instead find heroes who make it look easy.

9. TEACH AND YOU SHALL RECEIVE:

The power of giving.

"If you want something, you first need to give,. When am short of money, i simply give money to my favorite charity. If I could leave one single idea with you, it is that idea. Whenever you feel "short" or in "need" of something, give what you want first and it will come back in buckets. That is true for money, a smile, love, friendship. I know it is often the last thing a person may want to do, but; it has always worked for me. I just trust that the principle of reciprocity it is true, and I give what I want. I want money, so I give money, and it comes back in multiples. I want sales, so I help someone else sell something, and sales come to me. I want contacts and I help someone else get contacts, and like magic, contacts come to me. I heard saying years ago that went, "God does not need to receive, but humans need to give." I often say, that Poor people are greedier than rich people. I explain that if a person is rich, that person is providing something that other people want. In my life, whenever I feel needy or short of money or short of help, I simply go out or find in my heart what I want, and decide to give it first. And when I give, it always comes back. It reminds me of the story of the guy sitting with firewood in his arms on a cold freezing night, and he is yelling at the pot-bellied stove, "When you give me some heat, then I'll put some wood in." And when it comes to money, love, happiness, sales and contacts, all one needs to remember is first to give what you want and it will come back in droves. ? Often just the process of thinking of what I want, and how I could give what I want to someone else, break free a torrent of bounty. Whenever I feel that people aren't smiling at me, I simply begin smiling and saying hello, and like magic, there are suddenly more smiling people around me. It is true that your world is only a mirror of you. So that's why I say, "Teach and you shall receive." I have found that the more I sincerely teach those who want to learn, the more I learn. If you want to learn about money, teach it to someone else. A torrent of new ideas and finer distinctions will come in. There are times when I have given and nothing has come back or what I have received is not what I wanted. But upon closer inspection and soul searching, I was often giving to receive in those instances, instead of giving to give. I teach teachers and I have become a master teacher. I teach young people my way of doing business. In retrospect, it is their generosity with what they know that make them smarter. There are powers in this world that are much smarter than we are. You can get there on your own, but it's easier with the help of the powers that be. All you need to be is generous with what you have, and the powers will be generous with you.

. There are many people who want to do, instead of think, and then there are people who think but do not do. I would say that I am both. I love new ideas and I love action. So for those who want "to dos" on how to get started, I will share with you some of the things I do, in abbreviated form.

• Stop doing what you're doing. In other words, take a break and assess what is working and what is not working. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result. Stop doing what is not working and look for something new to do.

• Look for new ideas. For new investing ideas, I go to bookstores and look for books on different and unique subjects. I call them formulas. I buy how-to books on a formula I know nothing about. For example, it was in the bookstore that I found the book The 16 Percent Solutions, by Joel Markowitz. I bought the book and read it. TAKE ACTION! The next Thursday, I did exactly as the book said. Step by step. I have also done that with finding real estate bargains in attorneys' offices and in banks. Most people do not take action, or they let someone talk them out of whatever new formula they are studying. My neighbor told me why 16 percent would not work. I did not listen to him because he's never done it.

• Find someone who has done what you want to do. Take them to lunch. Ask them for tips, for little tricks of the trade. As for 16 percent tax lien certificates, I went to the county tax office and found the government employee who worked in the office. I found out that she, too, invested in the tax liens. Immediately, she was invited to lunch. She was thrilled to tell me everything she knew and how to do it. After lunch, she spent all afternoon showing me everything. By the next day, I found two great properties with her help and have been accruing interest at 16 percent ever since. It took a day to read the book, a day to take action, an hour for lunch, and a day to acquire two great deals.

• Take classes and buy tapes. I search the newspapers for new and interesting classes. Many are for free or a small fee. I also attend and pay for expensive seminars on what I want to learn. I am wealthy and free from needing a job simply because of the courses I took. I have friends who did not take those classes who told me I was wasting my money, and yet they're still at the same job.

• Make lots of offers. When I want a piece of real estate, I look at many properties and generally write an offer. If you don't know what the "right offer" is, neither do I. That is 'the job of the real estate agent. They make the offers. I do as little work as possible. A friend wanted me to show her how to buy apartment houses. So one Saturday she, her agent and I went and looked at six apartment houses. Four were dogs, but two were good. I said to write offers on all six, offering half of what the owners asked for. She and the agent nearly had heart attacks. They thought it would be rude, that I might offend the sellers, but I really don't think the agent wanted to work that hard. So they did nothing and went on looking for a better deal. No offers were ever made, and that person is still looking for the "right" deal at the right price. Well, you don't know what the right price is until you have a second party who wants to deal. Most sellers ask too much. It is rare that a seller will actually ask a price that is less than something is worth. Moral of the story: Make offers. People who are not investors have no idea what it feels like to be trying to sell something. I have had a piece of real estate that I wanted to sell for months. I would have welcomed anything. I would not care how low the price. They could have offered me ten pigs and I would have been happy. Not at the offer, but just because someone was interested. I would have countered, maybe for a pig farm in exchange. But that's how the game works. The game of buying and selling is fun. Keep that in mind. It's fun and only a game. Make offers. Someone might say "yes." And I always make offers with escape clauses. In real estate, I make an offer with the words "subject to approval of business partner." I never specify who the business partner is. Most people do not know my partner is my cat. If they accept the offer, and I don't want the deal, I call my home and speak to my cat. I make this absurd statement to illustrate how absurdly easy and simple the game is. So many people make things too difficult and take them too seriously. Finding a good deal, the right business, the right people, the right investors, or whatever is just like dating. You must go to the market and talk to a lot of people, make a lot of offers, counteroffers, negotiate, reject and accept. I know single people who sit at home and wait for the phone to ring, but unless you're Cindy Crawford or Tom Cruise, I think you'd best go to the market, even if it's only the supermarket. Search, offer, reject, negotiate and accept are all parts of the process of almost everything in life.

• Jog, walk or drive a certain area once a month for ten minutes. I have found some of my best real estate investments while jogging. I will jog a certain neighborhood for a year. What I look for is change. For there to be profit in a deal, there must be two elements: a bargain and change. There are lots of bargains, but its change that turns a bargain into a profitable opportunity. So when I jog, I jog a neighborhood I might like to invest in. It is the repetition that causes me to notice slight differences. I notice real estate signs that are up for a long time. That means the seller might be more agreeable to deal. I watch for moving trucks, going in or out. I stop and talk to the drivers. I talk to the postal carriers. It's amazing how much information they acquire about an area.

• As for stocks, I like Peter Lynch's book beating the Street for his formula for selecting stocks that grow in value. I have found that the principles of finding value are the same regardless if it's real estate, stocks, mutual funds, new companies, a new pet, a new home, a new spouse, or a bargain on laundry detergent. The process is always the same. You need to know what you're looking for and then go look for it!

• Why consumers will always be poor. When the supermarket has a sale on, say, toilet paper, the consumer runs in and stocks up. When the stock market has a sale, most often called a crash or correction, the consumer runs away from it. When the supermarket raises its prices, the consumer shops elsewhere. When the stock market raises its prices, the consumer starts buying.

• Look in the right places. A neighbor bought a condominium for 100,000 shillings; I bought the identical condo next door to his for 50,000 shillings. He told me he's waiting for the price to go up. I told him that his profit is made when you buy, not when you sell. He shopped with a real estate broker who owns no property of her own. I shopped at the foreclosure department of a bank. I paid 5,000 shillings for a class on how to do this. My neighbor thought that the 5,000shs. For a real estate investment class was too expensive. He said he could not afford it, and he couldn't afford the time. So he waits for the price to go up.

• I look for people who want to buy first, and then I look for someone who wants to sell. A friend was looking for a certain piece of land. He had the money and did not have the time. I found a large piece of land larger than what my friend wanted to buy, tied it up with an option, called my friend and he wanted a piece of it. So I sold the piece to him and then bought the land. I kept the remaining land as mine for free. Moral of the story: Buy the pie and cut it in pieces. Most people look for what they can afford, so they look too small. They buy only a piece of the pie, so they end up paying more for less. Small thinkers don't get the big breaks. If you want to get richer, think bigger first. Retailers love giving volume discounts, simply because most business people love big spenders. So even if you're small, you can always think big. When my company was in the market for computers, I called several friends and asked them if they were ready to buy also. We then went to different dealers and negotiated a great deal because we wanted to buy so many. I have done the same with stocks. Small people remain small because they think small; act alone, or don't act all.

• Learn from history. All the big companies on the stock exchange started out as small companies. Colonel Sanders did not get rich until after he lost everything in his 60s. Bill Gates was one of the richest men in the world before he was 30.

• Action always beats inaction. These are just a few of the things I have done and continue to do to recognize opportunities. The important words being "done" and "do". As repeated many times throughout the book, you must take action before you can receive the financial rewards again, going into the college mutual fund. Thank you for accepting new ideas. I hope it has provided some insights into utilizing the power of money to work for you. Today, we need greater financial intelligence to simply survive. The idea that it takes money to make money is the thinking of financially unsophisticated people. It does not mean that they're not intelligent. They have simply not learned the science of making money. Money is only an idea. If you want more money simply changes your thinking. Every self-made person started small with an idea, and then turned it into something big. The same applies with investing. It takes only a few amount of money to start and grow it into something big. I meet so many people who spend their lives chasing the big deal, or trying to mass a lot of money to get into a big deal, but to me that is foolish. Too often I have seen unsophisticated investors put their large nest egg into one deal and lose most of it rapidly. They may have been good workers but they were not good investors. Education and wisdom about money are important. Start early. Welcome new ideas. Go to a seminar. Practice. Start with that little you have, it will make millions. But I started learning as a kid. I encourage you to learn because it's not that hard. In fact, it's kind of easy once you get the hang of it. I think I have made my message clear. It's what is in your head that determines what is in your hands. Money is only an idea. There is a great book called Think and Grow Rich. The title is not Work Hard and Grow Rich. Learn to have money work hard for you and your life will be easier and happier. Today, don't play it safe, play it smart. Take Action!

Many of you were given two great gifts: your mind and your time. It is up to you to do what you please with both. With each amount that enters your hand, you and only you have the power to determine your destiny. Spend it foolishly, you choose to be poor. Spend it on liabilities, you join the middle class. Invest it in your mind and learn how to acquire assets and you will be

. The choice is yours and only yours. Every day with every cash, you decide to be rich, poor or middle class. Choose to share this knowledge with your children, and you choose to prepare them for the world that waits. No one else will. You and your children's future will be determined by choices you make today, not tomorrow. I wish you great wealth and much happiness with this fabulous gift called life. "The main reason people struggle financially is because they spend years in school but learn nothing about money. The result is, people learn to work for money... but never learn to have money work for them.

. My message is clear. "Take responsibility for your finances or take orders all your life. You're either a master of money or a slave to it." Hold classes that last from 1 hour to 3 days teaching people about the secrets of the rich. Although my subjects run from investing for high returns and low risk; to teaching your children to be rich; to starting companies and selling them; l have one solid earth shaking message. And that message is, Awaken the Financial Genius that lies within you. Your genius is waiting to come out. This is what world famous speaker says about my work. "My work in education is powerful, profound, and life changing. They salute my efforts and recommend me highly." During this time of great economic change, my message is priceless;

Our current educational system has not been able to keep pace with the global and technological changes in the world today. I must teach the young generation the skills, both scholastic and financial, that they will need not only to survive, but to flourish, in the world they face.

And finally.

Remember that growth and development are influenced by many factors — including genetic, social, and cultural — and that each child is an individual who will develop at his own pace. The milestones presented here are averages; your child may progress more quickly or a little more slowly. You can help your child through this period of great change by showing support and listening to his worries and concerns. And as always, if any aspect of your child’s development seems atypical, talk to his pediatrician and encourage your teen to ask questions as well.

3. OLD AGE (THE WAY OF LIVING HAPPY)

Old age is a great time to sit back and enjoy your life. You are much wiser, people’s opinions do not easily fluster you, you are much more comfortable in your own skin, your kids have left home, and you have the freedom to do all the things you want to do.

Enjoying your life is a significant contributor to healthy aging.

The evidence showed that those who were unhappy were three times as likely to develop issues in their physical activities as their animated counterparts.

It revealed that happy seniors had less trouble getting up, dressing, or taking a shower, as opposed to unhappy seniors who were twice as likely to develop diabetes, heart disease, cancer, and strokes.

The enjoyment of life and general happiness are relevant determinants of mobility and future disability in senior.

-How to care to yourself when you’re still old. The best Ways To Take Care Of Yourself As You Get Older .

No one enjoys talking about aging – it is the proverbial elephant in the room for many of us. And, unfortunately, there is no magic pill or crème that will stop it. It is something we all have to go through, but we don’t have to fall prey to negative thinking and an unhealthy lifestyle. There are so many ways to push away the ill-effects of aging, but you have to start as soon as possible. Though the choice to live a healthier life is a serving one at any age, I believe that the sooner you start these life-giving activities, the more benefit you will reap from them when you get to your golden years.

>Eat and Supplement Well

Since food is the primary substance you put into your body, it can serve as a way to improve overall health or it can be the culprit that causes disease. This is one of those things that you need to pay attention to early in your life. The better you eat, the better you will feel as you age. Kick those junk foods to the curb and include fresh fruits and veggies in every meal if you can. Certain foods will help to keep your skin supple, your eyes sharp and your heart healthy. Things like fresh salmon, greens, berries, and a little bit of red wine can all help to keep your heart and digestive tract in good condition. Sweet potatoes and carrots also help to keep your skin firm. Though it’s best to get your vitamins and minerals from your food, you sometimes need to add to your diet with supplements, especially if you have a deficiency. Blood work can tell you and your doctor exactly what you need or may be lacking in.

>Drink More Red Wine

This is good news for anyone who loves vino! Drinking red wine in moderation can have positive effects on your health. Red wine helps to protect the lining of blood vessels in your heart. It can also help to reduce bad cholesterol. This doesn’t mean that you can neck a whole bottle of red wine each night. As with everything, the benefits are only prevalent when wine is consumed in moderation.

>Get Enough Exercise

As you get older, it is only natural for your body to slow down. However, taking care of your body through physical fitness helps you feel younger and stronger period, no matter what your age. Swimming is a great exercise as you get older because it has no impact on your joints and will not stress your body. Organized classes like Pilates or yoga are very beneficial for the aging and young alike. The important thing is to be responsible and talk to your doctor about any fitness programs you start. He or she can even recommend routines that will serve your lifestyle, age, and fitness level. Even better, consult a personal trainer who specializes in keeping the aging body in motion.

>Talk to Your Doctor

Your body and mind changes with each year that passes. It is necessary to keep up with regular physicals, eye, dental, and screening tests. Don’t take anything for granted where your health is concerned. Tell you doctor about anything that doesn’t seem right or that you feel needs attention. He or she can also help you to come up with a health plan for the future as you move past middle age and into your senior years.

Alone Time

No matter how much you love your partner, you need to have time to yourself. Meditation, prayer, self-care, and hobbies are all activities that help you to know yourself better and may serve you more if done alone. Try to balance your time spent with others and that which you spend alone. Notice how it makes you feel when you are with people. Does it stress you? Do you get overwhelmed? And, how do you feel when you are alone? Does it give you peace? Experiment with this and go for a balance of both.

>Keep Your Memory Sharp

How often do you go into a room and forget why? I do this all the time, and I’m only 49. Like muscles, the mind has to be exercised in order to stay fit and sharp. Continual learning and performing mental exercises will help you to keep your memory at its best. Games like Sudoku and crossword puzzles can help you flex your mind muscles in a fun way. There are also many mental agility programs online like Lumosity that are entertaining as well as beneficial to your brain health. If you feel that your memory is significantly worse than it should be, see your doctor.

>Keep Up With Technology

Technology literally changes daily. Though it is nearly impossible for anyone to understand it all, unless you are an tech expert, you can master the basics. Computers, cell phones, social media and video games are all technologies that keep you informed, connected, and entertained. And, there is no reason that you should avoid these things just because of your age. Get your kids or grand-kids to tell you about any of the latest developments. If your children live far away from you, like mine do, Skype is a fantastic tool for staying in touch. You can video call them from anywhere in the world as long as you have a good internet connection.

>Best Advice to The Young Generation

Whatever advice a parent offers to a child entering adulthood should really be an extension of the advice the parent has been giving his/her child since birth. Ask my children what my job as parent is and they both will answer, "Getting us out of the house." That does not mean that I want them to leave. It means that whenever they reach the point where they want to leave, they should be mentally and emotionally ready to make that transition. Preparing them is my job.

A newborn can't do anything for itself. A toddler can choose between wearing a green sweater or a yellow one, but still can't get dressed without help. Growing from helpless infant to functioning adult is an ongoing and gradual process. Advice given to a twenty-something should be a continuation of life lessons that have been taught all along.

Eat your vegetables.

Brush your teeth.

Bathe regularly.

Get sufficient rest.

Be honest.

Respect others.

Understand that many things are just "different," not "right" or "wrong."

Some things are wrong. Like lying. And stealing. And hurting people.

Learn the difference between "different" and "right" or "wrong."

Be patient. Growth takes time.

You might be able to figure it out on your own, but that will take too long. Other people have probably figured it out already; listen to them.

No matter what advice you are given, the decision to act is yours. Accept responsibility for your actions.

As often as possible, know WHY you are following a certain course - the real "why," not just the one that makes your choice seem OK.

Don't do drugs. Biggest waste of time, illegal and dangerous

Call me before you make any big decisions, when anything is wrong, when you need some guidance, and just to keep sharing our lives, though we may be apart. I have known you longer than anyone else on the planet, before you were even born and have more than your best interest at heart.

If you would cringe if your younger brother wanted to do something doesn’t do it. He follows in your footsteps take that seriously.

Keep your goals in front of you and your past behind you.

The right partner(s) can make your life a success or a failure more than you'd think.

Keep asking questions, keep your opinions mutable; you don't know what you don't know. And what you think is right is not necessarily right for everyone.

Every action has a consequence, even inaction.

Try to find the lesson in your mistakes.

Get enough sleep and eat healthily.

Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.

Do not fear mistakes. You will make many, There are two kinds of mistakes. Fatal and nonfatal. If you make a fatal one there will be no you left to worry or be embarrassed. If it is nonfatal you have learned something you didn't know before and survived free to use your hard earned knowledge. Bravo!

Every moment of every day you face a choice. To do something ordinary or something extraordinary. A life is a terrible thing to waste. Make your life extraordinary.

Whatever advice a parent offers to a child entering adulthood should really be an extension of the advice the parent has been giving his/her child since birth. Ask my children what my job as parent is and they both will answer, "Getting us out of the house." That does not mean that I want them to leave. It means that whenever they reach the point where they want to leave, they should be mentally and emotionally ready to make that transition. Preparing them is my job.

A newborn can't do anything for itself. A toddler can choose between wearing a green sweater or a yellow one, but still can't get dressed without help. Growing from helpless infant to functioning adult is an ongoing and gradual process. Advice given to a twenty-something should be a continuation of life lessons that have been taught all along.

Eat your vegetables.

Brush your teeth.

Bathe regularly.

Get sufficient rest.

Be honest.

Respect others.

Understand that many things are just "different," not "right" or "wrong."

Some things are wrong. Like lying. And stealing. And hurting people.

Learn the difference between "different" and "right" or "wrong."

Be patient. Growth takes time.

You might be able to figure it out on your own, but that will take too long. Other people have probably figured it out already; listen to them.

No matter what advice you are given, the decision to act is yours. Accept responsibility for your actions.

As often as possible, know WHY you are following a certain course - the real “why,” not just the one that makes your choice seems OK.

Every so often, do things for others. Just because.

Having said that,my first advice to you is about the choices you make. Choices have consequences and are life altering. Never be rushed into decisions without giving much thought and getting sound advice from persons you can trust and who care about your welare.This is important in decisions relating to your career, partner etc.

Surround yourself with persons who show by their life -styles that they are choosing wisely. I am not saying that you shun those who are not;you may be able to help them, but don't follow them.

Be teachable. There is lots you can learn by looking at the lives of those around you.

Learn to listen .You learn much by listening.

Enhance your life by reading extensively.

Set standards for yourself. If you do not stand up for something, you will fall for anything.

The bible is a good book for guidance. If you do not read it, find someone who follows its precepts and can explain them to you. This will be wisdom for you, protection from the world out there and a guard against failure and years of regret.

>Plan for the Future

It is really important to put a plan in place for retirement. I recommend that, as soon as you can, start setting money aside where you won’t touch it until retirement. You should also start thinking about where you will live. If you are still living in your family home, you might find it to be too large for you to care for as you age. Can you downsize to a smaller home that is easier and costs less to maintain? Alternatively, consider retirement villages. Some offer social activities, where you can meet other retirees, and, depending on the village, you might have access to a swimming pool, walking trails, or gardens!

>Plan To Keep Living!

Think about all the new and exciting things that you can do when you retire. The worst things you can do are get to retirement and realize you are bored. Take some time to plan ahead. Maybe it is time to take that course you always talked about. Learn a new language or finish your degree. Or take some time to travel the world. Don’t lose your drive to live simply because you are older. The world awaits you.

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