Welcome to my site!

I have been a Therapist, Groupwork Pracitioner and Mentor in Brussels, Belgium since 2010.

People who have worked with me, typically made progress in the following fields:

Relationship:

• no relationship at all, or only short and unstable ones;

• wish to change the dynamics of the relationship;

• wish to end unsatisfying or abusive relationship and to start a new, stable one;

• couple with serious relationship problems after having 1 or 2 or more children;

• having a third one while being in a committed relationship - having a lover or the partner having a lover;

• not being able to decide which potential partner to choose;

• not finding a suitable partner, despite everything looks good on me and people want to flirt with me;

• I am always a third in a relationship, I feel like it’s never “my turn”;

• jealousy.

"My partner has problems":

• my partner has depression;

• my partner cannot accept my mother/family;

• with alcohol.

Job:

• being unemployed;

• working for minimum wage;

• wish to step up in career, to receive a pay raise or promotion;

• fear of public speaking, despite work would require it;

• I have a good position but it’s empty, I don’t feel really useful;

• "I am not happy with my job (despite my salary), but I don’t know what I would really like to do. Also I don’t think I could make this much money with anything else" (which is a common fantasy and not always true);

• I do my job well, but I don’t like it, I think I deserve better.

Having a baby/children:

• no satisfying relationship but crave for having a baby;

• difficulty with conceiving;

• not wanting a baby yet, but running out of time;

• going through egg-freezing or IVF treatment;

• previous still birth or premature deliveries and desire to deliver baby well and on time;

• having a child with special needs in the family;

• child having problems in school;

• being a step-parent is difficult.

Issues with the wider family:

• complications with mother-in-law or father-in-law;

• feeling guilty in the relationship with them;

• my parent(s) want to live with us but it is not working for us;

• we want our parents to live with us but they don’t want to and we are worried about them living alone;

• we would like our parents/brothers/sisters to help us but they are not interested;

• death of parents or close family member, or of a beloved pet.

Overall satisfaction with life:

• feeling lonely and isolated;

• (not severe) suicidal fantasies (in case it is acute, please do contact a psychiatrist as soon as possible);

• cursing unexplainably;

• not feeling at home in Belgium, wanting to go back to my home country;

• I am here, but I rather be somewhere else;

• "the Belgians are stupid”, I don’t want to do anything with them - but I feel isolated here, even if my life looks busy socially.

Misc

• obsessions (sexual, drug, medication, sport, career etc.);

• I know I have problems but nothing helped so far I tried.

Most of these problems can be especially well addressed in a group, but working in group is not for everyone. It requires a personality which is strong enough to deal with the pressure of the group, and a certain robustness to not lose oneself in it. It is often an advanced level of work, succeeding the resolution of a number of individual problems first.

Life is full of ups and downs - it is hard to imagine a person without ever having a single problem. It is part of life and it is normal. If you recognise yourself in it, please do not hesitate to get in touch with me or a colleague. We, people profoundly need each other, and many of life's difficulties can be much easier and sooner resolved with an expert's help - while lots of them can't ever be solved alone.

I hope to meet you!

Lena Ildikó V. NÉMETH