The Early Years
Opening Act: The first 30 or so years of Jerry's journey took place in the mid-west. He was born in Iowa and raised in Nebraska. The son of an educator and gifted with uncommon intelligence, Jerry was an outstanding student and received a doctoral degree in Physics.
Ida Helen "Jamie" (mother), Jerry (son), Jan (daughter), Francis Willard (dad)
Lincoln (Nebraska) High
Jerry's High School Yearbook
University of Nebraska
The Middle Years
Act Two: The second 30 or so years of Jerry's journey brought him East to the Cambridge area. He got a three-decades long job working as a Theoretical Physicist with Avco/Textron, met and married Ann Butler, bought a house in Lincoln, and raised 3 sons.
Family
Ann & Jerry Yos
August 1960
Who Knew
Who knew who
Would climb mountains
To singular heights
Who knew who
Would scale stone walls
Down in the Valley
Who knew who would
Meet Angels first
Who knew who would
Hear the voices of
Mystical poets
Down thru the years
Who knew about the
Beautiful tribute
On your Website
Memories stories songs of
Love gratitude joy
Pictures of family friends colleagues
Honors
Legacy passed on
From father to sons
To grandchildren
Poignant memorial sharing
The poet and the physicist
Said their vows so
Many years ago
We each did the best we could
To love honor and obey
We will meet again —-
With love
Among the fields of
Stardust --
Ann Yos
Wife
a story by Toby Yos
Fun. When I reflect on my five+ decades of experiences with my dad, "fun" is a word that immediately comes to mind. We had a lot of fun together.
One of the things that I remember looking forward to the most as a kid was dad coming home from work. Looking back at it, he must have been tired many times; a demanding job, a family to care for, bills to pay, and a yard to mow. But yet he would always set aside a time to play with me. He let me choose what we did. Sometimes a game of chess, cards, or Risk. Sometimes a game of whiffle ball in the backyard or a trip to the tennis courts. Dad would let me lead the way. And he wouldn't judge me (even when I wasn't being the best of sports).
I grew into a teen and young adult and we continued to have fun together. Birthday trips to Putt-Putt Mini Golf, hours-long & epic matchups at the Candlepin Bowling Alley, and hikes up New Hampshire mountains stand out in my mind.
When I became a father, my dad, of course, became the funnest grandfather ever. My four kids delighted in time with their grandpa. He made funny faces, recited funny German poems, unfailingly and generously treated them to all sorts of adventures, and, in general, fully embraced a child-like spirit of playfulness. I still vividly remember explaining to my kids that, just because Grandpa had chosen to scale up the walls of a fountain in Boston, they didn't have to do the same.
It is funny how life works. In the moment we oftentimes don't appreciate the significance of what is happening. I've literally made my career doing child-led play with kids and creating non-judgmental spaces where people can laugh & engage in playful conversation. This always seemed to come more naturally to me than to some others. That, I now realize, is because I had a great role model. Thanks Dad!
Work
"JERROLD YOS/R400 -- For the past 34 years, Jerry has been a major contributor for the Division over a broad range of theoretical thermophysics and electromagnetic disciplines. He has used his expertise to fulfill an important role in the development, design and test evaluation of numerous vehicles/systems including: RANT, TDV, ABRV, and Peacekeeper MK-21.
One of Jerry's key technology advancements in the earlier part of his TDS career was the development of the first computer model for predicting radar propagation/attenuation through the plasma sheath which envelops reentering hypervelocity vehicles. Jerry developed a radar cross section prediction code which provided cost-effective, signature-stimulation-design success on the ERPA program.
Most recently, Jerry was a key player in our successful Interceptor-Homer MMW Technology proposal and effectively demonstrated to the customer that his wave propagation simulation methodology for plasma covered vehicles can accurately determine interceptor-target position. Award of this program is very significant as it represents our foray into the new, burgeoning, Endo-Atmospheric Tactical/Strategic Missle Defense arena in the SDI."
-- from the write-up of Textron's Excalibur Award
The Later Years
Final Act: The third 30 or so years of Jerry's journey was a time of reinvention. He moved to Woburn, became an avid hiker, retired from Textron and worked as a consultant, and became a grandparent.
Jerry Yos: Hiker
a story by Toby Yos
When I was growing up my dad was not a hiker. He was, I suppose, too busy with work, home, and raising a family. But when all of us kids left the nest that all changed. My dad became an AVID hiker. He hiked A LOT. He joined the Appalachian club, went on weekly hikes, led hikes, and reached the summit of ALL of the New Hampshire White Mountains' 4,000 foot peaks.
And my dad kept this up for nearly three decades. I remember going on a hike with him when he was in his 80's. I thought that it would be a relaxing stroll with my senior citizen father; instead I found myself struggling to keep up.
To be honest, I don't know a lot about this part of my dad's life. I was away in Hawai‘i and he was, well, hiking. But towards the end of his life I was privileged to be in the room when a couple of his hiking buddies visited. I was astounded by the stories that they told. What amazing adventures my dad had; doing all these crazy hikes that I couldn't even imagine doing.
If all of that isn't remarkable enough, here's the thing that really blew my mind. My dad told me that he didn't even start hiking until he was 60. As someone who is coming up on that age, I find this inspiring. It truly is never too late, my dad teaches us, to chart a new course and to live the life that we imagine.
by Ellen Ruggles
Jerry Yos. That is a name I had heard of on the trails and read in the AMC Outdoors magazine yet we didn't meet right away in my adult hiking days. But from what I learned, he often led hikes to interesting destinations.
Our paths first crossed following my first NH Chapter AMC meeting. I sat nervously and listened, while others submitted hikes they wanted to lead. I was feeling insecure, unsure of what I should do. I was hoping that someone would ask me to co-lead with them, yet, nobody did. As I was leaving, feeling very out of place, and not likely to return, a tall, older man approached and politely introduced himself, then asked if I would like to co-lead a trip to Owl's Head with him. Humbly and gratefully I agreed.
Owls Head has a reputation for being tough because it is in the middle of the White Mountain National Forest, and the last part of the hike has no maintained trail. No matter how you go, it is a long 15- to 18-mile slog and most people don't want to do this grueling hike more than once. People only want to hike there because it is on the list of 4,000-foot peaks people summit for a patch, making it a "must-do" for many. While most people dread it, I quickly learned that Jerry is not like most people and in his life hiked it many times, including two Sundays in a row! The first one was our first hike together in the rain, and then the next Sunday to guide the people who left because they hadn't wanted to be out in the rain all day.
I can't find my records, but Jerry and I officially co-led dozens of AMC NH chapter hikes together. Many other times we hiked just for fun and adventure. Like the February day we hiked Mt. Hale. A snowstorm foretold wintery roads, but north we drove while others decided to stay away. On the trail, the snow fell steadily, promptly covering up our snowshoed steps. We knew the way, though, and it was lovely and fun for those of us who love this kind of adventure. When Jerry stepped into deep snow slightly off the monorail of packed snow and ended up waist-deep, I worried about what we could do to get moving again. But Jerry, in his experience, knew what to do besides flail and waste energy, which involved pack removal, snowshoe removal, placement of poles crosswise in front of you for support, and doing what in yoga class would be called Downward Facing Dog.
We were mostly hiking friends. Only a few times did we meet up away from the mountains. Once was to hear infamous mountaineer and author Ed Viesters speak in Somerville. Viesters is famous for saying, "Getting to the top is optional. Getting down is mandatory." Good point! Another time, my partner Brian and I were allowed to bring guests to a presentation and dinner at the Museum of Science in Boston and we chose Jerry and our friend Cathy. Another time we met at a church in Winchester where my mother was accompanying a long-time family friend for an evening of Negro Spirituals. Also fun was an afternoon of sledding at a golf course in Lynnfield with Cathy. Beyond that, the mountains called and we answered.
His vast knowledge of plants had us tasting the small Indian Cucumber Root which resembles its namesake, once you wipe the dirt off. The new growth tips of pine trees in spring taste like nuts, we learned. The leaves of the deciduous Winterberry ground cover with red berries are edible and taste like mint.
We pointed out each "Hurrah's Nests" in the trees. I had learned about them from my Nova Scotian grandmother and Jerry was the only other person I've met who knew what I meant and went along with the phrase as something real rather than a tangle of twigs and leaves in the notch of tree branches, I learned later.
After winter snows had melted, we sought the wildflowers. He'd name them, pointing to Spring Beauty, and Star Flower, and Sandwort and Wild Sarsaparilla which, when newly sprouted, fools people into thinking the plant is poison ivy. One steamy day we encountered a group wearing long sleeves and legs. They said they feared the itch of poison ivy more than comfort. Of course Jerry knew there is no poison ivy on the White Mountains trails, and tried to let them know, but foolishly they seemed unconvinced. With spring the woods are also brightened by Clintonia, a short stemmed wildflower with delicate yellow flowers nodding downward. In fall it is known as Blue Bead Lily, for it's dark blue berries. The spring wildflower with white petaled blossoms has bright red berries in fall and its name then becomes Bunchberry. I can hear him explain... I hmmmm always will.
Trails and mountains and ranges were all familiar to Jerry. He knew, for example, how many switchbacks there are on the trail on Mt. Garfield. Switchbacks make steeper inclines feel easier. He always knew the best places to take a break. It's knowledge like that which makes a great leader. Yes, he understood the trails well, but sometimes if a newer hiker was in the car, Jerry would take out the guidebook and read the trail description in a way that sounded like a child's favorite fairy tale.
On a trail in Vermont, I popped a question and Jerry responded quickly. Surprised, I asked, "Jerry, how do you know this?" With a solemn voice and straight face, he said, "I thought you'd ask so I looked it up."
As we were hiking Mt. Osceola, he told of a time he was solo and wanting to find the nearby summit of a trail-less peak "just over there" called West Osceola. He pointed to an opening in the dense woods where he had left the trail to explore. He tried so hard that he spent the night in the woods, waiting for the sun to rise. Why? Why not? He chuckled as he said he wasn't even missed at work the next day.
Well, I'd have missed him. I do miss him.
Jerry's hiking personality was calming and people loved hiking with him. He often led with a steady line tagging along behind. We tried to keep groups to ten people, but Jerry didn't like turning people away. We took turns leading, though sometimes he kept to the back of the line to keep company with a slower hiker. (While in time he was the slower hiker he, too, was not alone.) To keep in contact we would call out "Marco" to a deep reply of "Polo." As long as we heard from each other, all was well.
An example of his calmness was a hike into Mahoosuc Notch. This narrow passage on the border with Maine is not an easy-going trail. Certainly, hikers of the Appalachian Trail don't look forward to it because there are rock boulders to climb over and around and under. Add in narrow caves with tight openings it was a challenge for people with large packs. After a mile of unrelenting scrambles through the notch, the trail splits from the AT and climbs steeply. One time there with Cathy and I, we neared the top and stopped to see a family of Spruce Grouse (also called Fools Hen because they seem so unafraid you could grab one) shuffled across the trail and into the woods. A short while later, at a nearby ledge with a welcomed breeze and view, packs were dropped and snacks came out. Suddenly a male grouse appeared, circling foolishly. It yanked at Jerry's tee shirt sleeve, then moved forward to peck at his boots. Jerry sat motionless, and the silly bird hopped up onto Jerry's bent knees. Still no reaction from Jerry other than a twinkle or two in his eye. That is calmness!
Jerry also remained calm for a hike of Mt. Washington via the Great Gulf Trail that didn't go as planned. This is another example of a hike many want to do but are afraid to go without a leader. There were other leaders who would not accept this type of hiker. Jerry's casual competence, companionship, and consideration helped them feel capable. If a trip took longer than what the guidebook suggests, that's okay. The Great Gulf trail is on the order of 12 miles through rugged wilderness, with a steep climb up a boulder-strewn trail toward the clouds. And then you have to hike down. With Mt. Washington, you never know for certain what the weather will be. At the lip of the gulf, the winds buffeted hard, clouds stole visibility, and although it was still summer, snow and sleet fell. One in the group urged that we must turn back. Jerry, who knew better, explained that it was safer to keep moving the shorter distance upward to the summit than go back. "As we go through the clouds, watch for the person ahead of you and remember a person is also following you." Wise words.
Sometimes hikers who enrolled for a hike didn't want to stay out until the end. Jerry's annual Dogtown hike on Cape Ann in Gloucester was typical of that. Up until recently, the locations of the 32 glacial boulders were not well marked, and the area was known for people finding themselves lost. The boulders were carved during the Great Depression with landowner Roger Babson's favorite admonitions like "Integrity" and "Obey Your Mother" and "Be On Time" carved into them. We'd frequently start out with 20 and end up with six. Bailing out on a hike isn't welcomed by most group leaders; leaving a group can blackball a hiker. Not with Jerry, though. I never saw him complain, just kindly nod in agreement that they could head off if they wanted to, and suggest a good direction.
Another example of how at ease people would feel was a group hike of Mt. Moriah. The summit area is a small treeless rock knob, just right for an informal break before heading down. Michael (who is on the autism spectrum) loves to memorize long verses. On this day he had been practicing "America the Beautiful" to recite. Then a young woman timidly sang "Amazing Grace" which she had just performed at her grandfather's funeral. She was so emotional while heading down the seemingly endless trail and picked blueberries while we each took turns consoling her. When you are with a leader like Jerry, this kindness happens.
One evening Cathy, Jerry, and I arrived at the car after the sun had set and heard an owl in the distance. Jerry called to it and it flew over to see if we were friends or foes. Wooosh, it quickly arrived and left just as soon but I think it would have liked to stay and hoot at Jerry for a while longer.
I know I would have.
Spending Time with Grandpa Yos
A walk in the woods with Grandpa
a story by Nick Yos
One of my first memories with Grandpa - or Grandpa Yos as we knew him by then, to differentiate him from my maternal grandfather - is of walking on the Battle Road trail in Minuteman National Historical Park. It was a warm summer day in Lincoln, Massachusetts and the sunlight was trickling through the birch trees that cradle the path. I was quite young at the time and ordinarily I’m sure that my short legs would have struggled to keep up with my outdoorsy Grandpa, but he made sure to take a leisurely pace so I wouldn’t be left behind. As we walked, he kept stopping to point out the different plants and animals we passed by. It meant that our journey took a bit longer than it would have otherwise, but I didn’t mind. Grandpa knew that I loved nature and he made a point of naming all the different trees and birds we saw and sharing some of the characteristics that made them special. To Grandpa, our walk wasn’t just through the woods but rather through a rich community of creatures with unique stories that he wanted to share with me.
It is only in retrospect that I realize how much I admired my Grandpa in that moment. I was amazed by the depth of his knowledge of the natural world, from the tallest tree to the smallest mushroom. Instead of seeing a trail as simply a path to follow, he saw it as a gateway to wonder. He carried this mentality of wonder and appreciation of the small things throughout his life, whether that was in a quiet forest or on a busy Boston street. He was never in a hurry to get to the destination because he was always happy to live in the present moment. This was a philosophy he brought with him in the relationships he built as well. No matter how hyper and irritating his grandkids were, Grandpa was always patient and attentive with us. He always took the time to express interest in the things we were interested in and brought things to our attention that we would never have noticed otherwise. Whenever he saw us, his smile could light up the night sky and we knew we were in for a fun day. He was a kind, loving, wonderful grandfather and one of the best men I have ever met. While his walk through the woods of life has come to an end, the memories and lessons he left behind with me and my family will last forever. I’ll miss you Grandpa Yos.
What a Memory!
Jerry entertains his grandchildren by reciting every U.S. President from memory.
My extraordinary memories with Grandpa
An anecdote by Samantha
When I think of my extraordinary memories of Grandpa, I don't remember my first memory of him or a time when something crazy happend. Instead, what comes to my mind, clear and plain, are the average days we would all spend with him. During the day we would often go bowling, mini golfing, or to a museum. However, my favorite times were not actually doing the activities there, but the unforgettable memories Grandpa would make with us during the moments that would have otherwise been forgotten. I remember, when we were walking through Boston, I was balancing on the curb between the sidewalk and grass, a favorite activity for many kids, and instead of telling me to stop he joined me. He nearly gave my parents a heart attack, but he was smiling the biggest grin. He always reminded me to enjoy the moment and to not take life or myself too seriously, and he turned an average and forgettable walk into something that I will cherish forever. Later in the day, we would go back home and have dinner. My favorite memories of these precious times with him are just sitting in the living room, eating together, and yelling under bridges. We would sit there and discuss what pizza toppings to get, how much garlic bread we would eat, and if he was a "GOAT" or not. Then, we would drive to get the pizza, always rolling down our windows to yell, "we're weird!" under the bridge on our way. Again, he took something bland, a few minute car drive, and made it into something special. When we got back we would eat pizza and ice cream, and then play games or watch him do puzzles. I was always stunned by how, no matter how challenging or confusing a puzzle would be, he would always figure it out in the end. He would show us how to arrange Rubik's cubes in cool patterns and solve them for us when we got stuck, which we always did. He taught me that you don't have to pick a life between being successful and being truly happy, and though he was an incredibly intelligent and kind 93 year old, he was truly a child at heart. Finally, we would end the day by saying goodbye. However, it was never a sad goodbye that you look back on with tears, but, in true Grandpa fashion, a goodbye filled with love, happiness, and warmth. They were not goodbyes that are something you just did to be polite; he made them meaningful and something to look back on made whole. I love that about Grandpa; I love that he made the everyday ordinary into the extraordinary. The most extraordinary memories are not about where you are or what you are doing; they are about who you are with. That who is Grandpa.
Reaching the Summit
The Final Climb
In September of his 92nd year, after a series of health challenges, Jerry found his way to Concord Park. In his final 6 months Jerry was cared for and loved. He left this realm having said what needed to be said, doing what needed to done, and having created a legacy that will ripple onwards.
Our sincerest thanks to go out to Joanne for saving Jerry's life and making the last 6 months possible, to Jimmy & Andrea & the Woburn crew for their kindness and patience, to Dr. Sheng & Claire & all of the compassionate and skilled people at Mt. Auburn Hospital, to Mary Ellen & Debbie & all of the amazing staff at Concord Park for being so welcoming and helpful, and to Lori for her steadfast guidance, to Prossy & Primrose for their expert care, and to Terry for her 6 months of devotion & for so graciously leading Jerry home.
Above: The amazing circular puzzle that took weeks!
Right: Terry sitting with Jerry as he finishes his puzzle.
Puzzles!
One of Jerry's favorite things to do at Concord Park was puzzles. He would sit at the table in the lobby and, in later months, in his room and work for hours on his puzzles. People were amazed by his creations and the determination that it took to build them.
a two part story by Toby Yos
My dad, it was becoming increasingly clear, had come to peace with his passing. A couple of days earlier he had, upon waking, declared that he had died during the night, but now had returned. He said that he had met friendly angels.
"Don't let go too soon, but don't hang on too long." These are words that I spoke to my dad during our last conversation. I told him that I would be leaving for the night and would be back in the morning. If you want, I said, you can wait for me. But you don't have to. Whenever you're ready for the next leg of your journey, go onwards and travel well.
Terry called me at around 6:30 am on the morning of Thursday, March 23. My dad had stopped breathing and slipped away peacefully with Terry sitting at his side. Just how he wanted it, I thought. I do believe that my dad made a choice about when and where to pass. He was ready and it was time to let go.
"Death ends a life, not a relationship." We will, to be sure, miss Jerry. But we will always be with him as he rests in peace or, just perhaps, climbs the final mountain peak. So too, he will always be with us. He lives on within each of us. He guides us, inspires us, and, to paraphrase my daughter, reminds us to truly be the best that we can be. Like the rings that spread forth from a stone striking a still pond, his legacy continues to ripple outwards.
(Quotes from Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom)
Part II
When I was a kid, my dad used to read Tintin books with me. A recurring joke in those books is that Professor Calculus flies into a rage when he is called a "goat." This became an ongoing gag between me and my dad. I would call him a goat, my dad would feign outrage, and I would laugh.
Back in the day, "goat" was just an animal. But nowadays GOAT is an acronym for Greatest Of All Time. So Jerry Yos, my father, I make a slight adjustment to our old joke. You aren't a goat; you're the GOAT. I bid you the fondest aloha. Travel well. A hui hou.
Jerry's grandchildren sing to him in March of 2022