Why I started to write books , and how ?

About Author : James Jaya Bastin . I

I’m James Jaya Bastin, and I was 20 years old when I started writing books. But I didn’t wake up one day and decide to be a writer. it was a journey shaped by pain, loss, and self-discovery.

In my past, I went through terrible experiences. it was filled with pain, loss, and betrayal, and deep wounds from childhood. Even before I experienced heartbreak, I had already carried childhood trauma that shaped the way I saw the world. But when I lost the person I loved for more than 10 years, everything shattered.  I loved her deeply, but in the end, I lost her too. That loss shattered me. I couldn’t control my emotions - anger, sadness, and loneliness consumed me. I reached a point where I couldn’t sleep, I couldn’t move on, and everything around me reminded me of her, even the sky, the clouds, or a simple piece of paper. My mind was breaking, and I even started experiencing illusions.

I tried to share my pain with a friend, she is a speech therapist and after I tolled her everything, she told me something that hit hard
"You’re losing yourself… you’re becoming mad."

She asked, "Were you always like this, or did you become this way after loving her?" That made me realize I was at my worst point. I wanted help, I wanted to see a psychologist, but I had no money. So, I decided to read psychology books to understand myself, my emotions, and life itself. But I didn’t have time to go through endless theories and studies.

Then, a thought struck me , why not write my own book?

I had experienced deep emotions, pain, love, loss, and I had spoken with so many people who were struggling too. I have experience not just in love in life to. I realized that what I went through wasn’t just personal, it was psychology. It was human emotions, relationships, and the struggles we all face.

So, I started writing.

My first book, " The Untold Point of  View ", "Let the Waves Take You." Every book I write is meant to help people understand life, emotions, and themselves.

After publishing my first two books, an unexpected chapter reopened in my life. After one and a half years, the person who once left me returned, bringing back the hope I thought I had lost forever. Believing in love once again, I fought against my own family and was ready to leave everything behind for her. I stood by her side, thinking she was struggling against her family for their relationship.

But in the end, the truth shattered me once more. I later discovered that while I was sacrificing everything for love, she had already chosen someone else and had been unfaithful to me. That betrayal changed me deeply. It completely transformed me perspective on love, trust, emotions, and life itself.

Instead of allowing the pain to destroy me, I used it as another lesson in self-awareness and growth. The experience gave me a deeper understanding of human emotions, attachment, betrayal, and the reality of relationships. These painful experiences became one of the strongest forces behind my writing, shaping my thoughts, my mindset, and the message I now shares with the world through my books.

I still have a lot of struggles, but I’ve chosen to live because I’ve finally understood something: Life is not just about surviving, it’s about understanding.

Through my books, I hope to help you find clarity, heal, and live a happier life. If my words can make even one person feel less alone, then every struggle I went through was worth it.