Self-Awareness Can Really Make a Difference in Your Relationship - Two Examples

Find out what is causing you to fail in your relationships

You are not the only one who is experiencing relationship failures. Many people experience similar problems. Develop Self-Awareness and get in touch with the things that are causing you to harm your relationships. This will allow you to build intimacy.

These 2 examples demonstrate the importance of Self-Awareness in helping one transform self-destructive behaviors into positive ones that lead to a happy intimate relationship. These examples illustrate the concept.The "before and after effect" of Self-Awareness.

Example 1: Rebecca's fear that she will be alone

Before

Rebecca develops self-awareness

Rebecca goes on blind dates with men every evening after a long day at work. What would Rebecca do if she was all by herself at home? Read a book What about watching television? Her apartment's emptiness is terrifying. She can't concentrate on reading or watching TV because her mind is always busy searching for a partner. She ends up with partners that aren't right for her. This leads to her jumping into new relationships and being left again.

What does Rebecca's inability to be self-awareness do to her relationship?

Rebecca doesn't know that her behavior is driven by fear of being alone. It isn't clear to her how it hinders her from having a balanced life. She knows that finding a partner is the only thing she wants in life. This has become a "project". Any other means of communication seems pointless. She doesn't understand how her fear leads her to date men she isn't compatible with, or how it hinders her ability to develop a meaningful relationship.

After

Rebecca cultivates self-awareness

Rebecca begins to develop her Self-Awareness and is able to see her fear to be alone. She also starts to ask questions about her past relationships and reflect on them. She will then be able to see how her fear led her to enter relationships that were not right for her and why they failed to last.

This awareness has enabled Rebecca to combat her fear. She is determined not jump into a relationship just for the sake of it. She can now take the time to reflect on her past experiences and be more selective about the men she chooses to date. She is now confident in her ability and capability to build a lasting relationship with the right partner.

Example 2: Eileen "falling in Love"

Before

Eileen is able to develop self-awareness

Eileen met Julian at a nightclub, and instantly fell in love with him. They went to bed that night and began a two-month relationship. After that, she was left alone. Julian's attitude towards her was particularly frustrating. It reminded her of past relationships, which were fraught with emotions that ended in turmoil and that lasted only a few minutes.

How does Eileen's inability to be self-aware affect her relationship?

Eileen and Julian's feelings of "worthlessness" shape their relationship, as they did her past relationships. Eileen's instinctive need to love, appreciate and have human contact is what drove her "falling in love" with her partners and making her dependent on them Self-Reflection

Eileen will never be able to develop and sustain an intimate relationship if she is unaware about her needs.

After

Eileen is able to develop self-awareness

Eileen becomes fed up with her constant failures and decides to find the root cause.

To gain this understanding, she develops her Self-Awareness. She observes herself and asks herself questions to help her understand what is driving her to undermine her relationships.

She realizes then how her burning desire for love and appreciation led her to "fall in Love" quickly and awkwardly, with partners who "took advantage" or weren't right.

These insights enable Eileen to release the negative power that her need for control has placed on her and allow her to approach relationships with more maturity and common sense.

You can really make a difference in your relationships by using the "Before-After" process

Eileen and Rebecca are two examples that show how self-awareness can help you see what is causing you to fail in relationships and how you can change it.

You will be able, just like in other trainings, teachings and coaching, to clearly see the Self-Awareness will impact your thinking, feelings, attitudes, reactions, and behavior with partners and in relationships.