Online Discussion Forum Resources:

How to be an Ally

If you have questions, suggestions about resources/topics, or individualize needs related to these topics, please feel free to email us at:

Lisa D'Adamo-Weinstein - lisa.dadamo-weinstein@esc.edu

AmyRuth Tobol - amyruth.tobol@esc.edu

Keeping the Conversation Going

We ended our 4 week conversation, but we are looking for ways to keep the conversation going. We are interested in your feedback and input on how we can keep in communication and allow for more opportunities to interact and exchange ideas. We will update this site as soon as we have decided upon our next steps.

If you have questions, suggestions about resources/topics, or individualize needs related to these topics, please feel free to email us at:

Lisa D'Adamo-Weinstein - lisa.dadamo-weinstein@esc.edu

AmyRuth Tobol - amyruth.tobol@esc.edu

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ESC Connects: How to be an Ally

Open to SUNY Empire State College students, staff, and faculty

Purpose:

In response to all the protests and public demonstrations around police brutality and the continued inequalities in our world, we are offering this space for non-people of color to explore what it means to be an ally. We hope to create a safe space for discussing the following four questions over the course of the next four weeks:

  • What does being an ally mean?

  • How do we openly face our own fears and gaps in our knowledge?

  • How can we stay open to learning over the long haul?

  • How do we move forward?

Each session will begin with a brief overview and welcome, time for discussion, and reflection/feedback. Short readings and resources will be available for whenever you have the time.

Co-facilitated by: Amy Ruth Tobol and Lisa D'Adamo-Weinstein


Week 1:

June 16th 7-8pm

Week 2:

June 23rd 7-8pm

Week 3:

June 30th 7-8pm

Week 4:

July 7th 7-8pm

What does being an ally mean?

How do we openly face our own fears and gaps in our knowledge?

How can we stay open to learning over the long haul?

How do we move forward?

Resources for Week 1

What is an ally?

These two short articles by a white gender fluid writer, Invictus Animus and one of the co-founders of the Black Lives Matter movement, Alicia Garza, discuss what an “ally” means to them. Good introductions to the concept.

This Vox article by Emily Stewart, explores the perspectives from "[t]hree experts on what it does and doesn’t mean to be an ally, now and always".

Emily Stewart, How to be a Good White Ally, 2020.




Resources for Week 2

HOW DO WE OPENLY FACE OUR OWN FEARS AND GAPS IN OUR KNOWLEDGE?

Gozum provides a thoughtful and honest discussion about his process of overcoming fears in learning about becoming a better ally.

Adichie’s TED talk provides an important perspective on how hearing – and believing – only one story about a culture or group of people, can inhibit a full understanding of that community.

Funchess talks about how for good or ill, we all make assumptions about people they don’t know. She talks about how to recognize these assumptions and work toward a common understanding.


RESOURCES ON WHITENESS, FEAR, KNOWLEDGE GAPS

A personal essay on one woman’s evolution to understanding what it means to be white.

A post from Instagram providing a visual aid to the process of confronting and understanding race. He divides the process into “the fear zone, the learning zone and the growth zone.”

A look at what “Karen” means and examples of using white privilege to gain the upper hand. From NBC Think

Article by Ruth Terry:



Resources for Week 3

Ruth Terry: "George Floyd shows Black folks don't need more 'allies.' We need active bystanders."


Things White People Can Do for Racial Justice by Corinne Shutack

This is a list that continues to grow from the orignial 75 items to nearly 100 that white people can do to enact and support racial justice.


Murphy-Shigamatsu, Stephen. "How to Sustain Your Activism"

Psychologist discusses how having purpose/meaning in life, connect to others, and self care can help sustain activism over a lifetime.


Global Fund for Women, Self-Care and Sustaining Activism: Infographic.

Authors provide basic information about collective and self-care and offer suggestions.


Trimarco, Beth. Activist Guilt and Self Care in the Trump Era.

Short opinion piece acknowledging the guilt activists may feel and how to deal with these feelings.


Commons Librarian, 10 Great Resources on Activist Well Being.

Curated list of resources linked through the Commons Library for Social Change.


Maressa Brown's - "6 Reasons 'All Lives Matter' Doesn't Work—in Terms Simple Enough for a Child."

A short article explaining what is and is not meant when we say "Black Lives Matter."





Resources for Week 4

Sage Newsletter: Social Science Can Make a Difference.

Sage Publishers' newsletter provides links to a wide range of academic and other resources on race, policing and related issues.


Michael, A. et, al. Becoming an Anti-Racist White Ally: How a White Affinity Group Can Help from Perspectives on Urban Education, Spring 2009.

A discussion of the experience of one anti-racist affinity group developed at a college.


Racial Equity Tools, links to a wide range of resources.

From their website: "Racial Equity Tools is designed to support individuals and groups working to achieve racial equity. This site offers tools, research, tips, curricula and ideas for people who want to increase their own understanding and to help those working toward justice at every level – in systems, organizations, communities and the culture at large."


General Structure of the Online Sessions:

We are living and witnessing a world movement ignited by the murder of George Floyd, occurring as our awareness of the inequalities in our health care systems and socioeconomic quality of life situations has been heightened by the devastating impact of COVID-19 on Black, Indigenous and People of Color and other racialized communities. We know that non-people of color, like ourselves, are feeling a wide range of emotions. Many of us feel at a loss to know how to respond or help. We are overwhelmed by all of the resources available to learn more about what is going on for people of color in our communities. Our intent is to provide a space to share, listen, learn and act as an ally.

We do not expect this conversation to be comfortable—there is nothing comfortable about what is happening in the world right now; but we do want this to be a space where people can be brave and open, and leave feeling heard and understood.

As such, can we all agree to the following:

  • Listen to all participants with an open ear to understanding where they are coming from.

  • Try your best to remain open and tolerant of different views.

  • Our sessions are about about deep listening and reflecting.

  • Be mindful of time. We want to be certain everyone who wants to be heard has a chance. If you choose to speak a second time, please understand that we might ask that you wait until all who have not yet shared but want to have the chance.

  • Practice self-care! Share, but do not feel compelled to share anything you do not want to share.

  • If this discussion brings up strong feelings, or even triggers, please reach out for help or you are welcome to leave the session without judgment.

These sessions will not be recorded.

AmyRuth and Lisa will start us off each week, and as you are ready, please put your hand in the chat to respond to

  1. The first session – What does being an ally mean to you?

  2. The second session - How do we openly face our own fears and gaps in our knowledge?

  3. The third session - How can we stay open to learning over the long haul?

  4. The fourth session - How do we move forward?

We only have an hour, so today, we will listen to everyone has to say and we will leave 10 minutes at the end to hear what everyone has learned and what they got out of today’s session.

The rough timeline for each session is as follows:

5 minutes introduction to session

40 minutes of participant contributions

15 minutes sharing reflections

Additional Resources:

The resources in this section are not specifically linked to the four questions above. These are additional resources that span across all of the questions and speak to the larger issues going on in the world right now. As you look at the resources for each week above (click on the arrow to the right of the "Resources for Week #"). you might also find the resources listed here to be helpful in your contributions to or reflections on the conversations.

  • 8 min 46 seconds video

  • YouTube Playlist - How to be an ally

  • ACLU TedTalk - The path to ending systemic racism in the US

  • Zachary Wood's TedTalk - Why it's worth listening to people you disagree with

Guides to Inclusive Language

University of Southern California at Aiken - Guide to Inclusive Language

University of Victoria - Inclusive Language

Policing Resources:

Maciag, Mike. “Why Camden, N.J. the Murder Capital of the World, Disbanded its Police Department,” 2014.

Vitale, Alex. (2018) The End of Policing? Brooklyn, NY: Verso Books.

Gimbel, V. Noah and Mohammad, Craig. “Are Police Obsolete? Breaking Cycles of Violence through Abolition Democracy,” 2020

Bell, Monica. “Police Reform and the Dismantling of Legal Estrangement.”







If you have questions, suggestions about resources/topics, or individualize needs related to these topics, please feel free to email us at:Lisa D'Adamo-Weinstein - lisa.dadamo-weinstein@esc.eduAmyRuth Tobol - amyruth.tobol@esc.edu