Coming out can be a difficult and scary task, especially considering that it is very difficult to determine if a family is homophobic or not at times. Coming out can easily go wrong, as the person could be disowned from their family, abused, or even worse. Coming out can also be a good thing, and end well, which is why I have compiled some tips on making sure you come out to the right people and in the way that is most comfortable for you.
Determining who's safe to come out to can be a difficult task. One of the easiest ways to determine this is to bring up LGBT related topics. I'd recommend being subtle with this, so don't just outright ask what they think about the LGBT community, as this could out you. I'd recommend commenting on things that are LGBT in things like celebrities. You could say something like "Oh did you hear that *Gay celebrity* Is gay?" and judge their reaction from there.
I'd recommend doing this multiple times over the course of a few months, and judge their reaction based on multiple events. If they constantly reply in homophobic expressions or disgusted faces, it's probably not the right people to come out to. But, if they overall have no reaction or act accepting, it's probably safe.
The Discrete Method
The discrete method is exactly how it sounds- a discrete way to come out without having to say anything outright.
The way to do this is by placing little LGBT trinkets or notes around your room or house, and simply wait for them to notice. You could also wear a LGBT pride shirt when meeting a person, if you do not live with the person you are coming out to.
You can also give them a note or a text, as that can be less intimidating than simply telling them outright. These are the ways I came out to my family members, and although it took about a month for them to catch on, it eventually worked.
If You Are Planning On Coming Out
like I said before, coming out can be hard. There's always that thought in the back of your mind- "What if they don't accept me..." That line can be easy to fight off with friends, because do you really want to keep that homophobic person in your life? But with parents, you can't just cut them out of your life.
Coming out is a huge step, but it's definitely not necessary. You don't NEED to tell people, and in my opinion it's best to wait until you have the ability to live without the person you're telling. You don't need to come out as straight, so its my opinion that you don't need to come out as LGBT either.
In the end it's your decision, I'm not in the right space to make it for you. Good luck.