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Life Coaching, Relationship Coaching, and Divorce Coaching

Kathy Hardie-Williams M.Ed MS DC PC MFT

Relationship Coaching (Individuals and Couples): I believe that the key to strong and enduring relationships is the development of a strong sense of self. While the goal for most individuals is to create a deep sense of intimacy, developing a strong sense of self is a prerequisite to creating an emotional connection. Initially, the primary focus in my work with individuals and couples is the individual growth and differentiation of each individual in order to increase a strong sense of self. My work with clients then moves toward increasing their capacity to accept and tolerate differences, a process that must occur prior to increasing an emotional bond with others. The objective of my work is to facilitate the process of knowing yourself, which includes knowing what you need and want. You are responsible for articulating what you need to others from a direct and non-judgmental perspective that includes self awareness and the desire to know yourself and others you are connected to. I facilitate you, and/or other family members in identifying and communicating your needs and wants to each other. Conducive to this process is the ability to experience a reasonable degree of conflict in your relationships and the willingness to believe that your relationships can improve.  I use a tool called the Myers-Briggs (MBTI). To understand how the MBTI can help increase your level of self understanding, click the following link:

https://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/my-mbti-results/

Parenting/ Families in Transition Coaching: Parenting can be the most difficult yet rewarding job you will ever be faced with. It requires a lifetime commitment and an ability to temporarily sacrifice your own needs and wants if in the best interest of your child. That being said, as parents you must also practice self care so that you can be as available as needed in caring for your children. I can provide insight and practical strategies for effective parenting while supporting you on your journey as parents. Transitions in families can be difficult. There are specific stages at which families can anticipate major life transitions: marriage, the birth of a child, entering school, graduation (from elementary to middle school, from middle school to high school, from high school to college), military or something else, and transition into adulthood. These life transitions can make families vulnerable to high levels of stress, which can be taxing on relationships. Please take a look at 'Kathy's Published Articles' on this website for articles on Parent Work. ​

Divorce Coaching: I often facilitate individuals going through divorce.  When emotions are charged, as they often are during the process of divorce, it can help to have an objective third party facilitate ending a relationship, especially when children are involved. I can facilitate families by supporting you in creating smooth transitions while learning effective coping strategies. Please take a look at 'Kathy's Published Articles' on this website for articles on Parent Work. 

Blended Family Coaching: The transition into a blended family is rarely a smooth process. Some children may resist changes and parents can become frustrated when the new family doesn't function like their previous family. While changes to family structure require adjustment time for everyone involved, sometimes four to seven years, blended families can work out their growing pains and live together successfully. I work with blended families in helping children transition smoothly into blended families while maintaining their relationships with biological parents.

Life Coaching (Increase Self Esteem): You deserve to feel good about yourself. The way you perceive yourself is the foundation for 'how you function in your world'. However, your 'shame core' can keep you 'stuck'. It is very difficult to feel good about yourself when you are under stress, unable to achieve your goals, or when others treat you badly. As you work on building your self-esteem by taking responsibility for your life, you will notice that you feel less shame, that you are enjoying your life more than you did before, and that you are doing more of the things you have always wanted to do. Your level of insight and self understanding will deepen in order to develop your true potential.

Life Coaching: (​Facilitating Self Understanding) : There is no greater joy than working with someone as they have that "Aha" moment. As stated before, understanding what makes you tick lays the groundwork to help you make the right decisions for your life. Self understanding, insight, and developing your full potential are the keys to finding and creating the relationships you want, which leads to self respect and respect for others. A lack of self respect and respect for others can prevent you from fulfilling your potential and from developing healthy relationships. In order to understand someone else, you must have an understanding of yourself and what your needs are. The facilitation of self understanding is the path that leads to developing your full potential. As a tool for increasing your level of self understanding, I use a tool called the Myers Briggs (MBTI).  To understand the MBTI, click the following link:

https://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/my-mbti-results/

​Kathy Hardie-Williams M.Ed MS PC MFT DC

​Life Coach, Relationship Coach, Divorce Coach

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503.516.0764

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