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Children teach you a lot of things that we tend to forget in the race to success.
My daughter has taught me something beautiful that I think each one of us should remember always.
Adults often forget to smile, laugh and take things easy when it is most required. This is one of the main reasons for stress. We are forgetting to relax and find time for ourselves.
Things my daughter is teaching me:-
1. She smiles and laughs whenever she feels like for no reason: Smile, it increases your face value, it’s the best makeup available for free. It helps you in being positive and spreading the message across. It helps you in connecting to people and makes you approachable.
2. She forgets that she just got hurt a few minutes back: We often get hurt emotionally. We tend to keep a lot of grudges against what people did to us or how it changed our life forever. I think letting go of things and moving on is what we need to learn from children. It helps us more on an emotional level.
3. She cries out loud if she is in pain: We forget to show our emotions at times and that is very bad for our well being. The easiest way to be a balanced person is to express what you feel, that in turn will keep you stress free. It is better to release all the stress by expressing what you feel like at the moment. Studies have shown that people who express themselves more turn out to be well balanced in their personal and professional life.
4. She gives us warm hugs and sloppy kisses whenever she feels likes it: As adults, we start to compartmentalize our feelings and do not show the love we feel towards our family members and friends. Touch is one of the most important means of communication; it is the most important thing to develop human relationships. With touch you can tell your loved one how much they mean to you in life.
Expressing ourselves is very important. It will help us to become more human. In this age of technology and communication, it is important to communicate with your family and friends not only through various Apps but also through love, touch, emotions and sharing happiness together by spending time with each other.
Watch how children behave, there are many lessons we need to learn from them.
The other day, I met one of my childhood friends. We were discussing about parenting and she mentioned one very interesting incident that took place at her son’s school. He is a 4 year old toddler. It’s the age when they’re at their sensitive best, learning to go to school and interact with kids in the neighborhood. A child hit him at school and he complained about it to her when he came back home. She asked him to go and complain to the teacher if such an incident takes place the next time. The same thing happened for two consecutive days and then she got angry and told her son to hit back the next time the other child tries to hit him. When he got hit, the bully took up the issue with the teacher and my friend was called to school for her son’s bad behavior. She narrated the whole incident and told her that if we don’t teach our kids to defend themselves at the right age, the big bad wolves of this world are going to gobble them up sooner or later.
The same applies to the workplace too and even to the schools where our children go. The situations are the same, only the place changes. We were taught about being kind, sincere and hardworking during our childhood. Our parents took great pains to make us understand the difference between right and wrong and to have the right principles in life. But, they didn’t teach us to fight or speak back in self defense or how not to allow someone to try and put us down. Each one of us has been bullied at some point of time. But did we stand up for ourselves? We thought about it after going home and made plans in our minds about how we will defend ourselves the next time we face such a situation. Why? The reason is all the goodness present in our character, that doesn’t allow us to give an instant slap on the face answer to them or be rude. I have gone blank a few times ;-)
Reminiscing on it made me realize that in our inner heart, we know who we are, what is our job and that we don’t need to justify things to others about why we are here. Every incident in life comes with a learning. You are not here to justify or prove your self-worth to others. You are here for yourself. " YOU " are the reason people are noticing who you are and ready to pounce on you with some rubbish criticism just to put you down.
Like the saying - “Never be sad if someone hurts you for the tree with the sweetest fruit is hit by more stones.”- Hazrat Ali AS
And the reason they try to put you down is because they know deep down that you are unique, efficient and special, that they can never become like you and so an attempt to put down your confidence.
A person with a strong character will understand this best.
Your competition is not with these foolish people, it is with yourself- to become a better version of you- every day.
To achieve all those dreams and goals you have set for yourself. The dream of becoming the best possible person you can be. And don’t allow these bullies to put you down ever, laugh it off and think about the fact that you are being noticed for the person you are and the things you are doing.
Like Eleanor Roosevelt has rightfully said:- “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
So Tell them all --- YOU HAVE ARRIVED :-)
"The woods are lovely dark and deep, But I have promises to keep, And miles to go before I sleep." - Robert Frost
Who are you? Why have you been created on this planet? Have you ever asked yourself this question?
A strong force has created you, a gifted person on the face of the earth, a human being. You are unique in every possible way. You have been created with something that only you have the ability to do. No one can steal it form you.
Realize that sense of purpose in life and use it to do good- for yourself as well as for the people and the environment around you. That great spirit in you will push you towards achieving those goals you have set for yourself. Search for the Guiding light.
Dream, the best possible dream ever, of all the things you want to own, the happiness,the goals you want to achieve, the people you want in your life and do not let small hurdles make you lose faith in yourself or your dream.
Like the song from the Swedish pop group ABBA
I have a dream, a song to sing
To help me cope with anything
If you see the wonder of a fairy tale
You can take the future even if you fail
I believe in angels
Something good in everything I see
I believe in angels
When I know the time is right for me
I'll cross the stream - I have a dream.