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CBT is based on the idea that how we feel and what we do are colored by the way we think. Because we have the ability to change the way we think, we can learn how to have better control of our feelings and our actions.

From time to time, all of us struggle with thoughts, feelings and behaviors that are unproductive or detrimental, and we all find it difficult at times to muster the motivation to take the action needed to interrupt our troublesome outlook and replace it with a healthier, more positive one. Why do we do the things we do? Mental health professionals sometimes describe behaviors as resulting from a cyclical process:

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Simply put, a situation arises, and we have thoughts about the facts of that situation; those thoughts trigger feelings, and based on those feelings we engage in behaviors which in turn impact the situation (either positively or negatively), and the cycle continues.

Learning to name and rate our moods and cultivating mindfulness can help us to connect to our emotions, rather than being dictated to by them. Relaxation techniques can help ease the feelings of stress and anxiety that can keep us stuck in unhealthy behaviors.

Feelings make us aware that something unexpected (or something unpredicted or something uncertain) is occurring. When I say that feelings represent demands upon the mind to perform work, what I mean is that they represent demands on thinking. The work of the mind is thinking.

The feelings come first in both a hierarchical and a chronological sense. A little neonate (newborn mammal) has no thoughts to speak of, to begin with; it is a little bundle of feelings. Thinking derives from learning, that is, from experience.

There are more problems in the world, by far, than there are instincts. So the instincts need to be extended and elaborated, to cope with real-life situations in all their complexity. For that reason, thinking not only interposes itself between feelings (in general) and actions, but also between instinctual feelings and the automatic responses they would release. Thinking generates more nuanced action options.

If you find you keep making the same decision over and over again, take some time to ask yourself what are you feeling. Identify the emotion. If you are angry, slow down and pay attention to what you are saying to yourself. What is your self-talk? What are you thinking about the people in that situation? What are your beliefs? What are your values? Once you can recognize your thoughts, you can determine if those thoughts are realistic. Perhaps your thought is exaggerated or clouded by past experiences. Try changing your thought to be more objective, more evidence-based. Chances are when you change your thoughts, even a little, it will impact your emotion. That impact may simply be to reduce the intensity of the emotion. For some people this may be enough of a change to impact the choices they make.

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is a condition marked by a pattern of unwanted, intrusive thoughts, feelings, images, sensations, or urges that take the form of a Feared Story. This story tells the sufferer of a potential, and as of yet fictional, outcome or truth about their actions, intentions, character, or future. This story, being completely unwanted, makes the sufferer feel an overwhelming sense of anxiety.

OCD can be triggered by almost anything, including things we see, random thoughts we have, sensations we experience, and objects we encounter. Everything that you and I will ever encounter, think, feel, or experience is neutral until we place some value upon it. Meaning it is neither good nor bad, right nor wrong. Is a knife good or bad? It can be used to open to letter, but it can also be used to open a person. How about therapy? It is both good and bad. It can bring about profound positive life transformation, but it can also be emotionally draining, time-consuming, and costly.

If you blame the trigger (i.e. the feared thought or object) and label it as the problem, you are being misdirected. OCD, and the history of repeated compulsions, exaggerate the importance of a select number of mental associations. Over time, the other neutral or positive associations are downplayed or ignored leaving the feared associations as seemingly the only associations for these thoughts or experiences.

To their point, treatment for OCD and anxiety disorders commonly begins by challenging the feared story using rational thought to develop a broader, reality-based view of the fear. This exercise helps the sufferer develop confidence that their intrusive thoughts are likely irrational, overvalued, and not deserving of excessive and exhausting compulsive responses.

Generally speaking, people with OCD are capable of combating their feared thoughts with rational alternatives. However, compulsions exist because a feared thought comes with, or takes the form of, an uncomfortable and unwanted feeling that overwhelms the sufferer.

Here is the actual problem of OCD. The feeling. More specifically, it is the feeling that makes you engage in compulsive behavior, which subsequently reinforces the OCD cycle. Chasing down and embracing that feeling with a welcoming and accepting posture desensitizes you to the feeling over time. Conversely, if you are unwilling to feel the feeling, but instead rely on compulsions and avoidances, desensitization cannot happen.

Remember, we are able to acknowledge that the trigger is neutral, and has a number of alternative associations. Additionally, we are very capable of telling ourselves why the Feared Story is irrational and wrong. However, we are unable to convince ourselves to not feel something because feelings are largely out of our control.

The goal of Exposure and Response Prevention treatment is to intentionally feel this feeling, acknowledge this inconsistent emotional response, and let it remain without compulsive behaviors until it passes. Remember, it will always pass.

The cards helped me see that I had more options than I thought I had. Some were big changes, and others were smaller, but in the end, I realized I had quite a few options. When you are feeling stuck, this is a lifeline. Learn more about Exercise Optimism.

For me, the power of T, F, A cards is that it breaks down the situation so wonderfully into manageable parts. I so often feel overwhelmed, especially in complex situations, by all of my various thoughts, feelings and actions. So to break them down is essential.

Thnx for such an effective tool. Introspecting my past classroom situations I could relate to these TFA cards. Sometimes we must introspect on our thoughts which are reflected in our fillings & lead to some strange actions.

One of the most powerful+simple tools we've created, the set includes 66 cards plus instruction booklet in a display box. This hands-on tool increases awareness about choices, and is ideal for coaching, small group instruction, or personal development. The cards help people understand the differences between thoughts, feelings, and action by providing examples -- and there are blank cards. With a dry-erase marker, the blank cards can be turned into any other thought, feeling, or action.

Use: There are many exercises you can do with "Think, Feel, Act Cards" that are foundational for building emotional intelligence. For example, you can assess a recent decision to identify the patterns you followed in your reaction. You simply select cards that match your thoughts, feelings, and actions during the decision, and then follow a process to examine those choices. The tool helps clarify the components of decision-making, shows the links between thought, feeling, and action, and increases awareness of patterns.

Researching for my next book, I was intrigued to understand how our thoughts originate. Do thoughts make us emotional and is that why we sometimes have a low mood because our thoughts were of bad things. Those who have seen my presentations, been to my workshops, or have read my posts, will know that I am big on mantras.

One mantra I continually espouse - "Let's start thinking about what we are thinking about". Is this a valid thing to say and which then has more control of our current mood: our emotions, our thoughts, or the way in which we feel about a particular situation?

If we are in a certain situation, our automatic risk management system reviews and compares that current situation to either our ingrained or learned memory so that we can respond with the appropriate emotion. Emotions occur unconsciously and mostly happen before the thought or feeling.

A thought is something that we do in our mind, consciously, subconsciously, or unconsciously. We just don't know that we are thinking a thought until it becomes conscious. When the emotion occurs first, the thought appears in our conscious mind.

A thought is simply an electrical signal that passes between neurons. Each time these cells communicate, the brain builds a connection to make it easier for them to communicate again in the future. Thus, the continued thought builds a neural pathway. The more that we think about something, the stronger the neural pathway becomes and the harder it is to break away from that particular thought.

Our thoughts are just as important as are our emotions when it comes to how we feel. For example, neuroscience shows us that if we allow our thoughts to wander, as in the case of daydreaming, our thoughts will eventually become negative and our mind will bring us back to reality with a jolt. Our mood will become negative and we will feel low.

If we want to daydream, we should reframe the word 'thought' to 'imagining' and control our imagination in order to avoid the resulting negative thought. Therefore, thoughts are not only our ability to form ideas but they are often the link between our emotions and feelings.

Feelings result from our interpretation of events and sensations, including from our emotions. Hence, feelings are essentially the result of our emotions and thoughts; we feel emotions because they are linked to memories which we think of at the time of the emotion. 006ab0faaa