Let's challenge the conventional aim of preparing students for college and careers by proposing a broader purpose: preparing students for calling. A life of meaning, identity, and contribution.
For this to happen, students must form a relationship with the content, but they rarely get there on their own. The teacher’s relationship with the student is the bridge. When students feel seen, heard, and valued by their teacher, they are more likely to engage with the subject matter in meaningful ways. So while the goal is a student-content connection, it’s the teacher-student relationship that enables and sustains it.
Instead of only asking:
What do students know?
How do they think?
We should also be asking:
"What do they care about?"
"How connected do they feel to this learning?"
"How is this shaping who they're becoming?"
This shift brings emotional, relational, and identity-based growth to the forefront of education.
The core idea is to integrate DOR (Depth of Relationship) alongside DOK (Depth of Knowledge).
Recall facts
Apply concepts
Analyze / Integrate
Transfer knowledge
Connection / Initial interest
Discovery / Personal relevance
Identity / Emotional ownership
Purposeful action in community
By blending these two frameworks, education becomes a space where students grow not only in skill and content knowledge but also in purpose, belonging, and transformation.