And why would she be?

He went out of the way to create attraction using exterior things, when what she was really looking for was a connection with a man who fulfilled her needs for excitement and security.

So don't sweat it if these date ideas don't sound like earth shattering innovations at first. Instead, understand that dating.com scam  the point of a great date is to set the stage for you to make a great connection with her and to demonstrate that you are a man of high value.

Here we go...

Date #1: Group Dancing Lessons

This is not to be confused with taking her to a loud club where you can't hear each other and shaking your booties for an hour or two. Find a place that offers group dance lessons for beginners for partner dancing like ballroom, salsa etc. and take her there.

The activity of dancing will bring you into contact with one another without you having to do the: "Should I put my arm around her now?" Physical contact is a great way to build attraction and to get you comfortable with one another. Also, you'll have something to talk about, and perhaps even to laugh at each other about, during and after the date.

But there are two other benefits of this kind of date that you might not have thought of: first of all, you'll probably be dancing with other people as well as one another, and that's a good thing. The fact that you're willing to see your date dance with other men will demonstrate that you're confident, secure and not prone to jealousy. Remember, insecurity is a sign of low value and insecurity is at the root of jealousy.

Most women will even test you to see if you're prone to jealousy. So you can demonstrate yourself as a man of high value right away by taking her to a group dance class. Not to mention that you'll get an idea of how secure she is with seeing her date dance with other women.

But the other benefit is that dance lessons might turn out to be something you do together long term, which will be very good for the relationship. Many married couples have reignited the spark in their marriage by taking dance lessons. It gives the relationship a purpose beyond the mundane and helps to strengthen the bond.

TIP: If the dancing goes well, take her out for a drink or a cup of coffee afterwards. You may not get a lot of talking done during the dance lessons, but it will be a great icebreaker and will help you both relax. It will also give you something to talk about. So take advantage of this by taking her somewhere that you can talk. You can even sneak some physical contact by "rehearsing" the hand positions you learned during class.

Date #2: Piano Bar

Again, this can be a lot of fun because it gives you something to focus on other than trying to keep the conversation going. Of course, it also gives you the space to have some good conversation. Most piano bars are quiet enough that you don't have to shout, and set a pretty romantic mood.

Now, what makes this kind of date fun is getting involved in setting the mood. How do you do this? Put in some requests for the pianist, and encourage your date to do the same. Most piano bars take requests, and this will give you something to talk about: each other's taste in music.

You can often tell a lot about someone by the music they like and most importantly why they like the songs they do. In fact, asking a woman what she likes about a song might get her to tell you something about herself that she'd never tell you if you just asked her directly. Not to mention that some music can have an almost hypnotic effect on people and help them open up to people they don't know.

TIP: If you're making requests to the pianist, make sure you're not requesting too much of the same kind of music. Go for variety and show that you have diverse interests. For best results, get into the habit of attending the place and getting to know the staff and the regulars. Then, when you go there with your date, it will almost be like inviting her into your home.

Date #3: Wine Tasting

This will either be an opportunity for you to look very sophisticated or to connect with one another out of being mutually ignorant about the subject. Either one can be attractive to a woman if you do it the right way. It depends on the kind of woman you want to attract and also on your personality. Knowing about wines can come off as very classy, cultured and sophisticated and a wine tasting is a place where you can talk to her and to have a great experience tasting the wines, learning about them and teaching her what you know.

Just make sure you don't come off as being "snobbish" or trying to impress her too much with your intellect. Let this be an opportunity to you to show her a bit of your personality. On the other hand, if you know nothing about wine and neither does she, it might be an interesting experience and provide for some good conversation.

TIP: You can drink the wine at a wine tasting, but it's probably better to spit the samples out and actually make the tasting the feature of the date instead of drinking. Getting "tipsy" on a first date isn't exactly the best way to connect with a woman. Not to mention that most men are far less charming when they're drinking than they think they are.

Date #4: Mini Golf

This is perfect if the woman who you're taking out is a bit competitive (in a fun way of course). Mini golf doesn't take a lot of skill to learn and a little playful competition can be a great opportunity to build sexual tension. There's an interesting connection between sexuality and competitiveness between a man and a woman and an innocent game of mini golf is a great way to bring out a woman's competitive side.

Of course, if she's never played mini golf, she might be open to you showing her how to use the club, which is an opportunity for some physical contact. Much like the dancing date, this will also give you something to talk about and you might even get to laugh at each other a little bit. Also, it gives you a good idea of how playful your date can be. There's almost nothing worse than dating a woman who can't have a good time.

TIP: Just as after the dancing date, take her out for a drink or a cup of coffee after wards (that is of course if the date goes well). Again, this is an opportunity for you to talk and get to know one another after you've broken the ice and had some fun together.

Date #5: Amusement Parks

Okay, it doesn't have to be an amusement park if you have the option of a state fair or something similar. The point of this kind of date is that it can be a lot of fun and will make a very memorable first date if you stay with her. Many amusement parks offer year passes and you can purchase one and take your dates there without having to keep paying to get in.

Lots of amusement parks and similar places have a variety of things that you can do together and you'll still have plenty of time to talk. Not to mention that it will also give you an opportunity to see her fun and playful side and to show her yours.