Frequently Asked Questions

Are there any rules?

There are no hard and fast rules but we ask that everyone be respectful and kind.  

Is there a policy on drug use?

Many of you might have indulged in some moderate mood altering substances before the party and that’s fine (and none of our business). But if your behavior is causing concern or a disturbance of the festivities, we may ask you to leave. Drug use at the party will not be tolerated. Poppers are fine.

What kinds of guys are there? Are they hot? Are they gross? Will I get laid?

We have an open door policy and thus are privileged to have a very diverse crowd with every age, race and body type.  If someone wants to play with you and you are not attracted to him or he wants to do something you are not comfortable with, please just say "no thank you."  

Can I just watch?

If someone is not taking “no” for an answer, please let us know. I am often asked if it’s okay to just check one’s clothes and watch. That’s absolutely fine.

Is there a dress code?

There is no dress code but most guys are either naked or wearing a jock or sexy underwear.  A lot of guys, in fact, enter the party wearing something and come back to the clothes check ten minutes later asking if they can put that jock or pair of briefs back with their checked clothing.  We happily comply. 

We do, however, insist that you check your phone for reasons that are self-explanatory.

How many people attend? How many dads? How many sons?

Every party is different. There are usually 25-50 guests and we make no promises regarding the amount of dads, sons, tops, bottoms, bears, twinks etc who will show up to any given party. If you’re having a horrible time and need to leave, we will happily refund your money. 

for me, sex parties in general are about managing fear and anxiety and self-consciousness. So if you're nervous about showing up, that's certainly understandable and a common experience for a lot of people. but if you do show up, you're most likely going to have a lot more fun than you would if you were home on the apps. fortune favors the brave. 

As far as tips for newcomers:  sex parties are about managing fear.  You are removing your clothes and entering a room full of strangers.  Like public speaking or diving into a swimming pool, it’s a lot scarier before but once you’re there, it’s easier.  You don’t have to do anything.  You could really just sit down on one of the couches or stand against the wall and enjoy watching everyone else.  If the spirit moves you, you could join in.  But you don’t have to.  Also bringing a buddy is helpful too.

Each party is different. Sometimes the crowd is meh. Sometimes it's on fire. Most of the time the parties are very sexy.....I wouldn't be still having them if I didn't have a strong sense that people were enjoying them and willing to show up. It's good crowd. Not druggie at all. Many body types and ages represented. 25-40 guys generally show up. it's good to get there early. things thin out at 9:30. I'll put you on the mailing list.

I get texts and emails from guys who claim they’re bringing an actual dad or son but i have yet to be aware of this actually happening.  Either they don’t show up or they haven’t introduced themselves.  It’s possible they’re concerned about legal implications — consensual incest is illegal in NY state — or this is fiction and they’re simply leaning into a fantasy.