Most teens and young adults today spend a significant chunk of daily life online. We learn, play games, shop, express ourselves, and keep in touch with our friends and family through our screens. While the internet helps us connect more to others in a lot of good ways, an unfortunate byproduct of being so connected digitally is the growing trend of cyberbullying—a pattern of intentionally aggressive behavior that aims to harm or humiliate others online.
Cyberbullying may not seem like a big deal because it’s not in the “real” world. But it can have real and lasting effects on our mental health and our sense of safety. Because of this, it’s important to understand how to spot bullying behavior online and understand what you can do to stop cyberbullying.
Useful resources
If you would like to get help with a cyberbullying issue by speaking to someone, there are a number of telephone helplines where you can speak with a trained advisor.
NSPCC – Advice on parental controls and social networks
IWF – Report child sexual images to IWF
Kidscape – For parents concerned about a child being bullied
YoungMinds – For adults worried about child mental health
Family lives – Bullying parenting advice
It may be helpful for your child to talk through their worries with a trained counsellor from organisations that have experience dealing with cyberbullying issues. There are a number of free services that can be accessed by phone, email and online chat.
Childline – Any worries a child may have
Kooth – Online qualified counsellors for children
The Mix – Support service for young people under 25
Papyrus – Confidential advice for suicidal feelings
Samaritans – 24 hour helpline for those struggling to cope
Ditch The Label – Online message boards for those aged 12-25
Across the UK, there are a number of charities and organisations that are experts in bullying and provide a great range of information, advice and help for parents and children on their websites. Some specialise in particular issues.
Anti-Bullying Alliance – The UK alliance of bullying charities
Anti-Bullying – Advice on anti-bullying
Bullies Out – Resources for parents and children
Ditch The Label – Resources particularly for children
Cybersmile – Advice with online forum
respectme – Scotland’s largest anti-bullying organisation
Kidscape – Provides skills to tackle bullying and abuse
Family Lives – Dedicated cyberbullying section
Cyberbullying will typically involve social media. You can find information here about social network sites and apps, and the safety advice offered by each of the main social media providers for children and parents.
Facebook – Bullying & harassment resources
X – Safety and security
Instagram – Tips for parents
YouTube – Policies and safety
Snapchat – Support
Cyberbullying can sometimes happen on gaming platforms, and these sites offer specific advice for dealing with bullying issues associated with gaming.
Ditch The Label – advice to safe online gaming
Cybersmile – advice to safe online gaming
Should children block their bullies?
In some situations, it might be best to encourage your child to block or unfriend the person that caused them hurt, particularly if they’re an anonymous user or not known to your child. Your child might be reluctant to do this if they consider the person a ‘friend’ or they know the person from school or the local community. Revisit what it means to be a friend and talk about healthy online relationships.
And, remember that most social media platforms give you options for reporting or flagging content that breaches their user guidelines. Be aware that the thresholds for offensive content varies according to the social network, game or app.
Bullying is often suffered by children that are either unsure about their sexuality or identifying as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender.
Stonewall – Tackling LGBT abuse online in partnership with Stonewall and Facebook
Family Lives – Advice on homophobic bullying
Comparitech – Preventing LGBTQ cyberbullying guide for parents and educators
Bullying is often suffered by children that have Special Education Needs and Disabilities.
Anti-Bullying Alliance – Help for parents with children with SEND
Kidz Aware – Supporting children with disabilities
Thankfully, most cases of cyberbullying can be resolved without the need to involve the Police. However, if you find that this is a course of action you wish to take, the following may be helpful.
Anti-Bullying Alliance – Information about bullying and the law
Cybersmile – Bullying and the law, legal perspective
Should your child need extra support, counselling or mentoring to cope with a bullying issue then these organisations may be able to provide advice and services.
YoungMinds – Services for children
Childline – Counselling services for children
Red Balloon – For children who self-exclude from school
Counselling Directory – A nationwide counselling directory service
Mental Health Foundation – How to talk about mental health with your GP
Mind – Guide to get the right mental health support