A person who has embraced a growth mindset believes that with hard work, practice, (a little patience and grace with yourself), and perseverance, anyone has the potential to improve. This applies to any skill set- not only academic. Have you ever heard the adage “Practice makes perfect?” That’s what we’re going for!

A person with a fixed mindset believes that we were born with a talent/skill or not. Although we may not realize it, most of us are guilty of slipping in to this mindset more often than we care to admit. I’ll confess to saying: “I’m a horrible singer,” “I’m an academic, not an athlete” and even “ You’re the mathematician in the family!” We all do it, at one time or another. If we name it (“mindset”) and become aware of it, then we will notice a shift in what we see in our kids – just watch!

1. Pay attention and verbally praise for effort: instead of praise for being “smart” acknowledge their hard work, persistence, or learning from a mistake.

2. . Be a Growth Mindset Role Model. Honestly, how often do you say, “I can’t sing” or “I’m not the mathematician” as if there’s no hope for you. Make sure your sending the right message: I don’t know how to do that YET, but I’ll try!

3. Discourage your child from taking the easy route (where little is learned) and instead embrace new challenges! A whole page of questions he can already answer won’t “grow his brain” as well as the one deeper thinking problem where he has to work a little. Even if he arrives at the incorrect answer – congratulate the process, ask a question that helps him evaluate his thinking, and encourage another try!

4. Remember that growth mindset isn’t limited only to school; it applies to many areas of life (athletics, arts, social). Is your child having trouble getting the basketball into the net? Did she try to initiate play with a friend and it not go well? Perhaps he has an annoying habit of interrupting important conversations? These are some examples of opportunities to help foster a growth mindset in children outside of the classroom setting.

5. Discourage envy of peers and talk to your child about what he or she can learn from others who appear more successful. While skills may appear to come easily there’s usually an element of practice.