Most of us have been trained to be very modest. When it comes to saying something good about our selves we feel very queasy about blowing our own trumpet. Right, no body is asking you to do any trumpet blowing but facts have to be stated as facts.

If you are a music lover and have a good voice too, I can’t see why you can’t put it down like that itself. Why can’t you declare simply without sounding very proud that you have good voice? A pointer that you could bear in mind would be to add something like, “My friends think that I sing rather well.”

There now, you can’t feel too bad about something as simple as that. It is as good as saying “some people think that I sing well, but it is for you to decide whether I have a good voice or not.” Similar statements that you can work on and even add are given below.

So go ahead, if you really have a talent, you might as well as let others know about it, after all a talented person would any way like to be appreciated by a partner.

While we are talking about modesty, there is one question that I want to address right now. It is something that all of us are familiar with.

If you have chatted with a stranger with whom you are trying to build a rapport you must have been confronted with the question before. The question is “what do you look like?’

I have often wondered about the sense of this question. The best answers that I could come up with are “I look like a cross between an orangutan and a Tasmanian devil” or “I have my mothers teeth, my fathers nose, my uncle’s eyes and my roommates’ shoes.”

But of course we cannot give such answers which funny though they might sound, might just rub the person in the wrong way. What the person actually means is, “are you good looking or not?”

A very tricky question indeed! How can you answer such a question with out sounding either super modest or extremely vain? The answer to that is not to tell them the answer directly. You can say something like:

⦁ “I am as fresh as peppermint.”

⦁ “I look like a bunch of fresh lilies.”

⦁ “I have the appeal of a bowl of fresh fruit.”

If the person still does not take the hint, then give them a detailed description of ever inch and let he or she decide for himself or herself.

Bragging, as we all know, is a major turnoff. So it is best to steer completely clear of it. This is especially true in the case of physical attributes. You might be one hell of a

looker, but let the other person decide, remember that what wine is for Peter can turn of to be venom for Paul.

You can make implied statements like, “I am certainly not a bad looker,” or “opinion is divided, some people think that I am good looking while others think that I am not.” But perhaps the best way of describing yourself would be to add a touch of humor to it.

If you are chubby you could say something like, “I am round in all the right places…I hope.” If you are tall you could say something like, “some say I should play basketball.” If you are on the short side you could say something like, “I might seem to lacking in size but I assure you, it is all there.”

You know what is the best part about such witty remarks about oneself? Humor always works.

All of us have been blessed with a sense of humor to some degree at least and if a person is able to make funny comments about himself or herself, that always acts as a turn on. And you can take my word for it; humor sells like a billion dollars.

We have seen and heard other people describe themselves and these kind of descriptions sort of sink into our heads. The moment some one asks us to describe ourselves, we start off by using such hackneyed phrases.

I think it is much better to completely steer clear of hackneyed phrases. It makes us look like just another face in the crowd. Tell me, unless you have an identical twin, have you ever seen any one who looks exactly like you?

Then why on earth should your description of yourself sound like a banal organ that has been played again and again. Try to sound as original as you can. Make yourself sound interesting.

Try to use as many similes and comparisons as possible. If you are blonde, well don’t just say that you are blonde. You could descriptions like, “My hair is the color of freshly harvested hay.”

If you are a brunette you could say something like:

“My hair color would make a raven blush.” If you have red hair, you could try something like, “My hair is like the setting sun.”

Let the other person know that you would prefer to be known by the handle you use or even better, you could tell the person to call you a pet name but let the person know that it is indeed a pet name, because at a later date, if the relationship really blossoms it doesn’t look nice if you have to say something like, “Gee, I’m sorry, but my name isn’t really Janice, it is Heptullah, I guess I lied to you.”

The best thing in this case would be to let your self be known by the name of some celebrity. You could call yourself Cinderella or Pocahontas or Archie, or Betty or Veronica.

The chatting has now begun and you can start exchanging information. Keep to the general and stay away from the specific.

The human brain is indeed a remarkable thing. It is capable of storing and processing such a wide range of information that even a supercomputer would shy away when compared to it.

But due to the virtual explosion of information, our memories have become very selective.

This means that we cannot recollect everything that we hear or see. Do not trust your memory too much when it comes to chatting over the net.

You might meet a lot of people over the net and you might chat with a couple of them. So eventually it might become difficult to remember all of them and their details as well.

Or even worse than that is that you might become confused and mix up details. It would look bad for you if you call a person the wrong name, or ask the person the wrong details.

In such cases where you have been chatting with a number of persons, for heaven’s sake jot down the details about each person separately or create separate files for each person ad store them in your computer.

When you add them to your friends list use handles or nicknames that can help you remember the person the moment you start chatting at a later date.

Now, in case you do not really remember the person, then it is unadvisable to play the guessing game. The other person might get very offended if you say something like, “Is it Sarah or Mary?”

In such cases when you have a genuine lapse of memory, the best thing to do is to be honest with the person and say, “I know we chatted the other day, but I’m terribly sorry, can you please refresh my memory about you?

There are few topics that are best for the initial talks so that an intimacy is not developed and at the same time you do not have to struggle for matters of common interest. You can talk about the weather, sports, movies, music and even food.

But at the same it is in bad taste to discuss religion, politics and family matters in the initial stages. You can crack jokes but dirty jokes are an absolute no-no at least in the first few talks.

Speed dating is a modern approach of singles (including divorced, widowers, widows) regardless of genre, age, and status for even gays and lesbians merit considerations in this 21st century practice of meeting acquaintance, or would-be future partners in life.

Although, it objects likewise with that of the traditional type of mate-matching done so by ancient wealthy and royals of antiquity, beside that it has been practiced also in the orient by the Chinese as a part of their tradition, the present approach is very more liberal, for the people concerned in here have the opportunity to outstand to their choices and interests.

Speed dating of today matches and gives opportunity to interchange types, status, age and genre to such extent that it renders match-making of the olden days totally obsolete in make and perspective. Speed dating became popular in the United States after the introduction of the Jewish Rabbi Yaacov Deyo of Aish Ha Torah; who, in his observations, the Jewish singles were outnumbered by the non-Jewish, and that they should meet each other in groups, in cities where single Jewish are fewer.

The practiced has evolved general acceptance and went across other borders, and continents, and became a recent global practice. Various places of interactions to promote the meeting of interested groups or individuals are open in clubs, restaurants, and other places of social venues where it is openly organized. It also became popular in the inter net where there are a lot o traffic visitors of the entire global network.

Speed dating has reached the continent of Canada. It is widely practiced in Montreal, Vancouver, Toronto, Montreal, Calgary, Edmonton, Ottawa, and Winnipeg. Up-market bars sponsor the meeting exclusively of singles (they specialized more on unmarried males/females), ages 20 to 35 years old who are more adaptive of their personal choices and interests.

A single individual could meet a group and decide his/her choice later, when it is more convenient and less awkward not to be so blunt in right-at the moment preference of one from the other. Speed dating tends to be fast, safe and full of fun when a group of singles from 8 to 12 in numbers meet in up market bars. The practice extends in such popular places specified above.

Don't mistake it; speed dating is totally different from romanticizing. It has nothing to do with treating the event as a prospect for any sex relationship, although it could be a fun time for flirtations for both male and female who chance at meeting a number of people in 20s. There's time for enjoyment with total strangers having different levels of interests and respective characters and choices.

Group encounters entails a three-minute chance to evaluate the person of your preference, and choice is to settle on whether you'd ever wish to pinpoint the person of your elect to forego with in lengthier relationship that would front a lead for a life-long commitment.

There're adverse angle as regards to speed dating around this side of the continent. Addressed exclusively to ladies in two categories; namely, the lady singles who speed date for the first time; and, the sex oriented/experienced young females such as divorced, widows, and plain play-girls. The male may have a lot of expectations on them either the positive sex expectations, towards results of their encounters on either these types of ladies.

The other type male date is that without expectations towards out-right sex relationship. These are the most wholesome speed dates where a "good choice" is on hand.

The popular 8 minute speed dating event provides date-hungry singles with the opportunity to meet up with a number of prospective singles in just a night.

The 8 minute speed dating event can also be a fast, fun, safe and comfortable way to meet up with other people looking for the same thing- a date. In every 8 minute speed dating event, you can enter into a room full of eligible singles who would want to meet someone just like you.

An enjoyable evening of conversation is always a part of the 8 minute speed dating event. There is never a dull moment when you are a more than willing participant in such an event.

Every 8 minute speed dating event is set up to give the participating singles crowd with a chance to check each other out safely and in a comfortable venue- among other dating singles.

When you are at an 8 minute speed dating event, you are always guaranteed to find someone that will catch your eye. Each event is always great party that is not to be missed.

With a roomful of single people out to meet you, you would surely be having the time of your life. The 8 minute speed dating brings the art of match making in to a whole new different level.

The event works by having willing singles register at an 8 minute speed dating event to become a participant. Registration is usually done by age groups and area where you're in.

A gathering of 20 or up to a hundred like minded singles is brought together at a restaurant or bar set up for such an event.

The participants are usually given time to meet and choose prospects during the mix and mingle periods. After this stage has been set, the participants are given the chance to meet up with 8 other singles of their choosing.

They are given 8 minutes each to talk and know about the person they choose. After the 8 minute time limit, they go to one of the other prospects on their list.

After each participant has met with their prospects for the night, they are still allowed to mingle and meet up with other people they find interesting. And to keep everything safe and the atmosphere comfortable, the participants in the event are prohibited to give out their contact information to anyone they meet at the event.

This will assure that everyone will feel safe to meet up with other singles without the obligation to give out certain personal information to other singles in the event.

What makes the 8 minute speed dating event click is that it allows singles to meet up live and in person.

The group setting and the registration process that is required for all participants makes the event safer environment for people to meet up. The lively party setting makes the atmosphere ideal for singles to meet up.

The environment is comfortable enough for the singles crowd to let their hair hang out and have fun, all the while taking their chance to meet someone that they are compatible with.

The 8 minute speed dating event can even increase your chances of making a run for love and possible long term companionship. Being a participant in an 8 minute speed dating event will make it easier for you to know someone who can bring some spark back into your life.