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The 40 Men Exercise

As an exercise, I recommend meeting forty new men, not necessarily dating, but spending some time and having a meaningful conversation, to help you decide whether or not you like this person and why. Then you can decide if you want to see him again. Most important is whether you like this person, can get a feel for his human values, and can communicate with him. Remember that his opinion of you is irrelevant at this point

One of the most important and significant concepts that are presented here is that you keep in the forefront of your consciousness that you are not concerned with what this man thinks of you. It is none of your business. You are only interested in what you think of this man. You are not meeting these men to find a soul mate, you are meeting them to expand your comfort zone about who men are, to alter your ideas about what you want in a man and to build your own self-esteem. Most women have very limited experience with intimate relationships with men. I do not mean sexual relationships. I mean intimate relationships, as in your father, your brothers, your spouses or any male that you have lived with for any length of time. That is where your preconceived ideas about "who men are" originate.