Recently, I was asked by someone to describe myself. I found myself at a loss for words. Put simply, I am love, honesty, compassion and sarcasm. Humans are all such complex creatures. But if I was to be asked again, I would say I am a writer as I enjoy that particular form of expression. I am a healer, not of the physical, but the emotional. I possess an uncanny ability to relate and speak the same language as others when not a single word has been spoken. For this, friends have labelled me an empath. I am a fighter. I have certainly had my fair share of struggles, like the loss of parents, good friends and relatives as well as job and love loss, but the reality is that I keep getting up, no matter how many times I am knocked down. I am a straightforward individual and like to cut through the BS. I don’t sugar coat my opinions or my views. But above all, I am a lover of humanity, I see our struggles and just want to help.
Having toiled away my life in the corporate world, my short-lived epiphany was to give back. In order to do this, I removed myself from social media. I found it ironic that everyone’s connected, yet we all feel so disconnected. We’ve become calcified. Many of us have lost our humanity as technology swallows us up like quicksand. Instead of true connectedness, we boast of social connectivity. We see this as being the utmost important. The challenge of facing adulthood requires us to delve deep. Deeper than the shallow waters that social media offers us. Deep within to where our inner demons reside. It is frightening, but necessary and often easier when talking to a stranger offering solace and authenticity.
The time has come for me to pay it forward. Sometimes you don’t need a professional to help you grasp an understanding of who you are and where you perceive your existence. I know, this sounds somewhat nonconformist. But have you noticed that when you’re feeling overwhelmed be it spiritually, mentally, or emotionally, you felt considerably better after unloading to a friend and perhaps even a total stranger? It’s after those alleviating talks that you realize there is in fact a light at the end of the tunnel and you are not alone. I am not a licensed therapist, However, I combine a strong intellect with a keen understanding of the human spirit and a deep rooted desire to help. My simple belief is there are 5 main values and 5 key actions, my values are: 1. Honesty 2. Respect 3. Responsibility 4. Achievement and 5. Ethics. The 5 key actions are 1. Exercise 2 Nutrition 3. Meaningful Life Experiences 4. Satisfying relationships and 5. Sense of Spirituality. I’ve worked with individuals and corporations across the globe assisting them in resolving both business and personal obstacles. I also began my career as a physical trainer and much of my time in that role was spent assisting people through their various mental blocks. So I suppose this is a return to my beginnings.
At this point in my life, I have figured out how to focus on the things that matter and remove the shit that doesn’t. My time and experiences being homeless truly put things into perspective. We must focus on what matters. Focus on the daily talks you have with yourself. And for that matter, if you aren’t having these daily talks, start now! Focus on the people you associate yourself with. Whether you realize it or not, their influence has a considerable impact on you and your life. How you show up and participate in your day to day life matters. Your goals matter. But instead, you sweat the small shit which is the only thing that does not matter. The only real thing that matters in all of this is YOU!
As I said previously, I am not a therapist. I am no snake charmer nor a snake oil salesman, and I’m certainly no Mark Manson. (Although I wish I was. I mean that guy is a damn genius and absolutely brilliant at his craft.) After reading this you’re probably thinking I’m a life coach, but really, we are all our own life coaches. We make our choices and live with them. But you sure as shit can have a little assistance along the way.
A good conversation can help you overcome your roadblocks. Even if those obstructions leave you feeling stuck, puzzled, dazed, foggy or feeling lost and helpless. Let’s start a conversation. Sometimes that’s all it takes so reach out and I’ll be there.
If you are interested in checking out more of my writing, I co-wrote a book with my father based on his life. It’s called “The Ruination of Dylan Forbes”. It’s a different kind of book, but one I think you’ll enjoy. You’ll have to read it and let me know what the hell it’s all about.
My second book and soon to be “claim to fame” if you can call it that, is an autobiography. It’s called “Food, Water, Air and Within”. I am still workshopping the title as the book is still a work in progress.