At first glance, “Your Unique Cultural Lens” might sound abstract—a vague notion hovering at the intersection of self-awareness and identity. But as I delved into the book Your Unique Cultural Lens, it became clear that this concept is more than a philosophical exercise. It's an essential framework for understanding ourselves—not only as coaches but as leaders, professionals, and humans navigating an increasingly complex world.
The book itself is structured as a workbook, guiding readers through a series of reflective activities. From the start, the exercises were intense, prompting us to examine the intricate layers that form our individuality. The process was like peeling an onion—each layer revealing something deeper, something shaping our subconscious patterns and outward behaviors.
I found value in these explorations, though none of my personal discoveries felt revolutionary. Perhaps my heightened self-awareness—strengthened by my time teaching leadership at the Naval Academy—played a role in making these realizations feel familiar rather than transformative. Still, the journey held profound lessons, particularly in how we leverage this self-knowledge.
One concept that resonated deeply was the idea of hidden identities—aspects of ourselves that remain concealed, sometimes even from our conscious awareness. These hidden identities often stem from protection mechanisms, social conditioning, or personal insecurities. Recognizing them and understanding why they’ve stayed in the shadows was an empowering experience.
Beyond self-reflection, this realization became a powerful coaching tool. If hidden identities influence my decisions and actions, they must also be shaping the experiences of my clients. The subconscious narratives guiding them—whether toward success or frustration—often have roots in these unseen elements.
With this awareness, my ability to coach evolved. Understanding the presence of hidden identities allows for more intentional, impactful questioning. Instead of focusing solely on surface-level concerns, I now explore what might be lurking beneath—the invisible forces shaping decisions, behaviors, and emotions.
For anyone engaging in coaching, leadership, or personal development, this level of curiosity is invaluable. When was the last time you explored—truly explored—the feeling of curiosity when something struck you with intensity, yet you couldn't immediately understand why?
That moment holds answers. And if we’re willing to dive deep enough, it reveals the hidden truths that shape how we move through the world.
Stay true.