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My sons story
So, on 5th April 2019 it was about 6am my alarm went off and I heard my son Ty’relle who was 20 at the time come in through the front door he went to his room and I heard two people a girl's voice and a guy so I called Ty into my room and asked him who was in the house, I was used to him having friends over so I just wanted to know which of his friends it was, anyway he said who it was so that was that I got myself ready for work.
My younger son was sleeping I would ring him on my way to work to get him up to make sure he got ready for school he was 14 at the time. I got to work was a normal morning well so I thought, it was until 10am I noticed I had 2 missed calls on my mobile phone and a voicemail, I never usually listen to them but I did and it was the police asking me to call them as soon as possible so I did the officer said I need to get to the MRI hospital ASAP so I asked what was going on and they told me my son Ty had been attacked so I need to get there now. I got to the hospital the journey was the longest time in my life I found where he was and they told me to go into a side room so from then I knew it was serious, the doctor came in the room and told me my boy had been stabbed in his side and he was in theatre I asked him what happened and he said Ty had stopped breathing at home for 24 minutes and then again in the ambulance so I asked if he would be brain dead and he said yes then I asked if he would survive and he shrugged his shoulders with his hands up I said I wanted to see him and he said I can't so asked if could be near the theatre room and he said there's no room near there.
I remember being in the family room pacing the floor asking for updates and all they kept saying is they will let us know when he’s brought up to intensive care unit so I waited for updates and I got none not one until 5 hours later when they came and took us to another room to say there was nothing else they could do they had tried everything, NO, that was it my heart stopped my world was crumbling I immediately asked if I could see him they said yes so I spent my sons last minutes with him he passed away from a single stab wound that pierced his lung, liver and main aorta of his heart at 5:15pm that was it my baby boy had been taken away from us I was devastated, broken and angry I wanted my son back.
The ripple effect
Losing a loved one to knife crime has a ripple effect on all, the victims family, the perpetrators/family and the community as a whole.
Grieving never ends there are just different stages, you can’t control your emotions because you just want your loved one back. Me as a mother was depressed, angry, sad I did not smile, laugh or even leave my house I just wanted to shut myself away from the world. A year after my son was murdered I nearly died myself, I just didn’t care if I was here or not but for some miracle I am here today to tell my sons story and to make the children aware of the dangers of knives and to help the next generation of children. What the children fail to realise that from picking up that knife it will change their life forever in so many ways. It’s the victims families that are left in the life sentence. The pain never goes away you just have to find ways of coping with the devastating situation you are left in.
How to get involved within the community
Ty Talks is a system especially for the children who hang around in and around parks so that if they need to speak up with any concerns regarding themselves or someone else is in danger due to knife crime they can approach anonymously and we can arrange police presence if needed. If you would like to be involved to become part of change and patrol around local areas for the security of our children then message me directly on the links in Stay in the loop.
Do you need assistance involving knife crime?
HELPLINE CONTACTS:
Police - 999
Crimestoppers - https://www.crimestoppers-uk.org/
Fearless - www.fearless.org
Knife Savers - www.knifesavers.co.uk
Kooth - www.kooth.com
Changing the justice system
My main goal to achieve within the justice system is work towards changing knife crime laws so that if a minor is caught with a knife for the 1st time they go into a detention centre for a minimum of 4 weeks to learn the truths and the ripple effect of knife crime because there is no deterrent for the children that's why this needs to be put in place. The law getting caught with a knife/sharp object at the moment is you will get a 4 month (maybe) community sentence, this may acquire the 2nd time you get caught in possession. This is not enough for young people not to be involved in knife crime. There is no deterrent for the laws on knife crime.
Its affected me really bad especially the way me, my family and friends were treated by the justice system we were made to feel like my son had murdered someone. We are now left in the life sentence that's why their needs to a deterrent so no other families have to go through what we are and will go through for the rest of our lives people need to think before they commit the crime and that the after effect isn’t worth it nobody wins when a life is taken.