HOW TO USE THIS LESSON: The webpage below is intended to be projected for students to follow along. It includes basic instructions, definitions, etc. to guide students. Depending on your technology, you can have a student in charge of scrolling through the site, on your cues. Just have them try not to scroll past the thin purple dividers or thick colored banners until you are ready to start that next section!
You will also need to download and/or print this facilitator's guide. This document contains extra instructions, facilitator's notes, and other behind-the-scenes content necessary for the lesson.
Objective: You will learn about the attributes of healthy peer relationships and reflect on the qualities present in relationships in your own lives.
Take a few minutes to reflect quietly on the following:
Think of the best relationship you have ever had. This can be with a friend, a family member, a significant other, or a caring adult.
What makes/made that relationship enjoyable to be a part of?
Think of one specific word that encompasses the strengths of that relationship, and keep it in mind for later in this lesson.
We are going to be talking about positive peer relationships today. We will take about 9 minutes to watch this video defining common attributes of positive relationships.
Keep in mind, relationships are productive and beneficial interactions between two people. This can be with other students, your friends, significant others, family members, and other caring adults.
Take 2-3 minutes to share your initial thoughts and reactions with a partner.
When I asked you to think of what made one of your relationships enjoyable, did you think of one of these attributes? (thumbs up/ down)
There are many things that make a positive relationship and we may not all agree on what is the number one most important. That is ok! Part of a positive relationship is understanding this. To demonstrate, we will be polling our class on what we feel is the most important attribute.
Your teacher has a chart paper with the 10 attributes you learned about today. Each of you will get three stickers/sticky notes. When the teachers says go, you will come up and place your stickers on the attribute you personally find most important in a relationship.
You can use your stickers as you see fit. If you feel one is head and shoulders above the rest, you can place all three of your stickers on that one. If you feel there are three equally important attributes, you can put one sticker on each. The only rule is you only have three stickers. Once you have your stickers placed, return to your seat. Ok, GO!
After you have all “voted,” what attribute is the most important to our class as a whole?
Why do you think not all of the stickers were on just one attribute?
Was it easy or hard to make your selection? Why do you think that is?
Do you think there are any variables, things that could change, that may impact your answer? Do you think you would change the way you answered if you were thinking about different people you have relationships with? Would your answer change depending on the place you were or the situation you are in? Take a few minutes to share your thoughts with your neighbor.
We are now going to take a few minutes to self-reflect. This is a time for you to take your learning and apply it to your day to day. The more thought you put into this self-reflection, the more you will get out of our time together today.
The first question to reflect on is: What relationship attribute do you feel you excel at? Think of specific examples of times you have exhibited this.
Question two: What relationship attribute do you feel you need to work on the most? What might be the first action you take to grow in this area?
The challenge for you is to share your self-reflection answers with the person you thought of at the beginning of our time together. After all….so much of relationships is communication!
As our relationships are ever-evolving, the attributes may be stronger or weaker with different relationships and these may change overtime. Explore this concept with several of your past or current relationships by spending 5-10 minutes journaling on one or all of the following prompts:
What relationship in your life has displayed the most positive attributes? Which attribute felt strongest or most meaningful?
What relationship in your life has displayed the least positive attributes? What happened to that relationship?
Have there been relationships in your life that have changed a lot over time? What changed and why?
Re-watch the video. Identify three "Ah-Ha" moments and three questions the video brings up for you.