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Objective: You will understand respect, how respect contributes to effective communication, and how effective communication is part of personal responsibility.
We will have a brief discussion on the following:
What does it mean to disrespect somebody?
Imagine that you overhear someone talking about you, and the person is saying that she respects your opinion. How would this make you feel?
What is respect? Who is worthy of respect, and why are they worthy of it?
Now that we have a common definition of respect, let’s talk about how we can effectively communicate while being respectful. This can come in handy in three areas: for persuasion, clarity, and diplomacy. Let's explore what these mean.
When you are interviewing for a job, or maybe trying to get a date, you must choose your words carefully- not only to make a good impression, but to persuade someone to hire you, date you. In this situation you are using an effective speaking skill, to persuade—to try to sway someone’s thoughts or feelings.
Consider the following questions:
What are other times when words are used to persuade?
What are situations in which you have used words to try to persuade or convince someone of something?
Clarity is another reason for using words responsibly. When you communicate simply and clearly, you are more likely to get your point across.
Briefly write a set of directions from your classroom to the cafeteria. Read your directions out loud. Let the rest of the classroom vote on which set of directions would most effectively get a new student from this classroom to the cafeteria.
Diplomacy is yet another reason to choose words carefully and speak responsibly. Being honest and tactful (can also be seen as respectful), rather than blunt, can give people a gentle push in the right direction.
A friend is planning to wear casual clothes to a formal party.
A friend is commenting on every scene in a movie, and it’s annoying.
A friend is considering applying for a job that requires skills you know this person does not have.
Respect for ourselves and others is very important.
You must take responsibility for your words because they belong to you.
Using words responsibly is part of being an effective communicator.
Speak responsibly for persuasion, clarity, and diplomacy.
Being an active listener is a key to good communication.
To listen actively, focus your attention on the speaker, confirm what you hear, and respond to what is said.
Focus your attention on the speaker. Let the person know that you are listening. How can you do this?
Confirm what you are hearing. You can do this by repeating parts of what the person says or by summarizing what’s been said. You can also repeat or summarize silently to yourself.
Respond to the speaker in some way to show that you have heard and understood what has been said. You might ask questions, make comments, or continue the conversation.