HOW TO USE THIS LESSON: The webpage below is intended to be projected for students to follow along. It includes basic instructions, definitions, etc. to guide students. Depending on your technology, you can have a student in charge of scrolling through the site, on your cues. Just have them try not to scroll past the thin purple dividers or thick colored banners until you are ready to start that next section!
You will also need to download and/or print this facilitator's guide. This document contains extra instructions, facilitator's notes, and other behind-the-scenes content necessary for the lesson.
Objective: You will be able combine previous learning with their personal experiences and be empowered to make healthy decisions for yourselves regarding forgiveness
Watch this short clip on being a better person 1% at a time.
Then, reflect on the following questions:
How does forgiveness make us a better person?
How does it make a difference in our families, friend groups, and communities?
Watch the following Ted Talk "The Real Risk of Forgiveness - And Why It's Worth It" by Sarah Montana (15:53) .
Share out your initial thoughts and reactions to the video. Consider some of the following questions.
Why forgive? What motivates forgiveness?
Who has the power to forgive?
Is forgiveness a shortcut to healing? If so, is that a good or bad thing?
When we forgive someone, are we expected to resume a relationship with that person? Can we forgive and not reconcile with the offender?
When or why would you reconcile, and when or why would you not?
Can we forgive someone who denies they've hurt you?
Can we forgive someone if we are no longer in a relationship with them? Why would we? Should we?
Can we forgive and still seek justice? What would this look like?
Listen to the following thoughts:
According to this Ted Talk, to get free you have to:
1 - Get very specific about the hurt or offense, and face it head on.
2 - Recognize that holding on to anger and resentment affects YOU, and keeps you from getting what you are owed in life... such as new experiences, joy, relief, relationships, etc.
3 - Recognize that holding on to the hurt is forcing you to sacrifice, and that this trade-off is coming at too high of a cost
You may wish to have students complete this activity individually, in small groups, or as a classroom. You can project the chart below onto the board, create your own chart, or click into the document to enlarge it or print it.
Explain to students that the chart can be used as for guidance when trying to make decisions about forgiveness in their own lives.
Spend time journaling or free-writing about the following topic:
Write a letter to someone, or yourself, about a time when you experienced forgiveness. Journey through the hurt and pain and what you had to process in order to reach or gain forgiveness. Consider what it was/is that you gained back for yourself when you took back your power and gave yourself the freedom only found in true forgiveness. Tell your story.