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This is not about my business, it is my journey as to work together we need trust and I share this so you will see my honesty and commitment to my own life and how this has carved my way in helping others.
It is fair to say that we always grow and change whether we consciously intend to or even believe we do. I am definitely in the category of being very conscious of growth, but it was not always the case. In fact, when I first became more conscious of my need for growth I actually thought I was a late starter and then found as I shaped my skills and knowledge to help others, that in fact, I was in the pretty much "normal" timeframe of life to have moments of wake up.
It all began in 2010 with the arrival of my first born in the beautiful spring of Cooma, NSW. A starry-eyed Dad in a country hospital holding for the first time a child of his flesh was overcome with a revelation of responsibility but with no real understanding of what this meant, how to address it, and how to express it. It's a right of passage becoming a parent, a real moment of maturity that is thrust into your life. The reality was we did our best with what we had and knew and each moment that felt out of control was a moment where growth was needed. The hurdle we faced as neither of us really understood the depth of our need to grow as individuals, as parents, and as partners. Like many parents, we fumbled our way through and with what we now know being the will of the Most High, we made it to our next milestone.
In the much hotter summer of 2013 at the Gold Coast,QLD our second child joined us. We had been going OK with one and now the pressure instantly felt more than doubled as we balanced our new addition with other challenges in life. And toward the end of the year I had what is best described as a personal breakdown. So much was failing and sinking fast that I needed a rescue.
"Before I go on, I think it is important to know that whatever compels you to make decisions in life to do something should never be scrutinised post the outcomes of that decisions as in my terms this takes you further down the spiral. "
I found my way to a seminar about personal growth as the other option of a doctor prescribing me medication frightened me and I was firm that this would never be a path I took. I took to personal growth session passionate and reset some foundations that were missing in my life. Things as simple as clearly articulating my values (the core things that drive me ) and my beliefs (the things that matter most). Even looking back take nearly 10 years on, these have changed very little. I invested significantly over the 5 years in all manner of personal development (you can read about this in my LinkedIn Profile Experience) including amassing a library of over 300 personal development and leadership books (of which I read about 40% and thumbed through the rest). So my knowledge bank was growing, I was growing and my help to others was growing. It was taking me many places in business. It gave me the courage to commit to bringing our 3rd child into the world in 2016 in a very sunny and hot Gladstone, Qld summer.
But there were many things it did not give me and mostly this was a personal relationship with my wife that was continually fading away. We were both conscious of it. I had always been a few steps ahead in growth of my wife and this brought tensions consistently as we were simply not well balanced. Through a connection with a key client in 2018 I was giving the change to once again find a next level of growth and it was being shown the power of being humble, something I continuously work on. This was a growth disguising a much more powerful moment that would arrive a couple of years later as everything I was driving as change for me got halted as not long after on 4th child was born in Box Hill, VIC in a chilly winter we went through an unfortunate event of near loosing him to anaphylaxis due to a peanut allergy. I had seen death and been present for death in my time of people I did not know all that well, but when it is your own and you watched them stop breathing there is a very heavy weight that is felt. And by the grace of the Most High, bless him, he still is with us today and striving in life.
Things are often not what they seem and it is important to flow along with it and when you realise you are connected in this world very differently to what you first knew, there is an instant peace that arrives.
So here we were 10 years into our life together with 4 kids and striving to keep and expand a client base. There was not much maintenance going on in the relationship between my wife and I. What happened next was not something that was sudden, but it was the beginning, the opening of a journey that would galvanise our family for the better, for what we trust is forever.
In Feb 2021 my Dad of 78 passed away as a result of aggressive cancer. It had riddled him for a few years and, thankfully and with mercy from the Most High it took him quickly from this world. My Mum asked me to do the eulogy and at this point, I had not had a transaction with Our Saviour so I wrote from the heart and found myself very moved by the words and support from those who were believers. I was still naïve to the power that had already written my life and be there every step rescuing and guiding me. But it was the beginning of a search for what we might refer to as the deeper meaning of life. Suffice to say I had a dip in my zest for life in 2021. My Dad was gone, my great coach of my life and also the weight of family responsibility that came with his absence.
The Finish Line that Started My Greatest Journey
I really do not remember what day it was, but I do remember the encouragement of a few close peers to find my way and to seek and be open to a transaction with Our Saviour. I am not sure how long I had been reading the Scripture either, but I know this was bringing me closer despite the challenge of not really being able to digest what I was reading. As I sat at my desk, drifting off into a daydream rest an image was flashed to my eyes. I was looking down upon myself walking along a dirt path through a dry grassland forest and the clouds were dark but it was still so hot. I remember looking at myself and feeling worried as I looked so lost and it was a fair picture of me as in life I was feeling lost. I was wandering alone, out seeking what was needed but I did not know what I needed. From the right of the picture approached a figure and they walked to me with a real purpose, like they knew me. At first I wanted to run as I feared what I did not know. Then the figure spoke and the voice was a soothing tone, a tone that I could feel immediately said to me this person is interested to know you. They got very close to me and we bumped shoulders, my right to his left and then A conversation began and it went like this ...
The Figure asked: "Where are you going?"
I said: "I don't know"
The Figure said: "Can I help you find your way?"
I said: "I am not sure, I am lost, but I am grateful for your offer."
The Figure said: "Follow me."
I then realised watching that it was He, Our Savoiur, He had come to seek me, as I had finally relented and admitted I was lost. I had finally opened the opportunity to hear from him.
I said: "There is much sin I have committed, how will I repent?"
He said: "Worry not, just Follow me now and we can get to that conversation later."
I said: "I will"
This was my transaction and from then on I have found new paths of growth and a big part of this has been sharing the Scripture journey with my wife which is bringing us closer and closer back together under one house of belief and in one spirit of life. We have much to learn and are thirsty to wider our commitment and strength of our faith. I did away with the 300 personal development books and have invested in a few books to help accelerate my appreciation of the scripture. I have found knowledge everywhere and in everything. But most key for me personally I found my way to an everlasting peace in my life. It is not without work, but I know it is there for me as I transition from the life of the flesh to the life of my newly found spirit and bond to Our Saviour and Our Creator - bless them.
Bless you for sharing in my story.