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(1) Start and stop on time
Please try to get here five minutes early, but we want you to come even if you have to be late. It’s OK to leave early.
(2) It’s okay to just listen
You’re never required to speak. A lot can be learned from just listening. If it’s your turn to speak you can just say, “I pass.”
(3) Limit your opening story
Briefly describe what’s happening right now. Let us know the most important thing the group could help you with today. Check-in and check-out should be free from interruption.
(4) Share the air
Let everyone who wants to speak have an opportunity to do so. We benefit the most when several voices are heard. Please reserve comments until the speaker has finished and only when welcome.
(5) One person speaks at a time
Let each person speak so we can all hear them, free from interruption. It’s okay to raise your hand if you would like to talk. A facilitator will only interrupt to assure that we follow our guidelines.
(6) We Have Equal Say
Any group member can share the facilitator role. Members should always feel welcome to respond to each other and help guide the group topics. Facilitators look to the group for equal responsibility and support.
(7) What is said here, stays here
We respect confidentiality. Never speak outside the group about what you have heard. Even within the group we respect each other’s privacy; do not speak about members who are not present.
(8) Safety takes precedence
It’s important that we talk openly about difficult topics like suicide. Please be aware, if someone is at risk, we must make sure they are safe.
(9) None of us are experts
This is a peer support group. It’s not a substitute for therapy. We’re not mental health professionals, and we don’t diagnose or treat brain disorders.
(10) Use “I” language
For example, “What I did when faced with that problem....” Avoid giving advice or solutions. Sharing your experience is far more helpful and respectful.
(11) Differences are okay
We’re all entitled to our own point of view. When we disagree, we still recognize that each person’s life experience has value.
(12) Make this a safe and supportive place
Empathize with each other. Remember that each of us is doing our best. Let’s treat each other with gentleness and respect.