Three decades seems, on paper, like a long time,
A generation’s worth of living, and crying warm saline
Tears of joy or despair or acknowledgement, quietly
And to oneself, of the perpetuity of love.
A twelve-leafed ring rests for thirty years on my fourth digit,
The details of its artistry worn away, smoothened, in digging a
Furrow in my skin, each changing the other, ring and finger,
Each as much a part of me as the other.
And so with you, a part of me, but separate,
You’ve worn a deep and comfortable furrow
In my soul, my being and essence
So inimitably wrapped with you,
Such that thirty years is but a beginning,
A small measure of time, we transcend
The temporal bounds which constrain us in bodies,
Even as our Beings soar, playfully, in love’s perpetuity.
Sometimes I feel trapped, in a self-created prison of affect, intricate and comprehensive as a spider’s web, catching me in an impossible miasma which filters perceptions through narrow mucous channels of negativity, where I create a world of dire expectation and frozen inevitability and where dreams die.
Then there is You,
Like a small, imperceptible crack, through which flows a weak, hopeful light, that even in its sparseness suggests a seemingly absurd alternative to the mind’s world, antidote to lost Self, to settling in baleful resignation, to giving up.
You,
A lubricious liquor suffusing energy, that permeates and animates, renders meaning and context, a life force and a light, forcing me to remember I am a light as well
You,
Together, a We for better than three decades, making a better
Me for three decades, give or take, giving and taking,
Let Us shine with clear, disentangling, miasma-clearing, world-expanding vision,
Together, for thirty more......
Give or take.
We've been riding on this planet,
This lumberous, heaving blue-green orb,
Together, formally, for some time,
Thirty four years, its hard to absorb
This notion, this much time,
Even as everything changes, is true,
Yet It oddly stays the same,
Even me and even you.
Especially you and especially me,
The body may desiccate, wizen, and turn to flab,
Our cogent thinking and speech to blab,
What we physically were, we can't now be.
Except there is a jewel, you see
An ineluctable fact which drives me,
A miraculous and simply complicated idea,
A feeling, posture, and way to be,
That is; joyfully mired in the permanent, penetrant love
That binds us, frees us to each other,
Such that riding on this spinning globe,
Together, we grow ever closer to one another.
Some things go well together
Even though they are
Quite different from each other,
Like salt and pepper,
Cats and dogs,
Ketchup and mustard.
The “and” conjoins the separate and individual
Into a kind of Unity.
Sometimes both sides of the “and” are part of the same thing,
Like thunder and lightning,
Matter and energy,
Numerator and denominator,
Lux et Veritas,
Or kindness and gratitude;
Where the “and” teases apart a Unity.
And for other dyadic phrases like,
For example, “Cathy and John”
Is the “and’ joining two into one,
Or is one teased apart into two?
Well, both actually,
As both reflect the whirling, swirling,
Undulating, revolving, mutating, and evolving
Dynamicism over 37 years,
Since we walked down a Stone aisle
In official and public declaration
Of our “and”, our Love.
A Love whose life-affirming preciousness and rarity
Has only grown over those years,
And for which, from my side of the “and”,
I am humbly grateful for your salt… and your pepper.
One and three score,
Who could ask for more?
Yet, more is to come,
Regardless of desire, want, or wisdom.
That’s the way life is sometimes.
The wise call it fate,
the wizened are just late to emulate,
the former’s reforming perceptions,
Crafting exceptions, making it ok.
That’s the way life is sometimes.
Three score is six decades,
Enough time to know some things about life.
Enough time to look back
And to look forward.
To consider the places you’ve been,
The persons you’ve been in those places,
The person you are in this place, here and now,
Persons you will be, there and then,
All You’s connected through time and DNA
And memory,
Each contributing to your Self.
Separate and unto its own,
The creator of a world
Amongst many worlds,
Your world, at six decades,
That is, three score.
Two decades plus one, your existence defining
The sweetest morsels of my life
And times, times and memories
Of nascent personhood,
Reflecting like a pool in your eyes,
The aspiration of my perspiration,
The future of my past,
The presence of my now.
In celebration on the occasion of your 21st birthday, in gratitude and love, for what you were, who you are, and what you are to be…….
In celebration,
With cerebration,
And deliberation,
But without much festination,
Or further machination,
We come to the realization,
It’s not the destination,
But the journey itself,
That results in One’s self-creation.
Happy journeys,
Happy creating,
Happy birthday Jen.
Used to be that I would check in a lot,
Hearing your restless scratching on the crib mattress,
Or gurgling bowel, peristalsing your dinner
Through you like a sacred river,
Some becoming You
But with some left over at the end,
Always some at the end.
Now well into the third decade,
Your third decade, the time having also
Flowed like a river,
It’s not about scratching or digestion,
But more about watching the direction,
And wondering who is checking in
On whom?
Which is all good, speaking to remarkable,
Sustaining bonds, of love-tempered gratitude
For sharing a place where we can watch
Each other’s river flow on and on,
To our own respective seas,
Together,
Just checking in.
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Milestone #30
As miles go by
The passing landscapes of our lives
Assume a kind of soporific
Regularity,
Like a cartoon
Where one character chases another
Against a rolling backdrop that repeats
Over and over until there is some resolution;
The quarry caught or escaped, then
A new landscape brought in, and
A milestone declared.
But milestones become millstones
When we get caught within the layered tempos
Of the rolling landscapes
And forget
We are both cartoon character and cartoonist,
Pursuer and pursued, writer and reader.
With Serendipity and Luck as partners,
We plot the course, set the expectations,
And strike out,
Girded by the knowledge
That we are loved, inspired
By the love we have to give, and
Grateful for the beauty of
The landscapes passed and
For those yet to come, which,
Whether variegated or repetitious,
Become our sacred story.
8 July 2023
I did dismay
My nerves did fray
Over what to say
To celebrate Jay,
Tis his birthday.
But fears allay,
If I only think like Jay
In words wise and gay
Fete without delay
The wonder, if I may
That is Jay.
Hey!
I’ii not be kept at bay,
Nor suffer dismay,
No matter what you say,
When celebrating the day,
On which Jay,
Did into the world, first foray.
A Collection of Words Rustled Together in Seeming Stochastic Fashion on the Occasion of Jay Pottenger’s 70th Birthday
3 March 2020
Seventy years is no small feat,
And one which we now all fete
With glasses raised
And words of praise
That let you know you are quite neat.
That is, in the wonderful sense of the word,
Not whether one sows sloppiness and discord,
But rather we're just a bit keen
On honoring your mien,
Along with other fans and adoring hordes.
For seven decades, that's three score and ten.
Just doesn't come around again,
We’ve just one shot to hit the mark
To celebrate the joy and with a spark,
To do this well, and then, when
All is said and the course is run,
When we've had our little bit of fun,
We will know deep in our hearts
or other body parts,
Our celebration of Jay is well done….
As it is right and meet, to raise up, to fete,
Something so neat, as Jay’s seventy year feat….
To fete the feat, that is our fate
To celebrate and cerebrate,
To drink wine of fine appellate,
To eat cake that is chocolate ….
Though there's more to say, I can’t resist,
And both my serious and silly instincts insist
To lastly, that is, if I may,
To Professor Pottenger, that is, Jay
Offer wishes for the happiest of birthdays.
Omni sunt ad finem ad absurdum
Sixty-four is 2 to the sixth,
It would be incorrect to say “two cubed”,
Although a cube has six sides,
But alas just 3 dimensions, hence
That would be only 8.
And there is a lifetime between 8 and 64.
Could you imagine that when 8,
Where life would take you,
Where you would go,
Who you would become?
Pig-tailed, micro visage of Self,
What future did you conceive?
And now, 3 more orders out,
Another dimension, at 64,
Looking back, are you wistful and wise,
Or icy wizened or bitterly regretting,
Grateful and accepting or mourning
The loss of pig-tailed possibilities?
Having been your companion,
For me more than 2 to the fifth,
I would not change a nanosecond.
The casual spontaneous vitality,
Is rare, life affirming, cherished.
Besides, who else would so gently read my poems?
To David On the Occasion of his Eightieth Birthday
I heard the word you’re turning eighty,
An event that can be weighty…
Or light, perhaps a source of delight,
For longevity well-done, even greatly.
For four-score years is quite some time
To find or forge one’s storyline,
Assuming new roles, refilling holes,
Until we’re holy whole, approaching divine,
At least in our heads,
Where thoughts are bred,
And attached to words
So that our truths can be said,
Sent out into the world,
A diaspora of words, one’s self unfurled,
Vulnerable, transparent, human, humble,
Hoping that these bits of ourself endures,
In those written words that come together
In story and prose,
To sniff out meaning and assess whether,
To lead with your nose
Or maybe the philtrum works better,
Who knows?
Regardless, my gratitude to your propensity,
To offer your words and intensity
In sharing this delightful diaspora,
A part of yourself, your magnanimity.
And so I now use my own words
To fete the feat of 8 decades told,
Wishing a sense of playful joy be yours
As your story unfolds and spirit endures.
In fine autem omnes absurdum
John Seibyl, MD
21 January 2021
Years hence, I see you, as if in a film,
Soft focus, in a garden triumphant with colors,
Impossible colors.
Your rocker eases comfortably back and forth,
Not going anywhere excepting the few inches traversed
And then reversed as you rock back,
Over and over like the Ocean tides,
Or your very breathing- quietly essential, unpretentious.
Both rocking and respiration are a kind of personal metronome
Marking each sacred moment, flagging each ephemeral second,
And reminding you are contemporaneous with eternity
Making possible the colors of late autumnal gardens
And the impossible love I have for you.
1 November 2022