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Do I need to engage with a funeral home? No, it is not a legal requirement for whānau to work with a funeral home. However, it is important to note that while public cemeteries and some crematoriums are publicly owned, some only accept applications and bookings submitted through funeral homes.
Is embalming mandatory? No, embalming is not a legal requirement. However, it plays a vital role in the sanitation, preservation, and appearance of the body. Without embalming, it's important to understand that the natural process of decomposition will occur more rapidly. This is something you and your whānau should discuss carefully before making a decision.
Do I need a coffin? It depends on whether you are being buried or cremated, and where. For example, at a whānau urupā, coffins are not typically required. Public cemeteries, however, may have rules that require the use of a coffin. For cremations, standards vary, some crematoriums allow cremation in a cardboard box on a piece of plyboard, while others require a proper coffin.
Can I uplift my loved one from their place of death? Yes, whānau have the right to uplift their tūpāpaku, provided they have a suitable vehicle and the necessary transfer paperwork. Keep in mind that hospitals and rest homes may have specific policies, so it’s best to call ahead.
Can I register the death? Yes, at the moment whānau can register the death free of charge. This requires submitting the "BDM28" form to Births, Deaths, and Marriages within three working days of the burial or cremation.
Can my whānau make my coffin? Yes, absolutely. Many whānau choose to build or decorate their own coffin as a way of honouring their loved one. It’s a powerful gesture of aroha, and many funeral homes are happy to support this choice.
What do I do if my loved one leaks from their eyes, nose, ears, or mouth? If you’ve engaged a funeral service, call the funeral home for guidance. Otherwise, gently use a tissue or cloth to wipe the area. Leaking can be a natural part of the process, approach it with calm and care.
What can I do to prepare for my tangihanga/funeral? There are plenty of free tools online to help you begin planning. If you’d like something more culturally grounded, we offer Tangihanga Planners and DIY Tangihanga Kits. These resources help you record your wishes and guide your whānau when the time comes.
Can I cremate keepsakes with my loved one? Most crematoriums have strict rules about what can be cremated. Items like phones or anything with batteries are not permitted due to safety risks. It’s best to check directly with your crematorium to see what’s allowed.
Who do I call if I don’t want to go to the funeral home but still need help? We’re here to help. Whether you need practical support or emotional guidance, we offer kaupapa Māori services grounded in tikanga and whānau care, no funeral home required.
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