When our students make it to university, they will be asked to contemplate, in introduction to philosophy classes, whether Truth is Beauty; whether Beauty is Truth. Is it better to hear hurtful truths than false flattery?

When does speaking the truth turn to gossip? What are the dangers of a half-truth?

My Advanced Placement Literature students loved to argue about Dostoevsky's words (above). In the end, here's what one class decided: Gossips who lie are worse than thieves because what they steal is more valuable than gold. They steal people's dignity, reputation, and credibility. They came to this conclusion; truth was better than false praise (flattery), but it should be told wisely.

This student discussion each year always reminded me of what I was told as a child; remember the three to ask of truth -- One; Is it true? Two; Is it kind? Three; Is it helpful? If what you are about to say to anyone -- truth or praise -- we were told, does not meet all three of these requirements, you should close your mouth and keep silent on the matter.

Personally, I think Dostoevsky was right (about this and so much more)--it is hard to tell a painful truth and easy to tell people what we think they want to hear. In the end, I think of the wise old rule of the three to ask of a truth works, and that we should try always to let kindness be our guide.

Until next time, Nota Bene,

Lynda