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The HealthyGamerGG Discord strives to be a community that is safe yet allows you to be challenged as you grow as a person and build the life you want to live. In order to create and maintain this space, we have designed the following rules and community guidelines over the years our community has been active. Due to the nature and purpose of this space, we have a relatively strict and heavy policy on mutes/bans based on the behavior exhibited by members of the server. These rules serve as your warning, and breaking them will result in a mute or a ban. As such, we strongly encourage reading them thoroughly.
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All rules are enforced at moderators’ discretion, and they will have the final say in all interpretations. Please be respectful, mindful of your words + how they affect others, and take care to avoid banned topics like politics, NSFW, etc. Do not discuss mutes or bans in public channels — conversations about issues or concerns regarding mutes should take place in your appeals channel for moderator oversight and transparency.
All violations are logged for consistency, and we do expect users to make efforts to correct these behaviors in the future. Because each mute is an opportunity to review the rules and ask questions, we use an escalating system where some mutes may be longer than others or progress to bans when someone has had prior rule violations. However, we do take genuine, reflective behavior into account when addressing appeals and we may reduce mute times based on how that appeal process.
HealthyGamer server rules may be subject to change. It is your responsibility to check back frequently + ensure you're up to date with the most current version. If you want to check if a behavior is within our rules, please DM a mod.
[NOTE: Our moderation bot sends warnings via DM. If you don't have DMs open to all server members, there's a chance you might miss them.]
DISCLAIMER: While we encourage discussion of topics regarding health and wellness, do not try to “diagnose” others, manage or treat others’ medical diagnoses, or provide medical advice or therapy. Always check with a medical professional before making changes to your health plan or following any medical advice you come across in our server. Please note that this server is NOT a substitute for therapy, and members are not obligated to provide others with help or advice. Psychiatric management, including of suicidality, requires a professional — if you feel you have clinical depression or anxiety, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional. If you are experiencing thoughts of suicide, please go to the nearest emergency room or call 911. If you are located outside the US, you can find local emergency resources at https://help.befrienders.org.
How to Report/Getting in Touch with Mods
How to Report/Getting in Touch with Mods
The best way to let us know about something happening in the server is by typing the /report command in any channel. Reports are sent to server moderators and admin, who will investigate as soon as possible. The command does not automatically lead to a mute or a ban for the offending user — the situation will be reviewed by moderators, who may reach out via DM for more information if needed (so please be sure your DMs are open!)
Disagreements do not automatically qualify as rule-breaking when users are respectful, and we will not ask somebody to leave a channel you are in (including voice chats) just because you don't get along. However, please do report if a rule is being broken, including if you are being harassed or baited, or if somebody is insisting you continue a conversation that you've asked to stop (rule 3). Letting us know what rule was broken may lead to a quicker response.
While reports on other members are not anonymous to moderators, the reported user will not receive your name and reporting will never put you at risk of server consequences (unless abused). Reports made on moderators are only visible to admin.
If the /report command is not working, you may need to update Discord, or our bot may be down. You can use right click -> Apps -> Report Message to report a message or /right click -> Apps -> Report to report a user (not currently possible via voice chats).
Please do NOT ping @Moderators except in emergencies. Instead, look in the members list for an on-duty mod or others that might be online and active.
What counts as an emergency?
What counts as an emergency?
Emergencies include (but are not limited to) bots spamming, Nitro gift scams, and gore/NSFW content. Emergencies DO NOT include users insulting each other (please use /report) or expressing mental health distress.
You can access crisis resources or send them to others anonymously by using /crisis in any channel.
I have another question/request that I need a mod for.
I have another question/request that I need a mod for.
If you see an on-duty moderator in the members list, you can ping or DM them — but they may be handling reports or something else, and it's easy for things to get lost in chat. If you don't hear back from them, you can use the Questions and Requests thread.
If you need to change your nickname, DM any mod or use the Requests thread.
You can also use the #where-do-I-go channel for help finding your way around!
If you're more comfortable asking questions in private, all moderators + the Community Admin (@vemm) have open inboxes — unlike with other members, you do not have to ask our permission before sending a DM.
[Admin note: Please do keep in mind that moderators are members too, and any misuse of their DMs for harassment will be taken as seriously as with any other member!]
Discord Rules
Discord Rules
1) This is a community space: No spamming, flooding, or posting random links. Do not shout or scream in voice channels.
1) This is a community space: No spamming, flooding, or posting random links. Do not shout or scream in voice channels.
In text channels, avoid posting walls of text, consecutive messages that could be expressed in one sentence, or messages in ALL CAPS.
Do not post images, GIFs, and links excessively or out of context — our goal is a community that engages with each other, not a list of links and videos without conversation. if you'd like to share an external page or video that isn't in response to an active conversation or question, consider adding some commentary as to what value you've found in it and what you'd like to discuss about it with others.
PLEASE NOTE: As a spam prevention measure, users with fewer than 50 messages are NOT able to send links outside of select channels. This is a bot-added permission granted automatically within 24 hours of sending your 50th message. If you believe you have an exception that warrants more immediate link posting, please contact an on-duty mod. (Wanting to post a reaction gif is not an immediate need, apologies!) Link permissions may be revoked if misused.
Voice messages and audio recordings are not permitted within the server except for in the appropriate channels in Creative Corner.
2) Keep messages and voice chats to English only and keep usernames to the Latin alphabet (A-Z), Arabic numbers (0-9) and characters found on a standard keyboard.
2) Keep messages and voice chats to English only and keep usernames to the Latin alphabet (A-Z), Arabic numbers (0-9) and characters found on a standard keyboard.
Please do not converse in other languages or use characters from other languages or "fonts" in your username. This helps the moderation team to keep the server safe and makes life easier for those who use screen-readers.
In order to work well with our bot, display names cannot be simply a single piece of punctuation (e.g., just "."). If a moderator sees this, they may change your display name without warning.
If you need to change your nickname, DM a mod or use the Questions and Requests thread.
3) Be respectful to others and do not argue. Do not insult, judge, diminish, or be dismissive towards users in text, voice, or reacts, and respect others’ wishes to end conversations. Objectionable terms (r-word, f-slur, n-word, etc) are not allowed.
3) Be respectful to others and do not argue. Do not insult, judge, diminish, or be dismissive towards users in text, voice, or reacts, and respect others’ wishes to end conversations. Objectionable terms (r-word, f-slur, n-word, etc) are not allowed.
(This is not an exhaustive list of banned words, so please use common sense and be mindful of words that are acceptable in your culture that may not be acceptable in others!)
If conversations become heated, you are advised to request to continue them in direct messages.
Don’t force other people to continue conversations they don’t want to
Do not DM other users without being given permission.
We won't remove someone from a voice chat you're in just because you don't get along. However, we will remove someone for breaking rules, including if you set a boundary to end a conversation and they insist on continuing. Letting us know which rule has been broken may lead to a quicker response.
Do not mute other people in voice chats — instead, make a report by using the `/report` command.
This server is a place for mental health support, not for your dankest memes or to make off-hand / edgy “jokes.” “Nobody was offended” or “it was just a joke” will not excuse your behavior.
Please don't share screenshots of public and/or private messages with participant identifiers visible, out of respect to the privacy of users within both the HG Main Server and the HG Women’s Space Server.
4) No bigotry or discrimination. Discrimination based on race, sex, gender identity, sexual orientation, religion, national origin, age, ancestry, or disability is contrary to the principles and policies of Healthy Gamer and will not be tolerated.
4) No bigotry or discrimination. Discrimination based on race, sex, gender identity, sexual orientation, religion, national origin, age, ancestry, or disability is contrary to the principles and policies of Healthy Gamer and will not be tolerated.
5) Do not generalize groups of people. Speak from first-hand or second-hand experience. For example, instead of saying, "women prefer X", say "In my experience, the women I've seen and interacted with prefer X".
5) Do not generalize groups of people. Speak from first-hand or second-hand experience. For example, instead of saying, "women prefer X", say "In my experience, the women I've seen and interacted with prefer X".
6) This server contains minors. Keep messages, usernames, statuses SFW (Safe For Work). Mature topics are allowed for discussion in the context of support and advice but keep discussions as tasteful as possible.
6) This server contains minors. Keep messages, usernames, statuses SFW (Safe For Work). Mature topics are allowed for discussion in the context of support and advice but keep discussions as tasteful as possible.
Do not flirt with other users or casually discuss sexual content on the server, even if you know the other person in the conversation is okay with it.
Do not stream or share NSFW content.
Please also take care to avoid promotion of things that may be illegal for minors to engage in, such as gambling or vaping. If you aren't sure if a topic is allowed, ask a moderator first.
7) Do not discuss or encourage drug/alcohol usage for self-medication, recreation, or spiritual/psychotherapeutic reasons. Substance use, including alcohol, nicotine, and vaping, is prohibited while on the server or appearing on video in server voice chats -- please be respectful of those in recovery from addictive behaviors.
7) Do not discuss or encourage drug/alcohol usage for self-medication, recreation, or spiritual/psychotherapeutic reasons. Substance use, including alcohol, nicotine, and vaping, is prohibited while on the server or appearing on video in server voice chats -- please be respectful of those in recovery from addictive behaviors.
Drugs may be discussed only in the following contexts:
Seeking support with addiction
Sharing personal experiences with a prescription medication (only used as prescribed), or
Sharing peer-reviewed scientific information on prescription medication in response to a discussion or question about that medication.
Examples of Allowed/Prohibited Content in Rule 7:
ALLOWED
Sharing personal experiences with prescription medications (i.e., the effectiveness, side effects, etc. of medication(s) you have been prescribed)
Addiction support-related discussions (in relevant channels)
Discussing or recommending legal supplements for overall health (i.e., NOT as treatments for specific medical conditions)
Sharing relevant peer-reviewed scientific research on medication(s) in order to ask/respond to a request for support
Advising others to speak with their licensed medical professional about their medication(s)
NOT ALLOWED
Encouraging drug/alcohol use for any non-medical purpose
Using or being under the influence of non-prescribed medications, drugs, or alcohol while on the server (including voice/video chats)
Sharing your prescription medication dosages or instructions for use — these may vary, and the right way for others to take medication(s) is whatever way they have discussed with their licensed medical professional
Advising others on their medication choices, including endorsing or discouraging use of any medication(s) (e.g., you CAN say "I'd never take an SSRI again after my experience," but you may NOT say, "No one should try SSRIs")
Discussing intentional misuse of prescribed medications (i.e., skipping doses or using for symptoms other than what it was prescribed to you for) except when seeking support to stop misuse
Sharing even peer-reviewed research, if it is being shared without a support context or intended to spark abstract debate (see: rule 11)
8) Do not ask for or give professional advice over Discord, including but not limited to financial/investment advice (including cryptocurrency), legal advice, or medical advice.
8) Do not ask for or give professional advice over Discord, including but not limited to financial/investment advice (including cryptocurrency), legal advice, or medical advice.
9) Support others/ask for support appropriately.
9) Support others/ask for support appropriately.
- Supporting others is not an excuse to provoke, judge, or criticize them under the guise of “tough love” or “stating the facts”. If you cannot find a kinder way to say the same thing, do not say it.
- Please keep discussions focused on the OP (original poster), and do not encourage self-harm or suicide under any circumstances.
- An individual may not start a support voice chat or thread for the purpose of supporting others with a specific identity or experience unless they themselves have that experience, and unless they're an equal participant sharing and listening on the same level as everyone else. Nobody in any chat or thread should be taking on the role of sole supporter to everyone else unless they are a community lead or approved by server staff. This is to help us keep this an equal community as opposed to defaulting to any kind of assumed hierarchy.
Please do not paste others' support requests into ChatGPT or other LLMs and return that AI's "advice" - assume that others can do so themselves, if they'd like, and come to our space because they want support from other humans!
10) Your mental health should not come at the cost of someone else. Treat the server like a community space. Please note that this server is NOT a substitute for therapy, and members are not obligated to provide others with help or advice, nor to respond on any given timetable.
10) Your mental health should not come at the cost of someone else. Treat the server like a community space. Please note that this server is NOT a substitute for therapy, and members are not obligated to provide others with help or advice, nor to respond on any given timetable.
- Do not vent for the sake of venting, i.e., venting with no intention of receiving support from others.
- When seeking emotional support over potentially harmful topics like self-harm, please use spoiler tags.
11) Do not discuss commonly controversial topics such as politics if the aim is not to support a specific individual. This may extend to other topics such as religion, history, economics, or philosophy. In general, avoid heated debate. If a mod asks you to end a discussion because it appears to be getting too heated, please do so.
11) Do not discuss commonly controversial topics such as politics if the aim is not to support a specific individual. This may extend to other topics such as religion, history, economics, or philosophy. In general, avoid heated debate. If a mod asks you to end a discussion because it appears to be getting too heated, please do so.
Examples of what is allowed in regards to asking or giving support related to controversial topics are linked in the drop-down information under this rule.
This rule aligns with rule 3, be respectful and do not argue.
If a moderator asks a channel to move on, please move on. That is considered a courtesy warning, and any attempts to get in a "last word" after such a warning will result in mutes for violating the rules.
You are always allowed to request emotional support related to how you’re processing things related to these topics in the appropriate channels, but please take care not to add unnecessary related opinions. All requests for/offers of support should focus on the OP’s emotional processing, not your own opinions or additional discussion points on these topics.
To see examples of what is and isn't allowed, click here. On the last page of that link, you'll also find a ChatGPT prompt you can use to help phrase something that is allowed by our rules
12) Keep conversations in their appropriate channels. For example, a discussion involving a single user seeking support in #chill_chat should be redirected to the support category or DMs.
12) Keep conversations in their appropriate channels. For example, a discussion involving a single user seeking support in #chill_chat should be redirected to the support category or DMs.
13) Do not post any personally identifying information of anyone, including other users, people from your life, HG staff and coaches, and yourself. This includes but is not limited to first/last names, address information, background information, etc. Do not pretend to be public figures. This is an all-ages server with vulnerable members and intentionally misleading anyone in this way may be a bannable offense.
13) Do not post any personally identifying information of anyone, including other users, people from your life, HG staff and coaches, and yourself. This includes but is not limited to first/last names, address information, background information, etc. Do not pretend to be public figures. This is an all-ages server with vulnerable members and intentionally misleading anyone in this way may be a bannable offense.
14) Do not record or livestream other people's conversations while in the voice channels. Do not stream copyrighted content disallowed by Discord (movies, TV shows, Netflix, etc).
14) Do not record or livestream other people's conversations while in the voice channels. Do not stream copyrighted content disallowed by Discord (movies, TV shows, Netflix, etc).
You may stream SFW content from YouTube that is posted by official channels, e.g., a network/producer, or via the Discord watchparty app.
Please do not re-stream copyrighted content that is blocked by watchparty or posted by someone other than the copyright holder.
A mod may ask you to show what channel you are streaming from to verify the above.
This rule also extends to using the VC Clipping function. If someone is using clips/recordings to harass you, please opt out of the feature and contact the moderation team with a /report.
15) Do not mention or discuss receiving warnings/mutes/bans in public channels. Do not use alternative accounts ("alt accounts") to get around rules or mutes. Should you want to use a different account on the server, please inform a mod so we are aware and connect any notes we have to your new username.
15) Do not mention or discuss receiving warnings/mutes/bans in public channels. Do not use alternative accounts ("alt accounts") to get around rules or mutes. Should you want to use a different account on the server, please inform a mod so we are aware and connect any notes we have to your new username.
16) Do not bait other users into breaking the rules. This includes provoking others + encouraging rule-breaking topics.
16) Do not bait other users into breaking the rules. This includes provoking others + encouraging rule-breaking topics.
17) Do not self-promote, advertise to, request votes from, survey, or poll users in this server. Do not post links to self-promote/advertise with the exception of those in-context in the Creative Showcase channel.
17) Do not self-promote, advertise to, request votes from, survey, or poll users in this server. Do not post links to self-promote/advertise with the exception of those in-context in the Creative Showcase channel.
Please make sure all other links shared elsewhere are relevant to the ongoing conversation. While there may be times when you wish to share a relevant freely-accessible resource in response to someone's request for emotional support, please do not post anything that requires a download, a purchase, or account registration without permission from a moderator.
Unfortunately, we cannot allow anyone to use our server for academic research at this time.
18) Anything that violates Discord's terms of service, and guidelines or is illegal is not allowed. We follow Discord's terms of service and California state law, including around age of consent - if you're unclear about specifics see https://discordapp.com/terms.
19) The server rules take precedence over the contents of the HG channel. Even if something against the rules was discussed on stream or in an HG video, it remains against the rules to discuss on the server.
Community Guidelines
Community Guidelines
These guidelines are meant to help you understand how to behave on the server. Following these guidelines will help you make the most of this server for yourself and our community.
Read the context in both voice and text channels before you jump into an ongoing conversation.
Even if you are an authority on the subject, be open to hearing other people’s opinions in a respectful manner. Don’t listen to respond, instead, listen in order to understand. Avoid typing/speaking with authority.
Be patient when talking with other people - understand that people come from different perspectives, which is okay. Don’t jump to the conclusion that someone is trolling.
If you do not have time to hold a conversation, do not start one.
Avoid joining voice channels and taking over the conversation (e.g., disrupting, derailing, trauma-dumping, etc). This includes starting a livestream while other people are having a different conversation and/or coercing people to talk about it.
If you are in a full voice chat, please ask the others in the chat before you resize to let more people in. Sometimes, someone makes a voice chat intending for it to be small and they may not want to increase the size! Similarly, consider the desires of the others in the lobby before changing its title, particularly if it has been used to indicate something about the conversation being had. It is a sign of respect to ask first.
If one person is being questioned by multiple people, let them answer the other people before you offer your perspective. Offering your opinion is fine, but make sure you don’t talk over each other.
Do not make light of current affairs that might be affecting people’s mental/physical health.
Given that we talk about mature topics in this mental health server, please use spoiler tags for topics that might be triggering to others (rape, molestation, suicide, etc). Syntax for spoiler tags: || Your message here. || Avoid using spoiler tags unnecessarily so that their purpose is clear.
If your first reaction to someone opening up is to give them advice, take a second to reconsider whether they are looking for emotional support or asking for advice. Support, listening to the person, and sharing YOUR experience leads to growth. Some examples of non-helpful advice are “tough love” cliches such as “just get a job,” “stop being lazy,” “stop feeling sorry for yourself all the time"
Most advice is not one-size-fits-all. If someone does not agree with you, let them disagree respectfully.
Think about the words you use - words and terms (r-word, f-slur, ableist terms, etc) that you may not consider offensive might be offensive to others. Avoid using them, even as a joke.
Avoid pursuing conversation topics that other people do not want to pursue.
If someone is trying to get your or other users' attention in unhealthy ways, avoid giving them what they are seeking.
Ask permission before you send someone a private message. If they decline, respect their decision.
Support threads are limited to one per user in each category. If you would like to open a new thread, please ask a moderator to close/lock your current thread before proceeding.
As users can name their own voice channels, you may sometimes see voice channel names that suggest rule-breaking discussions before a moderator has had a chance to step in and close that channel. However, each server member is responsible for their own behavior and a channel’s name does not override server rules. Those creating support channels should avoid misleading or clickbait titles—if a channel is labeled “Emotional Support for NSFW Topic” or “Emotional Support for Politics,” the discussion must stay focused on support. Non-supportive or off-topic comments which are against our rules can result in mutes or bans, regardless of where they happen.
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