Digital Guidebook

Gracious and loving God,

As we begin this new year of faith formation, we thank You for calling each of us into a deeper relationship with You and with one another.

Bless the children, youth, adults, families, catechists, volunteers, and staff of St. Cletus Parish. Fill our hearts with wonder as we learn, courage as we grow, and joy as we serve.

May our classrooms, gathering spaces, and homes become places where Your Word is proclaimed, Your love is experienced, and Your Spirit is alive. Help us to seek wisdom with open minds, to pray with trusting hearts, and to live as faithful disciples of Jesus Christ.

Guide us to welcome one another with kindness, to encourage one another in faith, and to recognize Your presence in every person we meet. Strengthen us to share the Gospel through our words and actions, becoming signs of Your hope and peace in our parish and in the world.

May Mary, our Blessed Mother, accompany us with her loving care, and may all the saints inspire us to follow Christ with generous hearts.

We entrust this program year to You, confident that You will continue the good work You have begun in us.

We ask this through Christ our Lord.

Amen. 

General Parish Information

Parish Address

600 W 55th Street

La Grange, IL 60525

Phone: 708-352-6209

Website: www.stcletusparish.org 

Parish Office Hours

Monday-Friday: 9:00 am-5:00 pm

Saturday: Closed

Sunday: 10:00 am-2:00 pm

Parish Pastoral Leadership

Rev. Elmer Romero, Pastor | eromero@stcletusparish.org 

Rev. Salvador Hallegado, Associate Pastor | shallegado@stcletusparish.org 

Rev. Robert Marchwiany, Associate Pastor | rmarchwiany@stcletusparish.org 

Oblate James Holzhauer-Chuckas, ObSB, Pastoral Associate | james@stcletusparish.org 

Office of Lifelong Formation & Evangelization

Phone: 708-968-6474

Inbox: formation@stcletusparish.org 

Lifelong Formation Core Team

Oblate James Holzhauer-Chuckas, ObSB, Pastoral Associate

james@stcletusparish.org | 708-968-6135

Liz Nunez, Ministries Assistant

anunez@stcletusparish.org | 708-968-6070

Karissa Johnson, Coordinator of Children’s Faith Formation

kjohnson@stcletusparish.org | 708-584-1396

Viviana Soria, Coordinator of Youth Ministry

vsoria@stcletusparish.org | 708-787-2213

Lifelong Formation Ministry Team

Patty Vonder Heide, Children’s Sacraments Team Leader: pvonderheide@stcletusparish.org 

Araceli Valadez, Youth Minister: avaladez@stcletusparish.org 

Dr. Kenneth Ortega, Ed.D., Missionary Discipleship Coordinator: kortega@stcletusparish.org 

Maria O’Connell, Youth & Young Adult Sports Coordinator: moconnell@stcletusparish.org 

Elaine Adams-Kennedy, Alpha Team Leader/Evangelization: alpha@stcletusparish.org 

Lifelong Formation Ministry Support

Juanita Avila, Director of Hispanic Ministry: javila@stcletusparish.org 

Christy Schaefer, Parish School Principal: cschaefer@stcletusparish.org 

Margaret Napleton, Second Grade Teacher (Parish School): mnapleton@stcletusparish.org 

Frank Ochoa, Middle School Religion Teacher (Parish School): fochoa@stcletusparish.org 

Our Mission, Vision, and Philosophy of Faith Formation

"Go, therefore, and make disciples of all nations..."
— Matthew 28:19

Our Mission

The Faith Formation Program exists to assist parents and caregivers in fulfilling the promises they made at their child's Baptism: to raise their children in the practice of the Catholic faith and to help them know and love Jesus Christ.

Through age-appropriate catechesis, prayer, sacramental life, service, and community, we strive to form intentional disciples who will continue practicing their Catholic faith throughout their lives.

Everything we do seeks to fulfill the mission entrusted to the Church by Jesus Christ:

• To proclaim the Gospel.

• To celebrate the sacraments.

• To serve those in need.

• To form disciples.

• To build the Kingdom of God.

Our ministry is rooted in the belief that every child is created in the image and likeness of God, possesses inherent dignity, and has unique gifts to offer the Church and the world.

Our Vision

We envision a parish where every child, youth, and family:

• Knows Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior.

• Understands the basic teachings of the Catholic faith.

• Participates faithfully in Sunday Mass and Holy Days of Obligation.

• Receives the sacraments with reverence and understanding.

• Prays confidently both individually and with others.

• Develops meaningful friendships rooted in Christian values.

• Serves others generously.

• Discerns and uses their God-given gifts.

• Continues practicing the Catholic faith throughout their entire life.

Our ultimate goal is not merely that children and youth complete a religious education program, but that they become lifelong missionary disciples who joyfully live the Gospel.

What Is Faith Formation?

Faith formation is much more than religious instruction.

While learning the teachings of the Church is essential, authentic faith formation also includes:

• Growing in a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.

• Learning to pray.

• Participating in the sacramental life of the Church.

• Reading and reflecting on Sacred Scripture.

• Serving others with charity.

• Building Christian friendships.

• Developing moral character rooted in the Gospel.

• Learning to recognize God's presence in everyday life.

Faith formation is a lifelong journey that begins in the family, is strengthened within the parish community, and continues throughout every stage of life.

The Four Pillars of Catholic Formation

Our curriculum and ministry are grounded in the four pillars presented in the Catechism of the Catholic Church.

I.        The Profession of Faith: Children learn the beliefs of the Catholic Church through Sacred Scripture, Sacred Tradition, and the Creed. They come to understand who God is, what He has revealed, and how the Church faithfully hands on the faith from generation to generation.

II.  The Celebration of the Christian Mystery: Students learn about the seven sacraments, especially the Eucharist and Reconciliation. They discover that the sacraments are encounters with Christ that strengthen us with God's grace.

III. Life in Christ: Faith calls us to live differently. Students explore the Ten Commandments, the Beatitudes, Catholic Social Teaching, virtues, conscience formation, and moral decision-making so they can grow as disciples.

IV.   Christian Prayer: Prayer is essential to the Christian life. Throughout the year, students experience traditional Catholic prayers, spontaneous prayer, Scripture-based prayer, silence, and communal worship.

Our Catholic Identity

Our parish faithfully teaches the doctrines of the Roman Catholic Church as expressed through:

• Sacred Scripture

• Sacred Tradition

• The Catechism of the Catholic Church

• The Code of Canon Law

• The teachings of the Pope and bishops united with him

• Diocesan policies and curriculum standards

Every lesson, retreat, prayer service, and ministry event reflect the teachings of the Catholic Church. While respectful questions and discussions are welcomed, catechists present Catholic doctrine faithfully rather than personal opinion.

Our Core Values

• Christ-Centered: Everything begins with Jesus Christ. Every activity is intended to help children encounter Him more deeply.

• Prayer: Prayer is woven into every gathering. We encourage families to establish regular habits of prayer at home.

• Scripture: The Bible is the living Word of God. Students learn to read, understand, and pray with Scripture throughout the year.

• Sacramental Life: Participation in the Eucharist, Reconciliation, and the other sacraments nourishes faith and strengthens our relationship with Christ.

• Family Partnership: Parents remain the primary educators of the faith. Our role is to support, encourage, and accompany families.

• Community: The Church is a family of believers. We strive to create welcoming environments where every child feels known, respected, and loved.

• Service: Christian discipleship naturally leads to service. Students are encouraged to practice the Corporal and Spiritual Works of Mercy through age-appropriate opportunities.

• Joy: Christian discipleship is rooted in the joy of the Gospel. We seek to cultivate an atmosphere where children experience the beauty and hope of the Catholic faith. 

Parents as the Primary Catechists

Our Partnership in Forming Disciples

"Parents have the first responsibility for the education of their children."
— Catechism of the Catholic Church, 2223

A Shared Mission

When parents present their child for Baptism, they publicly accept a sacred responsibility: to raise their child in the Catholic faith. During the Baptismal Rite, parents are asked whether they clearly understand this responsibility, and they respond, "We do." The parish community also promises to support parents in fulfilling that commitment.

Faith Formation is therefore not a substitute for family life or parish worship. It is one part of a larger partnership among the family, the parish, and the wider Church. Children are most likely to develop a lasting relationship with Jesus Christ when they consistently experience the faith at home, in the parish, and within the community.

Our program is designed to strengthen families in this mission by providing sound catechesis, opportunities for prayer, meaningful service experiences, and formation that complement the life of the parish.

The Domestic Church

The Church often refers to the family as the Domestic Church. This means the home is the first place where children encounter God through love, forgiveness, prayer, and daily witness.

Parents teach the faith in countless ordinary moments:

• Praying before meals and at bedtime.

• Attending Sunday Mass together.

• Celebrating the seasons of the Church year.

• Reading and discussing Scripture.

• Asking forgiveness and offering forgiveness.

• Serving neighbors in need.

• Modeling kindness, honesty, and compassion.

• Speaking positively about the Church and its mission.

• Demonstrating reverence during prayer and worship.

Children often learn more from what they see than from what they hear. Your example of faithful living is one of the greatest gifts you can offer them.

Our Partnership with Families

Faith formation is most effective when families and the parish work together with mutual respect, trust, and open communication.

As a parish, we commit to:

• Teach the Catholic faith faithfully and accurately.

• Foster a welcoming and safe environment for every child.

• Communicate regularly with families.

• Pray for each student and family throughout the year.

• Provide opportunities for worship, service, and fellowship.

• Respect the dignity of every child and family.

• Support parents with resources to continue faith formation at home.

We ask families to support this partnership by participating actively in the life of the parish and the faith formation program.

Parent Responsibilities

Parents and caregivers play a vital role in the success of our ministry. We ask each family to commit to the following responsibilities.

Participate in Sunday Mass

The Eucharist is the source and summit of the Christian life. Weekly participation in Sunday Mass is essential for Catholic families. Classroom instruction cannot replace worship with the parish community or the grace received through the sacraments.

Families should also participate in Holy Days of Obligation and are encouraged to celebrate the Sacrament of Reconciliation regularly.

Pray Together

Prayer strengthens family relationships and nurtures a child's relationship with God.

Families are encouraged to establish daily habits of prayer, including:

• Morning offering.

• Grace before meals.

• Evening prayer.

• Scripture reading.

• The Rosary (or portions of it).

• Seasonal devotions during Advent and Lent.

• Prayers for those who are sick, grieving, or in need.

Even a few minutes of prayer each day can have a lasting impact on a child's faith.

Reinforce Weekly Lessons

Children retain more when parents engage with what they are learning.

We encourage families to:

• Ask children what they learned each week.

• Review lesson materials together.

• Complete any family activities provided by the catechist.

• Encourage questions and honest conversations about faith.

Foster the Faith at Home

Children and youth grow spiritually when Christian values are practiced consistently.

Families are encouraged to:

• Display a crucifix or sacred image in the home.

• Keep a family Bible accessible.

• Celebrate saints' feast days.

• Observe the liturgical seasons.

• Practice generosity and advocacy toward the poor and vulnerable.

• Model respectful speech and behavior.

• Celebrate God's blessings with gratitude.

Support Parish Life

Faith formation extends beyond the classroom.

Families are encouraged to participate in parish life by attending:

• Parish evenings of prayer and reflection.

• Eucharistic Adoration.

• Stations of the Cross.

• Parish life events.

• Service opportunities.

• Parish liturgies.

Children and youth who see their parents actively involved in parish life are more likely to remain engaged in the Church as they grow older.

Expectations for Communication

Healthy communication strengthens our partnership.

Parents are asked to:

• Read weekly emails and newsletters.

• Respond promptly to requests for information.

• Notify the Lifelong Formation Office of absences.

• Update contact information as needed.

• Inform staff of medical concerns or significant family changes that may affect a child's participation.

• Address concerns respectfully and directly with the appropriate staff member.

Encouraging Faith Conversations at Home

Some parents feel unprepared to answer every question about the Catholic faith. That is perfectly normal.

You do not need to know every answer to have faith conversations at home. Instead, let your child see that faith involves continual learning.

Helpful responses include:

• "Let's learn about that together."

• "That's a wonderful question."

• "Let's ask one of the priests, Oblate James, your catechist, etc."

• "Let's look it up in the Bible or the Catechism."

Modeling curiosity and humility teaches children and youth that faith is a lifelong journey.

Building Faith Through Everyday Moments

Faith is formed not only during scheduled prayer times but also in ordinary daily life.

Consider these simple practices:

• Thank God during family meals.

• Pray before traveling.

• Visit the church for quiet prayer.

• Discuss Sunday's Gospel during the week.

• Pray for people you encounter.

• Celebrate birthdays with a special family blessing.

• Engage in Christian service together as a family.

These moments help children and youth recognize that God is present in every aspect of life.

Our Shared Commitment

Together, parents, catechists, clergy, volunteers, and parish staff form one community of faith dedicated to helping children and youth know and follow Jesus Christ.

When families pray together, worship together, and serve together, children and youth experience the beauty of a faith that is lived, not merely taught.

We thank you for your commitment to your child's spiritual growth and for allowing us to accompany your family on this journey of discipleship. May the Holy Spirit guide us as we work together to form the next generation of faithful Catholics. 

Program Overview

Growing Together in Faith

"They devoted themselves to the apostles' teaching and fellowship, to the breaking of the bread and the prayers."
— Acts 2:42

The Faith Formation and Middle School Youth Ministry Program at St. Cletus Parish exist to help children, youth, and families encounter Jesus Christ, deepen their understanding of the Catholic faith, and actively participate in the life of the Church.

Our program is a ministry of the parish that seeks to accompany children and families through every stage of their faith journey. We recognize that faith is formed through worship, prayer, service, relationships, and lifelong learning.

Each year our curriculum, events, and ministry experiences are designed to complement one another, creating opportunities for children to grow spiritually, intellectually, emotionally, and socially.

Program Goals

Our goals are to help every child do three things:

1.        Learn

Children will learn the teachings of the Catholic Church through Sacred Scripture, Sacred Tradition, the Catechism of the Catholic Church, and age-appropriate instruction. They will develop an understanding of:

• God's plan of salvation

• The life and teachings of Jesus Christ

• The Holy Spirit

• The Church

• The Seven Sacraments

• Christian morality

• Catholic Social Teaching

• Prayer

• Saints

• The Liturgical Year

2.      Love

Knowledge alone is not enough. Our program encourages children to develop a personal relationship with Jesus Christ through:

• Prayer

• Worship

• Eucharistic devotion

• Scripture reflection

• Participation in the sacraments

• Christian friendships

3.      Live

Love in action is faith lived. Students are encouraged to:

• Practice charity.

• Forgive others.

• Respect every person.

• Care for creation.

• Serve those in need.

• Witness to Christ in everyday life.

Who May Participate?

Children enrolled in Preschool through Grade 12 who are members of the parish or are willing to register as parishioners are welcome to participate. Parish registration is a strong recommendation of our programs.

In addition, families should complete annual registration and provide all required documentation before the beginning of the program year. Children with special learning needs are warmly welcomed and encouraged to enroll in our Special Religious Development (SPRED) program, if they wish. Families are encouraged to speak with the Office of Lifelong Formation so that reasonable accommodations can be arranged whenever possible.

Program Structure

Our ministry is divided into primarily five areas.

1.        Children's Faith Formation

Kindergarten through Grade Five

Elementary faith formation focuses on helping children build a strong foundation in Catholic life. Children also begin preparing for Reconciliation and Eucharist as young as 1st grade and receive in 2nd grade or older. Remember, there is no official timeline! It is all in God’s time.

2.       Middle School Youth Ministry

Grades Six through Eight

Middle school is a time of significant spiritual, emotional, and intellectual growth. Youth ministry is designed to address the unique developmental needs of adolescents while remaining firmly rooted in Catholic teaching.

3.      Teen Seekers

Grades Six through Twelve

Teen Seekers is a two-year sacramental preparation program for adolescents who are preparing for sacraments of initiation through the process of the Order of Christian Initiation for Adults (OCIA) adapted for teens.

4.      Special Religious Development (SPRED)

SPRED encourages building community in faith for persons with intellectual and developmental disabilities.

5.      Family Faith Formation

Parents remain the primary catechists of their children. To strengthen family involvement, our parish offers opportunities throughout the year for families to grow together.

Service Opportunities

Service is an essential expression of Christian discipleship.

Age-appropriate opportunities may include:

• Food pantry collections

• Cards for the elderly, incarcerated, or in need

• Baby item drives

• Thanksgiving baskets

• Christmas giving trees

• Care packages for military members

• Community outreach projects

Middle and high school students may also participate in leadership and mentoring opportunities as appropriate.

Retreats and Special Events

Retreats provide dedicated time for prayer, reflection, and community building.

Depending on grade level, opportunities may include:

• First Reconciliation retreat

• First Holy Communion retreat

• Advent retreat

• Lenten retreat

• Confirmation retreat

Participation is strongly encouraged and sometimes required depending on the program, as retreats often become meaningful milestones in a young person's faith journey.

Communication with Families

Clear communication is essential to a successful program. Lifelong Formation uses Flocknote for all communication.

Families can expect to receive information through:

• Weekly email updates

• Monthly newsletters

• Parish bulletin announcements

• Parish website

• Emergency text notifications when necessary

Parents are responsible for ensuring that the Office of Lifelong Formation and parish have current contact information.

Registration and Enrollment

Registration for the next program year starts in June.

Enrollment is complete when:

• Registration forms are submitted.

• Tuition or payment arrangements have been completed for the previous program year and payments are made or scheduled for the coming program year.

• Medical and emergency information has been received.

• Required sacramental records (if applicable) are on file.

• Parent acknowledgements and permissions have been signed.

Late registrations may be accepted based on available classroom space and staffing. For questions about registration, contact Liz Nunez, Ministries Assistant, at anunez@stcletusparish.org or at 708-968-6070.

Our Hope for Every Child

Our deepest hope is that every child who participates in this ministry will:

• Know that they are deeply loved by God.

• Feel welcomed within the parish community.

• Grow in confidence as a disciple of Jesus Christ.

• Participate actively in the sacramental life of the Church.

We pray that every experience within our ministry helps children discover that following Christ is not simply one part of life, it is the foundation for a life of joy, purpose, and holiness. 

Curriculum and Catechetical Formation

"Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light to my path." — Psalm 119:105

Our Curriculum

The Faith Formation Program at St. Cletus Parish follows the curriculum standards established by the Archdiocese of Chicago and United States Conference of Catholic Bishops and is faithful to Sacred Scripture, Sacred Tradition, the Catechism of the Catholic Church, and the General Directory for Catechesis.

Our goal is not simply to help children learn about the Catholic faith but to help them become lifelong disciples of Jesus Christ.

To support this mission, our parish uses nationally recognized Catholic catechetical resources that are developmentally appropriate, rooted in Church teaching, and designed to involve the whole family in the faith journey.

Elementary Faith Formation (Preschool–Grade 8)

Our primary catechetical resources are the God Made the World (Preschool) and Finding God (K-8th grade) program published by Loyola Press.

Finding God is a comprehensive Catholic faith formation program that integrates:

• Sacred Scripture

• Catholic doctrine

• Prayer experiences

• The liturgical year

• The lives of the saints

• Catholic Social Teaching

• Service opportunities

• Family faith conversations

Each lesson encourages children to:

• Encounter Jesus Christ through Scripture.

• Deepen their understanding of Catholic beliefs.

• Participate more fully in the sacramental life of the Church.

• Recognize God's presence in everyday life.

• Live their faith through acts of charity and service.

Families are encouraged to continue these conversations at home using the resources provided with each lesson.

Family Involvement

One of the strengths of the Finding God program is its emphasis on family faith formation.

Parents are encouraged to review lesson materials with their children each week and to participate in suggested activities that reinforce learning at home.

Examples include:

• Discussing the Sunday Gospel

• Praying together

• Completing family reflection activities

• Identifying ways to practice virtues throughout the week

• Participating in parish worship and service opportunities

Our parish believes that children grow most effectively in faith when lessons learned in the classroom are reinforced within the home.

Prayer Throughout the Curriculum

Prayer is woven throughout every grade level.

Students regularly experience:

• The Sign of the Cross

• The Lord's Prayer

• The Hail Mary

• The Glory Be

• The Apostles' Creed

• The Nicene Creed

• Act of Contrition

• Grace Before and After Meals

• Morning and Evening Prayer

• Spontaneous prayer

• Scripture reflection

• Silent prayer

• Guided meditation

• Eucharistic prayer experiences

• Seasonal devotions

As students mature, they are encouraged to become increasingly comfortable leading prayer and praying from the heart.

Scripture

The Bible is central to every grade level.

Students will:

• Hear and reflect upon Scripture

• Locate passages within the Bible

• Understand salvation history

• Connect biblical stories to everyday life

• Recognize Jesus as the fulfillment of God's promises

The Sunday Gospel frequently serves as a foundation for classroom discussion and family reflection.

Assessment of Learning

Faith formation is not evaluated solely through quizzes or memorization.

Catechists observe growth through:

• Participation in class

• Engagement in prayer

• Understanding of key concepts

• Respectful behavior

• Willingness to serve others

• Completion of family activities

Parents will receive regular communication regarding their child's participation and progress throughout the year.

Continuing Formation

The completion of any grade level or the reception of any sacrament is not the end of faith formation. Parents and caregivers are strongly encouraged to be sending their children and youth to faith formation classes every year to continue to strengthen their faith formation. If a child or youth is entering into sacramental preparation, they must have completed a full year of faith formation in order to be eligible to enroll.

Our deepest hope is that every child continues to grow in faith long after completing our parish program, becoming an adult disciple who lives and shares the Gospel with joy.

Sacramental Preparation

Encountering Christ in the Sacraments of Initiation and Healing

“This is my Body, which will be given up for you.” — Luke 22:19

The sacraments are at the heart of Catholic life. They are visible signs instituted by Christ to give grace and to draw us into deeper communion with God and His Church.

At St. Cletus Parish, sacramental preparation is not simply a series of classes or a checklist of requirements. It is a journey of faith involving the entire family, the parish community, catechists, clergy, and sponsors.

We recognize that parents are the first and primary educators of their children in the faith. Therefore, sacramental preparation is designed to support families as they guide their children toward meaningful encounters with Jesus Christ in the sacraments.

This section outlines expectations and formation pathways for:

• First Reconciliation

• First Holy Communion

• Confirmation

General Principles of Sacramental Preparation

Sacramental preparation at our parish is guided by the following principles:

1.        Sacraments Are Encounters with Christ: The sacraments are not symbolic rituals alone; they are real encounters with Jesus Christ, who acts through His Church.

2.   Preparation Is a Family Journey: Children do not prepare for sacraments alone. Parents and caregivers participate actively in: Formation sessions, prayer experiences, at-home activities, liturgical celebrations, and conversations about faith.

3.  Participation in Parish Life Is Essential: Regular participation in Sunday Mass and parish life is required for sacramental preparation. The Eucharist is both the source and summit of Christian life and the foundation of all sacramental preparation.

4.  Readiness Is More Important Than a Date: While general archdiocesan timelines guide the process, sacramental reception also depends on readiness, which includes: Understanding appropriate to age, active participation in preparation, consistent attendance, demonstrated reverence and disposition, and family engagement in the faith. Children and adolescents should complete a full year of faith formation before enrolling in sacramental preparation to ensure a solid foundation.

First Reconciliation

Program Resource: Rejoice! (Loyola Press)

Preparation for First Reconciliation uses the Rejoice! sacramental formation series, which emphasizes God’s mercy, forgiveness, and love.

Goals of Preparation

Children will:

• Understand God’s unconditional love

• Learn about sin and forgiveness

• Recognize the importance of conscience formation

• Understand the Sacrament of Reconciliation

• Learn the steps of confession

• Develop a habit of prayer and reflection

• Experience God’s mercy in a personal way

Parent Role

Parents are required to:

• Attend sacramental preparation meetings.

• Participate in family formation activities.

• Practice the Act of Contrition with their child.

• Discuss forgiveness and reconciliation at home.

• Encourage regular participation in Mass.

Parents are especially encouraged to model forgiveness within the family.

Sacramental Celebration

The celebration of First Reconciliation includes:

• Parish communal celebration of the sacrament.

• Opportunity for individual confession.

• Prayerful preparation in the classroom and at home.

Children are encouraged to continue regular reception of the sacrament throughout their lives.

First Holy Communion (Eucharist)

Program Resource: Rejoice! (Loyola Press)

Preparation for First Holy Communion continues using the Rejoice! series, focusing on the Eucharist as the real presence of Jesus Christ.

Goals of Preparation

Children will:

• Understand the Eucharist as the Body and Blood of Christ.

• Learn about the Mass and its parts.

• Recognize the importance of reverence in church.

• Develop an understanding of the Real Presence.

• Learn appropriate behavior for receiving Holy Communion.

• Grow in love for Jesus in the Blessed Sacrament.

Parent Role

Parents are expected to:

• Attend required preparation sessions.

• Participate in family prayer and reflection.

• Practice Mass responses and gestures with their child.

• Ensure regular Sunday Mass attendance.

• Reinforce reverence for the Eucharist at home.

Parents serve as the primary example of Eucharistic faith for their children.

First Eucharist Celebration

The First Holy Communion liturgy is a joyful celebration of the parish community.

Families will receive:

• Guidelines for liturgical participation.

• Rehearsal schedules.

• Dress expectations (reverent and appropriate attire).

• Seating arrangements and photography guidelines.

After First Communion, children are encouraged to participate regularly in the Eucharist as active members of the Church.

Confirmation Preparation

Confirmation preparation is a two-year journey per the policy of the Archdiocese of Chicago designed to foster mature discipleship and a deeper relationship with the Holy Spirit.

Year One: Called to Be Catholic

In Year One, students use Called to Be Catholic published by Loyola Press.

This year focuses on identity and belonging within the Church.

Goals

Students will:

• Understand what it means to be Catholic

• Learn the Creed and foundational beliefs of the Church

• Explore the sacraments in greater depth

• Reflect on their personal relationship with Christ

• Learn about prayer and moral decision-making

• Begin discerning their call to discipleship

Year One is about laying the foundation of faith and helping young people see themselves as members of the Body of Christ.

Year Two: Confirmed in the Spirit

In Year Two, students use Confirmed in the Spirit published by Loyola Press.

This year focuses on mission and empowerment through the Holy Spirit.

Goals

Students will:

• Understand the gifts and fruits of the Holy Spirit.

• Explore the meaning of Confirmation.

• Reflect on their baptismal promises.

• Learn about Christian witness in daily life.

• Engage in service and leadership opportunities.

• Prepare spiritually for the sacrament.

Sponsor Role

Each Confirmation candidate selects a sponsor who:

• Is a practicing Catholic in good standing.

• Has received the Sacraments of Initiation.

• Models a life of faith.

• Supports the candidate through prayer and encouragement.

• Participates in preparation events when possible.

Retreat and Formation Experiences

Confirmation preparation includes:

• Retreat experiences focused on prayer and reflection.

• Service opportunities within the parish and community.

• Small group discussions.

• Prayer services and Eucharistic Adoration.

• Interviews or faith conversations with parish leadership.

Sacramental Celebration of Confirmation

The Sacrament of Confirmation is celebrated with reverence and joy.

Candidates:

• Renew baptismal promises.

• Are anointed with Sacred Chrism.

• Receive the gifts of the Holy Spirit.

Confirmation is not a graduation from faith formation but a commissioning into lifelong missionary discipleship.

Readiness for Sacraments

Sacramental reception requires:

• Consistent participation in preparation sessions.

  • Each child or teen is afforded three unexcused absences. After the third, a valid excuse is required in order to miss a class. After five missed classes, a family meeting will be organized with the pastoral associate to discuss the commitment to sacramental preparation and ongoing faith formation.

• Regular Sunday Mass attendance.

• Completion of required formation activities.

• Demonstration of respectful behavior and reverence.

• Family involvement in the process.

If concerns arise regarding readiness, the Office of Lifelong Formation will work closely with families to support continued preparation.

Ongoing Sacramental Life

Receiving a sacrament is not the end of formation but the beginning of deeper participation in the life of the Church.

Families are encouraged to:

• Continue regular participation in Sunday Mass.

• Receive the Sacrament of Reconciliation regularly.

• Participate in parish life and service.

• Encourage prayer at home.

• Support ongoing youth ministry involvement.

The sacraments are meant to be lived, not simply completed. 

Registration, Enrollment, Attendance, and Program Policies

"Let all things be done decently and in order."
— 1 Corinthians 14:40

The policies in this section help ensure that every student receives consistent faith formation while allowing our catechists, volunteers, clergy, and staff to minister effectively. These policies are intended to support our shared mission and promote clear communication between the parish and families.

We ask every family to read these policies carefully and contact the Office of Lifelong Formation with any questions.

Eligibility for Enrollment

Children entering Preschool through Grade 12 are welcome to enroll in the parish Faith Formation Program if they are registered parishioners of St. Cletus Parish or are willing to register.

Children preparing for the sacraments of First Reconciliation, First Holy Communion, or Confirmation must also meet the archdiocesan and parish requirements outlined in the Sacramental Preparation chapter of this guidebook.

Annual Registration

Registration is completed annually to ensure that parish records remain current and that appropriate staffing and classroom assignments can be made.

Registration typically opens in the late spring and continues through the summer. Families are encouraged to register early, as class sizes may be limited.

A student's registration is considered complete when all required materials have been received.

Required Registration Documents

The following documents are generally required:

• Completed Registration Form

• Emergency Contact Information

• Medical Information Form

• Allergy or Health Care Plan (if applicable for your child)

• Photo/Media Release

• Parent and Student Handbook Acknowledgment

• Tuition payment or approved payment plan

• Baptismal certificate (if not baptized at St. Cletus Parish)

• Copies of other sacramental records when applicable

Additional documentation may be requested as needed.

Family Information

It is important that parish records remain accurate throughout the year. Current information allows the parish to communicate effectively and respond appropriately in the event of an emergency.

Parents should notify the Lifelong Formation Office promptly if there are changes to:

• Home address

• Telephone numbers

• Email addresses

• Emergency contacts

• Custody arrangements

• Medical information

• Allergies

• Authorized individuals for dismissal

Tuition and Program Fees

Faith Formation tuition helps offset the cost of:

• Student textbooks

  • Textbooks are loaned to students. If a textbook is returned at the end of the program year severely damaged or is reported lost, the family is required to pay a $25 book replacement fee.

• Catechist resources

• Sacramental preparation materials

• Retreats and special events

• Administrative expenses

• Classroom supplies

• Technology and communication resources

2026-2027 Program Tuition and Fees Structure 

Children’s Faith Formation and Middle School Youth Ministry*

• 1 child: $300

• 2 children: $500

• 3 children: $650

• 4+ children: $750

Teen Seekers

• $100 per teen enrolled

Special Religious Development (SPRED)

• No cost or fees

*Any child or teen receiving a sacrament through these programs would pay an additional $75 sacramental fee in the year they are receiving a sacrament. This does not apply to the Teen Seekers program.

The actual cost of providing faith formation is significantly higher than tuition alone. The generosity of parishioners through stewardship helps make these programs possible. No child will be denied participation because of financial hardship. Families experiencing financial difficulties are encouraged to speak confidentially with the Pastoral Associate to discuss tuition assistance or payment arrangements.

Attendance Philosophy

Faith formation is most effective when children participate consistently.

Weekly attendance allows students to:

• Build relationships with catechists and classmates.

• Grow through regular prayer and worship.

• Develop a deeper understanding of Catholic teaching.

• Prepare adequately for the reception of the sacraments.

• Participate fully in the life of the parish community.

Because faith formation is cumulative, each class builds upon previous lessons.

Attendance Expectations

Students are expected to attend all scheduled sessions unless prevented by illness, family emergencies, or other serious circumstances.

Whenever possible, parents should avoid scheduling appointments, sports activities, or other events during faith formation sessions.

Families are asked to notify the Lifelong Formation Office before class if their child will be absent.

Excused Absences

Examples of excused absences include:

• Illness

• Medical appointments (physician’s note required)

• Family emergency

• Funeral

• School-required activities such as band concerts, school performances, athletic games, etc.

• Severe weather

• Other circumstances approved by the Director

Extended Absences

Families anticipating an extended absence should notify the Office of Lifelong Formation as soon as possible. Catechists may provide lesson summaries or family activities so students can remain engaged in the learning process. Because faith formation emphasizes community, prayer, and discussion, independent work cannot fully replace classroom participation.

Attendance and Sacramental Preparation

Children preparing for First Reconciliation, First Holy Communion, or Confirmation are expected to participate consistently in all required sessions and activities.

After 3 absences and further absences after three may require:

• Family meetings with parish pastoral leadership.

• Completion of supplemental assignments or catechetical sessions.

• Delayed reception of the sacrament if adequate preparation has not taken place.

Such decisions are made pastorally and individually, in consultation with the Pastor, Pastoral Associate, the family, and with archdiocesan guidelines. The pastor has the final say on any decision regarding administration of sacraments related to children and teens in the parish.

Arrival Procedures

Parents are responsible for ensuring that students arrive on time. Children should not arrive before the designated supervision period unless participating in another parish-sponsored activity.

Upon arrival:

• Students should proceed directly to their assigned classroom or gathering space.

• Parents should follow all traffic and parking procedures.

• Younger children should be escorted according to procedures.

• Students should bring any required materials with them.

Late Arrival

Students arriving after the start of class should report to the designated check-in location before joining their classroom. Repeated tardiness disrupts instruction and should be avoided whenever possible.

Dismissal Procedures

Student safety is our highest priority.

At dismissal:

• Parents should arrive promptly at the designated pickup location.

• Parents should not go into the building to pick up children unless it was approved by the program staff.

• Students will remain under supervision until released.

Parents should ensure that emergency contacts listed on registration forms are authorized to pick up their child if necessary.

Early Dismissal

If a student must leave before the conclusion of a session:

• A parent or authorized adult must notify the Office of Lifelong Formation.

• Students must be signed out.

• Catechists should be informed.

For safety reasons, children will not be released to unauthorized individuals.

Classroom Assignments

Students are assigned to classes according to grade level. Requests for placement with friends or family cannot always be accommodated, as class composition is based on enrollment, staffing, classroom size, and the needs of the overall program.

The Office of Lifelong Formation reserves the right to adjust classroom assignments throughout the year if necessary. If you have questions or concerns, please contact the appropriate program ministry coordinator.

Visitors

For the safety of all participants, general visitors are not allowed to enter classrooms or ministry areas without approval from the Office of Lifelong Formation.

Parents and caregivers are welcome to observe a class with prior approval from the Office of Lifelong Formation.

Individuals who are not registered volunteers may not supervise children or participate in classroom activities without permission.

Weather-Related Cancellations

Faith Formation sessions may be canceled due to severe weather or other emergencies.

Families will be notified through Flocknote and other means, which may include:

• Email

• Text message

• Parish website

• Parish social media

Whenever possible, notice will be provided as early as possible. Missed sessions may be rescheduled or supplemented with family activities when appropriate.

Program Changes

Occasionally, schedules, events, or meeting locations may change because of parish activities, diocesan events, facility needs, or unforeseen circumstances. Families will be notified promptly of any changes.

A Ministry of Welcome

Our parish strives to welcome every child, youth, and family with the hospitality of Christ. If your family is experiencing circumstances that may affect your child's participation, including illness, family transitions, learning differences, or other concerns, we encourage you to contact the Office of Lifelong Formation. Together we will seek ways to support your family while maintaining the integrity of the program. Faith formation is a shared journey, and we are honored to accompany you as your family grows in faith. 

Safety, Safe Environment, Medical Care, and Emergency Procedures

“The Lord is my refuge and my fortress.” — Psalm 91:2

The safety and well-being of every child and youth entrusted to our care is the highest priority of the Office of Lifelong Formation at St. Cletus Parish.  We are committed to providing a safe, welcoming, and secure environment where children and youth can grow in their relationship with Jesus Christ without fear or distraction. This commitment includes physical safety, emotional well-being, spiritual care, and adherence to diocesan Safe Environment policies.

All parish staff, catechists, and volunteers are required to follow archdiocesan and parish safety guidelines at all times.

Safe Environment Program

Our parish fully complies with the Safe Environment requirements of the Archdiocese of Chicago, United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, and the Universal Catholic Church.

All adults (18 years and older) who work with minors in any capacity must:

• Complete required Safe Environment training.

• Submit to criminal background screening.

• Sign the Archdiocesan Standards of Behavior (ASB).

• Complete periodic renewal training as required by the archdiocese.

• Adhere to all policies regarding appropriate boundaries with minors.

No adult may serve in a classroom or ministry role with children until all requirements are fully completed and verified. For questions about safe environment policies, contact Oblate James Holzhauer-Chuckas, ObSB, Pastoral Associate and Safe Environment Administrator, at james@stcletusparish.org or at 708-968-6135.

Basic Code of Conduct for Adults

All clergy, staff, catechists, and volunteers are expected to:

• Treat all children with dignity and respect.

• Maintain appropriate physical and emotional boundaries.

• Avoid private, one-on-one situations with minors whenever possible.

• Refrain from inappropriate language, jokes, or behavior.

• Never engage in electronic communication with minors outside approved parish systems and parental oversight.

• Report any concerns regarding child safety immediately to parish leadership.

Failure to comply with Safe Environment policies will result in removal from ministry. The pastor, pastoral associate, and the Archdiocese of Chicago reserve the right to remove anyone from ministry at any time if there is a report or concern about inappropriate behavior.

Two-Adult Rule

Activities involving minors will follow the “two-adult rule,” meaning that at least two trained and approved adults will be present in classrooms, meetings, or ministry settings.

When two adults are not feasible due to staffing constraints, additional safety protocols (such as open-door visibility, hallway monitoring, or supervisory oversight) will be implemented.

Arrival and Supervision

Children and youth are supervised only during scheduled program times. The parish is not responsible for children and youth who arrive before supervision begins unless they are participating in a parish-sponsored event with designated adult supervision. Parents are responsible for ensuring that children are dropped off and picked up promptly. Children and youth will never be left unattended at dismissal and will be kept under the supervision of an adult until a parent or caregiver arrives.

Child Protection Policies

The parish follows all archdiocesan policies regarding the protection of minors, including:

• Mandatory reporting of suspected abuse to civil authorities.

• Immediate reporting of concerns to parish leadership.

• Cooperation with diocesan review processes.

• Commitment to transparency and accountability.

Any concern regarding child safety should be reported immediately to Oblate James Holzhauer-Chuckas, ObSB, Pastoral Associate, at james@stcletusparish.org or 708-968-6135.

Medical Information

Parents are strongly requested to provide accurate and up-to-date medical information during registration.

This includes:

• Allergies (food, environmental, medication)

• Chronic medical conditions

• Physical limitations

• Behavioral or developmental considerations (as appropriate)

• Emergency medical contacts

• Physician information (if requested)

This information helps us respond appropriately in case of illness or emergency.

Medication Policy

The administration of medication during Faith Formation sessions is limited and regulated.

• Whenever possible, medications should be administered at home.

• If medication must be given during program hours, written parental authorization is required.

• Medication must be in its original container with clear instructions.

• Only authorized staff may administer medication, in accordance with diocesan policy.

• Students may not self-administer medication unless specifically approved in writing.

Emergency medications such as inhalers or EpiPens must be clearly labeled and discussed with program staff at the start of the year.

Allergies and Anaphylaxis

Families should notify the Office of Lifelong Formation of any severe allergies.

If a student has a life-threatening allergy:

• An Allergy Action Plan should be completed and on file.

• Emergency medication should be provided and current.

• Catechists and staff will be informed as appropriate.

• Precautions will be taken to minimize exposure risk.

While the Office of Lifelong Formation will take extreme precautions, we cannot guarantee an allergen-free environment at all times.

Illness Policy

Children should not attend class if they are experiencing:

• Fever of 100.4°F or higher

• Vomiting or diarrhea within the past 24 hours

• Contagious illness (as determined by medical guidance)

• Symptoms that prevent participation in class activities

If a child becomes ill during class, parents will be contacted and asked to pick up their child promptly.

Emergency Procedures Overview

The parish maintains procedures for a variety of emergency situations. Staff and volunteers are trained in appropriate responses.

Emergency plans include:

• Fire evacuation

• Severe weather (tornado, severe storms)

• Lockdown or shelter-in-place situations

• Medical emergencies

• Missing or unaccounted-for child procedures

• Facility-related emergencies

Emergency procedures are reviewed and updated annually.

Fire and Evacuation Procedures

In the event of a fire alarm or evacuation order:

• Students and catechists will exit the building immediately using designated routes.

• Attendance will be taken at the designated assembly area.

• No one may re-enter the building until it has been declared safe by authorities.

Severe Weather Procedures

In the event of severe weather:

• Students will be directed to designated safe areas within the building.

• Staff will remain with students at all times.

• Families will be notified as soon as it is safe to do so.

• Students will not be released until conditions are deemed safe.

Lockdown or Shelter-in-Place Procedures

In rare circumstances requiring lockdown:

• All doors will be secured.

• Students will remain in classrooms under adult supervision.

• Silence and calm will be maintained.

• Communication will occur only when it is safe and appropriate.

• Law enforcement and emergency personnel directions will be followed at all times.

Medical Emergencies

In the event of a medical emergency:

• Staff will provide immediate care within their training level.

• Emergency services (911) will be contacted when necessary.

• Parents or emergency contacts will be notified as soon as possible.

• An incident report will be completed and submitted to parish leadership.

Incident Reporting

All accidents, injuries, or behavioral incidents must be documented.

Reports will include:

• Date and time of incident

• Description of what occurred

• Actions taken by staff

• Witnesses (if applicable)

• Parent notification details

Reports are maintained confidentially in parish records.

Transportation and Parking Safety

Parents are asked to:

• Follow designated drop-off and pickup routes.

• Avoid distracted driving in parish parking areas.

• Use designated crosswalks.

• Supervise younger children when walking through parking areas.

• Follow all posted signage and volunteer traffic direction.

Safety in parking areas is a shared responsibility.

Building Security

Access to classrooms and ministry areas are restricted during program hours.

• Exterior doors will be locked during sessions.

• Visitors are not permitted entrance without prior approval and accompaniment from the Office of Lifelong Formation.

Emergency Communication with Families

In the event of an emergency, the Office of Lifelong Formation will communicate with families using Flocknote.

Parents are responsible for ensuring contact information remains current.

Commitment to a Safe Environment

Our parish is committed to creating an environment where every child is:

• Safe

• Respected

• Protected

• Known

• Valued

We recognize that trust is essential in ministry with children and families. We take this responsibility seriously and continuously work to uphold the highest standards of safety and accountability.

Parent Acknowledgment of Safety Policies

By enrolling in the Faith Formation Program, parents acknowledge:

• They have read and understand the parish safety policies.

• They agree to provide accurate medical and emergency information.

• They understand emergency procedures may vary based on circumstances.

• They will support parish safety protocols and procedures.

• They will communicate concerns promptly with parish leadership.

Together, we work to ensure that every child can grow in faith within a safe, secure, and caring environment. 

Communication, Technology, Electronic Media, and Social Media Policies

“Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt.” — Colossians 4:6

Clear, respectful, and consistent communication is essential to a strong partnership between families and the Faith Formation program at St. Cletus Parish. This section outlines how the parish communicates with families, how families are expected to communicate with parish staff, and how technology, electronic devices, and social media are used within the ministry. These policies are designed to promote clarity, safety, and appropriate boundaries while supporting the mission of forming disciples of Jesus Christ.

Parish Communication with Families

The parish communicates regularly with families using a variety of approved methods, including:

• Email newsletters

• Parish website updates

• Printed or digital calendars

• Text message alerts (for urgent updates)

• Parish bulletin announcements

• Approved ministry platforms or apps

Communication Expectations

All communication between parish staff, catechists, volunteers, and families should be:

• Respectful

• Professional

• Clear

• Appropriate in tone and content

• Focused on ministry-related matters

Staff and volunteers are expected to respond to family communications in a timely manner, typically within 24 hours.

Appropriate Channels of Communication

To ensure transparency and safety, the following communication channels are approved:

• Parish email accounts

• Parish phone system or office voicemail

• Approved messaging platforms designated by the parish

• In-person meetings scheduled through the Office of Lifelong Formation

Private messaging apps, personal social media accounts, or informal texting between staff/volunteers and minors is strictly prohibited.

Emergency Communication

In urgent situations, the parish may send immediate notifications regarding:

• Weather closures

• Safety concerns

• Schedule changes

• Emergency situations affecting parish operations

Electronic Devices (Student Use)

The use of personal electronic devices during sessions is not permitted to ensure a focused and prayerful environment.

Students may not use devices during class. These include:

• Cell phones

• Smart watches (for messaging or internet use)

• Tablets or gaming devices

Devices should be:

• Turned off or silenced

• Placed in the designated phone locker for their class

Repeated or inappropriate use of devices may result in:

• Device confiscation until parent pickup

• Parent notification

• Review of participation expectations with the Pastoral Associate and Pastor.

• Potential disciplinary action such as suspension or expulsion from the program in serious situations.

The parish is not responsible for lost, stolen, or damaged devices.

Social Media Policy

The parish recognizes that social media is a significant part of modern communication, especially for teens and families.

To ensure safety and appropriate boundaries:

• Parish staff and volunteers may not “friend,” follow, or privately message minors on personal social media accounts.

• Communication with minors must occur only through approved parish channels and with parental monitoring.

• Students are expected to use social media respectfully and in a manner consistent with Christian values.

The parish reserves the right to address social media behavior that:

• Disrupts the learning environment

• Harms other students

• Involves bullying, harassment, or inappropriate content

• Reflects behavior inconsistent with Christian values

The Office of Lifelong Formation follows and collaborates with all local laws and archdiocesan policies involving how to handle misuse of media that results in inappropriate behavior.

Photography and Video

Photographs and videos may be taken during parish events for:

• Parish bulletins

• Parish website

• Social media pages

• Ministry promotional materials

• Internal parish communications

Parents are required to indicate consent or non-consent during registration. Parents are asked not to post photos, video, or other media of other children on personal social media without permission from those families.

Confidentiality and Privacy

Parish staff and volunteers are expected to respect the privacy of families.

This includes:

• Not sharing personal family information

• Not discussing student behavior outside appropriate parish channels

• Maintaining confidentiality regarding sensitive pastoral matters

• Protecting student records and information

Parents are asked to respect the privacy of other families and students as well.

Artificial Intelligence and Digital Tools

As digital tools, including artificial intelligence, become more common in education, students may occasionally encounter them in school or home settings.

Within Faith Formation:

• AI tools should not replace personal reflection, prayer, or faith discussion.

• Students should not use AI to complete assigned faith formation reflections or sacramental preparation work without parental guidance.

• Catechists may guide appropriate use of technology when it supports learning using a “Traffic Light Model.”

  • Red Light = no use of AI.

  • Yellow Light = Limited use of AI as instructed by catechist or youth minister.

  • Green Light = Within reason, free use of AI is acceptable.

Families are encouraged to help children understand that faith is formed through relationship, prayer, and lived experience, not solely through digital tools.

Communication of Concerns

If a parent has a concern regarding:

• Communication from staff

• Student experiences

• Sacramental questions

• Safety issues

• Behavioral concerns

• Technology use

• Classroom environment

they are encouraged to follow the communication chain outlined in this handbook:

1. Catechist or Youth Minister

2. Program Coordinator

3. Pastoral Associate

4. Pastor

This structure helps ensure concerns are addressed effectively and respectfully and upholds the Catholic principle of subsidiarity.

Respectful Communication Standard

All communication between families and parish leaders should reflect Christian charity.

This includes:

• Speaking respectfully even when disagreements arise.

• Avoiding accusatory or hostile language.

• Seeking understanding before judgment.

• Working collaboratively toward solutions.

• Maintaining confidentiality when appropriate.

Faith formation is a shared mission, and respectful communication strengthens our ability to serve children effectively. Technology and communication are powerful tools that, when used appropriately, strengthen the relationship between parish and family.

We thank all families for their cooperation in maintaining these standards and supporting a healthy ministry environment. 

Behavior Expectations, Discipline Philosophy, and Restorative Practices

“Train the young in the way they should go; even when old, they will not swerve from it.” — Proverbs 22:6

The Faith Formation Program at St. Cletus Parish seeks to form not only the minds of children but also their hearts and character.

Behavior expectations are not simply rules for compliance; they are part of a larger effort to help children grow in virtue, self-discipline, respect for others, and a lived relationship with Jesus Christ.

This section outlines our approach to behavior, discipline, and restoration within a Catholic Christian framework.

Our Philosophy of Discipline

Discipline in a faith formation setting is rooted in the word disciple.

To discipline a child means to guide them toward becoming a disciple of Jesus Christ who:

• Loves God.

• Loves neighbor.

• Acts with integrity.

• Respects authority.

• Makes responsible choices.

• Seeks reconciliation when they fall short.

Our approach is therefore:

• Formational, not punitive.

• Restorative, not purely corrective.

• Relational, not transactional.

• Rooted in dignity, not shame.

The goal is conversion of heart.

Core Behavior Expectations

All students are expected to follow these core expectations:

Respect God

Students show reverence through prayer, participation, and respectful behavior in sacred spaces.

This includes:

• Making the Sign of the Cross appropriately.

• Participating in prayer.

• Respecting Scripture and sacramental symbols.

Respect Others

Students are called to treat all people with dignity as children of God.

This includes:

• Kind speech and actions

• Listening when others are speaking

• No bullying, teasing, or exclusion

• Respecting differences

• Welcoming others into activities

Respect Self

Students are encouraged to value their own dignity and make choices that reflect their identity as children of God.

This includes:

• Responsible behavior

• Appropriate language

• Self-control in interactions

• Positive participation

Respect Property

Students are responsible for caring for parish property and materials.

This includes:

• Treating classrooms and church spaces with care

• Using materials appropriately

• Cleaning up after activities

• Reporting damage when it occurs

Positive Behavior Expectations

We encourage students to demonstrate:

• Kindness

• Responsibility

• Honesty

• Self-control

• Cooperation

• Patience

• Generosity

• Respect

These virtues are reinforced throughout the year through prayer, teaching, and example.

Classroom Environment Expectations

To ensure a productive and prayerful environment:

• Students should arrive on time and prepared.

• Students should listen when others are speaking.

• Disruptive behavior is not permitted.

• Participation in prayer and discussion is expected.

• Students should follow catechist instructions promptly.

Behavior as Part of Formation

We recognize that children and adolescents are still developing emotionally, socially, and spiritually. Mistakes are opportunities for learning and growth.

Catechists and ministry leaders are encouraged to respond to behavior with:

• Patience

• Clarity

• Consistency

• Encouragement

• Fairness

Restorative Approach

When behavioral concerns arise, our first response is to restore relationships and guide students toward better choices.

Restorative practices may include:

• Private conversation with the student

• Reflection on behavior and impact

• Prayerful discussion

• Guided reconciliation between students

• Apology or repair when appropriate

• Parent communication

• Temporary removal from activity if needed

The goal is always to help the student understand:

• What happened

• Why it matters

• How it affected others

• How to make better choices in the future

Levels of Response to Behavior Concerns

While each situation is unique, responses generally follow a progressive approach:

·         Level 1: Gentle Reminder: A catechist may redirect behavior with a brief reminder.

·         Level 2: Private Conversation: If behavior continues, the student may be spoken to privately to clarify expectations.

·         Level 3: Reflection or Break: A student may be asked to take a brief break to reflect and regain focus.

·         Level 4: Parent Communication: If behavior persists or is significant, parents will be contacted.

·         Level 5: Administrative Follow-Up: Serious or repeated concerns may require a meeting with parish pastoral leadership.

·         Level 6: Removal from Program Activities: In rare cases, a student may be temporarily or permanently removed from activities if behavior endangers others, consistently disrupts the learning environment, shows repeated disregard for expectations, violates parish safety policies.

Such decisions are made with pastoral care and communication with families.

Bullying and Harassment

Bullying in any form is not tolerated.

This includes:

• Physical aggression

• Verbal intimidation

• Social exclusion

• Spreading rumors

• Cyberbullying or digital harassment

Students are encouraged to report concerns to a trusted catechist or directly to the Office of Lifelong Formation.

All reports will be taken seriously and addressed promptly.

Conflict Between Students

Conflict is a natural part of human relationships.

When conflicts arise, we encourage using a restorative approach using a Peace Circle that includes:

• Calm discussion.

• Listening to both sides.

• Apology when appropriate.

• Forgiveness and reconciliation.

We teach students that Christian discipleship includes learning how to resolve conflict peacefully.

Special Considerations for Middle and High School Students

Adolescents are experiencing significant emotional, social, and developmental changes.

Our youth ministry environment recognizes the need for:

• Belonging and friendship

• Healthy boundaries

• Clear expectations

• Positive peer influence

• Opportunities for leadership

• Safe spaces for honest questions

Behavior expectations remain consistent, but responses are applied with appropriate developmental sensitivity.

Catechist and Volunteer Role

Catechists and volunteers are not only instructors but also witnesses to the Gospel.

They are expected to:

• Model respectful behavior.

• Maintain calm and consistent classroom leadership.

• Reinforce expectations clearly.

• Avoid public embarrassment or shaming.

• Seek assistance when needed.

• Communicate concerns appropriately.

Parent Partnership in Behavior Formation

Parents play an essential role in supporting behavioral expectations.

We ask parents to:

• Reinforce expectations at home.

• Support catechist decisions.

• Communicate concerns respectfully.

• Work collaboratively toward solutions.

• Encourage accountability and growth in their child.

A Christ-Centered Approach

Ultimately, behavior expectations are rooted in the Gospel.

We teach students that:

• Every person has dignity.

• Every action has consequences.

• Every mistake can become an opportunity for growth.

• Forgiveness and reconciliation are central to Christian life.

• Jesus calls us to love one another as He has loved us.

Our hope is not simply good behavior but transformed hearts that reflect Christ in daily life. 

Conclusion

This handbook is intended to serve as a comprehensive guide for families, catechists, volunteers, and parish leadership involved in the Faith Formation Program at St. Cletus Parish.

It reflects our shared mission to:

• Form disciples of Jesus Christ.

• Support families as the domestic church.

• Teach the Catholic faith faithfully.

• Provide safe and welcoming environments.

• Foster lifelong participation in the Church.

We are grateful for the trust placed in this ministry and for the partnership of every family, volunteer, and parish leader who contributes to the formation of our children and youth.

May all that we do be for the greater glory of God and the salvation of souls.