Re-Entry Challenges

Somehow it feels awkward to “be” that person you used to be. You may feel out of place in familiar situations, uncertain interacting with old acquaintances, or lonely and isolated. You may feel that no one understands your experience, and you may feel restless to return to your host country. You may wonder which “you” is the “real you”. Avoid the temptation to discard the positive changes that have occurred in your life. Give yourself time to process your experience, but get back in touch with friends and family. You will eventually feel more at home. 

Many travelers become quite negative about their native society after they return, labeling it too materialistic, too friendly, too backwards, or too anything else. A common tendency is to withdraw, become defensive, or to mentally wander abroad. Work to incorporate an appreciation for the positive aspects of your culture at home as well as cultures abroad.

You may develop a feeling of superiority over others and stand aloof from them because of your overseas experience. You might withdraw or feel apathetic towards others and/or daily life. You might feel isolated, like no one understands. It may be easy to respond defensively to others. Although keeping others at a distance may seem most appealing, it is important to find someone to talk with who understands the experience  of crossing cultures. You may wish to get involved in international groups, an ethnic church, the International Club at Bethel, etc.

You may be returning from a position where you were in the limelight and you felt needed, accepted, and loved. When you return. your celebrity status will quickly fade and you will return to “ordinary” status. This change may cause you to feel unappreciated or forgotten. Remember, however, that your true worth and recognition come from God. Focus on God and on serving others.