Goal Setting for Kids

January 18, 2023

Did you know that 9 out of 10 people don't achieve the goals that they set for themselves? Many people never learn how to effectively set goals when they are young. You can help your child learn the skill of goal-setting!

Follow these easy 4 steps:

1. Let your child choose their big goal.

Say your child wants to have more time to play before school with their friends. This is a really important goal that can help kids develop motor skills and strengthen social relationships. Offer praise to your child for choosing a meaningful goal that adds value to their life if successfully accomplished.

2. Discuss the purpose of their goal with them.

Ask your child why they decided on this goal. Was it because they wanted to work on their sports skills? Or maybe because they wanted to spend more time with friends? Listen carefully to the reasons that your child states for choosing this goal, so you can help them remember as they go about achieving the goal.

3. Help your child break their big goal into small steps.

Goals can be big or small, but almost always, they can be broken down into smaller steps. For example, maybe your child will have to wake up 30 minutes earlier to get to school a bit earlier to play. Break down each goal carefully and help your child make a list of the steps needed to accomplish their goal.

4. Brainstorm potential obstacles.

After discussing the steps to accomplish your child's big goal, you may find obstacles. For example, your child's big goal may also involve help from parents and friends. For example, a parent may have to help the child get to school earlier. Make sure you are able fully support the small steps through your words and actions. If the small steps are not feasible, consider changing the goal a bit. For example, maybe your child could play more after school or on weekends.

If your child ever wants to give up on their goal, remind them of their purpose and encourage them. Celebrate their small wins toward their goal.